Match.com (Volume 6)
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The Spruce goose said:
I need some help been single for a long time, maybe 8 years I think, lost track.
So what are the best tactics to snare a goodun, I don't have very many photos to use, should I get some Vaseline coated ones done or a few in the pub , all I seem to attract is women with 3 kids and 1 on the way currently.
I have lowered my standards, I know I am not going to get a good-un, but I don't want to scrap the barrel, well not just yet.
I work nights so pretty hard to meet new people, not a fan of clubs any good tips.
Confidence is (nearly) everything, you've been single a long time so I assume with women it won't be that high at the moment.So what are the best tactics to snare a goodun, I don't have very many photos to use, should I get some Vaseline coated ones done or a few in the pub , all I seem to attract is women with 3 kids and 1 on the way currently.
I have lowered my standards, I know I am not going to get a good-un, but I don't want to scrap the barrel, well not just yet.
I work nights so pretty hard to meet new people, not a fan of clubs any good tips.
Get yourself out on a few dates even if it means you have to aim lower than you would prefer to start with, this will help build confidence even if nothing happens and gets you into the swing of things hopefully motivating you to pursue more dates. If any do lead to a sexual encounter even better as it will break down that particular barrier again feeding your confidence.
After that you should have a bit of a better chance going for the ones you really want unless you are totally tripping balls and aiming way out of your league
Good luck and don't be put off by a crap date or two it happens to everyone.
Spruce - my advice would be to a) pay for using a site, b) select a better quality site - I use to like the Gauradian based match site, but met my wife through Match.
Although it's a bit harsh if you've been out of the dating game for so long I'd go on some dates with people you're not that attracted to online, it will help you gain the confidence for when you do meet the right person. Good luck and have fun
Although it's a bit harsh if you've been out of the dating game for so long I'd go on some dates with people you're not that attracted to online, it will help you gain the confidence for when you do meet the right person. Good luck and have fun
The Spruce goose said:
I need some help been single for a long time, maybe 8 years I think, lost track.
So what are the best tactics to snare a goodun, I don't have very many photos to use, should I get some Vaseline coated ones done or a few in the pub , all I seem to attract is women with 3 kids and 1 on the way currently.
I have lowered my standards, I know I am not going to get a good-un, but I don't want to scrap the barrel, well not just yet.
I work nights so pretty hard to meet new people, not a fan of clubs any good tips.
Get back out there mate So what are the best tactics to snare a goodun, I don't have very many photos to use, should I get some Vaseline coated ones done or a few in the pub , all I seem to attract is women with 3 kids and 1 on the way currently.
I have lowered my standards, I know I am not going to get a good-un, but I don't want to scrap the barrel, well not just yet.
I work nights so pretty hard to meet new people, not a fan of clubs any good tips.
Edited by The Spruce goose on Friday 30th October 21:37
I would probably use a dating website (like Match or something) and avoid tatty groups like Tinder. Generally if it's paid for then things are a little more serious.
Don't lower your standards just because you've been out of it for a while.
Just spend time with mates and when you feel happy try and get a picture. The best pictures are often ones where you're not posing, a natural happy face is far more appealing than a picture of you half lashed.
I don't do clubs and haven't ever really found it a problem. Plenty of women like staying in and netflix and chill.
There will probably be a string of flurried and "failed" dates - Don't worry, this is OK. But on the other hand, the first woman you meet may end up being the best you've ever had.
Don't force things, if a conversation isn't flowing naturally via Email/Text/Phone then don't bother meeting up.
May I suggest meeting up and actually DOING something like an adventure day or even a cinema and then a meal.
It gives you something to talk about and helps avoid awkward silences.
There's so many highs and lows to all this dating. After a few weeks of some very good chat with a girl at a social event we both attend, I managed to close her on Wednesday night i.e. got her number which I was very happy about. I mentioned I'd message her today to see if she'd be willing to come out with me on Sunday. I 'Whatsapped' her at 6pm this evening and I still haven't heard from her, nor has the message even been read. She could easily message me tomorrow at some point but these are the highs and lows of dating - all this game playing BS that has to go on. The reality is that I'm f
ked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.
I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
ked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
CC07 PEU said:
There's so many highs and lows to all this dating. After a few weeks of some very good chat with a girl at a social event we both attend, I managed to close her on Wednesday night i.e. got her number which I was very happy about. I mentioned I'd message her today to see if she'd be willing to come out with me on Sunday. I 'Whatsapped' her at 6pm this evening and I still haven't heard from her, nor has the message even been read. She could easily message me tomorrow at some point but these are the highs and lows of dating - all this game playing BS that has to go on. The reality is that I'm fked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.
