Match.com (Volume 6)
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Jimmy Recard said:
That's what I'd be doing. Or trying to see her before/after dinner. Or involving her in the dinner unless it's with your parents or something
It is with the parents and therein lies the problem.I'm just.going to try to kep her chatting until I get the opportunity to slip back up by myself one weekend. She describes herself as "sapiosexual" so perhaps I'm in with a real chance here
evosticks said:
Long time lurker on this thread, love some of the nonsense that goes on so thought I'd share some of mine...
I'm on POF, OKC and a couple of others for good measure and POF has been pretty good for matches, had a few dates but zero spark both ways so continue to see what's out there.
Couple of weeks ago a nice looking girl (nice pics, simple profile, 40, divorcee, 15yr old kid, sounded good...) appeared in my matches so sent her simple message. No reply until a week or so ago and we got chatting on POF. Initial messages looked like they were either type in a real rush or she was dyslexic! Often a jumble of letters ... but I'm not a spelling nazi so no probs.
Anyway, starts calling me via POF from her parents in Wales where she's gone for Christmas. Tells me I'm amazing, really ramps up the sex chat (been there with a full blown narcissist before so know all about that nonsense), thinks I'm someone special etc can't wait to meet me, really thinks I could be the one...hmmm. Ask her for mobile no and get some tale about dropped phone, waiting for new one back home which she obv. wont pick up til shes back). Anyway, messages and calls keep coming, only morning and night. Never during the day...
Asks to meet so we agreed a time and place tonight, then she asks me over for NYE / NY Day and makes it blatantly clear what she wants me to do her and in which room
... But also stresses it's not about the sex, she enjoys the cuddles and cute s
t that goes with being together.
Calls me up and diddles herself off over the phone, is all over the place, can't wait to meet me, I'm driving her wild, she's never done this before, never felt so naughty etc etc ...really ramping it up. Quite often the call goes dead but figure that's POF VOIP is a bit st and often she just disappears or falls asleep at night after chatting full on...hmm. Messages often seem quite garbled too, like she's having to type them super quickly... I dunno.
So she gets back home on Monday and this routine continues. Can't wait to see me tonight and have me left right and centre tomorrow. Alarm bells are ringing (if sounds to true to be good it usually is!) but still keep an open mind.
Still no 'proper' phone call.... still waiting to get her phone (driving to pick it up she wrote her 3 month old TT off... !) and finds out she has no SIM with it... So still can't call me from a proper number. I suggest she could call from a landline and 141 it but comes back with some old bks as to why that's not possible.
Anyway today after she's called me up and played with herself I send her a message after POF VOIP goes dead once more I find I'm blocked and shortly after her profile has been deleted!
fking mental or what!
Day release.I'm on POF, OKC and a couple of others for good measure and POF has been pretty good for matches, had a few dates but zero spark both ways so continue to see what's out there.
Couple of weeks ago a nice looking girl (nice pics, simple profile, 40, divorcee, 15yr old kid, sounded good...) appeared in my matches so sent her simple message. No reply until a week or so ago and we got chatting on POF. Initial messages looked like they were either type in a real rush or she was dyslexic! Often a jumble of letters ... but I'm not a spelling nazi so no probs.
Anyway, starts calling me via POF from her parents in Wales where she's gone for Christmas. Tells me I'm amazing, really ramps up the sex chat (been there with a full blown narcissist before so know all about that nonsense), thinks I'm someone special etc can't wait to meet me, really thinks I could be the one...hmmm. Ask her for mobile no and get some tale about dropped phone, waiting for new one back home which she obv. wont pick up til shes back). Anyway, messages and calls keep coming, only morning and night. Never during the day...
Asks to meet so we agreed a time and place tonight, then she asks me over for NYE / NY Day and makes it blatantly clear what she wants me to do her and in which room
... But also stresses it's not about the sex, she enjoys the cuddles and cute st that goes with being together.Calls me up and diddles herself off over the phone, is all over the place, can't wait to meet me, I'm driving her wild, she's never done this before, never felt so naughty etc etc ...really ramping it up. Quite often the call goes dead but figure that's POF VOIP is a bit s
t and often she just disappears or falls asleep at night after chatting full on...hmm. Messages often seem quite garbled too, like she's having to type them super quickly... I dunno.So she gets back home on Monday and this routine continues. Can't wait to see me tonight and have me left right and centre tomorrow. Alarm bells are ringing (if sounds to true to be good it usually is!) but still keep an open mind.
