Match.com (Volume 6)

[Rich_W]

Symbolica said:

It's not a big surprise (given the length of these threads) to find that subset of men on this forum are damaged goods, though. Normal women must see them coming a mile off.

See this just proves posters like you don't understand. You assume guys who've seen the truth to be "damaged"

I can't speak for others but as someone mid 30s I actively eschew relationships. I have no desire to be "fulfilled" (since that's what these saps "in love" claim they are - when they don't even get to watch a tv programme because their Mrs doesn't want to) by a relationship or by getting married or bring kids into this (st) world of ours. Like so many, I have my mates. Difference is we hang out because we like each other and activities/interest we do together. I don't compromise my beliefs or ideals in the hope I might get my dick sucked.


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CharlesdeGaulle said:

Rich W. Forgive a personal question, but how old are you?

From the reference to your late 20s friend, I'm assuming late 20s/very early 30s? Either way, your posts smack of a difficult personal experience that has scarred you (rather than something you've learned and moved-on from, and made you more interesting as a consequence), and some immaturity.

Live a little; most women - like most men - are loyal, fun and true. As many others have said, there are tts of all genders, but they are not typical-of-breed!

Mid 30s
I'm sure everyone has a st breakup. I'm no different there.
I learnt the truth. Accepted it. Moved on. Don't blame the player, blame society if anything. The disposable generation. Meh. Cant change it. 99% of women are like this. Your mrs, your mates Mrs. The neighbour. Some hide it better than others. Ask around your social group for local proof.



Gump
Interestingly. Gay guys prove the fact. No bullst in relationships. No war. Just genuine equality in the main.

Edited by Rich_W on Sunday 1st February 19:16

[Ikemi]

Vincefox said:

Dan_1981 said:

Vincefox said:

Be your best you.

Can we have that on an inspirational poster?

Yeah, send us a pic of your hairy hoop and i'll get right on it.

• Code.

Hairy hoop?! Vince, don't you realise that such inspirational posters require a panoramic backdrop?



I'm not doing this right, am I?

[Some Gump]

Lol Rich, you mustn't have many gay mates.

[Rich_W]

Some Gump said:

Lol Rich, you mustn't have many gay mates.

Not many tbf.

But think about it. Guys are by nature only romantic when they want something (yep sex. And watch how in 2 weeks every guy in a relationship spends wedge on valentines crap, or wow betide him ever getting action for a couple weeks until he's somehow paid back his "debt") Gay guys don't bother with all that wining and dining st. They just fk when they want and go back to watching TV afterwards

Sometimes I wish...

[ali_kat]

Rich_W said:

Not many tbf.

But think about it. Guys are by nature only romantic when they want something (yep sex. And watch how in 2 weeks every guy in a relationship spends wedge on valentines crap, or wow betide him ever getting action for a couple weeks until he's somehow paid back his "debt") Gay guys don't bother with all that wining and dining st. They just fk when they want and go back to watching TV afterwards

Sometimes I wish...

Not many? Try not even having ever met any by the sound of that load of bullst claptrap

[Vaud]

Rich_W said:

But think about it. Guys are by nature only romantic when they want something (yep sex. And watch how in 2 weeks every guy in a relationship spends wedge on valentines crap, or wow betide him ever getting action for a couple weeks until he's somehow paid back his "debt") Gay guys don't bother with all that wining and dining st. They just fk when they want and go back to watching TV afterwards

Sometimes I wish...

Load of tosh. I suggest you get some counselling as you have skewed view of the world; I think whilst you describe a % of the populace - you don't describe 99%.

More to life than sex.

[spikeyhead]

It sounds like Rich is worse at dealing with wimmens than Matt is

[Rich_W]

Vaud said:

More to life than sex.

Like what?

I know not if you are in one. I assume so. What does being in a relationship bring to the table. Why would you rather be with someone that single, free to do what you want and money in the bank?

I've ditched girls for wanting more than sex. Why would I choose to be tied down?

Edit

A guy I worked with questioned my approach to this. I asked him the same question. His response was "someone to look after me when I'm older or ill, to talk to in the evening" sounds like he wanted a servant more than equality...

2nd edit (sorry)

Why would the aforementioned stats show more and more guys are ditching relationships for casual sex if relationships were worth pursuing?

Edited by Rich_W on Sunday 1st February 21:20

[Vincefox]

Ikemi said:

Vincefox said:

Dan_1981 said:

Vincefox said:

Be your best you.

Can we have that on an inspirational poster?

Yeah, send us a pic of your hairy hoop and i'll get right on it.

• Code.

Hairy hoop?! Vince, don't you realise that such inspirational posters require a panoramic backdrop?



I'm not doing this right, am I?

Eleven more of them and we've got a calendar.

[ali_kat]

Because you don't realise it now, but there is something missing in your life.

Warning - soppy alert - thought I was unbelievably happy when I met J, then we got married & only then did we realise that we were 'complete'. Utterly content with life.

Alert over

You sound very young for your 3ish years, how long did your longest r/s last out of curiosity?

[Vaud]

Rich_W said:

Like what?

I know not if you are in one. I assume so. What does being in a relationship bring to the table. Why would you rather be with someone that single, free to do what you want and money in the bank?

I've ditched girls for wanting more than sex. Why would I choose to be tied down?

