Match.com (Volume 6)
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Despite getting hacked off with it sometimes, still going strong with POF. Given up trying to write a first message based on thier profile as i seem to get a better response with some generic one.
Got a couple of dates lined up for the weekend, had somone contact me asking to go on whatsapp straight away before we'd talked much, I agreed, she's alright but her use of text speak is a bit off putting. Had a couple contact me with simple Hey/how's it going etc but nothing else after i've replied.
Didn't go to the match.com night in the end.
Got a couple of dates lined up for the weekend, had somone contact me asking to go on whatsapp straight away before we'd talked much, I agreed, she's alright but her use of text speak is a bit off putting. Had a couple contact me with simple Hey/how's it going etc but nothing else after i've replied.
Didn't go to the match.com night in the end.
AngryPartsBloke said:
Despite getting hacked off with it sometimes, still going strong with POF. Given up trying to write a first message based on thier profile as i seem to get a better response with some generic one.
Got a couple of dates lined up for the weekend, had somone contact me asking to go on whatsapp straight away before we'd talked much, I agreed, she's alright but her use of text speak is a bit off putting. Had a couple contact me with simple Hey/how's it going etc but nothing else after i've replied.
Didn't go to the match.com night in the end.
Isn't that a bit specialist for PoF? Got a couple of dates lined up for the weekend, had somone contact me asking to go on whatsapp straight away before we'd talked much, I agreed, she's alright but her use of text speak is a bit off putting. Had a couple contact me with simple Hey/how's it going etc but nothing else after i've replied.
Didn't go to the match.com night in the end.
RobinBanks said:
I matched with a girl on Tinder and spoke to her a couple of times but didn't hit it off.
Then I bumped into her in my local last week and things are going fairly well. I suppose that some people are just better in person!
I've tended to find that real life works a bit better; had a few messages with a woman on a site, realised I knew her from work. Then it got a lot easier. Then it got a lot more confusing, she seemed to have problems with opening up her feelings.Then I bumped into her in my local last week and things are going fairly well. I suppose that some people are just better in person!
Anyway, back to browsing dating sites. I'd forgotten what a minefield they can be. One I saw earlier, first couple of pics looked good. But then the full body shot ... "OMG SHE EAT HER CHILDREN" (her profile actually seems to be quite well written, but the last picture puts me off food).
Dilemma!
To keep it short!
Dutch Girl, London based, has sent me her number.
She was a long shot that I never thought would reply.
Very ambitious, very direct in her approach.
For various reasons, I don't see it ever being a long term relationship, nor do I think she would entertain a quick fling!
Basically, having recently separated from my wife (together 12 years), should I go and get 'dating' practice!
BTW, this is not a general wind-up, just not sure if I'll be wasting my time & hers!
To keep it short!
Dutch Girl, London based, has sent me her number.
She was a long shot that I never thought would reply.
Very ambitious, very direct in her approach.
For various reasons, I don't see it ever being a long term relationship, nor do I think she would entertain a quick fling!
Basically, having recently separated from my wife (together 12 years), should I go and get 'dating' practice!
BTW, this is not a general wind-up, just not sure if I'll be wasting my time & hers!
Robw73 said:
Dilemma!
To keep it short!
Dutch Girl, London based, has sent me her number.
She was a long shot that I never thought would reply.
Very ambitious, very direct in her approach.
For various reasons, I don't see it ever being a long term relationship, nor do I think she would entertain a quick fling!
Basically, having recently separated from my wife (together 12 years), should I go and get 'dating' practice!
BTW, this is not a general wind-up, just not sure if I'll be wasting my time & hers!
Just do a quick organ inventory before you go. To keep it short!
Dutch Girl, London based, has sent me her number.
She was a long shot that I never thought would reply.
Very ambitious, very direct in her approach.
For various reasons, I don't see it ever being a long term relationship, nor do I think she would entertain a quick fling!
Basically, having recently separated from my wife (together 12 years), should I go and get 'dating' practice!
BTW, this is not a general wind-up, just not sure if I'll be wasting my time & hers!
