Match.com (Volume 6)

[Blown2CV]

KFC said:

The Moose said:

I wonder if there's a market for an online dating service with NO photographs at all.

Thoughts from the group. Answers on a postcard?

Absolutely not... that idea is a complete non starter.

Like that failed singing TV programme

[Calza]

The Moose said:

I dip in and out of this thread every so often as I find it interesting. I'm in a long term relationship and don't use any of these services. Last time I was single was before Tinder etc so it's a bit alien to me (although a single female friend of mine did show me how it worked etc).

The problem it seems, from where I sit, is the same as Take Me Out. This, and all online dating seems to be based solely around looks. Whilst obviously you need to be happy to be seen in public with someone without a paper bag and able to poke them with the lights on, I wonder if there's a market for an online dating service with NO photographs at all.

Thoughts from the group. Answers on a postcard?

Because looks are important to most people. Isn't the saying something like looks to attract them, then personality to keep them? So if you can easily vet looks in 2 seconds that means you're left with only people you find attractive and can concentrate on personality. If looks don't bother you accept everyone. Similarly you are matched to people who have already said they find you attractive, or are less interested in looks.

Really you just need to think of Tinder as an online bar though. You walk up to someone based on how they look. Then it goes from there wherever the two people take it.

Edited by Calza on Friday 22 May 16:56

[Shnozz]

Calza said:

Really you just need to think of Tinder as an online bar though. You walk up to someone based on how they look. Then it goes from there wherever the two people take it.

Quite right.

The only difference is that unless you are trotting out well rehearsed lines from The Game, you'll probably have more variety of initial conversations meeting women in the real world. Tinder et al can get a little tedious in exchanging the same sort of banter over and over with numerous matches. Even if you're aiming for some more personalised or amusing chat, the very format of the environment can make it a tad sterile and less fun than a night trawling bars and chatting to hunnies before ending the evening dribbling over any gutter scutter that happens to be as drunk as you.

[Condi]

Shnozz said:

Calza said:

Really you just need to think of Tinder as an online bar though. You walk up to someone based on how they look. Then it goes from there wherever the two people take it.

Quite right.

The only difference is that unless you are trotting out well rehearsed lines from The Game, you'll probably have more variety of initial conversations meeting women in the real world. Tinder et al can get a little tedious in exchanging the same sort of banter over and over with numerous matches. Even if you're aiming for some more personalised or amusing chat, the very format of the environment can make it a tad sterile and less fun than a night trawling bars and chatting to hunnies before ending the evening dribbling over any gutter scutter that happens to be as drunk as you.

Problem is 70% of communication is non verbal - ie tone of voice, body language etc. You lose all that with online dating and its why I dont like it. You run out the same lines, wanting a bit of attention so you can meet up in person. Personally I find it boring without all the other cues, and would rather be in bars.

[kowalski655]

KFC said:

You might as well call it fatandugly.com as there isn't any reason to refuse to upload a photo is there.
I'm not going to find a woman I like on there. As well as it being an admission of failure by signing up myself.
Who would you see being the target customers you're going to sign up?

I think you answered your own question there

[Shnozz]

Condi said:

Shnozz said:

Calza said:

Really you just need to think of Tinder as an online bar though. You walk up to someone based on how they look. Then it goes from there wherever the two people take it.

Quite right.

The only difference is that unless you are trotting out well rehearsed lines from The Game, you'll probably have more variety of initial conversations meeting women in the real world. Tinder et al can get a little tedious in exchanging the same sort of banter over and over with numerous matches. Even if you're aiming for some more personalised or amusing chat, the very format of the environment can make it a tad sterile and less fun than a night trawling bars and chatting to hunnies before ending the evening dribbling over any gutter scutter that happens to be as drunk as you.

Problem is 70% of communication is non verbal - ie tone of voice, body language etc. You lose all that with online dating and its why I dont like it. You run out the same lines, wanting a bit of attention so you can meet up in person. Personally I find it boring without all the other cues, and would rather be in bars.

I don't disagree. Although that said, like favourite authors can do, humour and enchantment are both possible over the written word. Some of the exchanges with tinder matches had me genuinely laughing, others bored the tits off me. No different to women chatting to me in bars when the same might apply.

I'm out in bars 5 - 6 nights a week but you still don't get the same reach as tinder and so I'd rather throw a wider net than limit audience to a selection from one bar at one time. I do hear what you say though and completely accept that point, it just seems a shame to reduce the potentials so vastly.

Either way, I'm enjoying the fruits of my labour for now.

[KFC]

kowalski655 said:

KFC said:

You might as well call it fatandugly.com as there isn't any reason to refuse to upload a photo is there.
I'm not going to find a woman I like on there. As well as it being an admission of failure by signing up myself.
Who would you see being the target customers you're going to sign up?

I think you answered your own question there

Nobody wants to publicly admit thats the dating site they should be on, rather than Tinder though. Look through womens profiles on POF... they all want a clone of Pitt or Clooney (both looks and money wise) yet they're divorcees with 3 kids, a weight problem, a bad face, work for Burger King and live in a council house.

