Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
blindswelledrat said:
I knew one of these people quite well, and he acknowledged a certain lack of satisfaction with it.
Basically, he trawled through literally hundreds of women and never really liked any of them.
The upshot, according to him, were that the only women who went for it were the ones punching above their weight (or significantly under their weight in a literal sense) hence he had no interest in them whatsoever other than a quick bum.
Amazing change when he met one nice girl and was completely besotted and faithful from then on.
The problem being that often when you change to being the besotted guy the subject of your devotion then loses interest because you are no longer the hard to get player that they aren't sure if they can capture or not.Basically, he trawled through literally hundreds of women and never really liked any of them.
The upshot, according to him, were that the only women who went for it were the ones punching above their weight (or significantly under their weight in a literal sense) hence he had no interest in them whatsoever other than a quick bum.
Amazing change when he met one nice girl and was completely besotted and faithful from then on.
sly fox said:
Marc p said:
Bit soon to be moving in isn't it? I say that from experiance, I moved in with my ex in a similar time frame(however, it would be impossible for this nice lady you've found to be as much of a money grabbing, emotion f
king, bh that she was)
It is quite soon- but actually we've already connected at a much deeper level than i have experienced in previous relationships, including my (ex)wife. Lot's of talking about each other, past relationships, basically being honest and realising the other person is doing the same. Moving in feels the right thing to do, both feel that way, and money doesn't come into it.king, bh that she was)
. Maybe I should give this Match malarkey a go, try and find someone who's on the same level as me. I'm back on POF and Match after what I thought was a happy three-year relationship ended a couple of months back. Well, it was happy until I found out about the secret abortion and Tinder profile.
Anyway, POF has gone quite well, Match has not. Match clearly has a higher class of woman, but either they all hate me or none of them have paid to receive messages. POF is full of girls with drawn-on faces and sticky-out lips, but you do find the occasional gem on there.
Anyway, POF has gone quite well, Match has not. Match clearly has a higher class of woman, but either they all hate me or none of them have paid to receive messages. POF is full of girls with drawn-on faces and sticky-out lips, but you do find the occasional gem on there.
but it would save me the time of writing a message to someone who cant even reply.Mercury00 said:
Just back from my first POF date, she was nothing like her photos and there was a lot of silence. Oh well. I'd still bone her given the chance, but I'd bone anything to be fair 
Ha well it happens. I think it's poss to tell not too far into the thing if it's not going well. I'd be tempted to walk if it was me, but it's easier said than done! Nah, it's done with. Shame as she's been texting me for weeks now and we have all the same interests, like the same music, films and have talked long into the night on numerous occasions. It just didn't work in person, but I am the world's most socially awkward man. Anyway, she just text saying "I'd love it if we could still be friends", which of course is code for "I'm never going to contact you again". Never mind, eh?
Mercury00 said:
Nah, it's done with. Shame as she's been texting me for weeks now and we have all the same interests, like the same music, films and have talked long into the night on numerous occasions. It just didn't work in person, but I am the world's most socially awkward man. Anyway, she just text saying "I'd love it if we could still be friends", which of course is code for "I'm never going to contact you again". Never mind, eh?
Friends that have nothing to talk about in person! Silver linings. I went out with a girl briefly when in college, and she was probably my most attractive conquest. Long auburn hair, slim, skin like porcelain, big rack.... But God was she the most boring person ever. We literally had nothing to talk about. She had no sense of humour, never asked any questions, one word answers... I binned her off very quickly after a short period of "can I put up with this because she's hot" deliberation (I was only 17). I absolutely could not and cannot put up with boring women. They can go find a boring man and hang out over a half of shandy not talking to each other in the pub. Not for me.
mhurley said:
I dabbled in net dating on and off for about 9 years
After a while i could kind of pigeon hole the women I met :
1.The long hauler - no kids, always planning her next long haul trip or carping on about her last one.
2.The Chav - loves R n B and horror movies, average or below average intelligence, writes in txt speak, often comes with kids, several tatoos and has never married.
3.The New ager - head in the clouds, into Pagan/ New Age mysticism, may or may not have kids, everything is down to fate, quite complex characters
4.The professional - Work hard play hard is her cheesy motto, obsessed with her potential suitors job status/income, doesn't come with kids but wants them
5.The eccentric loner - typical mad cat women, no kids, has animals normally cats (2 or 3) as a supplement. The animals come before you!, limited relationship history
6.The outdoorsy type - lives in fleeces, bit tom boyish, no kids, quite weathered looking
7.The Geek - loves Red Dwarf, Star Trek and adult cartoons like Simpsons, Futurama, likes cuddly toys of her favourite
animated characters, above average intelligence, no kids.
8. The dreamer - never married or engaged, of average looks but wants a guy like George Clooney or Brad Pitt, chasing rainbows ends and will probably never find what she is looking for.
9. Posh bird - bit like number 4, from high socio economic background, rich parents, can be quite driven career wise, snobby, likes a well dressed guy
10. The Brownie- runs a Brownie or Guide pack or into St Johns Ambulance, bespeckled, unattractive, no dress sense, individual.
