Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
leglessAlex said:
Took them a month to meet up first and yet it seems to have gone alright, some people just have busy lives. Not everyones whole life revolves around dating/getting into bed with someone...
I'd agree with this - a couple of newly single friends after years of marriage are constantly arguing about who has the "correct" approach. One of them cannot be in their own company, the other has a busy life and excellent career, guess which one is constantly getting laid and then bored...RobGT81 said:
In the meantime she will be getting her back doors smashed in.
Meet her for a morning coffee/breakfast before work?
She leaves for work at 6am!Meet her for a morning coffee/breakfast before work?
I'd have to leave my house at 4am to catch her in time!
leglessAlex said:
Took them a month to meet up first and yet it seems to have gone alright, some people just have busy lives. Not everyones whole life revolves around dating/getting into bed with someone...
Thank you! Pleased to have some reassurance here!Its early days and we've been out once... So, as much as I'd like to keep seeing her, if I don't I'm sure I'll get over it pretty quickly!
If we do continue to see each other over the next few months and things to start to pick up, that's when I'll (well, we) can look at making more of an effort and actually changing our schedules. For the time being, I think it'd be very foolish for her to cancel her business trip and me to cancel my race just so we can go for a drink!
TREMAiNE said:
Its early days and we've been out once... So, as much as I'd like to keep seeing her, if I don't I'm sure I'll get over it pretty quickly!
If we do continue to see each other over the next few months and things to start to pick up, that's when I'll (well, we) can look at making more of an effort and actually changing our schedules. For the time being, I think it'd be very foolish for her to cancel her business trip and me to cancel my race just so we can go for a drink!
Invite her for a nice romantic date at the race track, If we do continue to see each other over the next few months and things to start to pick up, that's when I'll (well, we) can look at making more of an effort and actually changing our schedules. For the time being, I think it'd be very foolish for her to cancel her business trip and me to cancel my race just so we can go for a drink!
leglessAlex said:
Took them a month to meet up first and yet it seems to have gone alright, some people just have busy lives. Not everyones whole life revolves around dating/getting into bed with someone...
Took my Husband & I 6 months to organise the 1st date, as we saw each other at work every day 
Then he just moved in...TREMAiNE said:
NRS said:
Invite her for a nice romantic date at the race track,
She sounded genuinely excited when I jokingly said I'd get her on track and teach her to drive more spiritedly! 
http://whywereason.com/2011/08/09/the-psychology-o...
After 5 dates with a pretty, smart and sane girl it all came to an end this week when it turned out she wasn't as sane as I'd hoped. Went cold on our last date and said she didn't think it was going to work as she was worried I'd be jelous / clingy. I have many flaws but those are not two of them
Had a few messages off her since appologising for being crazy and offering to meet again, though if she is going to start projecting ex's onto me at this stage I really can't be dealing with the inevitable s
t storm of mental that will follow. Just had a text of the burlesque dancer I had a date with last week asking if we're still on for tonight. Completely forgot about it which is odd given she can almost put her leg behind her ear. With any luck I'll get more than a snog this week, was rather suprised how prudish she was given her 'talents'.
CountZero23 said:
Just had a text of the burlesque dancer I had a date with last week asking if we're still on for tonight. Completely forgot about it which is odd given she can almost put her leg behind her ear. With any luck I'll get more than a snog this week, was rather suprised how prudish she was given her 'talents'.
Really?!Doesn't surpise me at all, she probably gets sick of guys like you thinking she'll put out just because she's a burlesque dancer. I wouldn't call not jumping into bed with someone on the first date a prude.
leglessAlex said:
CountZero23 said:
Just had a text of the burlesque dancer I had a date with last week asking if we're still on for tonight. Completely forgot about it which is odd given she can almost put her leg behind her ear. With any luck I'll get more than a snog this week, was rather suprised how prudish she was given her 'talents'.
Really?!Doesn't surpise me at all, she probably gets sick of guys like you thinking she'll put out just because she's a burlesque dancer. I wouldn't call not jumping into bed with someone on the first date a prude.