So it's a month and a half since I started the slightly rude/cocky messaging strategy. It does get more replies, but rarely passes beyond 3 messages (worse than before on this). Since I last posted, only one conversation progressed to arranging a date, which she cancelled 2 hours in advance saying "sorry, will make it up later", and we arranged a rough time a week later. When that came round, no reply to be had... and she's still on POF today.
This is probably my 4th or 5th try on POF, and I'm up to 450 messages sent (all tailored) - this is usually around the point where I delete my account. But I'm always back on there after a few months when I realise I don't have anything else. I've never spent so much effort on anything for so little results.
So what to try this time to replace POF as my only source of hope? I have most weekends free, weekdays are out as I'm out for work 8am-6:30pm (time, tiredness, worn down etc.), live in a city, and have money. Something that isn't awkward and I can connect with people without being fake.
This is probably my 4th or 5th try on POF, and I'm up to 450 messages sent (all tailored) - this is usually around the point where I delete my account. But I'm always back on there after a few months when I realise I don't have anything else. I've never spent so much effort on anything for so little results.
So what to try this time to replace POF as my only source of hope? I have most weekends free, weekdays are out as I'm out for work 8am-6:30pm (time, tiredness, worn down etc.), live in a city, and have money. Something that isn't awkward and I can connect with people without being fake.
So a bit more advice please...
Up to five dates with this girl, three have been overnight things normally with the next day together. By her own admission we're probably a bit more than 5 dates would suggest.
She had plans this weekend, and next weekend, and the following two (a week away for the final two). Seeing each other in the week is tricky enough as she finishes late, I start early and we're an hour apart. Not impossible but not ideal. I've got surgery tomorrow which she knows about and will be away for a week / maybe two to recover from that.
Her plans to go out last night got cancelled, so instead she decided to meet an old school friend (who lives about 50 minutes away) as he was remotely near her, and they had a night out instead.
I know the standard PH reply is that she's screwing him, but that I'm putting aside that concern for the moment. I just feel it's a bit out of order that since we won't see each other for a while due to her plans, and that I'm in theatre tomorrow she would want to see me, even if just for a bit?!
Am I just more involved than she is?
Up to five dates with this girl, three have been overnight things normally with the next day together. By her own admission we're probably a bit more than 5 dates would suggest.
She had plans this weekend, and next weekend, and the following two (a week away for the final two). Seeing each other in the week is tricky enough as she finishes late, I start early and we're an hour apart. Not impossible but not ideal. I've got surgery tomorrow which she knows about and will be away for a week / maybe two to recover from that.
Her plans to go out last night got cancelled, so instead she decided to meet an old school friend (who lives about 50 minutes away) as he was remotely near her, and they had a night out instead.
I know the standard PH reply is that she's screwing him, but that I'm putting aside that concern for the moment. I just feel it's a bit out of order that since we won't see each other for a while due to her plans, and that I'm in theatre tomorrow she would want to see me, even if just for a bit?!
Am I just more involved than she is?
L555BAT said:
So it's a month and a half since I started the slightly rude/cocky messaging strategy. It does get more replies, but rarely passes beyond 3 messages (worse than before on this). Since I last posted, only one conversation progressed to arranging a date, which she cancelled 2 hours in advance saying "sorry, will make it up later", and we arranged a rough time a week later. When that came round, no reply to be had... and she's still on POF today.
This is probably my 4th or 5th try on POF, and I'm up to 450 messages sent (all tailored) - this is usually around the point where I delete my account. But I'm always back on there after a few months when I realise I don't have anything else. I've never spent so much effort on anything for so little results.
So what to try this time to replace POF as my only source of hope? I have most weekends free, weekdays are out as I'm out for work 8am-6:30pm (time, tiredness, worn down etc.), live in a city, and have money. Something that isn't awkward and I can connect with people without being fake.
Try Tinder, if you live in a city that's where you'll get the best hit rate.This is probably my 4th or 5th try on POF, and I'm up to 450 messages sent (all tailored) - this is usually around the point where I delete my account. But I'm always back on there after a few months when I realise I don't have anything else. I've never spent so much effort on anything for so little results.
So what to try this time to replace POF as my only source of hope? I have most weekends free, weekdays are out as I'm out for work 8am-6:30pm (time, tiredness, worn down etc.), live in a city, and have money. Something that isn't awkward and I can connect with people without being fake.
