Match.com (Volume 6)
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Already getting drunken phone calls at midnight from a women I've been dating. May have to f
k this one off. Bit much even for me(total pisshead).
Shame, really fit and highly intelligent.
:/
Eta.
It's been pointed out that she's busting my balls to make sure I don't bang her and do one. If I do this will unleash the devil women.
One to avoid I think.
k this one off. Bit much even for me(total pisshead).Shame, really fit and highly intelligent.
:/
Eta.
It's been pointed out that she's busting my balls to make sure I don't bang her and do one. If I do this will unleash the devil women.
One to avoid I think.
Edited by Studio117 on Tuesday 18th August 09:00
Council Baby said:
I know, it's shocking, she must see me as a provider or something, she's probably letting out her inner slut on nights out with friends.
fking snakes with tits
Exactly, in 7 years time you will be posting on here about how she told you she loves you but isn't in love with you and how she keeps talking about Dave at work.......f
king snakes with tits 
Council Baby said:
I know, it's shocking, she must see me as a provider or something, she's probably letting out her inner slut on nights out with friends.
fking snakes with tits
Jesus mate, can you not see how much of a beta provider you are?! She'll take advantage of you, she's getting it up the arse from an alpha bloke etc etc...f
king snakes with tits Whilst Chemical chaos (or whatever he is called now) gets often warranted abuse, I don't see much wrong with his drink invitation. Whilst it might be better to have a bit of cheeky banter first, it's clear from the thread history he's not as skilled as others in that lark, but then I think that is perhaps a skill that comes with age and maturity. For the younger, instant generation that's less prevalent.
As others have rightly said, the bulk of "advice" dished out here is to get from texts to meeting asap and whilst he's gone from pages of endless chatter to the polar opposite of an immediate invite, he has done so with the backdrop of knowing her previously so its less severe than a new face. The fact she hasn't responded is perhaps more indicative of a display of reticence or just an indifference to CC - I wouldn't dwell on it too much or see it as you having done too much wrong to be honest. Yes, there is a middle ground whereby you could do with engaging a bit before the invite but by and large I'd say the earlier approach is probably the right one. Whether it's me or them who tires of endless messaging, it does peter out I tend to find unless some physical action is taken. No different to meeting up with someone and countless dates without a move being made to sexualise it.
As for the comments re women's expectations, I think both sexes can be guilty of this. I've seen the tinder/match/happn searches performed by some of my female mates and there is a plethora of guys who seemingly make F all effort. Whilst I don't know they are holding out for their tinderella, they certainly don't seem to want to get closer to a women's criteria as is bemoaned about on here. Yes, you cannot change your height or your baldness etc, but you can get in shape, you can don a decent set of clothes, you can recruit a female mate to give you a make over etc.
If its apparent women desire a certain set of criteria, the option of taking steps towards said criteria is an option. It's not so much about compromising, or being vain, or losing track of people wanting each other just for who they are as a person; there is a reason why some people are desirable, both male and female. And whilst none of us are blessed with the looks of Brad Pitt, one of the more attractive attributes is often the dedication/drive shown in life in general. Making the best of yourself is a good indicator of that, and on a picture based app is the only real display of that. A 10/10 or a 5/10, male or female, the fact that they take some pride in their appearance and themselves would give them a gloss finish (not of a Dale Winton style). Few people value laziness as an attribute and whilst vanity is equally often deemed ugly, there is a fine line in making the most of what you have been gifted in life.
It is easy to sit there and think women are chasing some unicorn and certainly there will be some who won't ever be satisfied and have unrealistic expectations. Similarly the same will apply to some men (arguably I am one of them). But rather than sitting there moaning about how you want X but X desires Y, look at Y and, if you can be arsed, take steps to move closer to Y.
As others have rightly said, the bulk of "advice" dished out here is to get from texts to meeting asap and whilst he's gone from pages of endless chatter to the polar opposite of an immediate invite, he has done so with the backdrop of knowing her previously so its less severe than a new face. The fact she hasn't responded is perhaps more indicative of a display of reticence or just an indifference to CC - I wouldn't dwell on it too much or see it as you having done too much wrong to be honest. Yes, there is a middle ground whereby you could do with engaging a bit before the invite but by and large I'd say the earlier approach is probably the right one. Whether it's me or them who tires of endless messaging, it does peter out I tend to find unless some physical action is taken. No different to meeting up with someone and countless dates without a move being made to sexualise it.
As for the comments re women's expectations, I think both sexes can be guilty of this. I've seen the tinder/match/happn searches performed by some of my female mates and there is a plethora of guys who seemingly make F all effort. Whilst I don't know they are holding out for their tinderella, they certainly don't seem to want to get closer to a women's criteria as is bemoaned about on here. Yes, you cannot change your height or your baldness etc, but you can get in shape, you can don a decent set of clothes, you can recruit a female mate to give you a make over etc.
