Match.com (Volume 6)

[Pebbles167]

Do you have any information in your profile? In my experience its wasted on tinder. Save it for plenty of fish, match or the other sites.

Remember to make your photo look like you're actually fun to be around, and smile if possible.

Edit: The irony of your user name caused a genuine smirk

Edited by Pebbles167 on Friday 20th November 22:24

[TedMaul]

Tinder has gone downhill, the number of spambots is ridiculous. I have a date Thursday from pof who seems lovely, erudite and pretty.

I saw her picture in the email update Monday morning, took my daughter to an inter-school basketball tournament that afternoon and a very attractive lady walked in and I recognised her from the photo.... so just sent a message asking if it was her, it was and we have been chatting ever since

Feel like I'm punching way above my weight in the looks department, but its a good place to be right now.

Funny old world.

[Pebbles167]

I've had 3 matches in the past two weeks that were bots, but generally it just seems to be genuine people. My search radius is very small (15 miles) though.

Nice one on grabbing a date. Never mind punching above your weight, if she accepted she obviously doesn't think so. Sure you'll have a good time.

[SpunkyGlory]

I've got a slightly awkward situation...

I've been invited to a Black Tie charity event in a couple of weeks by a customer, along with a plus one. I'm not currently seeing anyone seriously but as I won't know anyone, don't want to be the loner who turns up with no date. I've been seeing a few people since I moved up here 8 weeks ago but none who I'd want to take, they are more casual fun. I had a first date with a girl on Monday which went really well and am seeing her on Sunday, would I be daft asking her assuming the second date goes well? By the time the event comes around it will probably be 4th date...

I have no problem keeping things casual with people, I rarely get attached, and so I see it as a free evening of wine, champagne and a 3 course meal in a swanky venue. But I get the feeling most people would see it as something more than that?

[Forever Alone]

I had typed out a fairly intellectual response, but then I remembered I'm a pathetic worm who's hopeless with women.

I'd ask her.

So do the opposite of this.

[Pebbles167]

I took a date to my works do (big company) after about 3 previous dates, seemed to work fine. Just don't leave her for anything more than a few minutes, unless shes quite drunk or chatty to the other guests.

[big dub]

Pebbles167 said:

Don't just leave it at that, come on.

I matched with a woman about 20-30 mins away from me, 5'9 and brunette; so three things ticked off. Turned out we hit it off straight away, though seeing each other regularly can be a pain with her shifts. But so far so good

[SkinnyPete]

Pebbles167 said:

It's changed a bit apparently (I only joined a year ago, so wouldn't know) but it still works i think.

I get a fair amount of matches. Sure many don't reply, but some do and I had a date this week, and have arranged a couple more. If you're getting no matches at all, then it's likely you need to improve your profile and photo's at a guess. I mean no offence by that, but perhaps you are sending the wrong message or not casting yourself in a good light. I'm 26 and only reasonable looking, plus i live in the country so on that basis you should have no problem.

No I'm having a similar experience to yourself, but I do seem to be having significantly less than previously (legitimate matches - the number of spam bots is a joke).

In fact I have a date on Monday evening with a 23 year old who is very fit, I wouldn't normally get too excited but after speaking to her on the phone she seems genuinely interesting and intelligent, so much so I've got butterflies!

[SkinnyPete]

SpunkyGlory said:

I've got a slightly awkward situation...

I've been invited to a Black Tie charity event in a couple of weeks by a customer, along with a plus one. I'm not currently seeing anyone seriously but as I won't know anyone, don't want to be the loner who turns up with no date. I've been seeing a few people since I moved up here 8 weeks ago but none who I'd want to take, they are more casual fun. I had a first date with a girl on Monday which went really well and am seeing her on Sunday, would I be daft asking her assuming the second date goes well? By the time the event comes around it will probably be 4th date...

I have no problem keeping things casual with people, I rarely get attached, and so I see it as a free evening of wine, champagne and a 3 course meal in a swanky venue. But I get the feeling most people would see it as something more than that?

If 3rd date goes ok then I would go for it, I have been in a similar situation.

[Condi]

I took a girl to a wedding on a second date, so Im sure you'll be fine

[Pebbles167]

SkinnyPete said:

In fact I have a date on Monday evening with a 23 year old who is very fit, I wouldn't normally get too excited but after speaking to her on the phone she seems genuinely interesting and intelligent, so much so I've got butterflies!

