Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
AyBee said:
Has anyone else ever broken up with you? Sounds a bit like you want what you can't have, even though you know deep down that you don't really want it.
Suppose not from a relationship, no. I've got commitment issues so rarely let things get that far, I tend to bail out so am the one that calls things off.There's no doubt I want what I can't have, the two girls I want are both ones I can't have. I just don't know how to stop wanting it.
SpunkyGlory said:
Suppose not from a relationship, no. I've got commitment issues so rarely let things get that far, I tend to bail out so am the one that calls things off.
There's no doubt I want what I can't have, the two girls I want are both ones I can't have. I just don't know how to stop wanting it.
Try a long-term, spirit crushing descent into alcoholism and pills/coke. There's no doubt I want what I can't have, the two girls I want are both ones I can't have. I just don't know how to stop wanting it.
Shnozz said:
It may be cynical and make for unpopular reading. I'd rather not play games, but simple observation and experience leads me to think they are almost necessary.
This.I'd love for things to work like a Disney movie but they don't. At some point you have to look objectivly at what works and what doens't in dating.
The conclusions rarely tend to square up with the romcom la la land advice that the majority seem to dole out.
It's madness it really is. The lass I liked is same age as me (34), alluded to how she wanted a relationship, talked about what might happen between us when she went back home in a few months for a long trip, how hard it was finding a guy who wanted more than sex...
Given all this I thought maybe it might be ok to indicate I quite liked her.
Well, from now on it's standard rules of engagement with any new ladies. They come 2nd to any other plans I've made, they will not be considered for relationship until a few months have passed and I'm going to see other girls even if I have to force myself.
Date with a nice enough lass tonight, to be honest I'm losing my enthusiasm for all this and would rather just hit the gym or have a beer with my mates.
Well, quite frankly, if that's how you feel, perhaps that's what you should do. Why would any girl want to go out with a miserable cynic who wouldn't want to admit that he liked her or showed any affection but would probably still want to get his leg over? Get over the one who let you down Count - be honest and open and a girl worth waiting for will come along (even if you do get a bit of a bruising along the way).
Listen, I'm a girl and know that's not true. If you think so then you're obviously seeing the wrong ones. I don't know how old you are but you sound rather immature to me. Cheer up, put a smile on your face and get out there. Make a girl laugh, have fun and treat her with respect and you'll be ok.
Rh14n said:
Listen, I'm a girl and know that's not true. If you think so then you're obviously seeing the wrong ones. I don't know how old you are but you sound rather immature to me. Cheer up, put a smile on your face and get out there. Make the right girl laugh, have fun and treat her with respect and you'll be ok.
EFA. Like they're all the same...
Rh14n said:
Listen, I'm a girl and know that's not true. If you think so then you're obviously seeing the wrong ones. I don't know how old you are but you sound rather immature to me. Cheer up, put a smile on your face and get out there. Make a girl laugh, have fun and treat her with respect and you'll be ok.
Rh14n said:
Listen, I'm a girl and know that's not true. If you think so then you're obviously seeing the wrong ones. I don't know how old you are but you sound rather immature to me. Cheer up, put a smile on your face and get out there. Make a girl laugh, have fun and treat her with respect and you'll be ok.
Rh14n said:
Listen, I'm a girl and know that's not true. If you think so then you're obviously seeing the wrong ones. I don't know how old you are but you sound rather immature to me. Cheer up, put a smile on your face and get out there. Make a girl laugh, have fun and treat her with respect and you'll be ok.
Rh14n said:
Listen, I'm a girl and know that's not true. If you think so then you're obviously seeing the wrong ones. I don't know how old you are but you sound rather immature to me. Cheer up, put a smile on your face and get out there. Make a girl laugh, have fun and treat her with respect and you'll be ok.
Rh14n said:
Listen, I'm a girl and know that's not true. If you think so then you're obviously seeing the wrong ones. I don't know how old you are but you sound rather immature to me. Cheer up, put a smile on your face and get out there. Make a girl laugh, have fun and treat her with respect and you'll be ok.
CountZero23 said:
Dotty, if you like this Greek one then don't for f
ks sake show it or stop seeing other girls. I'm not making that mistake again - will make sure I'm seeing a girl for a month or two before I even entertain the idea of getting exclusive.
You're wrong... ks sake show it or stop seeing other girls. I'm not making that mistake again - will make sure I'm seeing a girl for a month or two before I even entertain the idea of getting exclusive. No girl wants a guy who is clingy, declares they love you within a few weeks, or whatever, but they do want a guy who is confident enough to express his feelings. If he has his own hobbies, and interests so that his time is occupied, but is affectionate and caring that is what they want.
I suspect if you're bitter about women 'playing games' you've either totally misread her signals, or come across as the clingy type who is claustrophobic for her.
SpunkyGlory said:
She is absolutely stunning and so much fun, we had such a laugh together. But at the same time she used to drive me up the wall when we were together: she was selfish, could be a nightmare when drunk, loads of little things that used to irritate me to the point of I actually text a mate one weekend saying I was going to break up with her.
So 8 weeks of fun with a great person but who at the time I knew wasn't going to be the one for me. So why, almost 4 months since I last spoke to her am I still not over her? Or am I over her but it's highlighted I want a relationship? Or is it an ego thing because she broke up with me? I don't do feelings or emotions and normally get over most things with a cold shower so this is driving me up the wall. I was never in love with her so I don't think I'm pining for her, I can't help but feel it's me finally reaching a point where I want more than just dating lots of people.
I let my guard down with this one and got burnt so part of me completely agrees with Count about not admitting how you feel. But at the same time, life's too short to worry about stupid things like that so be honest to yourself and others with how you feel.
Because you want what you cant have? Because deep down you didnt really care about the fact she could be a pain in the arse and actually did really like her for who she was - put her problems down to that being 'her'? Because you actually found someone you could be yourself round and who appreciated you for who you were? So 8 weeks of fun with a great person but who at the time I knew wasn't going to be the one for me. So why, almost 4 months since I last spoke to her am I still not over her? Or am I over her but it's highlighted I want a relationship? Or is it an ego thing because she broke up with me? I don't do feelings or emotions and normally get over most things with a cold shower so this is driving me up the wall. I was never in love with her so I don't think I'm pining for her, I can't help but feel it's me finally reaching a point where I want more than just dating lots of people.
I let my guard down with this one and got burnt so part of me completely agrees with Count about not admitting how you feel. But at the same time, life's too short to worry about stupid things like that so be honest to yourself and others with how you feel.
We've all been there, we've all got 1 or 2 or more like that. Its a pain in the arse, but in my experience they often make the best of friends if you cant be with them. I still miss a girl like that, and every time I see her it reminds me how much I miss her. But if I ever want honest advice from someone who really understands me, she'll be the one I call.
Rh14n said:
Listen, I'm a girl and know that's not true. If you think so then you're obviously seeing the wrong ones. I don't know how old you are but you sound rather immature to me. Cheer up, put a smile on your face and get out there. Make a girl laugh, have fun and treat her with respect and you'll be ok.
No.I'm going to sulk for at least another week.
Blown2CV said:
I Like this thread because (by comparison) it makes me feel relatively well-adjusted and mentally prepared for what it means to be a man in 2015. It is possible to express emotion, be a man and yet not dissolve into an undesirable, pitiable mess. Have something about you, FFS.
Good post.The last dozen or so pages seem to have been taken over by a bunch of whining little schoolgirls.
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