Match.com (Volume 6)
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Mercury00 said:
Anyway, she just text saying "I'd love it if we could still be friends", which of course is code for "I'm never going to contact you again". Never mind, eh?
Quoting myself because this is exactly what transpired, just as I expected. I went from daily texts from her to being ignored. I try not to be bothered, but you can't help but expect a little more respect from someone you've been speaking to for three months. I mean at least tell me what the problem was, not just "you're a great guy and I'd love to be friends". Give me some feedback at least!Mercury00 said:
Quoting myself because this is exactly what transpired, just as I expected. I went from daily texts from her to being ignored. I try not to be bothered, but you can't help but expect a little more respect from someone you've been speaking to for three months. I mean at least tell me what the problem was, not just "you're a great guy and I'd love to be friends". Give me some feedback at least!
148% she enjoyed your attention but wasn't hugely attracted. Eventually she grew bored, felt she was wasting her time on something that wasn't going anywhere, or met someone else. Rubbish but that's life. OwenK said:
Mercury00 said:
Quoting myself because this is exactly what transpired, just as I expected. I went from daily texts from her to being ignored. I try not to be bothered, but you can't help but expect a little more respect from someone you've been speaking to for three months. I mean at least tell me what the problem was, not just "you're a great guy and I'd love to be friends". Give me some feedback at least!
148% she enjoyed your attention but wasn't hugely attracted. Eventually she grew bored, felt she was wasting her time on something that wasn't going anywhere, or met someone else. Rubbish but that's life. As for not looking like her photos, isn't that pretty much expected with online dating? Photos will either be photo shopped, professional shots, 5 years old, 5 stones old or the 1 in 1000 shots where she looks good out tarted to the nines.
My advice would be to take the whole thing with a pinch of salt, treat it as a bit of fun and don't take it personally. Talk to as many women as possible and arrange to meet quickly, none of this messaging for months and months. Also women can smell desperation, so try and give as little of a F*** as possible. The more women you have on the go at once the less you care and this confidence will mean it is easier to pick up other women. If a woman thinks you have other options then it is more of a challenge and they will be keen to pursue you.
Also be as flirty as you can as early as you can, don't keep it to boring every day conversations as there will be no spark when you meet otherwise. In my experience the ones that you ignore and cancel on at the last minute for a better offer are the ones who will chase you.
OwenK said:
I'm ok with either of these types, sounds most enjoyable. You mention a yacht bum phase like its a perfectly normal stage in life though... Is there something I don't know or are you telling me I should just save up enough cash to buy a yacht and take a few years off work to go sailing round the world?
Yes I am, & it doesn't have to be all that expensive.I bought an old leaky Morgan Giles racer, did it up, stopped the leaks, & made a few modifications to make it more suitable for long distance cruising.
I went racing with the locals every where I went. This got you introduced, & there always seemed to be someone who needed something done that I could do. This was double the further away from major cities you went. I earned a comfortable living that way for 7 years, particularly in the islands.
Mercury00 said:
You know what makes me laugh? The girls on POF who proclaim "RIGHT IVE HAD ENUFF OF THIS SITE, IM DELETING MY PROFIEL!". There are loads of them 
as if you're going to think "oh s
t, they're leaving! I better message them".
as if you're going to think "oh st, they're leaving! I better message them". 
I like the ones who's profiles do nothing but slate men. Had enough of players, time wasters etc. Don't message me if..........(insert any reason at all)
Then don't write anything at all about themselves.
So that's cut out 99.5% of the population. Good luck love!
AdamIndy said:
Mercury00 said:
You know what makes me laugh? The girls on POF who proclaim "RIGHT IVE HAD ENUFF OF THIS SITE, IM DELETING MY PROFIEL!". There are loads of them as if you're going to think "oh st, they're leaving! I better message them".
as if you're going to think "oh st, they're leaving! I better message them". I like the ones who's profiles do nothing but slate men. Had enough of players, time wasters etc. Don't message me if..........(insert any reason at all)
Then don't write anything at all about themselves.
So that's cut out 99.5% of the population. Good luck love!
Doesn't do their mental/not so mental count any favours at all!
Mr Happy said:
AdamIndy said:
Mercury00 said:
You know what makes me laugh? The girls on POF who proclaim "RIGHT IVE HAD ENUFF OF THIS SITE, IM DELETING MY PROFIEL!". There are loads of them as if you're going to think "oh st, they're leaving! I better message them".
as if you're going to think "oh st, they're leaving! I better message them". I like the ones who's profiles do nothing but slate men. Had enough of players, time wasters etc. Don't message me if..........(insert any reason at all)
Then don't write anything at all about themselves.
So that's cut out 99.5% of the population. Good luck love!
Doesn't do their mental/not so mental count any favours at all!
Mr Happy said:
The ones with DON'T MESSAGE IF YOU JUST WANT SEX tend to be the ones who rapidly turn the conversation to that and send nudey pictures in my experience.
Doesn't do their mental/not so mental count any favours at all!
They're always the ones with the suggestive pictures on their profiles too. If you don't want a certain type of man messaging you, get rid of the top-down view of your norks!Doesn't do their mental/not so mental count any favours at all!
E.g. " you're looking for a one night thing please move along and put everything you own in a box to the left."
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=116...
Edited by Mercury00 on Friday 1st July 19:17
I've become a little more suspicious of POF's method of doing business recently. Until about a week ago, one could search on the POF website by username and get results. That particular facility seems to have been removed. Add to that, I am now getting about 5 times as many "xxxxx wants to meet you!" messages per day than previously, with usernames that look autogenerated - examples like "Ashp63c" "Nmc16" "Gemm048x" "Verityp841" "Christie26c". It was handy to be able to check a profile, but I can understand if people were not paying for the service.
Certainly does not make me want to pay for a service that appears to be full of fake profiles.
Certainly does not make me want to pay for a service that appears to be full of fake profiles.
Ok, I am probably being a bit thick but once you pay for Match is the site easier to use, I've recently restarted my profile but find the site difficult to use on the iPad. I wondered if you get better options once you pay for it? Example I do a search and it suggests say 300 profiles, yet I only see about 20 on page, scrolling down does nothing.
Also on POF but slightly bored of the guys just messaging for 'fun' times as Im too bloody old for that carry on now. Looks like match would be a better punt.
Also on POF but slightly bored of the guys just messaging for 'fun' times as Im too bloody old for that carry on now.
Looks like match would be a better punt. Had another go on POF a few weeks back, after a few moths of not bothering. Got chatting to a friendly, pretty and funny girl with similar interests and vaguely similar life circumstances. We had great conversation over the week and arranged a meet up, only the day before she cancels saying "something has come up, sorry. Enjoy your weekend" I was fine with it, and sent a nice message back but I was quietly suspicious. Sure enough the texts have stopped.
I've not had this happen before, but I think I've narrowed it down to either; a) She met someone else, b) something really did come up, c) she found me on Facebook and didn't like what she saw, or d) she knows one of my ex's.
It's not like it matters, my skin is fairly thick. I'm just intrigued. What do we reckon?
I've not had this happen before, but I think I've narrowed it down to either; a) She met someone else, b) something really did come up, c) she found me on Facebook and didn't like what she saw, or d) she knows one of my ex's.
It's not like it matters, my skin is fairly thick. I'm just intrigued. What do we reckon?
Pebbles167 said:
Sounds like I was best off without then! However fun it might have been.
You're making the mistake of listening to the sort of people that think youporn is a factual documentary fairly representing the average day of the average woman.Yes, there's a chance she's met someone else. No, she probably didn't take it in every orifice from the local rugby club, if that helps.
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