Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
HerrSchnell said:
You've already met her face to face so it's actually a bit weird that you'd then revert to text based messaging to be honest, seems quite a teenage thing to do.
When I was dating through tinder I called every time and then went on to meet up shortly after, without fail. Every woman I met that way told me it was great to have someone who'd bother to speak to them and that it was exciting to get a call rather than a message.
I had to revert to messaging her only because I couldn't get her to commit to coming out with me we spoke during the week. The reason for this is that a) she was genuinely going to be quite busy this weekend and b) she's apparently still getting over her ex. The timing wasn't quite right but I gave her the opportunity to think about it for a few days before the weekend and I said I'd message her to get her thoughts. Despite my earlier post, I do have some patience too and this has helped me get this far with her as she gets a lot of attention from other guys. I think it's only a matter of time before I get her out with me.When I was dating through tinder I called every time and then went on to meet up shortly after, without fail. Every woman I met that way told me it was great to have someone who'd bother to speak to them and that it was exciting to get a call rather than a message.
CC07 PEU said:
I had to revert to messaging her only because I couldn't get her to commit to coming out with me we spoke during the week. The reason for this is that a) she was genuinely going to be quite busy this weekend and b) she's apparently still getting over her ex. The timing wasn't quite right but I gave her the opportunity to think about it for a few days before the weekend and I said I'd message her to get her thoughts. Despite my earlier post, I do have some patience too and this has helped me get this far with her as she gets a lot of attention from other guys. I think it's only a matter of time before I get her out with me.
In that case I stand corrected. anonymous said:
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Of course it sounds weird as it's not possible to gather all the details of the situation via an online forum. It's a bit like just reading music without hearing the music itself or seeing a painting but only in black and white. She approached me at least a couple of times, it wasn't always me doing the work. I can tell the interest is there. The timing isn't quite right though but good things come to those who wait!CC07 PEU said:
Of course it sounds weird as it's not possible to gather all the details of the situation via an online forum. It's a bit like just reading music without hearing the music itself or seeing a painting but only in black and white. She approached me at least a couple of times, it wasn't always me doing the work. I can tell the interest is there. The timing isn't quite right though but good things come to those who wait!
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king wait then, not getting all pissy because someone wont read one of your messages and you think they should. You're going to end up being a rght to this girl and I've no doubt you'll blame that on her n'all so after watching gone girl, I decided the safest thing was to bin the slightly unstable lass I had been seeing for 18 months, since then, the girl I had been dating before her has shown a lot of interest, now 26 and a lot more mature (which was one of the reasons it was brief before) and while the age gap doesn't bother either of us I do have a reluctance to commit at the moment and I'm not sure why.
What's worse is when I considered going back to tinder and just working my way through some locals for entertainment, I really couldn't face it...
I must conclude I'm ill and need help..
What's worse is when I considered going back to tinder and just working my way through some locals for entertainment, I really couldn't face it...
I must conclude I'm ill and need help..
CC07 PEU said:
anonymous said:
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Of course it sounds weird as it's not possible to gather all the details of the situation via an online forum. It's a bit like just reading music without hearing the music itself or seeing a painting but only in black and white. She approached me at least a couple of times, it wasn't always me doing the work. I can tell the interest is there. The timing isn't quite right though but good things come to those who wait!t and you are telling us that with the correct glasses on it is a Monet waterscape.Id be delighted to be proved wrong on this, but I definitely wont be proved wrong on this.
Tinder has gone to st, all I match with are the bots which are getting more and more realistic (until they send you the dodgy link) by what looks like using real people's social media photos and profile text.
I have my best photos on there. But they aren't that great and I don't want to look like the kind of person who takes pictures of himself. And asking someone to take photos of me is going to bring up the question of what they're for.
Then you can see a nice funnel graph from prospecting all the way down to closing the deal.
t, all I match with are the bots which are getting more and more realistic (until they send you the dodgy link) by what looks like using real people's social media photos and profile text.I have my best photos on there. But they aren't that great and I don't want to look like the kind of person who takes pictures of himself. And asking someone to take photos of me is going to bring up the question of what they're for.