Still no 'proper' phone call.... still waiting to get her phone (driving to pick it up she wrote her 3 month old TT off... !) and finds out she has no SIM with it... So still can't call me from a proper number. I suggest she could call from a landline and 141 it but comes back with some old b
ks as to why that's not possible.Anyway today after she's called me up and played with herself I send her a message after POF VOIP goes dead once more I find I'm blocked and shortly after her profile has been deleted!
f
king mental or what! ChemicalChaos said:
It is with the parents and therein lies the problem.
I'm just.going to try to kep her chatting until I get the opportunity to slip back up by myself one weekend. She describes herself as "sapiosexual" so perhaps I'm in with a real chance here
I'm going to assert that that is not a real thing, but I hope it works out for you!I'm just.going to try to kep her chatting until I get the opportunity to slip back up by myself one weekend. She describes herself as "sapiosexual" so perhaps I'm in with a real chance here
ChemicalChaos said:
Jimmy Recard said:
That's what I'd be doing. Or trying to see her before/after dinner. Or involving her in the dinner unless it's with your parents or something
It is with the parents and therein lies the problem.I'm just.going to try to kep her chatting until I get the opportunity to slip back up by myself one weekend. She describes herself as "sapiosexual" so perhaps I'm in with a real chance here
Or are you seriously considering driving however many miles back to Scotland later on to take some chick you've never met out for a drink with no guarantee of sex afterwards, and then either booking a hotel room or driving home after? Feck that for a game of chess. Never waste time on Tinder people when your somewhere different, or they're somewhere different, unless you have time to go for a drink before you leave.
spikey78 said:
I can't be bothered to look up sapiosexual, does that mean she has sex with people who might be described as a sap?
Nah, it means she finds intelligence attractive. God knows why you'd even bother trying to make anything of it when you're about to leave somewhere though unless you're just looking for a shag.
Condi said:
See her afterwards?
Or are you seriously considering driving however many miles back to Scotland later on to take some chick you've never met out for a drink with no guarantee of sex afterwards, and then either booking a hotel room or driving home after? Feck that for a game of chess. Never waste time on Tinder people when your somewhere different, or they're somewhere different, unless you have time to go for a drink before you leave.
You've obviously not met CC before have you? :-)Or are you seriously considering driving however many miles back to Scotland later on to take some chick you've never met out for a drink with no guarantee of sex afterwards, and then either booking a hotel room or driving home after? Feck that for a game of chess. Never waste time on Tinder people when your somewhere different, or they're somewhere different, unless you have time to go for a drink before you leave.
Been chatting to a lovely lass on POF for the past few days, yesterday I suggesting meeting up but she wants to keep on chatting on POF for a while - we've exchanged around 50 messages in 6 days, she doesn't do the "waiting hours to reply" game, we've both been online and sending messages within 30 minutes of receiving them, and as the numbers suggest, multiple messages per day. We have a hell of a lot in common, a lot of the same personality traits etc. She's not met anyone from 'online' before so I sort of knew she just wanted to keep on chatting for a while before meeting, but wanted to ask if she wanted to meet, just in case she didn't want to chat for ages... been messaging today back and forth loads so that's a good sign
Quite honestly she seems like a completely normal, sane, very attractive girl (who doesn't think she is), and most definitely worth the effort.
I'm not the sort of guy who goes looking for a quick bunk up (I envy you lot who can do that, but one night stands/crazy women have never been an attraction for me) so quite willing to be in for the long haul if it's worth it in the end
By fk though, it's hard trying to stay 'disconnected' to a certain degree, knowing that for all the days/weeks of messaging there may not be a spark or an attraction at the end of it when you finally meet 
Quite honestly she seems like a completely normal, sane, very attractive girl (who doesn't think she is), and most definitely worth the effort.