Your choice of course, but I don't think your comments reflect the majority.

Sharing challenges, events, coaching each other out of our comfort zones to do more (not just together), raising family - my toddler daughter brings me more joy than I thought possible, etc.

The closest couples I know balance each other, smooth some of the rougher edges of each other, whilst amplifying some of the previously hidden qualities whilst retaining identities - no "matching shell suits".

People are not static creatures - they evolve through life.

Being in a relationship does not mean "tied down". I don't think it is healthy to have all the same interests, or all the same friends, or do the same things. Where they overlap, great. Where they don't - it maintains personal space.

As I said, I think you are wrong in casting a wide generalization. I do see couples that atrophy once becoming a couple, become dull, inseparable and inward looking; in others I see they both become even more brilliant people and learn new things.

I'd have loved them as friends either way, but the couple are even more fun than the solo individual. The banter is amazing, for a start.

[Vincefox]

Rich_W said:

Vaud said:

More to life than sex.

Like what?

I know not if you are in one. I assume so. What does being in a relationship bring to the table. Why would you rather be with someone that single, free to do what you want and money in the bank?

I've ditched girls for wanting more than sex. Why would I choose to be tied down?

Edit

A guy I worked with questioned my approach to this. I asked him the same question. His response was "someone to look after me when I'm older or ill, to talk to in the evening" sounds like he wanted a servant more than equality...


2nd edit (sorry)

Why would the aforementioned stats show more and more guys are ditching relationships for casual sex if relationships were worth pursuing?

Edited by Rich_W on Sunday 1st February 21:20

The right person frees you.

(That covers the february slogan)

[Vaud]

Vincefox said:

The right person frees you.

A shorter version of what I was trying to say.

[Gtom]

This has gone to the dogs!

To get it back on track, Tinder is doing a sterling job, nearly double booked a for a date on Thursday. Still haven't met the 41 year old yet, signs of the mental creeping in already.

[Vincefox]

Vaud said:

Vincefox said:

The right person frees you.

A shorter version of what I was trying to say.

That's why i'm on calendars and you arent!

[Vaud]

Rich_W said:

2nd edit (sorry)
Why would the aforementioned stats show more and more guys are ditching relationships for casual sex if relationships were worth pursuing?

No idea, but stats are not a great indicator that something is "right". I've no issue with casual sex for informed adults. Things like the internet/apps make it very easy for people of any persuasion. If you get satisfaction from a life time of casual sex, then go for it.

I just doubt it will ever become the majority for society as a whole.

[Ikemi]

Vincefox said:

Ikemi said:

Vincefox said:

Dan_1981 said:

Vincefox said:

Be your best you.

Can we have that on an inspirational poster?

Yeah, send us a pic of your hairy hoop and i'll get right on it.

• Code.

Hairy hoop?! Vince, don't you realise that such inspirational posters require a panoramic backdrop?



I'm not doing this right, am I?

Eleven more of them and we've got a calendar.

I'm on it! February:

[Vincefox]

Ikemi said:

Vincefox said:

Ikemi said:

Vincefox said:

Dan_1981 said:

Vincefox said:

Be your best you.

Can we have that on an inspirational poster?

Yeah, send us a pic of your hairy hoop and i'll get right on it.

• Code.

Hairy hoop?! Vince, don't you realise that such inspirational posters require a panoramic backdrop?



I'm not doing this right, am I?

Eleven more of them and we've got a calendar.

I'm on it! February:

I feel a cheshire cowboy month coming on.

[Justayellowbadge]

Vincefox said:

I feel a cheshire cowboy month coming on.

If you buy the right pad, you can still rollerblade on the beach, ride midget steam engines, waterski, fanny about with flight Sims, stand next to rubbish racing cars and repel women.

Oooooooooohhh, matttybrakes.

Edited by Justayellowbadge on Sunday 1st February 21:50

[g3org3y]

Rich_W said:

See this just proves posters like you don't understand. You assume guys who've seen the truth to be "damaged"

...

I learnt the truth. Accepted it. Moved on.

Sorry to break some bad news (again). You haven't discovered any 'truth'.

IMO it's a display of an immature attitude often displayed by 'know it all' type teenagers.

I'd wager you haven't been in a good meaningful relationship with a decent woman. If you had, you would realise the absurdity of your comments.

Rich_W said:

Ask around your social group for local proof.

As I've mentioned previously, I genuinely feel that your attitude says much more about your social group (and the associated women you encounter through this) than any discovered 'truth'.

Again, all IMVHO.

Vaud said:

Your choice of course, but I don't think your comments reflect the majority.

Sharing challenges, events, coaching each other out of our comfort zones to do more (not just together), raising family - my toddler daughter brings me more joy than I thought possible, etc.

The closest couples I know balance each other, smooth some of the rougher edges of each other, whilst amplifying some of the previously hidden qualities whilst retaining identities - no "matching shell suits".

People are not static creatures - they evolve through life.

Being in a relationship does not mean "tied down". I don't think it is healthy to have all the same interests, or all the same friends, or do the same things. Where they overlap, great. Where they don't - it maintains personal space.

As I said, I think you are wrong in casting a wide generalization. I do see couples that atrophy once becoming a couple, become dull, inseparable and inward looking; in others I see they both become even more brilliant people and learn new things.

Pretty much what this chap said.