Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
andy-xr said:
BrabusMog said:
Lol what is a cock villain?
It's putting someone on an expectation pedestal then when they dont live up to this concocted dream, smashing them down for it. Like, the girl/woman who's a b
h/slag/whatever for taking someone else's cock and not yours, as if she's doing it deliberately and if only she'd see she's better off with you, but fk her, the slag, fking hated her anyway, then wking and weeping over it in the cornerThat kind of thing
NRS said:
andy-xr said:
BrabusMog said:
Lol what is a cock villain?
It's putting someone on an expectation pedestal then when they dont live up to this concocted dream, smashing them down for it. Like, the girl/woman who's a bh/slag/whatever for taking someone else's cock and not yours, as if she's doing it deliberately and if only she'd see she's better off with you, but fk her, the slag, fking hated her anyway, then wking and weeping over it in the cornerThat kind of thing
Thankyou4calling said:
Exactly. I didn't reply as I don't want to get into an argument but from the post I'd say they are excuses. She will be seeing someone else, that's the modern way and if you want to make time you will, simple as that.
That post said in no uncertain terms that she will be seeing someone else and clearly she's just making excuses. Almost all the girls I know are not like that, if they really are busy and they like someone they won't be bothered at all about waiting a while between dates, as long as it isn't always like that. I'm guessing there are people here where all the girls they know actually are like that, it's just about the sort of person you mix with. I wouldn't say either type is the majority though.
This thread is still full of good advice, it's just it gets tiring seeing some posters always going on about how you gotta get in there because she's clearly shagging someone else (lol) etc etc.
Cock Villain 
Kind of reminds me of Nice Guy Syndrome
"I'm a really nice guy, she'd be lucky to have me.... She's a fking for choosing that other guy though, hahahaha I feel sorry for them I bet they are miserable together... I bet she'll come crawling back when she finds realises how nice I am, slag!"
People with Nice Guy Syndrome think they're really nice and a good catch when they are actually probably just bellends.
Like me
Kind of reminds me of Nice Guy Syndrome
"I'm a really nice guy, she'd be lucky to have me.... She's a f
king for choosing that other guy though, hahahaha I feel sorry for them I bet they are miserable together... I bet she'll come crawling back when she finds realises how nice I am, slag!"People with Nice Guy Syndrome think they're really nice and a good catch when they are actually probably just bellends.
Like me
I don't know this girl ( well, I don't think I will) don't know the OP either and I fully accept people have different ways of going about things.
Im just giving an opinion and from my experience one of the key things about internet dating, for it to work, both parties need to be what I suppose you'd call "Date ready"
Are you ready for the commitment of time it'll take to get a relationship off the ground. Are your finances in order because you'll be splashing a lot of cash, do you need to get to the shops and revamp your wardrobe, is your phone full of pics of previous conquests that you need to move on from. Does your work and social life allow you to see someone regularly, say twice a week, do you have a car and house fit for purpose and so on and on.
And expect the same of the woman. Get all your ducks lined up before striking.
It's like a lot of things, as this is a car website I'll use a car analogy, if you want to sell your car get it clean, all the documents ready, have your phone with you, take some decent pics and when someone responds be hot to trot, don't say you will bring it round in a month.
If I am dating I'm ready to date, had too many who ultimately say, ohh I was just seeing how it works, I'm not interested in them, I'm interested in people ready, willing and very able.
Im just giving an opinion and from my experience one of the key things about internet dating, for it to work, both parties need to be what I suppose you'd call "Date ready"
Are you ready for the commitment of time it'll take to get a relationship off the ground. Are your finances in order because you'll be splashing a lot of cash, do you need to get to the shops and revamp your wardrobe, is your phone full of pics of previous conquests that you need to move on from. Does your work and social life allow you to see someone regularly, say twice a week, do you have a car and house fit for purpose and so on and on.
And expect the same of the woman. Get all your ducks lined up before striking.
