Match.com (Volume 6)

[anonymous-user]

Tiggsy said:

250 matches???? 70 matches????

and no drinks??? what the hell are you saying to them?

A match means "I am on Tinder...looking to meet men.....and I like the look of you" - There's not a lot more you need to do!

The opener is just used to see which ones will talk to you - plenty of women over swipe or just look at the first pic (I do) - as soon as a match comes up they then look properly. Personally, this sees me unmatch about 70% that I swiped yes to straight away....but some women just leave the matches there. So the opener sorts out who is going to say hi.

Next is a chat....but that chat needs to move to "so, drinks?" within a VERY short time. They don't have to sort it there and then but if it is EVER going to happen they will hint early on....and most will sort it there and then.

You have nothing to loose, just ask to meet the second you get a hint...and thats anything! a Ha! an anything positive....ask!

Well a lot of the girls in my age range seem to be on tinder because they are "bored" or just for a "laugh" because their friend has told them about all the banter. After hearing that a few times or girls stop chatting as soon as i mentioned we should meet up, this just killed my confidence and I stopped sending messages. I would say I haven't messaged near 2/5 of all my matches on tinder. I kinda use it as a ego boost now but yes I will try your method now.

[Tiggsy]

Just bear that in mind then...a non-response doesnt mean much. they may be there for banter, they may be on hols, they may be seeing one guy and leaving Tinder alone (until they move on).

Just keep going and going and dont waste time....or get attached. Once you start thinging "wow, she's hot....I hope she gets in touch" you are fked......just plough through them.

I said before - the "so what questions do you need answering before we get drinks?" line is always easy.....if they come back with a question thats them firmly on the drinks path. If they even hint that asking about meeting was off so soon, forget it. It's Tinder.....not the school playground. You are there to meet someone. End of.

I had a date with girl - he bio said "5ft10 so nobody too short please....and no beards" I opened with "I'm 6ft6 and silky smooth....when you free?" We had drinks 2 days later.....she was the nicest person you could meet - not at all forward or anything - and she mentioned she had LOADS of guys chatting who had not asked for meetings???? WTF?? Idiots.

[IanMorewood]

I think what Tiggsy means is plough on.

[Council Baby]

The main issue with Tinder is that once you're doing a date a day you have to either keep the others chatting until you have time to fit them in or let them go off the boil. It's a nightmare.

[AyBee]

Council Baby said:

The main issue with Tinder is that once you're doing a date a day you have to either keep the others chatting until you have time to fit them in or let them go off the boil. It's a nightmare.

Do you get repetitive strain injury from swiping right so much?

[IanMorewood]

Council Baby said:

The main issue with Tinder is that once you're doing a date a day you have to either keep the others chatting until you have time to fit them in or let them go off the boil. It's a nightmare.

Devirginised that lucky lady who you are onto date four with yet or have you gone soft in your old age?

[Council Baby]

IanMorewood said:

Devirginised that lucky lady who you are onto date four with yet or have you gone soft in your old age?

Date 4 tomorrow.

Swiping right then unmatching as you go is the way forward. However I'm off Tinder now, don't really have the time for it and, to be frank, I have 4 girls I'm dating at the moment so it would be pointless and more hassle than it's worth to add any more to the story.

That 4 will be 2 within a week because my aging mind is starting to get confused by which one is attached to which details

[soad]

Council Baby said:

Date 4 tomorrow.

Hopefully meaning a Home Run (shag)!

Unless you two haven't tied tongues yet....

[Council Baby]

anonymous said:

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Nope, just remembering which slightly wined up convos happened with which one, although after last night I'm down to 3, one got a bit funny when she invited herself over for a late night booty call and I didn't want to see her, said she wanted a relationship with a future.

Obviously that didn't go her way.

As for date 4 today, I'm going to reserve judgment on this one, I'm not sure I believe any hot woman can get to 30 years old and remain unplucked. She definitely doesn't act like a prude and isn't shy in coming forward or entertaining my usual level of base humour and crudity.