CC07 PEU said:
No, but I've got an Excel file to track my progress 
Take it to the next level and enter them into Salesforce.Then you can see a nice funnel graph from prospecting all the way down to closing the deal.
CC07 PEU said:
anonymous said:
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Of course it sounds weird as it's not possible to gather all the details of the situation via an online forum. It's a bit like just reading music without hearing the music itself or seeing a painting but only in black and white. She approached me at least a couple of times, it wasn't always me doing the work. I can tell the interest is there. The timing isn't quite right though but good things come to those who wait!Online dating is about moving fast or going home to Ms palm and her 5 daughters.
When I contacted someone using online methods, or even just from getting a number on a night out, they would have been phoned within a day or two and a first date set shortly afterwards, unless they had a damn good excuse I would not wait as it generally meant you were back up whilst she was still deciding on another bloke.
If they break off all contact... guess what?? You got the 2nd place position and frantic calls, watching and waiting for her to read her messages is not going to make it happen and then they contact you... move on!!
I read some of the posts on here and can't work out why anyone would wait a week or two... When I was doing it I would have at least 2 on the go at the same time, when 1 got to a certain level I would make the call and just ditch the back up with an excuse or just not reply.
L555BAT said:
Tinder has gone to st, all I match with are the bots which are getting more and more realistic (until they send you the dodgy link) by what looks like using real people's social media photos and profile text.
I have my best photos on there. But they aren't that great and I don't want to look like the kind of person who takes pictures of himself. And asking someone to take photos of me is going to bring up the question of what they're for.
Then you can see a nice funnel graph from prospecting all the way down to closing the deal.
WTF has happened to Tinder? Six months ago it was interacting and fun. Where have all those matches gone? However, Even though I probably should not really be there I had a date with a pro footballer last night. He's out of my league (pardon the pun) and despite 'closing the deal' I'm not interested. The rest of my matches are pathetic. And I rarely swipe right. #Bored. t, all I match with are the bots which are getting more and more realistic (until they send you the dodgy link) by what looks like using real people's social media photos and profile text.I have my best photos on there. But they aren't that great and I don't want to look like the kind of person who takes pictures of himself. And asking someone to take photos of me is going to bring up the question of what they're for.
CC07 PEU said:
No, but I've got an Excel file to track my progress
Take it to the next level and enter them into Salesforce.Then you can see a nice funnel graph from prospecting all the way down to closing the deal.
Ok so i couldn't resist finally posting in the thread..
Is match.com really worth the money? When i got divorced 3 years back i was using POF and getting dates was a piece of cake. Girls every day of the week.
I recently signed back up and it's like I've become repulsive or something, bugger all replies! I'm 26 now and so don't really look much different. Perhaps now I'm older i should up my search radius from 15 miles.
Anyway, sod it. I'll get registered on match in the morning and see what happens.
Is match.com really worth the money? When i got divorced 3 years back i was using POF and getting dates was a piece of cake. Girls every day of the week.
I recently signed back up and it's like I've become repulsive or something, bugger all replies! I'm 26 now and so don't really look much different. Perhaps now I'm older i should up my search radius from 15 miles.
Anyway, sod it. I'll get registered on match in the morning and see what happens.
Pebbles167 said:
Is match.com really worth the money?
One of my best friends met his wife on there as did my next door neighbour and his partner. My mate was mid 30s when he got together with his now wife & my neighbour was mid 40s when he met his now Mrs. Probably seen as a more serious option than the POF / Tinder etc?Du1point8 said:
Either that or the other thing has happened... too slow.
Online dating is about moving fast or going home to Ms palm and her 5 daughters.
When I contacted someone using online methods, or even just from getting a number on a night out, they would have been phoned within a day or two and a first date set shortly afterwards, unless they had a damn good excuse I would not wait as it generally meant you were back up whilst she was still deciding on another bloke.
