Match.com (Volume 6)

[NRS]

227bhp said:

Maybe she had the painters in.

Why would that matter if she was at his house? And surely they wouldn't be decorating at night?

[Condi]

CC07 PEU said:

Maybe the lack of reciprocation was deliberate on her part though so as to increase the chances of there being an actual relationship at the end of it rather than it just being about sex.

Doubt it. Why would it make a difference - you'll sleep together at some point so IMO it doesnt matter if you fk on the first date or the 10th. TBH if a girl didnt want to kiss, cuddle, or have sex after 2 or 3 dates then I would suggest she wasnt interested, and at the very least you expect a goodnight kiss after even the 1st date!

[BrownBottle]

Condi said:

Doubt it. Why would it make a difference - you'll sleep together at some point so IMO it doesnt matter if you fk on the first date or the 10th. TBH if a girl didnt want to kiss, cuddle, or have sex after 2 or 3 dates then I would suggest she wasnt interested, and at the very least you expect a goodnight kiss after even the 1st date!

I find it's best to have sex as soon as possible, I always feel there's a bit of awkwardness until it happens, it's a great ice breaker.

[227bhp]

BrownBottle said:

Condi said:

Doubt it. Why would it make a difference - you'll sleep together at some point so IMO it doesnt matter if you fk on the first date or the 10th. TBH if a girl didnt want to kiss, cuddle, or have sex after 2 or 3 dates then I would suggest she wasnt interested, and at the very least you expect a goodnight kiss after even the 1st date!

I find it's best to have sex as soon as possible, I always feel there's a bit of awkwardness until it happens, it's a great ice breaker.

I agree with that everytime

[227bhp]

NRS said:

227bhp said:

Maybe she had the painters in.

Why would that matter if she was at his house? And surely they wouldn't be decorating at night?

The smell of the paint would have been terrible, dust sheets everywhere, you know the score - she wouldn't have wanted to go home to that.

[NNK]

I started chatting with a lady last week, met for coffee clicked so organised a dinner date. A couple of bottles of wine and great food then back to hers. More wine and chatting then I went off to the loo, came back and she called out 'in here', I wandered around until I found her in her bed. A quick strip and jumped in to find her in a lovely black lace nightie. My hands started wandering and oh dear !
I had only seen her in jeans (tight) and long sleeve top. Well I reckon she must have been massive at some point as there was skin hanging everywhere ! She must have folded it into her jeans and rolled up her hooters to fill out the bra !
I had to go through with it too.

[BrownBottle]

NNK said:

I started chatting with a lady last week, met for coffee clicked so organised a dinner date. A couple of bottles of wine and great food then back to hers. More wine and chatting then I went off to the loo, came back and she called out 'in here', I wandered around until I found her in her bed. A quick strip and jumped in to find her in a lovely black lace nightie. My hands started wandering and oh dear !
I had only seen her in jeans (tight) and long sleeve top. Well I reckon she must have been massive at some point as there was skin hanging everywhere ! She must have folded it into her jeans and rolled up her hooters to fill out the bra !
I had to go through with it too

That's the spirit chin up, or maybe folds up on this particular occasion...

[Driver101]

Brigand said:

I found in the couple of years I was using PoF (and probably relates to all dating sites) that the women are very much in control of the situation. As an average looking guy I got very few women messaging me first, and those that did were nearly all rotters (to me at least). I had no shortage of dates and longer term "things" from the two-and-a-bit years I was using it, but I found that it didn't really matter what I put in a message, if the woman didn't find me attractive then that was the end of it. Its all based on looks essentially, it doesn't really matter what you put in your profile for the majority of people.

In the end I just went for generic messages for most people, just something like "Hello, how are you today? Did you have a good weekend?" If the person had something that I had an interest in written in their profile then I'd do a more tailored message, but for most people I'd just write the above. Then spam it. Anyone that piques your fancy just send them all the same message and sit back and see what happens. Most the time nothing, but you'll get a bite eventually.

Women are very much in control on dating sites like POF.

They get inundated with male attention.

She's got pals that are all single and doing the dating websites thing and the conversations from the other side are scary.

I was allowed to read some of the st guys try and it was hilarious.

I'm sure some girls find it an ego boost with the attention, but normal girls cringe at the freakish stalking by so many guys.

[Brigand]

Agreed, women are bombarded by crap from men on those sites, I've heard lots of cringeworthy and amusing stories from them.

[BrabusMog]

NNK said:

I started chatting with a lady last week, met for coffee clicked so organised a dinner date. A couple of bottles of wine and great food then back to hers. More wine and chatting then I went off to the loo, came back and she called out 'in here', I wandered around until I found her in her bed. A quick strip and jumped in to find her in a lovely black lace nightie. My hands started wandering and oh dear !
I had only seen her in jeans (tight) and long sleeve top. Well I reckon she must have been massive at some point as there was skin hanging everywhere ! She must have folded it into her jeans and rolled up her hooters to fill out the bra !
I had to go through with it too.

Been in a similar position, got hold of a girl on a night out after a heavy drinking session and then woke up the next morning next to something I would never have usually even looked at! Brushed my teeth, took a shower and then had to go for round two before I could get her out of the house.

[AngryPartsBloke]

After a brief CBA attitude to POF, i went back and started chatting to a girl on the weekend, seems pretty keen so hopefully get a date organised for this week.

Also started talking to a girl off Instagram on Whatsapp, she's not local but if i play it right a dirty weekend could be on the cards!

[soad]

CC07 PEU said:

So, I literally slept with this girl in the same bed, it didn’t escalate to sex, but even more odd is that I didn’t get a kiss from her. Bit of a weird one. I think I’ve been friend zoned! Will move onto another!

