Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
CountZero23 said:
ali_kat said:
Bet you wouldn't end up marrying any of them!
A Burlesque Dancer isn't going to bend over backwards for you. She gets paid to do that, why would she do it for frre, for you?
A Burlesque Dancer isn't going to bend over backwards for you. She gets paid to do that, why would she do it for frre, for you?
randlemarcus said:
To be fair, because he is a straight bloke in Brighton, so rarity value? 
I don't subscribe to the whole sluts vs studs nonsense. I'm a nice guy and understand if a girl is overcome lust on first date and won't hold it against her 
Things did work out pretty well last night with the dancer, even if she did forget her tassles again...
randlemarcus - certainly helps though Terry Garoghan summed it up best in Brighton: The Anthem.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=My5K1GWzcls
"Brighton, dead handy for London.
Brighton, Crawley is not too far.
Where everone sleeps with everyone, and there's nowhere to park your car,
Brighton."
I realised after I posted it that I did exactly that
But we had known each other for 9 months & been trying to get a date for 6 months.... 
I don't know many blokes in Brighton (7), but all those I do, are straight...
CountZero23 said:
Thankyou4calling said:
This particular lady has a two week business trip to the US. Get a flight and go there for three days and yes I'm serious. What's the worst that can happen.
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Restraining order?.
Booking a flight to the states after one date is all shades of mental.
Certainly put some effort in but that kind of behnaviour reeks of despiration and a scarcity mindset. There are lots of awesome girls out there, no need to go crazy over one at this stage.
Plus, not everyone can afford to fly to the US for 3 days!
ali_kat said:
Fairy nuff
I realised after I posted it that I did exactly that But we had known each other for 9 months & been trying to get a date for 6 months....
I don't know many blokes in Brighton (7), but all those I do, are straight...
If I only dated girls who'd never slept with a guy of a first date I'd have to date either liars or Jehovah's Witnesses. I realised after I posted it that I did exactly that
But we had known each other for 9 months & been trying to get a date for 6 months.... I don't know many blokes in Brighton (7), but all those I do, are straight...
Worrying number of guys on here slut shaming and banging on about how they would never date a girl who'd put out on a first date. Maybe they are being good girls with you, most of the time they have been bad girls with other guys and had way more fun.
CountZero23 said:
ali_kat said:
Fairy nuff
I realised after I posted it that I did exactly that But we had known each other for 9 months & been trying to get a date for 6 months....
I don't know many blokes in Brighton (7), but all those I do, are straight...
If I only dated girls who'd never slept with a guy of a first date I'd have to date either liars or Jehovah's Witnesses. I realised after I posted it that I did exactly that
But we had known each other for 9 months & been trying to get a date for 6 months.... I don't know many blokes in Brighton (7), but all those I do, are straight...
Worrying number of guys on here slut shaming and never getting laid.
Edited by Studio117 on Wednesday 8th July 17:07
Thankyou4calling said:
If I have a date, within seconds I know if I want to see them again. Straight away by the way they look, the way they greet, the body language etc. of course the first date may not lead to anything carnal but to my mind you should absolutely be chomping at the bit to see them again and get in there, she should feel the same.
I'd make sure I could see them again soon, even if only for an hour and again and again.
If she doesn't feel the same MOVE ON!
This particular lady has a two week business trip to the US. Get a flight and go there for three days and yes I'm serious. What's the worst that can happen.
This coming weekend he is car racing, blimey, that is some aphrodisiac. Raise your game and do it because if you don't someone will.
Seriously?!?! Book a 3 day trip to the USA after 1 date?I'd make sure I could see them again soon, even if only for an hour and again and again.
If she doesn't feel the same MOVE ON!
This particular lady has a two week business trip to the US. Get a flight and go there for three days and yes I'm serious. What's the worst that can happen.
This coming weekend he is car racing, blimey, that is some aphrodisiac. Raise your game and do it because if you don't someone will.
I agree with the car racing. can't be any harm in asking.
Just a 'Do you fancy coming?', no pressure type thing.
GreatGranny said:
Seriously?!?! Book a 3 day trip to the USA after 1 date?
I agree with the car racing. can't be any harm in asking.
Just a 'Do you fancy coming?', no pressure type thing.
Im talking from my perspective , as I said I'd know almost instantly if there was anything there and want to capitalise on that.I agree with the car racing. can't be any harm in asking.
Just a 'Do you fancy coming?', no pressure type thing.
I'm very impulsive so if the woman I'd met on say the Saturday said she was going on a two week trip in two weeks time then first, I'd be looking at opportunities to see her a good 3 or 4 times before then and yes, if we were hitting it off I'd say how about I come out for the 2nd weekend.
Why would she say no?
I think many make the mistake of taking things far too slow and thus miss the boat and bear in mind before the first date it's highly likely you will have e mailed, texted and talked a lot so you are already connected.
First date really isn't like one in the "Real world" as you've already been communicating and flirting for a good while so no need to come across all coy and furtive.
That's what I found good about Internet dating, the
Timmy40 said:
OwenK said:
Can we talk date logistics for a minute?
I live in the middle of nowhere and it's a good £30-40 taxi ride to the nearest town suitable for an outing. Also I'm chatting to plenty of ladies an hour or so away (slim pickings locally). What's your M.O. with regards to meeting for drinks in those situations? Obviously everybody hopes that we both get merry and spend the night at hers - but you can't bank on that. Booking a hotel seems excessive (and expensive), and you don't want to limit yourself to one drink so that you can drive - unless of course it's a disaster before the second round anyway.
What's a guy to do?