If they break off all contact... guess what?? You got the 2nd place position and frantic calls, watching and waiting for her to read her messages is not going to make it happen and then they contact you... move on!!
I read some of the posts on here and can't work out why anyone would wait a week or two... When I was doing it I would have at least 2 on the go at the same time, when 1 got to a certain level I would make the call and just ditch the back up with an excuse or just not reply.
I wasn't too slow that's for sure as the first opportunity I got to chat to this girl i.e. a proper one on one, not part of a group, I asked her out.Online dating is about moving fast or going home to Ms palm and her 5 daughters.
When I contacted someone using online methods, or even just from getting a number on a night out, they would have been phoned within a day or two and a first date set shortly afterwards, unless they had a damn good excuse I would not wait as it generally meant you were back up whilst she was still deciding on another bloke.
If they break off all contact... guess what?? You got the 2nd place position and frantic calls, watching and waiting for her to read her messages is not going to make it happen and then they contact you... move on!!
I read some of the posts on here and can't work out why anyone would wait a week or two... When I was doing it I would have at least 2 on the go at the same time, when 1 got to a certain level I would make the call and just ditch the back up with an excuse or just not reply.
I agree with everything else you have written though and it's the strategy I have in place. The key to it being to have several on the go at the one time as you never know when one of them is going to lose interest/change priorities/go on holiday/get hit by a pigeon etc.
Pebbles167 said:
Damn. A day or so on POF and Tinder and I've got several numbers and organizing dates. And the girls are fit too?! I'm very much average looking too (on par with chemical chaos for sure)
Is confidence really that important?
Your pictures must be brilliant. I didn't get more than 3 matches the whole time I was on there and if those none replied to my messages.Is confidence really that important?
I've just got the one on Tinder, a quick photo of me I snapped on my phone a few weeks back. No text. The POF one is still pretty minimalist. 3 Pics and a sarcy paragraph about roast dinners and cats.
This is entirely theoretical though, even if I can talk the talk, doesn't mean I can walk the walk.
Edit: Right, date arranged for wednesday. FFS, i need a haircut and some new gear. Also, anyone know whats more appropriate, clean shaven or stubble?
This is entirely theoretical though, even if I can talk the talk, doesn't mean I can walk the walk.
Edit: Right, date arranged for wednesday. FFS, i need a haircut and some new gear. Also, anyone know whats more appropriate, clean shaven or stubble?
Edited by Pebbles167 on Sunday 15th November 22:34
I had a Tinder date last Sunday. Was planning a few quiet drinks with a beauty therapist, turns out she's also a stripper and the night got slightly out of hand, didn't get in till 6 Monday morning but had a great time.
Got another Tinder date tonight but after a weekend bender I actually fancy a couple of quiet drinks and an early night, will see how that goes.
Got another Tinder date tonight but after a weekend bender I actually fancy a couple of quiet drinks and an early night, will see how that goes.
Out of hand in a good way? 
So I use my little groomer thing to set a certain about of MM of stubble.
Pebbles167 said:
I've just got the one on Tinder, a quick photo of me I snapped on my phone a few weeks back. No text. The POF one is still pretty minimalist. 3 Pics and a sarcy paragraph about roast dinners and cats.
This is entirely theoretical though, even if I can talk the talk, doesn't mean I can walk the walk.
Edit: Right, date arranged for wednesday. FFS, i need a haircut and some new gear. Also, anyone know whats more appropriate, clean shaven or stubble?
Do whatever you feel is best. I hate being clean-shaven.This is entirely theoretical though, even if I can talk the talk, doesn't mean I can walk the walk.
Edit: Right, date arranged for wednesday. FFS, i need a haircut and some new gear. Also, anyone know whats more appropriate, clean shaven or stubble?
Edited by Pebbles167 on Sunday 15th November 22:34
So I use my little groomer thing to set a certain about of MM of stubble.
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