It's like a lot of things, as this is a car website I'll use a car analogy, if you want to sell your car get it clean, all the documents ready, have your phone with you, take some decent pics and when someone responds be hot to trot, don't say you will bring it round in a month.
If I am dating I'm ready to date, had too many who ultimately say, ohh I was just seeing how it works, I'm not interested in them, I'm interested in people ready, willing and very able.
Can we talk date logistics for a minute?
I live in the middle of nowhere and it's a good £30-40 taxi ride to the nearest town suitable for an outing. Also I'm chatting to plenty of ladies an hour or so away (slim pickings locally). What's your M.O. with regards to meeting for drinks in those situations? Obviously everybody hopes that we both get merry and spend the night at hers - but you can't bank on that. Booking a hotel seems excessive (and expensive), and you don't want to limit yourself to one drink so that you can drive - unless of course it's a disaster before the second round anyway.
What's a guy to do?
I live in the middle of nowhere and it's a good £30-40 taxi ride to the nearest town suitable for an outing. Also I'm chatting to plenty of ladies an hour or so away (slim pickings locally). What's your M.O. with regards to meeting for drinks in those situations? Obviously everybody hopes that we both get merry and spend the night at hers - but you can't bank on that. Booking a hotel seems excessive (and expensive), and you don't want to limit yourself to one drink so that you can drive - unless of course it's a disaster before the second round anyway.
What's a guy to do?
OwenK said:
Can we talk date logistics for a minute?
I live in the middle of nowhere and it's a good £30-40 taxi ride to the nearest town suitable for an outing. Also I'm chatting to plenty of ladies an hour or so away (slim pickings locally). What's your M.O. with regards to meeting for drinks in those situations? Obviously everybody hopes that we both get merry and spend the night at hers - but you can't bank on that. Booking a hotel seems excessive (and expensive), and you don't want to limit yourself to one drink so that you can drive - unless of course it's a disaster before the second round anyway.
What's a guy to do?
It's got to be the one drink option surely. And if she says have another drink and stay you can always mention the issue of accommodation and let he suggest a hotel or her place if that's the way it's moving. I live in the middle of nowhere and it's a good £30-40 taxi ride to the nearest town suitable for an outing. Also I'm chatting to plenty of ladies an hour or so away (slim pickings locally). What's your M.O. with regards to meeting for drinks in those situations? Obviously everybody hopes that we both get merry and spend the night at hers - but you can't bank on that. Booking a hotel seems excessive (and expensive), and you don't want to limit yourself to one drink so that you can drive - unless of course it's a disaster before the second round anyway.
What's a guy to do?
Thankyou4calling said:
I don't know this girl ( well, I don't think I will) don't know the OP either and I fully accept people have different ways of going about things.
Im just giving an opinion and from my experience one of the key things about internet dating, for it to work, both parties need to be what I suppose you'd call "Date ready"
Are you ready for the commitment of time it'll take to get a relationship off the ground. Are your finances in order because you'll be splashing a lot of cash, do you need to get to the shops and revamp your wardrobe, is your phone full of pics of previous conquests that you need to move on from. Does your work and social life allow you to see someone regularly, say twice a week, do you have a car and house fit for purpose and so on and on.
And expect the same of the woman. Get all your ducks lined up before striking.
It's like a lot of things, as this is a car website I'll use a car analogy, if you want to sell your car get it clean, all the documents ready, have your phone with you, take some decent pics and when someone responds be hot to trot, don't say you will bring it round in a month.
If I am dating I'm ready to date, had too many who ultimately say, ohh I was just seeing how it works, I'm not interested in them, I'm interested in people ready, willing and very able.
Im just giving an opinion and from my experience one of the key things about internet dating, for it to work, both parties need to be what I suppose you'd call "Date ready"
Are you ready for the commitment of time it'll take to get a relationship off the ground. Are your finances in order because you'll be splashing a lot of cash, do you need to get to the shops and revamp your wardrobe, is your phone full of pics of previous conquests that you need to move on from. Does your work and social life allow you to see someone regularly, say twice a week, do you have a car and house fit for purpose and so on and on.