It's got to be the one drink option surely. And if she says have another drink and stay you can always mention the issue of accommodation and let he suggest a hotel or her place if that's the way it's moving. I live in the middle of nowhere and it's a good £30-40 taxi ride to the nearest town suitable for an outing. Also I'm chatting to plenty of ladies an hour or so away (slim pickings locally). What's your M.O. with regards to meeting for drinks in those situations? Obviously everybody hopes that we both get merry and spend the night at hers - but you can't bank on that. Booking a hotel seems excessive (and expensive), and you don't want to limit yourself to one drink so that you can drive - unless of course it's a disaster before the second round anyway.
What's a guy to do?
Thankyou4calling said:
GreatGranny said:
Seriously?!?! Book a 3 day trip to the USA after 1 date?
I agree with the car racing. can't be any harm in asking.
Just a 'Do you fancy coming?', no pressure type thing.
Im talking from my perspective , as I said I'd know almost instantly if there was anything there and want to capitalise on that.I agree with the car racing. can't be any harm in asking.
Just a 'Do you fancy coming?', no pressure type thing.
I'm very impulsive so if the woman I'd met on say the Saturday said she was going on a two week trip in two weeks time then first, I'd be looking at opportunities to see her a good 3 or 4 times before then and yes, if we were hitting it off I'd say how about I come out for the 2nd weekend.
Why would she say no?
I think many make the mistake of taking things far too slow and thus miss the boat and bear in mind before the first date it's highly likely you will have e mailed, texted and talked a lot so you are already connected.
My current position:
Been single for ages and absolutely love it, life is literally perfect at the moment. Just happened to meet this girl at the end of May and we happened to hit it off. Texted for a while, didn't think she was interested but asked her out anyway and she said yes, we chose the first date we were both available, which happened to be 5th of July, about 3 1/2 weeks after we first decided to go on a date...
I wasn't looking forward to it but actually had a really nice time and we got on great, both of us talked + listened, neither dominated the conversation nor did either of us simply keep quiet and wait for our chance to speak... As we parted for the evening, she said she wanted to do it again - awesome.
Her best friend is a one of my friends girlfriends so I've had some inside knowledge that she had a really good time... Which is great.
Since then we've talked about doing something when she gets back, as that's the soonest convenient time for the both of us...
A lot of people are saying that if there was anything there we'd be desperate to make it as soon as possible - as another has said there are some people who lead busy lives lol... I work 1100-2300, which basically means I'm only available between 0000-1000 and she works 0630-1830, which makes her available between 1930 and 0430 on the weekdays... What do you all expect me to do, get the last train to London, sit in a bar all night with her and then get the first train home?
I'm not looking to rush things, I just want to see how things go - as I've said, I am happy being single and whilst I do like this girl and like the idea of a possible relationship with her, its still waaaay to early for me to essentially change my life to suit taking her out! If I lose her (even though I don't 'have' her yet) because of it, then so be it!
To be honest, this has all happened at a bad time, with me recently being in Tenerife for a fortnight, her in the US for a fortnight and then me off to Italy for a week. Once all the trips are over I'm sure things will be more frequent, assuming we do both still want to see each other!
Jeez only originally posted to say cheers to those that gave me some good advice and that I had a nice time! Been greeted with many messages saying she's getting f
ked left, right and center, that neither of us are bothered, I'm doing it all wrong etcWish I hadn't have posted now
TREMAiNE said:
NRS said:
TREMAiNE said:
Wish I hadn't have posted now
I guess you'll just have to cope with your busy happy life instead, 
Got an Interview on Monday though!
It's good to hear some good news from people about dates! Although not as interesting as the car crashes that occasionally get brought up by some posters
Don't think the girl I met of tinder is going to go anywhere sadly.
Went for a drink together on Sunday, seemed to go OK. Lots of talking, no apparent awkward moments.
Asked if she wanted to meet up again and she does, however, she is a teacher and doesn't get home until 1800ish, and normally isn't in the mood to do anything (to be fair I'm the same after work). It's coming up to the end of the school year as well, so lots of admin type things.
Weekends aren't brilliant for me, as I work.
She's also been fairly quiet when replying, but I'm putting that down to work.
On the plus side, she isn't completely bonkers like my ex!
Went for a drink together on Sunday, seemed to go OK. Lots of talking, no apparent awkward moments.
Asked if she wanted to meet up again and she does, however, she is a teacher and doesn't get home until 1800ish, and normally isn't in the mood to do anything (to be fair I'm the same after work). It's coming up to the end of the school year as well, so lots of admin type things.
Weekends aren't brilliant for me, as I work.
She's also been fairly quiet when replying, but I'm putting that down to work.
On the plus side, she isn't completely bonkers like my ex!
Ki3r said:
Don't think the girl I met of tinder is going to go anywhere sadly.
Went for a drink together on Sunday, seemed to go OK. Lots of talking, no apparent awkward moments.
Asked if she wanted to meet up again and she does, however, she is a teacher and doesn't get home until 1800ish, and normally isn't in the mood to do anything (to be fair I'm the same after work). It's coming up to the end of the school year as well, so lots of admin type things.
Weekends aren't brilliant for me, as I work.
She's also been fairly quiet when replying, but I'm putting that down to work.
On the plus side, she isn't completely bonkers like my ex!
What did you wear on the date?Went for a drink together on Sunday, seemed to go OK. Lots of talking, no apparent awkward moments.
Asked if she wanted to meet up again and she does, however, she is a teacher and doesn't get home until 1800ish, and normally isn't in the mood to do anything (to be fair I'm the same after work). It's coming up to the end of the school year as well, so lots of admin type things.
Weekends aren't brilliant for me, as I work.
She's also been fairly quiet when replying, but I'm putting that down to work.
On the plus side, she isn't completely bonkers like my ex!
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