Calza said:
So a bit more advice please...
Up to five dates with this girl, three have been overnight things normally with the next day together. By her own admission we're probably a bit more than 5 dates would suggest.
She had plans this weekend, and next weekend, and the following two (a week away for the final two). Seeing each other in the week is tricky enough as she finishes late, I start early and we're an hour apart. Not impossible but not ideal. I've got surgery tomorrow which she knows about and will be away for a week / maybe two to recover from that.
Her plans to go out last night got cancelled, so instead she decided to meet an old school friend (who lives about 50 minutes away) as he was remotely near her, and they had a night out instead.
I know the standard PH reply is that she's screwing him, but that I'm putting aside that concern for the moment. I just feel it's a bit out of order that since we won't see each other for a while due to her plans, and that I'm in theatre tomorrow she would want to see me, even if just for a bit?!
Am I just more involved than she is?
Sounds like you're a bit too involved given you're only five dates in. I think after five dates with my last relationship I was still keeping my options open and it was still very much a casual thing. Chill out a bit!Up to five dates with this girl, three have been overnight things normally with the next day together. By her own admission we're probably a bit more than 5 dates would suggest.
She had plans this weekend, and next weekend, and the following two (a week away for the final two). Seeing each other in the week is tricky enough as she finishes late, I start early and we're an hour apart. Not impossible but not ideal. I've got surgery tomorrow which she knows about and will be away for a week / maybe two to recover from that.
Her plans to go out last night got cancelled, so instead she decided to meet an old school friend (who lives about 50 minutes away) as he was remotely near her, and they had a night out instead.
I know the standard PH reply is that she's screwing him, but that I'm putting aside that concern for the moment. I just feel it's a bit out of order that since we won't see each other for a while due to her plans, and that I'm in theatre tomorrow she would want to see me, even if just for a bit?!
Am I just more involved than she is?
Oldandslow said:
RobinBanks said:
I matched with a girl on Tinder and spoke to her a couple of times but didn't hit it off.
Then I bumped into her in my local last week and things are going fairly well. I suppose that some people are just better in person!
Very coincidental. Who's stalking who?Then I bumped into her in my local last week and things are going fairly well. I suppose that some people are just better in person!
Calza said:
So a bit more advice please...
Up to five dates with this girl, three have been overnight things normally with the next day together. By her own admission we're probably a bit more than 5 dates would suggest.
She had plans this weekend, and next weekend, and the following two (a week away for the final two). Seeing each other in the week is tricky enough as she finishes late, I start early and we're an hour apart. Not impossible but not ideal. I've got surgery tomorrow which she knows about and will be away for a week / maybe two to recover from that.
Her plans to go out last night got cancelled, so instead she decided to meet an old school friend (who lives about 50 minutes away) as he was remotely near her, and they had a night out instead.
I know the standard PH reply is that she's screwing him, but that I'm putting aside that concern for the moment. I just feel it's a bit out of order that since we won't see each other for a while due to her plans, and that I'm in theatre tomorrow she would want to see me, even if just for a bit?!
Am I just more involved than she is?
You are sounding a bit wet, IMO.Up to five dates with this girl, three have been overnight things normally with the next day together. By her own admission we're probably a bit more than 5 dates would suggest.
She had plans this weekend, and next weekend, and the following two (a week away for the final two). Seeing each other in the week is tricky enough as she finishes late, I start early and we're an hour apart. Not impossible but not ideal. I've got surgery tomorrow which she knows about and will be away for a week / maybe two to recover from that.
Her plans to go out last night got cancelled, so instead she decided to meet an old school friend (who lives about 50 minutes away) as he was remotely near her, and they had a night out instead.
I know the standard PH reply is that she's screwing him, but that I'm putting aside that concern for the moment. I just feel it's a bit out of order that since we won't see each other for a while due to her plans, and that I'm in theatre tomorrow she would want to see me, even if just for a bit?!
Am I just more involved than she is?
If she hasn't made plans with you, it's because she doesn't want to. For this particular evening. Because an old mate is around, who is not normally around.
It isn't the end of the world. You will see her another time. Or you won't. Whatever.
Remember - real men don't talk about their emotions. Because they don't have any.
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