And expect the same of the woman. Get all your ducks lined up before striking.
It's like a lot of things, as this is a car website I'll use a car analogy, if you want to sell your car get it clean, all the documents ready, have your phone with you, take some decent pics and when someone responds be hot to trot, don't say you will bring it round in a month.
If I am dating I'm ready to date, had too many who ultimately say, ohh I was just seeing how it works, I'm not interested in them, I'm interested in people ready, willing and very able.
All this mincing around for one date that might not even lead further than the next drink?
Talk about wasting your own time.
If a dates not organised within a few days of talking I've already lost interest.
IF i want to chat with egomaniacs and narcissists i'll just log in here.
CountZero23 said:
leglessAlex said:
CountZero23 said:
Just had a text of the burlesque dancer I had a date with last week asking if we're still on for tonight. Completely forgot about it which is odd given she can almost put her leg behind her ear. With any luck I'll get more than a snog this week, was rather suprised how prudish she was given her 'talents'.
Really?!Doesn't surpise me at all, she probably gets sick of guys like you thinking she'll put out just because she's a burlesque dancer. I wouldn't call not jumping into bed with someone on the first date a prude.
Find vast majority of girls do, but then I do live in Brighton
A Burlesque Dancer isn't going to bend over backwards for you. She gets paid to do that, why would she do it for frre, for you?
ali_kat said:
CountZero23 said:
leglessAlex said:
CountZero23 said:
Just had a text of the burlesque dancer I had a date with last week asking if we're still on for tonight. Completely forgot about it which is odd given she can almost put her leg behind her ear. With any luck I'll get more than a snog this week, was rather suprised how prudish she was given her 'talents'.
Really?!Doesn't surpise me at all, she probably gets sick of guys like you thinking she'll put out just because she's a burlesque dancer. I wouldn't call not jumping into bed with someone on the first date a prude.
Find vast majority of girls do, but then I do live in Brighton
A Burlesque Dancer isn't going to bend over backwards for you. She gets paid to do that, why would she do it for frre, for you?
OwenK said:
Can we talk date logistics for a minute?
I live in the middle of nowhere and it's a good £30-40 taxi ride to the nearest town suitable for an outing. Also I'm chatting to plenty of ladies an hour or so away (slim pickings locally). What's your M.O. with regards to meeting for drinks in those situations? Obviously everybody hopes that we both get merry and spend the night at hers - but you can't bank on that. Booking a hotel seems excessive (and expensive), and you don't want to limit yourself to one drink so that you can drive - unless of course it's a disaster before the second round anyway.
What's a guy to do?
Perhaps ask them for a non refundable deposit of some sort to cover your expenses if they decide you're not for them...I live in the middle of nowhere and it's a good £30-40 taxi ride to the nearest town suitable for an outing. Also I'm chatting to plenty of ladies an hour or so away (slim pickings locally). What's your M.O. with regards to meeting for drinks in those situations? Obviously everybody hopes that we both get merry and spend the night at hers - but you can't bank on that. Booking a hotel seems excessive (and expensive), and you don't want to limit yourself to one drink so that you can drive - unless of course it's a disaster before the second round anyway.
What's a guy to do?
ali_kat said:
Bet you wouldn't end up marrying any of them!
A Burlesque Dancer isn't going to bend over backwards for you. She gets paid to do that, why would she do it for frre, for you?
A Burlesque Dancer isn't going to bend over backwards for you. She gets paid to do that, why would she do it for frre, for you?
randlemarcus said:
To be fair, because he is a straight bloke in Brighton, so rarity value?
