Match.com (Volume 6)
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xjay1337 said:
Son should be fine. Most kids like cars/guns/games consoles. Just don't try and be his new Daddy. Unless he wants you to be.
Father isn't a problem unless he/she (your new mrs) makes it a problem. Just be amicable, say hello mate, hows you? etc.
He has probably moved on too.
Yeah, absolutely this. Conversely to my point above about my fiancée, I met the boyfriend of my son's mother after a couple of months and it was absolutely fine. It's as weird as you want to make it; in our case it wasn't at all. If anything, I felt a touch of pity for the poor bloke. Father isn't a problem unless he/she (your new mrs) makes it a problem. Just be amicable, say hello mate, hows you? etc.
He has probably moved on too.
Question for the successful dudes on Tinder.
Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
Forever Alone said:
Question for the successful dudes on Tinder.
Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
It doesn't really matter on Tinder - It does on sites like PoF, but Tinder is solely picture based. Once you match with someone, then turn on the humour ... If you're not getting matches, it's your photos at fault. Post up 5 or 6 good ones; one in a suit, one looking smart, and then some interesting ones of hobbies + with friends. Avoid photos in clubs, or where you're drunk, or pulling faces etc.Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
Basically, it's all to do with your pictures! I'm no Adonis, but I managed lots of matches per night with some good photos. You can write a bio if you want - Some of my matches read mine. Make it amusing and honest.
Forever Alone said:
Question for the successful dudes on Tinder.
Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
Delete your bio.Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
xjay1337 said:
Have you shagged her yet?
Are you worried about meeting the son or the father?
Son should be fine. Most kids like cars/guns/games consoles. Just don't try and be his new Daddy. Unless he wants you to be.
Father isn't a problem unless he/she (your new mrs) makes it a problem. Just be amicable, say hello mate, hows you? etc.
He has probably moved on too.
The father. The son wasn't a problem at all. I was nervous as I don't really know much about kids and what they can do and can't do (he is three). Are you worried about meeting the son or the father?
Son should be fine. Most kids like cars/guns/games consoles. Just don't try and be his new Daddy. Unless he wants you to be.
Father isn't a problem unless he/she (your new mrs) makes it a problem. Just be amicable, say hello mate, hows you? etc.
He has probably moved on too.
But soon on the floor playing with his toys with him and reading books etc.
He had moved on, currently awaiting his second baby.
I'm probably worrying about nothing though.
Feirny said:
Forever Alone said:
Question for the successful dudes on Tinder.
Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
Delete your bio.Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
My is "Shy, socially awkward and most weekends playing online games. Looking for model / stripper - must prefer Star Trek to Star Wars or it's a non starter."
My pictures are of me DJing and Skydiving (properly, none of this tandem nonsense) - obviously the effectiveness of this hinges on you not looking like a Star Trek fan.
I'm sure I'd get more matches if I had some 'smart' photos on me not in Jeans and T-Shirt and left out the ironic humor which most the women on there won't get.
That said I do tend to match with girls more on my wavelength with a similar sense of humor.
My "First date" suggestion on POF is "Rohypnol: If I like you". Then again I've not had many matches on that since I changed it
Ki3r said:
The father. The son wasn't a problem at all. I was nervous as I don't really know much about kids and what they can do and can't do (he is three).
But soon on the floor playing with his toys with him and reading books etc.
He had moved on, currently awaiting his second baby.
I'm probably worrying about nothing though.
Don't be nervous at all mate. Be confident.But soon on the floor playing with his toys with him and reading books etc.
He had moved on, currently awaiting his second baby.
I'm probably worrying about nothing though.
At end of day you weren't responsible for whatever happened between them.
Just say hey mate, how are you doing? Who knows, maybe you could end up being sort of friends (weird but does happen).
My ex is going out with someone who I used to call a mate (pretty sure anyway). When we were still together, they were friends and very chummy.