If its apparent women desire a certain set of criteria, the option of taking steps towards said criteria is an option. It's not so much about compromising, or being vain, or losing track of people wanting each other just for who they are as a person; there is a reason why some people are desirable, both male and female. And whilst none of us are blessed with the looks of Brad Pitt, one of the more attractive attributes is often the dedication/drive shown in life in general. Making the best of yourself is a good indicator of that, and on a picture based app is the only real display of that. A 10/10 or a 5/10, male or female, the fact that they take some pride in their appearance and themselves would give them a gloss finish (not of a Dale Winton style). Few people value laziness as an attribute and whilst vanity is equally often deemed ugly, there is a fine line in making the most of what you have been gifted in life.
It is easy to sit there and think women are chasing some unicorn and certainly there will be some who won't ever be satisfied and have unrealistic expectations. Similarly the same will apply to some men (arguably I am one of them). But rather than sitting there moaning about how you want X but X desires Y, look at Y and, if you can be arsed, take steps to move closer to Y.
As someone who first started using dating sites circa 2007 and has just returned to said hell holes after a 2 year absence I've noticed a sea change in the female species on those sites.
In those early days it was common to (excuse the pun ) come across women who just wanted sex and were open about it on their profiles.They would bombard you with pics in various states of undress,invite you to webcam and then drive 60 miles just to jump your bones.I loved it.
Today all that seems to have disappeared and pretty much everyone is looking for a relationship.At least that's what their profiles are saying.
Even Tinder,which I've been led to believe is where strangers go to hook up is nothing of the sort,at least not in my area.
What's behind the change ?
Well,now that swinging has come out from the shadows and become more mainstream and 'normal' I'm wondering if that's where these women now go for their thrills.
Or maybe it's because I'm older (52) and the younger ones are still doing it,it's just I'm not coming into contact with them.fked if I know
In those early days it was common to (excuse the pun ) come across women who just wanted sex and were open about it on their profiles.They would bombard you with pics in various states of undress,invite you to webcam and then drive 60 miles just to jump your bones.I loved it.
Today all that seems to have disappeared and pretty much everyone is looking for a relationship.At least that's what their profiles are saying.
Even Tinder,which I've been led to believe is where strangers go to hook up is nothing of the sort,at least not in my area.
What's behind the change ?
Well,now that swinging has come out from the shadows and become more mainstream and 'normal' I'm wondering if that's where these women now go for their thrills.
Or maybe it's because I'm older (52) and the younger ones are still doing it,it's just I'm not coming into contact with them.f
ked if I knowCarthage said:
Periodically I like to come into this thread to;
1. Read about all these terrible women who have the audacity to reject men.
2. Learn what amazing studs inhabit PH and are willing to share the secret of their prowess with men with smaller penises.
3. Find out that women want 'bad boys' or 'providers" or are 'being unrealistic', or want to 'friendzone people' or are 'sluts' if they put out on a first date, but are 'frigid timewasters' if they hold out until the third dtate.
4. Wonder incredulously that you're all still single.
I imagine you all as short, fat, bald, and lacking generosity (of spirit, not cash).
And you can all imagine me as warty, short, fat, freakishly hirsute and very, very old.
Good luck in your search - you'll need it. X
It is pretty amusing sometimes. You'll see someone complain about girls wanting a guy who is a bit of a bad boy but also safe, and that they're being too demanding. Then later in the post they talk about having met with a lovely girl but she's just too boring. Or for women rejecting them - well, I'm sure there is a lot of women disappointed after seeing some nice pics and discovering the real thing is a lot worse - in the same way people here sometimes complain about selective pics.1. Read about all these terrible women who have the audacity to reject men.
2. Learn what amazing studs inhabit PH and are willing to share the secret of their prowess with men with smaller penises.
3. Find out that women want 'bad boys' or 'providers" or are 'being unrealistic', or want to 'friendzone people' or are 'sluts' if they put out on a first date, but are 'frigid timewasters' if they hold out until the third dtate.
4. Wonder incredulously that you're all still single.
I imagine you all as short, fat, bald, and lacking generosity (of spirit, not cash).
And you can all imagine me as warty, short, fat, freakishly hirsute and very, very old.
Good luck in your search - you'll need it. X
It has nothing to do with women being evil, just most people want a bit of excitement while being treated ok. And a lot of people fall on either side of this and hence struggle to find someone.
Matt, here's my view on your messages.
The tone is not right. You're writing as though you'll be judged on your command of English - very 'proper'. The overall impression my OH got from your messages was 'doesn't sound like fun, and more like he's got a stick up his arse.'.
The first part of your last message is the sort of thing you'd send an elderly relative when she asks how your summer is going.
Go for shorter, lighter hearted comments. Be a bit cheeky "can't remember where you're from, any decent hotels nearby?", no need to pretend to be someone you're not but I'm sure you'd tell me you've got a decent sense of humour? Let it out!
In general, think of messages on places like tinder as being vocal communication instead of written. Comes across far more conversational and natural if you write as you'd speak.
The tone is not right. You're writing as though you'll be judged on your command of English - very 'proper'. The overall impression my OH got from your messages was 'doesn't sound like fun, and more like he's got a stick up his arse.'.
The first part of your last message is the sort of thing you'd send an elderly relative when she asks how your summer is going.