I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
She possibly hasn't given you her number.ked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
CC07 PEU said:
There's so many highs and lows to all this dating. After a few weeks of some very good chat with a girl at a social event we both attend, I managed to close her on Wednesday night i.e. got her number which I was very happy about. I mentioned I'd message her today to see if she'd be willing to come out with me on Sunday. I 'Whatsapped' her at 6pm this evening and I still haven't heard from her, nor has the message even been read. She could easily message me tomorrow at some point but these are the highs and lows of dating - all this game playing BS that has to go on. The reality is that I'm fked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.
I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
I don't go in for the harsh reality type of post that often, but Jesus man, read that first wall of text back and see if you can pick up on how foot stompy it sounds.ked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
Looks to me that this girl is simply busy on a Friday night and therefore hasn't checked her phone. Maybe she's out with mates, or has left her phone in the office - there are myriad reasons.
Maybe she's even playing the same game as you, and has a few other guys lined up that she's been chatting to. Just chill, if it happens - it happens, if not - on to the next one.
CC07 PEU said:
227bhp said:
She possibly hasn't given you her number.
She did as I gave her a missed call and I saw it on her phone. It's not like she just wrote it down on a scrap of paper like in the olden days...Just strange how a woman in this day and age doesn't check her phone for x hrs, let alone every few minutes, do you think you're reading this 'unread' thing right? Lol, my phone is off so can't check as she's out drinking and i'm tired of getting senseless texts....
From my experience dating always have a few.on the boil. As you will end up overthinking things and then end up being over keen.
It is funny thou a guy at work told me about this sex hook up site, and the number of people that use it and pif is pretty funny, when you read the pof profiles. Ive not used it just had a look for reaserch.
It is funny thou a guy at work told me about this sex hook up site, and the number of people that use it and pif is pretty funny, when you read the pof profiles. Ive not used it just had a look for reaserch.
CC07 PEU said:
There's so many highs and lows to all this dating. After a few weeks of some very good chat with a girl at a social event we both attend, I managed to close her on Wednesday night i.e. got her number which I was very happy about. I mentioned I'd message her today to see if she'd be willing to come out with me on Sunday. I 'Whatsapped' her at 6pm this evening and I still haven't heard from her, nor has the message even been read. She could easily message me tomorrow at some point but these are the highs and lows of dating - all this game playing BS that has to go on. The reality is that I'm fked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.
I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
Some free advice, when a woman you like gives you her number actually phone her.ked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
Your whatsapp/tinder/sms/facebook/instagram/tweet is one of many with at least a dozen on top of it since last night.
All this talk of making minimal "investment" at the opening stages means she will be spammed silly by hordes of blokes, any woman with half a brain is going to realise that these guys are playing games and so they get treated accordingly.
If you like her then make the effort to speak to her. You'll instantly stand out and show her your intentions are beyond sharpening your pick up skills and further spreading whichever strand of STI it is she thinks you have from all that man whoring.
You've already met her face to face so it's actually a bit weird that you'd then revert to text based messaging to be honest, seems quite a teenage thing to do.
When I was dating through tinder I called every time and then went on to meet up shortly after, without fail. Every woman I met that way told me it was great to have someone who'd bother to speak to them and that it was exciting to get a call rather than a message.
CC07 PEU said:
There's so many highs and lows to all this dating. After a few weeks of some very good chat with a girl at a social event we both attend, I managed to close her on Wednesday night i.e. got her number which I was very happy about. I mentioned I'd message her today to see if she'd be willing to come out with me on Sunday. I 'Whatsapped' her at 6pm this evening and I still haven't heard from her, nor has the message even been read. She could easily message me tomorrow at some point but these are the highs and lows of dating - all this game playing BS that has to go on. The reality is that I'm fked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.
I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
'Closed her' 'follow up' is the the old car salesmans thread? Have you got a white board to track all this stuff?ked off that it's been five hours since I messaged her and the bloody thing hasn't even been read yet and realistically I doubt I'll hear back from her this weekend at all. Very surprising given that she was showing lots of interest in me. It will make for next week's social gathering being a bit awkward if I hear fk all from her. Those are the lows.I do have three other girls' numbers that I need to messsage this weekend though and who knows what will come out of those. Additionally, who knows who I will meet on Sunday when I'm back out at another social event. I'll be following up with a gorgeous girl I was introduced to at the same event last week (if she's there). Those are the highs.
Seriously sounds like you've been given a duff number, she's not interested or one of the very few who don't text much
anonymous said:
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Sort of, but admittedly I like to try and just get a move on with things so inwardly I'm a little impatient although I wouldn't convey this externally. Happy to do it on an online forum as therapy though..!She got back to me early this morning with a response which I'm pleased about. Although she's not coming out this weekend (which is what I was expecting for various reasons), I'll be chatting to her again next week and trying to move things forward.
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