11. The Parent Dweller - into her 30s ,never moved out, close relationship with parents(s), limited relationship history
12. Camper Van girl - likes music festivals, life revolves round her camper van, likes tatoos
Not quite sure what planet you are from After a while i could kind of pigeon hole the women I met :
1.The long hauler - no kids, always planning her next long haul trip or carping on about her last one.
2.The Chav - loves R n B and horror movies, average or below average intelligence, writes in txt speak, often comes with kids, several tatoos and has never married.
3.The New ager - head in the clouds, into Pagan/ New Age mysticism, may or may not have kids, everything is down to fate, quite complex characters
4.The professional - Work hard play hard is her cheesy motto, obsessed with her potential suitors job status/income, doesn't come with kids but wants them
5.The eccentric loner - typical mad cat women, no kids, has animals normally cats (2 or 3) as a supplement. The animals come before you!, limited relationship history
6.The outdoorsy type - lives in fleeces, bit tom boyish, no kids, quite weathered looking
7.The Geek - loves Red Dwarf, Star Trek and adult cartoons like Simpsons, Futurama, likes cuddly toys of her favourite
animated characters, above average intelligence, no kids.
8. The dreamer - never married or engaged, of average looks but wants a guy like George Clooney or Brad Pitt, chasing rainbows ends and will probably never find what she is looking for.
9. Posh bird - bit like number 4, from high socio economic background, rich parents, can be quite driven career wise, snobby, likes a well dressed guy
10. The Brownie- runs a Brownie or Guide pack or into St Johns Ambulance, bespeckled, unattractive, no dress sense, individual.
11. The Parent Dweller - into her 30s ,never moved out, close relationship with parents(s), limited relationship history
12. Camper Van girl - likes music festivals, life revolves round her camper van, likes tatoos
When I was in my yachty bum period, I used to find it was the up market ladies, the 9s & 4s who were often the best value. They were the ones who would come & help paint & varnish the yacht, & wanted to do some of the sailing, rather than posing in their bikini spectating. Perhaps they were just slumming it, but so what.
There was always one of them around. I never could figure out where they came from, perhaps they hand you on when they have finished with you. One of them spent a couple of years cruising the Pacific islands with me, before returning to her natural habitat.
Whatever the case, I found them great value, provided you didn't take them too seriously.
There was always one of them around. I never could figure out where they came from, perhaps they hand you on when they have finished with you. One of them spent a couple of years cruising the Pacific islands with me, before returning to her natural habitat.
Whatever the case, I found them great value, provided you didn't take them too seriously.
Fair few matches on tinder, but no one wants to meet. Just text. It's bloody annoying.
One we have loads in common, whenever I mention meeting up she says she doesn't feel ready yet. What's the point of being on tinder then?! I've given up with her. Shame as she's cute.
Couple of others I'm chatting to, they live 70 miles away though. Got talking to them last week whilst away with work but didn't get a chance to meet before I left.
One we have loads in common, whenever I mention meeting up she says she doesn't feel ready yet. What's the point of being on tinder then?! I've given up with her. Shame as she's cute.
Couple of others I'm chatting to, they live 70 miles away though. Got talking to them last week whilst away with work but didn't get a chance to meet before I left.
Hasbeen said:
When I was in my yachty bum period, I used to find it was the up market ladies, the 9s & 4s who were often the best value. They were the ones who would come & help paint & varnish the yacht, & wanted to do some of the sailing, rather than posing in their bikini spectating. Perhaps they were just slumming it.
I'm ok with either of these types, sounds most enjoyable. You mention a yacht bum phase like its a perfectly normal stage in life though... Is there something I don't know or are you telling me I should just save up enough cash to buy a yacht and take a few years off work to go sailing round the world?Ki3r said:
Fair few matches on tinder, but no one wants to meet. Just text. It's bloody annoying.
One we have loads in common, whenever I mention meeting up she says she doesn't feel ready yet. What's the point of being on tinder then?! I've given up with her. Shame as she's cute.
Sounds like you are passing visual inspection since you're getting matches, but flubbing it on the banter phase and they've lost interest. Post up some of your conversations (or PM if you're shy) maybe someone can point out where you're going wrong. One we have loads in common, whenever I mention meeting up she says she doesn't feel ready yet. What's the point of being on tinder then?! I've given up with her. Shame as she's cute.
On tinder (which I mainly use), if they have something written I'll try and work that into a message, IE they talk about any pets I'll talk about them.
If there isn't anything on there it's a bog standard, how are you type message as haven't got anything to go on (unless there is something in the photos).
If there isn't anything on there it's a bog standard, how are you type message as haven't got anything to go on (unless there is something in the photos).
Ki3r said:
On tinder (which I mainly use), if they have something written I'll try and work that into a message, IE they talk about any pets I'll talk about them.
If there isn't anything on there it's a bog standard, how are you type message as haven't got anything to go on (unless there is something in the photos).
Boring as sin. You're the 15th bloke today saying "how are you" or "nice cat". Playful teasing is the name of the game. If there isn't anything on there it's a bog standard, how are you type message as haven't got anything to go on (unless there is something in the photos).
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