I see them weekly at meets still. I am past her and moved on with a new relationship which is wonderful, I'm not going to lie sometimes it still does hurt a bit, the feeling of betrayl. But it gets better with time. And if he's expecting a second child with his new partner then I would say that's long past it - But you have to rise above it, take the upper hand. In your situation, you don't need to regularly see him as such.
Edited by xjay1337 on Thursday 15th October 10:54
AngryPartsBloke said:
Feirny said:
Shnozz said:
I attended my first match.com freebie drinks event last night. An interesting experience for sure.
You can't leave us hanging with that!Ste1987 said:
I hate the idea of going to a singles night. I dread it's gonna be an absolute sausage fest and, if there are any women there they'd be hounded!
It was actually the other way around. The amount of morons that attended meant that me and my pal who went together were the ones getting hounded. However, the quality was not exactly at a level that you would want to take it as a vote of confidence or one for the CV. My buddy ended up flirting with the event host and I got handed a few numbers. Oh, and the free booze was some godawful cocktail.
It was a good laugh for people watching but as a serious attempt at matching folk I can't say I'd bother again.
Shnozz said:
Ste1987 said:
I hate the idea of going to a singles night. I dread it's gonna be an absolute sausage fest and, if there are any women there they'd be hounded!
It was actually the other way around. The amount of morons that attended meant that me and my pal who went together were the ones getting hounded. However, the quality was not exactly at a level that you would want to take it as a vote of confidence or one for the CV. My buddy ended up flirting with the event host and I got handed a few numbers. Oh, and the free booze was some godawful cocktail.
It was a good laugh for people watching but as a serious attempt at matching folk I can't say I'd bother again.
I once went to a Match singles night, however I noticed a nice young lady from the 'attendee' list and messaged her before-hand. Ended up having a date before the singles night, and both decided to go along anyway as she knew some of the 'regulars' and wanted to catch up.
Cue some confused men who found out quite quickly that she was already going home with another attendee (me) quite early on in the evening. They must have thought I was a fast worker!
Cue some confused men who found out quite quickly that she was already going home with another attendee (me) quite early on in the evening. They must have thought I was a fast worker!
What's happened to Tinder?
I haven't used it in about 5 months, and decide to fire it up last night. More so out of boredom (I find it fascinating flicking through and reading profiles), but with some hope that you never know who might pop up!
Obviously that approach meant actually checking pictures, not just furiously swiping right. I'm not THAT picky but I've barely found anyone that I would class as attractive, and I've already started having people repeated back round. I live in London and it's on a 15 mile radius..
I haven't used it in about 5 months, and decide to fire it up last night. More so out of boredom (I find it fascinating flicking through and reading profiles), but with some hope that you never know who might pop up!
Obviously that approach meant actually checking pictures, not just furiously swiping right. I'm not THAT picky but I've barely found anyone that I would class as attractive, and I've already started having people repeated back round. I live in London and it's on a 15 mile radius..
Forever Alone said:
Question for the successful dudes on Tinder.
Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
Tinder is Hot or Not. People make their mind up whether to swipe left or right in a split second.Does a funny profile tend to yield better results? I switched to a funny one I wrote myself because I had zero matches with a straightforward one.
My photos are good, they were picked by 2 of my friends wags, the bio I wrote myself.
I've had 3 matches in 2 weeks.
But the profile text can help later on. From my own experience and what I've heard from others, step 1 is to swipe based on looks, step 2 is to wait for the Matches to build up, then whittle them down based on profile and quick chat.
The Instagram link I find very useful too, as that can show what type of person they are, what they're into etc.
My profile pic is a 'not trying too hard' one I took holding my Pug puppy, and that alone has got loads of good responses.
My profile text is something like 'looking for someone to bring to family events so they'll stop thinking something's wrong with me.' - again gets a few positive responses.
Then I just have my Instagram linked which is pretty much pics of anything and everything..
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