As for locking tongues, Soad, which part of her were you thinking about me locking on to?

[WinstonWolf]

Council Baby said:

anonymous said:

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Nope, just remembering which slightly wined up convos happened with which one, although after last night I'm down to 3, one got a bit funny when she invited herself over for a late night booty call and I didn't want to see her, said she wanted a relationship with a future.

Obviously that didn't go her way.

As for date 4 today, I'm going to reserve judgment on this one, I'm not sure I believe any hot woman can get to 30 years old and remain unplucked. She definitely doesn't act like a prude and isn't shy in coming forward or entertaining my usual level of base humour and crudity.

As for locking tongues, Soad, which part of her were you thinking about me locking on to?

Probably takes it up the bum, virginity intact

[Galsia]

Advice please?

I've tried Tinder. Over 5000 likes and only a handful of matches, and no replies from them. Fail

Plenty of Fish and OK Cupid: I must have messaged over 100 women between them. None of my messages were copy and paste jobs and were genuine. I got no replies. Fail.

I went on Match.com a few years ago and nothing. Fail.

Checking it again and reviews mention fake profiles. EHarmony won't let me check out pictures of the women in my area before I stump up for a membership so how I can I decide whether to join or not?

All of my profiles have been articulate with a load of decent pictures and I don't look like Fred West.

I honestly can't figure out what I'm doing wrong.

Is EHarmony and better or worse than Match? Are the paid sites even worth bothering with? What should I do?

[Justayellowbadge]

Get a cat.

[Thankyou4calling]

Galsia said:

Advice please?

I've tried Tinder. Over 5000 likes and only a handful of matches, and no replies from them. Fail

Plenty of Fish and OK Cupid: I must have messaged over 100 women between them. None of my messages were copy and paste jobs and were genuine. I got no replies. Fail.

I went on Match.com a few years ago and nothing. Fail.

Checking it again and reviews mention fake profiles. EHarmony won't let me check out pictures of the women in my area before I stump up for a membership so how I can I decide whether to join or not?

All of my profiles have been articulate with a load of decent pictures and I don't look like Fred West.

I honestly can't figure out what I'm doing wrong.

Is EHarmony and better or worse than Match? Are the paid sites even worth bothering with? What should I do?

I found E Harmony to be excellent in its supply of good looking women but ground the website clunky.

A few tips

Never pay full price, they'll E Mail you with offers for evermore, you can even ring and ask for a deal.
Make sure to cancel as soon as you subscribe, they will not give money back on a recurring card payment.
Spread your options in age, distance, ethnicity etc. You might be surprised.
Don't bother answering if you get 5 questions, go straight to mail with a response that'll make you stand out.
Be a (cheeky) gentleman.
Don't spend too long mailing, get a date after a week maximum.
Make sure you look the business in your pics. Women love men in suits ( generalising)

Go get em :-)

[Blown2CV]

Galsia said:

Advice please?

I've tried Tinder. Over 5000 likes and only a handful of matches, and no replies from them. Fail

Plenty of Fish and OK Cupid: I must have messaged over 100 women between them. None of my messages were copy and paste jobs and were genuine. I got no replies. Fail.

I went on Match.com a few years ago and nothing. Fail.

Checking it again and reviews mention fake profiles. EHarmony won't let me check out pictures of the women in my area before I stump up for a membership so how I can I decide whether to join or not?

All of my profiles have been articulate with a load of decent pictures and I don't look like Fred West.

I honestly can't figure out what I'm doing wrong.

