Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Calza said:
If you hadn't said accountant, I'd have sworn you were talking about my flat mate!
Still, sounds like you could get a fun thing out of it if that was your wish?
Not Polish is she Still, sounds like you could get a fun thing out of it if that was your wish?
Maybe, though I'd rather invest time in finding a girl with potential - the whole dating thing is time consuming and expensive enough without having a few on the go. That said I'll definitely be retaining her number in case of emergencies
Calza said:
She is Polish yep 
fair enough though, I can relate to that!
Out of curiousity, at what point does dating normally become 'a little more'?
When you can stand her company without being off your tits and there are no awkward silences and the need to fill them. fair enough though, I can relate to that!Out of curiousity, at what point does dating normally become 'a little more'?
That and she does ATM of course.
CountZero23 said:
Yup, bit mental and plenty of other options out there. Whenever I've gone out 'looking' for a girlfriend to fill some kind of hole that was left from the previous I've had very little in the way of success.
As soon as I'm really enjoying single life and couldn't give a sod about finding a girl then one always turns up to mess it all up. There's probably a lesson in there some where.
It'll rarely end in success. Only when you have a happily single and self-sustainable life do women then want you. As ironic as that is. Learn to be happy on your own, then watch them come to you. The issue then is whether you want to throw away a happy and single existence for a relationship, but no surprise its that hard to get option that women want to fight for your concession rather than the other bloke that is happy to commit immediately and be a soppy loved up puppy dog from the outset.
Shnozz said:
Exactly what I said when offering advice earlier in the thread to the fella not long out of a long term marriage and, IMO, trying to fill a void.
It'll rarely end in success. Only when you have a happily single and self-sustainable life do women then want you. As ironic as that is. Learn to be happy on your own, then watch them come to you. The issue then is whether you want to throw away a happy and single existence for a relationship, but no surprise its that hard to get option that women want to fight for your concession rather than the other bloke that is happy to commit immediately and be a soppy loved up puppy dog from the outset.
Excellent advice that.It'll rarely end in success. Only when you have a happily single and self-sustainable life do women then want you. As ironic as that is. Learn to be happy on your own, then watch them come to you. The issue then is whether you want to throw away a happy and single existence for a relationship, but no surprise its that hard to get option that women want to fight for your concession rather than the other bloke that is happy to commit immediately and be a soppy loved up puppy dog from the outset.
Council Baby said:
Calza said:
She is Polish yep fair enough though, I can relate to that!
Out of curiousity, at what point does dating normally become 'a little more'?
When you can stand her company without being off your tits and there are no awkward silences and the need to fill them. fair enough though, I can relate to that!Out of curiousity, at what point does dating normally become 'a little more'?
That and she does ATM of course.
At least all my mistakes have been pretty and fun.
Got a really daft itch to go out, thinking of making a run on a student night. Wonder if I can still get one at 34?
Calza said:
Are you local? I'll join you on that and bridge the age gap
Brighton, more than welcome to join!Had fun weekend and was skydiving today - always hit it when your in the zone. Not gone out clubbing on my own for a year or two, to be honest - can actually make it easier to chat to girls as you don't have any drunk mates to cock it up for ya!
So the student night wouldn't let me in because I had no photo ID, the second student night I tried wouldn't let me in because I'm not a student.
Hit two empty gay bars before I found a metal / cheap drinks place in town where I befriended a Spanish guy and bought him a pint or two. He set me onto his crazy ex which was fun for a bit.
Bumped into a cool red head girl and managed to take her and about 7 of her mates to one of the previous gay bars, danced to very bad music. Got her back to mine but didn't quite seal the deal. Still she ended up being f
king 19!? Her dad is a fairly famous musician and I've got a few of his tunes.
Could of been worse. Not looking forward to work in 4 hours though.
Hit two empty gay bars before I found a metal / cheap drinks place in town where I befriended a Spanish guy and bought him a pint or two. He set me onto his crazy ex which was fun for a bit.
Bumped into a cool red head girl and managed to take her and about 7 of her mates to one of the previous gay bars, danced to very bad music. Got her back to mine but didn't quite seal the deal. Still she ended up being f
king 19!? Her dad is a fairly famous musician and I've got a few of his tunes. Could of been worse. Not looking forward to work in 4 hours though.
KFC said:
a 34 year old at a student night on his own is going to look truly tragic
Dunno, I could be trying it .... 45 year old. Chicks dig older guys, right? RIGHT???I've been friendzoned with the one I was seeing. Not a major problem, had a feeling that it would end up like that. So back on PoF, but with a totally rewritten profile and very different profile pics - amazing the difference a picture can make.
Less than a week since I signed back up on the site and the number of "Wants to meet you" entries is brilliant. Currently trying to figure out which of a few to meet up with. If I had enough time the natural answer would be "all of them, at the same time".
Thankyou4calling said:
Calza, this girl is seeing someone else, as yet she hasn't decided who out of her current shags is the one for her, if indeed any are or if she will ever limit to one.
If you are looking for commitment and empathy then look elsewhere.
Well after a bit of a random exchange today I'm pretty sure this is right. Plus the fact she still hasn't asked how I am!If you are looking for commitment and empathy then look elsewhere.
I suppose this is just the way of dating, and I've just got to go along for the ride (pun not intended)?
Ahmm ooot!There goes that-
Seeing a nice girl from the POF for two months, 'official', met her parents, take her out every weekend, plans to go to family events, blah blah.
Two weeks of her working a second job and she "doesn't have the time for a relationship".
The bloody second time that's happened, with the same 'second job' excuse, well six months the first time.
I'm thinking when the next one tells me about their history of minor mental health problems I just move to Mexico or something.
Seeing a nice girl from the POF for two months, 'official', met her parents, take her out every weekend, plans to go to family events, blah blah.
Two weeks of her working a second job and she "doesn't have the time for a relationship".
The bloody second time that's happened, with the same 'second job' excuse, well six months the first time.
I'm thinking when the next one tells me about their history of minor mental health problems I just move to Mexico or something.
So talking to this girl a little bit tonight, I asked her why she didn't message me at all yesterday as it seemed pretty cold. Her reply:
At least now I know to thoroughly believe what I thought were largely cynical posts on here about 'how it is'. It really is.
Text 1 said:
I think saying anything would have demeaned my point that we aren't that serious
Text 2 said:
I want you to be okay, but that's not the same as having to make sure you are
Bit disappointed really, I never thought we were anything more than dating. But still, we'd spent enough time together that if she'd went in for a big op I'd want to know she was okay. How callous can you get?At least now I know to thoroughly believe what I thought were largely cynical posts on here about 'how it is'. It really is.
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