[anonymous-user]

KFC said:

kowalski655 said:

KFC said:

You might as well call it fatandugly.com as there isn't any reason to refuse to upload a photo is there.
I'm not going to find a woman I like on there. As well as it being an admission of failure by signing up myself.
Who would you see being the target customers you're going to sign up?

I think you answered your own question there

Nobody wants to publicly admit thats the dating site they should be on, rather than Tinder though. Look through womens profiles on POF... they all want a clone of Pitt or Clooney (both looks and money wise) yet they're divorcees with 3 kids, a weight problem, a bad face, work for Burger King and live in a council house.

And have that fking Monroe quote. If you can't handle me at my worst etc... - what, you mean your profile picture isn't you at your worst? Well fk me I'd hate to see what you look like at 7am sitting on the pan with a ciggy hanging out of your mouth, you fking steaming guntmunster.

Men should start putting it on their profiles and see how many women comment that it's inappropriate or too needy.

[Krupp Stahl]

OpulentBob said:

And have that fking Monroe quote. If you can't handle me at my worst etc... - what, you mean your profile picture isn't you at your worst? Well fk me I'd hate to see what you look like at 7am sitting on the pan with a ciggy hanging out of your mouth, you fking steaming guntmunster.

Men should start putting it on their profiles and see how many women comment that it's inappropriate or too needy.

[Robw73]

Calza said:

Really you just need to think of Tinder as an online bar though. You walk up to someone based on how they look. Then it goes from there wherever the two people take it.

I would liken Tinder to eBay.
You may not make as much profit as selling privately, but the audience that you are open to is immense.

[joema]

I'm struggling to bother with messaging a lot of girls at once. But also conscious I have a lot of other matches I've yet to talk to. Tend to just chat etc to ones that message me and that seems enough. How many do you have on the go at once? And is it odd messaging matches that i matched with ages ago?

[Calza]

joema said:

I'm struggling to bother with messaging a lot of girls at once. But also conscious I have a lot of other matches I've yet to talk to. Tend to just chat etc to ones that message me and that seems enough. How many do you have on the go at once? And is it odd messaging matches that i matched with ages ago?

I've always worked off ~5 days. Any longer is just a bit weird normally.

[TREMAiNE]

Had a pretty good night in London last night, met a girl who I got on really well with, both pretty drunk but able to have a coherent conversation... I got her number at the end - how long should I leave it before I text her and what should I say?

[BrabusMog]

If you want to play games then wait a while. If you're both adults that are maybe interested in having a proper relationship then maybe you should just lay your cards on the table and see what happens.

Edit - just fking text her saying hello, what is wrong with people nowadays?!

Edited by BrabusMog on Sunday 31st May 13:56

[CharlesdeGaulle]

TREMAiNE said:

I got her number at the end - how long should I leave it before I text her and what should I say?

I'd recommend not telling her that you're so st at human relationships that you had to pose that question to a bunch of unknown saddos on the internet.

FFS - text her now, tell her you enjoyed seeing her and ask her out again. Rocket science/not.

[hajaba123]

CharlesdeGaulle said:

TREMAiNE said:

I got her number at the end - how long should I leave it before I text her and what should I say?

I'd recommend not telling her that you're so st at human relationships that you had to pose that question to a bunch of unknown saddos on the internet.

FFS - text her now, tell her you enjoyed seeing her and ask her out again. Rocket science/not.

As you didn't seal the deal last night, a c0ck pic when you got home was the correct answer

[CountZero23]

CharlesdeGaulle said:

TREMAiNE said:

I got her number at the end - how long should I leave it before I text her and what should I say?

I'd recommend not telling her that you're so st at human relationships that you had to pose that question to a bunch of unknown saddos on the internet.

FFS - text her now, tell her you enjoyed seeing her and ask her out again. Rocket science/not.

I can see how this is going to go :P
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0PUrNwvvBk

[TREMAiNE]

CountZero23 said:

CharlesdeGaulle said:

TREMAiNE said:

I got her number at the end - how long should I leave it before I text her and what should I say?

I'd recommend not telling her that you're so st at human relationships that you had to pose that question to a bunch of unknown saddos on the internet.

FFS - text her now, tell her you enjoyed seeing her and ask her out again. Rocket science/not.

I can see how this is going to go :P
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0PUrNwvvBk

Still not sure if I'd want anything out of it so didn't want to come across as too keen, hence why I asked!

Sent a text a few mins ago and now returning to bed with the worlds biggest hangover!

[Don1]

I'm not sure this Tinder advertising works that well...

[robsco]

TREMAiNE said:

CountZero23 said:

CharlesdeGaulle said:

TREMAiNE said:

I got her number at the end - how long should I leave it before I text her and what should I say?

I'd recommend not telling her that you're so st at human relationships that you had to pose that question to a bunch of unknown saddos on the internet.

FFS - text her now, tell her you enjoyed seeing her and ask her out again. Rocket science/not.

I can see how this is going to go :P
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0PUrNwvvBk

Still not sure if I'd want anything out of it so didn't want to come across as too keen, hence why I asked!

Sent a text a few mins ago and now returning to bed with the worlds biggest hangover!

Well?