Didn't sleep molest her?

[Blown2CV]

soad said:

CC07 PEU said:

So, I literally slept with this girl in the same bed, it didn’t escalate to sex, but even more odd is that I didn’t get a kiss from her. Bit of a weird one. I think I’ve been friend zoned! Will move onto another!

Didn't sleep molest her?

tbh she was prob giving a green light for sleep groping, and he missed it. Should have consulted the thread during the course of the evening. Error.

Ii know a guy who was seeing a girl who, after a few months, confessed to having a fantasy that she'd like him to act out. She listed all the details and instructions, to which he was a bit "rabbit in the headlights" but went along with it. Turns out she wanted him to go out for a few hours, and then pretend to be an intruder and break into the house, dressed in black with a balaclava on (IRA style, not primary school kid style) and to burst into her bedroom and then have sex with her (concensually, as had been pre-arranged!) but effectively in such a way as to pretend to rape her. Now... you might say this is unusual, and I feel it probably is... however she seemed to absolutely love it, despite the fact that he did have to check whether she genuinely was, as her part in the role play was to pretend that she was in horror and playing the full victim role... she then bked him for ruining it by stepping out of character. Anyway. I don't think you should assume that it's OK to do this on a first date.

Do stick your finger up her bum if she falls asleep next time though eh? Friend-zone. Tsk.

[Shnozz]

Blown2CV said:

Turns out she wanted him to go out for a few hours, and then pretend to be an intruder and break into the house, dressed in black with a balaclava on (IRA style, not primary school kid style) and to burst into her bedroom and then have sex with her (concensually, as had been pre-arranged!) but effectively in such a way as to pretend to rape her. Now... you might say this is unusual, and I feel it probably is...

I think you might be very surprised.

[Feirny]

Blown2CV said:

tbh she was prob giving a green light for sleep groping, and he missed it. Should have consulted the thread during the course of the evening. Error.

Ii know a guy who was seeing a girl who, after a few months, confessed to having a fantasy that she'd like him to act out. She listed all the details and instructions, to which he was a bit "rabbit in the headlights" but went along with it. Turns out she wanted him to go out for a few hours, and then pretend to be an intruder and break into the house, dressed in black with a balaclava on (IRA style, not primary school kid style) and to burst into her bedroom and then have sex with her (concensually, as had been pre-arranged!) but effectively in such a way as to pretend to rape her. Now... you might say this is unusual, and I feel it probably is... however she seemed to absolutely love it, despite the fact that he did have to check whether she genuinely was, as her part in the role play was to pretend that she was in horror and playing the full victim role... she then bked him for ruining it by stepping out of character. Anyway. I don't think you should assume that it's OK to do this on a first date.

Do stick your finger up her bum if she falls asleep next time though eh? Friend-zone. Tsk.

I think I may know that girl. Or certainly one that likes the same thing.

[Tonberry]

Feirny said:

Blown2CV said:

tbh she was prob giving a green light for sleep groping, and he missed it. Should have consulted the thread during the course of the evening. Error.

Ii know a guy who was seeing a girl who, after a few months, confessed to having a fantasy that she'd like him to act out. She listed all the details and instructions, to which he was a bit "rabbit in the headlights" but went along with it. Turns out she wanted him to go out for a few hours, and then pretend to be an intruder and break into the house, dressed in black with a balaclava on (IRA style, not primary school kid style) and to burst into her bedroom and then have sex with her (concensually, as had been pre-arranged!) but effectively in such a way as to pretend to rape her. Now... you might say this is unusual, and I feel it probably is... however she seemed to absolutely love it, despite the fact that he did have to check whether she genuinely was, as her part in the role play was to pretend that she was in horror and playing the full victim role... she then bked him for ruining it by stepping out of character. Anyway. I don't think you should assume that it's OK to do this on a first date.

Do stick your finger up her bum if she falls asleep next time though eh? Friend-zone. Tsk.

I think I may know that girl. Or certainly one that likes the same thing.

Perfectly normal. Except they're usually crazy.

Get something in writing.

[Vaud]

Tonberry said:

Get something in writing.

And the right address.

[steveo3002]

Vaud said:

And the right address.

hahha

[Feirny]

Tonberry said:

Feirny said:

Blown2CV said:

tbh she was prob giving a green light for sleep groping, and he missed it. Should have consulted the thread during the course of the evening. Error.

Ii know a guy who was seeing a girl who, after a few months, confessed to having a fantasy that she'd like him to act out. She listed all the details and instructions, to which he was a bit "rabbit in the headlights" but went along with it. Turns out she wanted him to go out for a few hours, and then pretend to be an intruder and break into the house, dressed in black with a balaclava on (IRA style, not primary school kid style) and to burst into her bedroom and then have sex with her (concensually, as had been pre-arranged!) but effectively in such a way as to pretend to rape her. Now... you might say this is unusual, and I feel it probably is... however she seemed to absolutely love it, despite the fact that he did have to check whether she genuinely was, as her part in the role play was to pretend that she was in horror and playing the full victim role... she then bked him for ruining it by stepping out of character. Anyway. I don't think you should assume that it's OK to do this on a first date.

Do stick your finger up her bum if she falls asleep next time though eh? Friend-zone. Tsk.

I think I may know that girl. Or certainly one that likes the same thing.

Perfectly normal. Except they're usually crazy.

Get something in writing.

I wouldn't partake, I'm happily taken with someone normal.(for a female)

[BrabusMog]

Vaud said:

Tonberry said:

Get something in writing.

And the right address.