Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
leglessAlex said:
stroberaver said:
She said yes. She was asking about the pub closure in order to work out when she'd be free [as in, she'd be free on whatever day we'd normally be meeting at the pub but aren't because it's closed].
f
king hell.
I have another chance. I take back the dejected sleep-deprived overnight posts! Ok so she's not exactly putting me at the top of her list of priorities, but thanks to WW my intentions must be pretty clear, and she's saying yes.
Now what do I tell her?!!
omg
Jesus, that post comes across as her saying yes to marrying you, not just meeting at a pub (as friends, natch).f
king hell.I have another chance. I take back the dejected sleep-deprived overnight posts! Ok so she's not exactly putting me at the top of her list of priorities, but thanks to WW my intentions must be pretty clear, and she's saying yes.
Now what do I tell her?!!
omg
Chill out. I mean seriously, chill out. Just because she's sent one text saying she'll meet you doesn't mean she's into you. I meet friends all the time and I'm not into them, how do you know she's not just meeting you as a friend?
You're on a course to end up super depressed when you find out she isn't interested in you for one reason or another(she might not be having sex with someone else contrary to what a lot on here seem to think, she may just not be into you as has been mentioned). I've been there, done that and it just isn't worth it.
I know what your saying about some things not being in your nature, but you don't need to turn in to some manosphere/alpha cocksocket to be 'successful' with women. You just need to chill out a bit.
I'd go with something like "Cool, I'd like that. Anywhere you fancy going or shall I choose"?
PS, yes I do actually say cool, you might not want to use it...
Council Baby said:
Just text her:
"I thought we should have dinner together, I'll cook, do you eat meat? Any preferences?"
"What a lovely idea, meat is fine, what time?"
"*insert cock pic* see you at 7"
It never fails, honestly.
"I thought we should have dinner together, I'll cook, do you eat meat? Any preferences?"
"What a lovely idea, meat is fine, what time?"
"*insert cock pic* see you at 7"
It never fails, honestly.
She's vegetarian actually.
Thanks WW, not that keen on using "cool" so I think I'll go with something like "I'd like that - I think it's next week the pub is closed. Anywhere you fancy going or shall I choose?"
I like the way you construct messages that are positive and friendly but also leaves the other person with little option other than responding with a clear choice. I'm taking notes!
stroberaver said:
Council Baby said:
Just text her:
"I thought we should have dinner together, I'll cook, do you eat meat? Any preferences?"
"What a lovely idea, meat is fine, what time?"
"*insert cock pic* see you at 7"
It never fails, honestly.
"I thought we should have dinner together, I'll cook, do you eat meat? Any preferences?"
"What a lovely idea, meat is fine, what time?"
"*insert cock pic* see you at 7"
It never fails, honestly.
She's vegetarian actually.
Thanks WW, not that keen on using "cool" so I think I'll go with something like "I'd like that - I think it's next week the pub is closed. Anywhere you fancy going or shall I choose?"
I like the way you construct messages that are positive and friendly but also leaves the other person with little option other than responding with a clear choice. I'm taking notes!
That's spot on, you're learning And don't listen to CB, he's an utter man w
e...I think I might take this opportunity to have a break from this thread.
Recently I have had two girls texting me with "are you ignoring me? Why aren't you replying? I saw you post on John's status, so I know you were online!"
And all that crap. At least I'm not on the receiving end this time.
Recently I have had two girls texting me with "are you ignoring me? Why aren't you replying? I saw you post on John's status, so I know you were online!"
And all that crap. At least I'm not on the receiving end this time.
stroberaver, Ignore all the doom and gloom posts.
Be bold, don't think about what may happen, be obvious what you want, don't rely on her taking hints :-) and be aware if she's making huge hints, I was always crap at picking them up when younger.
Good luck. If she says she isn't interested in you in that way then you can move on.
Be bold, don't think about what may happen, be obvious what you want, don't rely on her taking hints :-) and be aware if she's making huge hints, I was always crap at picking them up when younger.
Good luck. If she says she isn't interested in you in that way then you can move on.
Shnozz said:
You make a very good point to be fair.
The chap I am staying with here is Northern and his accent either gets overlooked entirely, or folk actually struggle to understand him. It's rare that it's complemented.
Perhaps its only southern tones that are recognised as being English. Back in Yorkshire where I relocated from Hampshire the natives just think I'm a Southern nonce and talk like Chas n Dave.
Think it depends on the speed you talk as well, as i was in Toronto a few years ago with some Canadian mates and id say quite a few didnt understand me, case in point, went to the bar, asked for a JD and Coke and the bar tender couldnt understand me on that or other things, a mate of mine couldnt either and she just nodded her head and smiled (prob why we're mates) and yet some found it very easy.The chap I am staying with here is Northern and his accent either gets overlooked entirely, or folk actually struggle to understand him. It's rare that it's complemented.
Perhaps its only southern tones that are recognised as being English. Back in Yorkshire where I relocated from Hampshire the natives just think I'm a Southern nonce and talk like Chas n Dave.
But yeah, Toronto was a friendly city.
On another note, just found out that an ex of mine either goes by two names or someone has copied her fb account. Id go with the former as im sure she had bi-polar
lemmingjames said:
Shnozz said:
You make a very good point to be fair.
The chap I am staying with here is Northern and his accent either gets overlooked entirely, or folk actually struggle to understand him. It's rare that it's complemented.
Perhaps its only southern tones that are recognised as being English. Back in Yorkshire where I relocated from Hampshire the natives just think I'm a Southern nonce and talk like Chas n Dave.
Think it depends on the speed you talk as well, as i was in Toronto a few years ago with some Canadian mates and id say quite a few didnt understand me, case in point, went to the bar, asked for a JD and Coke and the bar tender couldnt understand me on that or other things, a mate of mine couldnt either and she just nodded her head and smiled (prob why we're mates) and yet some found it very easy.The chap I am staying with here is Northern and his accent either gets overlooked entirely, or folk actually struggle to understand him. It's rare that it's complemented.
Perhaps its only southern tones that are recognised as being English. Back in Yorkshire where I relocated from Hampshire the natives just think I'm a Southern nonce and talk like Chas n Dave.
But yeah, Toronto was a friendly city.
Moved on to another patio bar and the barmaid immediately pipes up with the "where is the accent from, it's so hot".
And that is not to mention the Canadian of Eastern European background who was texting me a mixture of smut along with "what could I possibly do to make you stay here longer?".
The fact is when you stand out, for whatever reason, accent, outfit, hairstyle, inappropriate stiffy, whatever, it's an easy ice breaker. I don't like to use tactics but the adage of peacocking does lend itself to success. Well, success if you measure it in numbers. I am a bit old for all that now and would happily trade the attention of many for the interest of those who I wanted.
furtive said:
I've just read through the last couple of pages of this thread. Lots of "have texted her, haven't had a reply" etc
FFS - don't people use telephones to talk to each other any more?
no....not to follow up on a date. Text is perfect, they can get back to you when they like, they can be more bold/forward than they may on the phone, etc, etcFFS - don't people use telephones to talk to each other any more?
Its perfect for post date follow up
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