Is EHarmony and better or worse than Match? Are the paid sites even worth bothering with? What should I do?

the issue is not which site you are on, you are clearly doing something wrong. 'Articulate' is kind of a basal need, rather than a want, as is not reminding someone of a serial killer or looking utterly weird. You don't need to be an adonis, but your photos may well be crap. These things are fundamentals, rather than a deal-sealers. All the fundamentals need to be there, but you need to express how you really are, rather that just describe yourself. Remember you'll likely be one of many profiles being skim-read (or in the worse case, ignored) in a session. Describe yourself in a paragraph or so on here.

[Tiggsy]

5000 likes and no go on Tinder - your issue is either geography (do you live in the middle of nowhere? but search out women 300 miles away) or your photos suck.

Assuming you are UK based - Tinder is always photos. It has to be.

Get better ones.

[Blown2CV]

Tiggsy said:

5000 likes and no go on Tinder - your issue is either geography (do you live in the middle of nowhere? but search out women 300 miles away) or your photos suck.

Assuming you are UK based - Tinder is always photos. It has to be.

Get better ones.

yes but he listed all the websites he's been on too, with same result.

[Council Baby]

Post a link to your profile on one of them, let us rewrite it for you, smash women.

[NBTBRV8]

The rate that most of you guys are going at desperately trying to find somebody, you'll need to move to this site shortly (or one like it):

http://www.stitch.net/

[Galsia]

Thankyou4calling said:

I found E Harmony to be excellent in its supply of good looking women but ground the website clunky.

A few tips

Never pay full price, they'll E Mail you with offers for evermore, you can even ring and ask for a deal.
Make sure to cancel as soon as you subscribe, they will not give money back on a recurring card payment.
Spread your options in age, distance, ethnicity etc. You might be surprised.
Don't bother answering if you get 5 questions, go straight to mail with a response that'll make you stand out.
Be a (cheeky) gentleman.
Don't spend too long mailing, get a date after a week maximum.
Make sure you look the business in your pics. Women love men in suits ( generalising)

Go get em :-)

It seems good but their prices are eye-watering. I've sent them a cheeky email asking for a discount. It is strange how they don't let you view pictures of others without subscribing though.

Blown2CV said:

the issue is not which site you are on, you are clearly doing something wrong. 'Articulate' is kind of a basal need, rather than a want, as is not reminding someone of a serial killer or looking utterly weird. You don't need to be an adonis, but your photos may well be crap. These things are fundamentals, rather than a deal-sealers. All the fundamentals need to be there, but you need to express how you really are, rather that just describe yourself. Remember you'll likely be one of many profiles being skim-read (or in the worse case, ignored) in a session. Describe yourself in a paragraph or so on here.

See my profile linked below.

Tiggsy said:

5000 likes and no go on Tinder - your issue is either geography (do you live in the middle of nowhere? but search out women 300 miles away) or your photos suck.

Assuming you are UK based - Tinder is always photos. It has to be.

Get better ones.

When I first started to use it I only selected the women I liked. Then I put up better pictures and swiped yes on everyone with no luck. Some people think that there is a problem with Tinder and some Facebook accounts so I even made a new FB profile and it made no difference.

Surely it is a numbers game. I should at least be getting contact from the ugly ones. My friend has a profile which isn't any better than mine and he gets a few matches per day.

I live in Derby so I'm in the middle of everywhere.

Council Baby said:

Post a link to your profile on one of them, let us rewrite it for you, smash women.

It always nerve-wracking posting personal links on here, I've seen the photoshop threads in The Lounge! Here is my POF profile. According to the stat at the top, I've had 320 profile views but I don't know what time period that covers.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=416...

Edited by Galsia on Tuesday 14th October 22:25

Edited by Galsia on Tuesday 14th October 22:59

[Council Baby]

Lose the first 2 pics, you look like an Austrian tourist in the first one, which means debauched pervert in woman speak. Whether you are or not you should never let them know before you've met them. The second one has a slight hint of serial killer, they don't like that either

The rest aren't bad at all.

Too much use of the word 'I', No humour, no hook to get them to interact. You sound far too normal, you need to make it edgier to stand out. More natural flow to it.