I had the same thing on Wednesday. She turned up and I got shy, went red and mumbled something about buying her a drink, after giving her a slightly awkward hug. She asked for a coke. I then proceeded to get mildly drunk and steer clear of awkward topics. I didn't hear from her again afterwards!

Not bad, considering I've been off the dating scene for 9 months.

[SkinnyPete]

Pebbles167 said:

SkinnyPete said:

In fact I have a date on Monday evening with a 23 year old who is very fit, I wouldn't normally get too excited but after speaking to her on the phone she seems genuinely interesting and intelligent, so much so I've got butterflies!

I had the same thing on Wednesday. She turned up and I got shy, went red and mumbled something about buying her a drink, after giving her a slightly awkward hug. She asked for a coke. I then proceeded to get mildly drunk and steer clear of awkward topics. I didn't hear from her again afterwards!

Not bad, considering I've been off the dating scene for 9 months.

I'm glad you posted that as I was beginning to think I've gone soft.

When I'm with a girl who I consider a lower 'social status' (I know that sounds terrible, am I going to hell?) I am totally un-phased and maybe even a tadge cocky/arrogant because I don't' care if they walk. But when I meet someone who I genuinely like I have to try my best to fight the feelings of butterflies / anxiousness!

[SkinnyPete]

Condi said:

I took a girl to a wedding on a second date, so Im sure you'll be fine

How did it work out?

I went to a wedding recently, I think I was the only single person there. If only I had joined Tinder a couple of weeks prior!

[CharlesdeGaulle]

SkinnyPete said:

I went to a wedding recently, I think I was the only single person there.

I'd be surprised if that were true. In my single days, I loved weddings - it was hard not to pull.

[northwest monkey]

SpunkyGlory said:

I've got a slightly awkward situation...

I've been invited to a Black Tie charity event in a couple of weeks by a customer, along with a plus one. I'm not currently seeing anyone seriously but as I won't know anyone, don't want to be the loner who turns up with no date. I've been seeing a few people since I moved up here 8 weeks ago but none who I'd want to take, they are more casual fun. I had a first date with a girl on Monday which went really well and am seeing her on Sunday, would I be daft asking her assuming the second date goes well? By the time the event comes around it will probably be 4th date...

I have no problem keeping things casual with people, I rarely get attached, and so I see it as a free evening of wine, champagne and a 3 course meal in a swanky venue. But I get the feeling most people would see it as something more than that?

My ex-boss (female) took a male escort to a few black tie events - always an option

[Thankyou4calling]

northwest monkey said:

My ex-boss (female) took a male escort to a few black tie events - always an option

It most certainly be s an option.

In the past I've been to events where the price of the company was a new dress ( and not one from M and S) it wasn't a formal escort arrangement as we'd had previous but I'd go through my phone book and choose a suitable companion for the do.

[Gretchen]

Thankyou4calling said:

northwest monkey said:

My ex-boss (female) took a male escort to a few black tie events - always an option

It most certainly be s an option.

In the past I've been to events where the price of the company was a new dress ( and not one from M and S) it wasn't a formal escort arrangement as we'd had previous but I'd go through my phone book and choose a suitable companion for the do.

These days an escort is probably cheaper than a new dress!

[Thankyou4calling]

Gretchen said:

These days an escort is probably cheaper than a new dress!

Whether directly or indirectly there's a price to pay for good company Gretchen.

Certainly the type of dress required would be into 4 figures so yes, an escort would've been cheaper.

I could of course though continue reciting that old and often used male maxim that "I'd never pay for it" even though of course in a roundabout way I most certainly did !

[andy-xr]

Dromedary66 said:

robsco said:

The most fascinating behaviour is displayed as soon as a female pokes her head from the parapet (Gretchen). I daren't imagine how many PMs she has received from contributors to this thread.

Indeed. I enjoyed her sneering deconstruction of the tart in the photos, yet at the same time rating highly the gender bender horror-show posted later. Then again, from the photos she's posted of herself elsewhere on this forum it's clear she moves in alternative circle so perhaps that isn't surprising.

I think you missed the point, but it was noted that you got all sneery at the earliest opportunity

[Blown2CV]

CharlesdeGaulle said:

SkinnyPete said:

I went to a wedding recently, I think I was the only single person there.

I'd be surprised if that were true. In my single days, I loved weddings - it was hard not to pull.

depends how old the person is who's getting married, surely?