Match.com (Volume 6)

[Johnny]

Tall_Paul said:

It's been ages since I've met up with anyone from these sites so not sure what the norm is now

Anal. Don't be shy.

[SkinnyPete]

Tall_Paul said:

She sounds like, erm.. fun? I'd expect more than 2 shags a week in the first month or 2 though!!

How long do you seasoned veterans of the online dating world normally wait until suggesting to meet? Have been chatting to 2 girls for a couple of days now, one seems ok, might be decent but hard to tell from the photo's/profile. The other seems MUCH more up my street but her profile gives off a "looking for friends but if anything more happens, then that's good" vibe - which I don't mind - it's a good way to go IMO.

It's been ages since I've met up with anyone from these sites so not sure what the norm is now

Edited by Tall_Paul on Monday 28th December 23:46

Written like that I agree but I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt because she's been working more than 50 hours a week with it being Christmas and also a bit of PMS thrown in between.

As for you, I normally ask for their number on the 3rd message or so. Don't hang about.

[xjay1337]

Tall_Paul said:

SkinnyPete said:

A month after meeting her I've now met the entire extended family.

Generally enjoying the time we spend with each other during the day but she's only a two day a week shag, what am I suppose to do for the other 5 days? (keep in mind we slept at each others almost every night).

Secondly last night in bed she said if I cheat on her she'll smash my car up and cut my dick off, those exact words.

Do I dump her now or enjoy the ride for a little while longer?

Edited by SkinnyPete on Sunday 27th December 16:09

She sounds like, erm.. fun? I'd expect more than 2 shags a week in the first month or 2 though!!

How long do you seasoned veterans of the online dating world normally wait until suggesting to meet? Have been chatting to 2 girls for a couple of days now, one seems ok, might be decent but hard to tell from the photo's/profile. The other seems MUCH more up my street but her profile gives off a "looking for friends but if anything more happens, then that's good" vibe - which I don't mind - it's a good way to go IMO.

It's been ages since I've met up with anyone from these sites so not sure what the norm is now

Edited by Tall_Paul on Monday 28th December 23:46

Every other night, or every couple of nights is fine to me...???

It's not all about sex. Sometimes she just likes CUDDLING.

[Nondescript]

After some advice fellow daters.

I was set up on a blind date with a girl a few days ago. Turns out she's very funny, great personality and generally ticks all the boxes, however I didn't instantly fancy her. By this I mean, not physically attracted to her.
The way she's spoken to me today I get the impression she wants to see me again.

I'm not dating for 'fun', ultimately I'd like to meet someone to settle down with. In my mind I'd always believed that love starts with physical attraction, I didn't believe it's something that can grow over time? But a couple of my friends think it can and I'm jumping the gun slightly by not at least going on another date or two with her.

[dai1983]

My advice is to find someone who has a good personality AND who you fancy physically. You could carry on seeing her but theres a greater possibility you would be dumpping her for someone you did fancy later on.

[spikeyhead]

FFS, go and have some fun with her. If love grows then fine, if not, once you've had a sufficiency of fun then move on.

[steveo3002]

give it another try unless shes pig ugly

[DuncanM]

Nondescript said:

After some advice fellow daters.

I was set up on a blind date with a girl a few days ago. Turns out she's very funny, great personality and generally ticks all the boxes, however I didn't instantly fancy her. By this I mean, not physically attracted to her.
The way she's spoken to me today I get the impression she wants to see me again.

I'm not dating for 'fun', ultimately I'd like to meet someone to settle down with. In my mind I'd always believed that love starts with physical attraction, I didn't believe it's something that can grow over time? But a couple of my friends think it can and I'm jumping the gun slightly by not at least going on another date or two with her.

I'd take all the good stuff you've mentioned over physical attraction, every day of the week.

No harm in a second date surely .

[Pints]

DuncanM said:

Nondescript said:

After some advice fellow daters.

I was set up on a blind date with a girl a few days ago. Turns out she's very funny, great personality and generally ticks all the boxes, however I didn't instantly fancy her. By this I mean, not physically attracted to her.
The way she's spoken to me today I get the impression she wants to see me again.

I'm not dating for 'fun', ultimately I'd like to meet someone to settle down with. In my mind I'd always believed that love starts with physical attraction, I didn't believe it's something that can grow over time? But a couple of my friends think it can and I'm jumping the gun slightly by not at least going on another date or two with her.

I'd take all the good stuff you've mentioned over physical attraction, every day of the week.

No harm in a second date surely .

Physical beauty fades with time. An inner beauty and attraction may last a lifetime.

(I sound like my mother but she had a point.)

[xjay1337]

Think we need pics.

[amare32]

Pints said:

DuncanM said:

Nondescript said:

After some advice fellow daters.