Go for shorter, lighter hearted comments. Be a bit cheeky "can't remember where you're from, any decent hotels nearby?", no need to pretend to be someone you're not but I'm sure you'd tell me you've got a decent sense of humour? Let it out!
In general, think of messages on places like tinder as being vocal communication instead of written. Comes across far more conversational and natural if you write as you'd speak.
shakotan said:
Cotty said:
For some reason my subscription went through twice, they confirm receiving it twice. They are claiming that as 30 days has elapsed (only noticed when I got my statement) that there is nothing they can do.
I paid via PayPal, can I put a complaint though them?
Yup, start a case in the Resolution Centre.I paid via PayPal, can I put a complaint though them?
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Carthage said:
Periodically I like to come into this thread to;
1. Read about all these terrible women who have the audacity to reject men.
2. Learn what amazing studs inhabit PH and are willing to share the secret of their prowess with men with smaller penises.
3. Find out that women want 'bad boys' or 'providers" or are 'being unrealistic', or want to 'friendzone people' or are 'sluts' if they put out on a first date, but are 'frigid timewasters' if they hold out until the third dtate.
4. Wonder incredulously that you're all still single.
I imagine you all as short, fat, bald, and lacking generosity (of spirit, not cash).
And you can all imagine me as warty, short, fat, freakishly hirsute and very, very old.
Good luck in your search - you'll need it. X
I think I love you. Fancy a f1. Read about all these terrible women who have the audacity to reject men.
2. Learn what amazing studs inhabit PH and are willing to share the secret of their prowess with men with smaller penises.
3. Find out that women want 'bad boys' or 'providers" or are 'being unrealistic', or want to 'friendzone people' or are 'sluts' if they put out on a first date, but are 'frigid timewasters' if they hold out until the third dtate.
4. Wonder incredulously that you're all still single.
I imagine you all as short, fat, bald, and lacking generosity (of spirit, not cash).
And you can all imagine me as warty, short, fat, freakishly hirsute and very, very old.
Good luck in your search - you'll need it. X
k?Gretchen said:
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Too late. You've been friendzoned.Carthage said:
Periodically I like to come into this thread to;
1. Read about all these terrible women who have the audacity to reject men.
2. Learn what amazing studs inhabit PH and are willing to share the secret of their prowess with men with smaller penises.
3. Find out that women want 'bad boys' or 'providers" or are 'being unrealistic', or want to 'friendzone people' or are 'sluts' if they put out on a first date, but are 'frigid timewasters' if they hold out until the third dtate.
4. Wonder incredulously that you're all still single.
I imagine you all as short, fat, bald, and lacking generosity (of spirit, not cash).
And you can all imagine me as warty, short, fat, freakishly hirsute and very, very old.
Good luck in your search - you'll need it. X
I think I love you. Fancy a f1. Read about all these terrible women who have the audacity to reject men.
2. Learn what amazing studs inhabit PH and are willing to share the secret of their prowess with men with smaller penises.
3. Find out that women want 'bad boys' or 'providers" or are 'being unrealistic', or want to 'friendzone people' or are 'sluts' if they put out on a first date, but are 'frigid timewasters' if they hold out until the third dtate.
4. Wonder incredulously that you're all still single.
I imagine you all as short, fat, bald, and lacking generosity (of spirit, not cash).
And you can all imagine me as warty, short, fat, freakishly hirsute and very, very old.
Good luck in your search - you'll need it. X
k?Second date with Kiwi lass on the weekend seemed to go very well. Which makes it all the more odd she's not got back to me. Sent her a text Monday to see if she got home OK and still nothing back.
Bit strange as even if she took offence to any of my drunken antics I'd of expected a 'thanks but no thanks' message, was even dropping relationship noises on the weekend. Didn't even run for the hills at that as rather like this one.
Ho hum, dropped her an FB message in case she lost her phone or something.
Will have to get back to my Tinder matches at this rate...
Bit strange as even if she took offence to any of my drunken antics I'd of expected a 'thanks but no thanks' message, was even dropping relationship noises on the weekend. Didn't even run for the hills at that as rather like this one.
Ho hum, dropped her an FB message in case she lost her phone or something.
Will have to get back to my Tinder matches at this rate...
Edited by CountZero23 on Wednesday 19th August 22:15
CountZero23 said:
Second date with Kiwi lass on the weekend seemed to go very well. Which makes it all the more odd she's not got back to me. Sent her a text Monday to see if she got home OK and still nothing back.
Bit strange as even if she took offence to any of my drunken antics I'd of expected a 'thanks but no thanks' message, was even dropping relationship noises on the weekend. Didn't even run for the hills at that as rather like this one.
Ho hum, dropped her an FB message in case she lost her phone or something.
Will have to get back to my Tinder matches at this rate...
I'd forget about that expectation of people!Bit strange as even if she took offence to any of my drunken antics I'd of expected a 'thanks but no thanks' message, was even dropping relationship noises on the weekend. Didn't even run for the hills at that as rather like this one.
Ho hum, dropped her an FB message in case she lost her phone or something.
Will have to get back to my Tinder matches at this rate...
Edited by CountZero23 on Wednesday 19th August 22:15
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