Find vast majority of girls do, but then I do live in Brighton
leglessAlex said:
Really?!
Doesn't surpise me at all, she probably gets sick of guys like you thinking she'll put out just because she's a burlesque dancer. I wouldn't call not jumping into bed with someone on the first date a prude.
What Alex said ... My ex worked in high end lingerie (occasionally modelled - I'll just get that in there! Doesn't surpise me at all, she probably gets sick of guys like you thinking she'll put out just because she's a burlesque dancer. I wouldn't call not jumping into bed with someone on the first date a prude.
) and had connections to the burlesque scene. As such, I knew a few burlesque dancers away from the stage. It all depends on the person, and it's fair to say that burlesque dancers are fully aware of their sexuality, but it doesn't mean they're easy. Again, it all depends on the person. However it's similar to when men think a bi-sexual girl is potentially up for a threesome. It's just not the case.CountZero23 said:
Take her for a rag round the track, fear / excitement increase the chances of a girl falling for you. Mental but true, then again I guess it's just the opposite of a dull date.
http://whywereason.com/2011/08/09/the-psychology-o...
That's a good idea... Won't do it for the second date - but possibly a 3rd if I make it that far http://whywereason.com/2011/08/09/the-psychology-o...
CountZero23 said:
Just had a text of the burlesque dancer I had a date with last week asking if we're still on for tonight. Completely forgot about it which is odd given she can almost put her leg behind her ear. With any luck I'll get more than a snog this week, was rather surprised how prudish she was given her 'talents'.
'It's the quiet ones you have to watch out for' as they say...
TREMAiNE said:
That's a good idea... Won't do it for the second date - but possibly a 3rd if I make it that far
I'd be inclined to arrange the track day with her, she's already indicated it's a goer. Indeed you may dissapoint if you don't. ?Time seems like your enemy here given both your schedules so I'd take any and every opportunity to mix it up with her before it spontaneously and accidentally happens with somebody else. Happy women are attractive woman and the rest of us will notice. The idea of a lovely person to get excited and enjoy the odd track in the future would be enough for me.Edited by craig_m67 on Wednesday 8th July 01:38
craig_m67 said:
I'd be inclined to arrange the track day with her, she's already indicated it's a goer. Indeed you may dissapoint if you don't. ?Time seems like your enemy here given both your schedules so I'd take any and every opportunity to mix it up with her before it spontaneously and accidentally happens with somebody else. Happy women are attractive woman and the rest of us will notice. The idea of a lovely person to get excited and enjoy the odd track in the future would be enough for me.
Sounds awful. I have hobbies that I like to do away from my wife, a bit of me time (not like that) and she has things she does where she doesnt want me involved in them. I think sharing everything can work, but it makes it harder than it has to, and you dont have the share everything together. Edited by craig_m67 on Wednesday 8th July 01:38
For the woman who's off on business and the guy who cant organise a date, the notion of 'she's getting smashed elsewhere' is a strange one, largely because it needs consent hopefully from travelling business woman, and if she's happy to go off with other people, pushing her and shouting loudest isnt a natural way for a relationship to flourish, certainly not one that's non exclusive right now. If things are meant to be, they'll happen and you'll get time together. It'll need work, but filling yourself with doubt and making her out to be a cock villian isnt helpful to anyone, or the possible relationship you may or may not have.
Like a good wine, let it breathe and then enjoy it for what it is. That's not to say you dont guide things in the direction you want them to go, but pushy controlling behaviour will see her legging it in the other direction and you hating her for something you've done.
BrabusMog said:
Lol what is a cock villain?
It's putting someone on an expectation pedestal then when they dont live up to this concocted dream, smashing them down for it. Like, the girl/woman who's a bh/slag/whatever for taking someone else's cock and not yours, as if she's doing it deliberately and if only she'd see she's better off with you, but fk her, the slag, fking hated her anyway, then wking and weeping over it in the cornerThat kind of thing
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