I was set up on a blind date with a girl a few days ago. Turns out she's very funny, great personality and generally ticks all the boxes, however I didn't instantly fancy her. By this I mean, not physically attracted to her.
The way she's spoken to me today I get the impression she wants to see me again.

I'm not dating for 'fun', ultimately I'd like to meet someone to settle down with. In my mind I'd always believed that love starts with physical attraction, I didn't believe it's something that can grow over time? But a couple of my friends think it can and I'm jumping the gun slightly by not at least going on another date or two with her.

I'd take all the good stuff you've mentioned over physical attraction, every day of the week.

No harm in a second date surely .

Physical beauty fades with time. An inner beauty and attraction may last a lifetime.

(I sound like my mother but she had a point.)

True to a certain extent however do you really want to be with her still if she turns into a beached whale?

[xjay1337]

I think you definitely go either grow to find yourself more attracted, either that or you actively care less, as you get to know someone.
There is a point where if someone isn't attractive to you at all then that obviously won't work but if you're thinking, eh she's ok i suppose... then that'll grow to the full on "sit on my face" after a few months.

[Robertj21a]

xjay1337 said:

Think we need pics.

Oh, don't start that all over again !!

[Joey Ramone]

Enough of this frippery. I want to hear more from the psychopathic Oxford Street Stalker, particularly as to whether he's 'number closed' any tight, fit 'day game' in the past few days.

[Joey Ramone]

On that note, have any young women gone missing lately?

[evosticks]

Long time lurker on this thread, love some of the nonsense that goes on so thought I'd share some of mine...

I'm on POF, OKC and a couple of others for good measure and POF has been pretty good for matches, had a few dates but zero spark both ways so continue to see what's out there.

Couple of weeks ago a nice looking girl (nice pics, simple profile, 40, divorcee, 15yr old kid, sounded good...) appeared in my matches so sent her simple message. No reply until a week or so ago and we got chatting on POF. Initial messages looked like they were either type in a real rush or she was dyslexic! Often a jumble of letters ... but I'm not a spelling nazi so no probs.

Anyway, starts calling me via POF from her parents in Wales where she's gone for Christmas. Tells me I'm amazing, really ramps up the sex chat (been there with a full blown narcissist before so know all about that nonsense), thinks I'm someone special etc can't wait to meet me, really thinks I could be the one...hmmm. Ask her for mobile no and get some tale about dropped phone, waiting for new one back home which she obv. wont pick up til shes back). Anyway, messages and calls keep coming, only morning and night. Never during the day...

Asks to meet so we agreed a time and place tonight, then she asks me over for NYE / NY Day and makes it blatantly clear what she wants me to do her and in which room ... But also stresses it's not about the sex, she enjoys the cuddles and cute st that goes with being together.

Calls me up and diddles herself off over the phone, is all over the place, can't wait to meet me, I'm driving her wild, she's never done this before, never felt so naughty etc etc ...really ramping it up. Quite often the call goes dead but figure that's POF VOIP is a bit st and often she just disappears or falls asleep at night after chatting full on...hmm. Messages often seem quite garbled too, like she's having to type them super quickly... I dunno.

So she gets back home on Monday and this routine continues. Can't wait to see me tonight and have me left right and centre tomorrow. Alarm bells are ringing (if sounds to true to be good it usually is!) but still keep an open mind.

Still no 'proper' phone call.... still waiting to get her phone (driving to pick it up she wrote her 3 month old TT off... !) and finds out she has no SIM with it... So still can't call me from a proper number. I suggest she could call from a landline and 141 it but comes back with some old bks as to why that's not possible.

Anyway today after she's called me up and played with herself I send her a message after POF VOIP goes dead once more I find I'm blocked and shortly after her profile has been deleted!

fking mental or what!

[xjay1337]

Sounds like a fake profile and a bloke called Steve.

[Morningside]

Yup fake. Surprised you did not get some request about sending her some money to help her out. I get loads of them on Skype with one asking me to send 'her' some money to buy her a new laptop with cam so I can talk to her.

[evosticks]

Morningside said:

Yup fake. Surprised you did not get some request about sending her some money to help her out. I get loads of them on Skype with one asking me to send 'her' some money to buy her a new laptop with cam so I can talk to her.

Yup, kinda think that myself....Never had fake nonsense before but (and I know I'm trying to put a sane bloke's logic onto the actions of a mentalist) why ring me up, play with yourself (which she very much did....sound effects were real!) and say all that st and then bugger off...loon.

Defo not Steve tho as she had a gorgeous Welsh accent and lived in this part (Letchworth/Hitchin) of the world as she knew lots about it.

Ah well, plenty more fish....oh

[SpeckledJim]

Single and attractive?

Hang on, I'll go and consult the triangle...