I don't subscribe to the whole sluts vs studs nonsense. I'm a nice guy and understand if a girl is overcome lust on first date and won't hold it against her 
Things did work out pretty well last night with the dancer, even if she did forget her tassles again...
randlemarcus - certainly helps though Terry Garoghan summed it up best in Brighton: The Anthem.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=My5K1GWzcls
"Brighton, dead handy for London.
Brighton, Crawley is not too far.
Where everone sleeps with everyone, and there's nowhere to park your car,
Brighton."
CountZero23 said:
Take her for a rag round the track, fear / excitement increase the chances of a girl falling for you. Mental but true, then agin I guess it's just the opposite of a dull date.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8W7Mrt7Xl54Studio117 said:
Thankyou4calling said:
I don't know this girl ( well, I don't think I will) don't know the OP either and I fully accept people have different ways of going about things.
Im just giving an opinion and from my experience one of the key things about internet dating, for it to work, both parties need to be what I suppose you'd call "Date ready"
Are you ready for the commitment of time it'll take to get a relationship off the ground. Are your finances in order because you'll be splashing a lot of cash, do you need to get to the shops and revamp your wardrobe, is your phone full of pics of previous conquests that you need to move on from. Does your work and social life allow you to see someone regularly, say twice a week, do you have a car and house fit for purpose and so on and on.
And expect the same of the woman. Get all your ducks lined up before striking.
It's like a lot of things, as this is a car website I'll use a car analogy, if you want to sell your car get it clean, all the documents ready, have your phone with you, take some decent pics and when someone responds be hot to trot, don't say you will bring it round in a month.
If I am dating I'm ready to date, had too many who ultimately say, ohh I was just seeing how it works, I'm not interested in them, I'm interested in people ready, willing and very able.
Im just giving an opinion and from my experience one of the key things about internet dating, for it to work, both parties need to be what I suppose you'd call "Date ready"
Are you ready for the commitment of time it'll take to get a relationship off the ground. Are your finances in order because you'll be splashing a lot of cash, do you need to get to the shops and revamp your wardrobe, is your phone full of pics of previous conquests that you need to move on from. Does your work and social life allow you to see someone regularly, say twice a week, do you have a car and house fit for purpose and so on and on.
And expect the same of the woman. Get all your ducks lined up before striking.
It's like a lot of things, as this is a car website I'll use a car analogy, if you want to sell your car get it clean, all the documents ready, have your phone with you, take some decent pics and when someone responds be hot to trot, don't say you will bring it round in a month.
If I am dating I'm ready to date, had too many who ultimately say, ohh I was just seeing how it works, I'm not interested in them, I'm interested in people ready, willing and very able.
All this mincing around for one date that might not even lead further than the next drink?
Talk about wasting your own time.
If a dates not organised within a few days of talking I've already lost interest.
IF i want to chat with egomaniacs and narcissists i'll just log in here.
I
NRS said:
Are you not (kind of) saying the same thing though? How much are you going to bother when it's a month between dates at a time? Just one person is saying it in a "being prepared to date in general" and the other is saying "I won't make a big effort early but if things are not going anywhere I'll move on sharpish.
If I have a date, within seconds I know if I want to see them again. Straight away by the way they look, the way they greet, the body language etc. of course the first date may not lead to anything carnal but to my mind you should absolutely be chomping at the bit to see them again and get in there, she should feel the same.I'd make sure I could see them again soon, even if only for an hour and again and again.
If she doesn't feel the same MOVE ON!
This particular lady has a two week business trip to the US. Get a flight and go there for three days and yes I'm serious. What's the worst that can happen.
This coming weekend he is car racing, blimey, that is some aphrodisiac. Raise your game and do it because if you don't someone will.
Thankyou4calling said:
This particular lady has a two week business trip to the US. Get a flight and go there for three days and yes I'm serious. What's the worst that can happen.
.
Restraining order?.
Booking a flight to the states after one date is all shades of mental.
Certainly put some effort in but that kind of behnaviour reeks of despiration and a scarcity mindset. There are lots of awesome girls out there, no need to go crazy over one at this stage.
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