I'm not the sort of guy who goes looking for a quick bunk up (I envy you lot who can do that, but one night stands/crazy women have never been an attraction for me) so quite willing to be in for the long haul if it's worth it in the end
By f
k though, it's hard trying to stay 'disconnected' to a certain degree, knowing that for all the days/weeks of messaging there may not be a spark or an attraction at the end of it when you finally meet I've been chatting to a girl for like 3 or 4 weeks, in which we've met up twice. The first date was a rather quiet drink in a nice pub where she reeled off lots about her and i didn't get too much input, but then i put that down to us not knowing eachother and occasionally being part of meeting someone new. She's a bit overweight and a bit self conscious, but in a very obvious way. She's was moving her various layers of clothing around each time she stood up to try cover up her figure which i found quite distracting. Silly really as i think she's quite attractive.
I continued to text chat and had another go at a date last week, in which we went bowling which whilst not something I'd have chosen, was quite fun actually. Since she chose the venue i can only guess she thought the last date a bit boring too. Despite having fun It was busy and part night club so as we couldn't really hear eachother the chit chat was pretty minimal, that which we did have wasn't much better than before.
I could mention loads of stuff about her, and i very much doubt she could mention anything about me other than the small amounts of info I've had to force into the conversations. She seems nice but i don't feel any chemistry and she's not at all flirtatious or really talking with me, just at me. Normally with anyone else I'd assume she just wasn't into me, but she texts all the time and wants to go out again.
Sadly though i think that I'm fast losing interest and so will probably call it. Back to the Tinder it is then!
I continued to text chat and had another go at a date last week, in which we went bowling which whilst not something I'd have chosen, was quite fun actually. Since she chose the venue i can only guess she thought the last date a bit boring too. Despite having fun It was busy and part night club so as we couldn't really hear eachother the chit chat was pretty minimal, that which we did have wasn't much better than before.
I could mention loads of stuff about her, and i very much doubt she could mention anything about me other than the small amounts of info I've had to force into the conversations. She seems nice but i don't feel any chemistry and she's not at all flirtatious or really talking with me, just at me. Normally with anyone else I'd assume she just wasn't into me, but she texts all the time and wants to go out again.
Sadly though i think that I'm fast losing interest and so will probably call it. Back to the Tinder it is then!
TedMaul said:
evosticks said:
Long time lurker on this thread, love some of the nonsense that goes on so thought I'd share some of mine...
I'm on POF, OKC and a couple of others for good measure and POF has been pretty good for matches, had a few dates but zero spark both ways so continue to see what's out there.
Couple of weeks ago a nice looking girl (nice pics, simple profile, 40, divorcee, 15yr old kid, sounded good...) appeared in my matches so sent her simple message. No reply until a week or so ago and we got chatting on POF. Initial messages looked like they were either type in a real rush or she was dyslexic! Often a jumble of letters ... but I'm not a spelling nazi so no probs.
Anyway, starts calling me via POF from her parents in Wales where she's gone for Christmas. Tells me I'm amazing, really ramps up the sex chat (been there with a full blown narcissist before so know all about that nonsense), thinks I'm someone special etc can't wait to meet me, really thinks I could be the one...hmmm. Ask her for mobile no and get some tale about dropped phone, waiting for new one back home which she obv. wont pick up til shes back). Anyway, messages and calls keep coming, only morning and night. Never during the day...
Asks to meet so we agreed a time and place tonight, then she asks me over for NYE / NY Day and makes it blatantly clear what she wants me to do her and in which room ... But also stresses it's not about the sex, she enjoys the cuddles and cute st that goes with being together.
Calls me up and diddles herself off over the phone, is all over the place, can't wait to meet me, I'm driving her wild, she's never done this before, never felt so naughty etc etc ...really ramping it up. Quite often the call goes dead but figure that's POF VOIP is a bit st and often she just disappears or falls asleep at night after chatting full on...hmm. Messages often seem quite garbled too, like she's having to type them super quickly... I dunno.
So she gets back home on Monday and this routine continues. Can't wait to see me tonight and have me left right and centre tomorrow. Alarm bells are ringing (if sounds to true to be good it usually is!) but still keep an open mind.
Still no 'proper' phone call.... still waiting to get her phone (driving to pick it up she wrote her 3 month old TT off... !) and finds out she has no SIM with it... So still can't call me from a proper number. I suggest she could call from a landline and 141 it but comes back with some old bks as to why that's not possible.
Anyway today after she's called me up and played with herself I send her a message after POF VOIP goes dead once more I find I'm blocked and shortly after her profile has been deleted!
fking mental or what!
Day release.I'm on POF, OKC and a couple of others for good measure and POF has been pretty good for matches, had a few dates but zero spark both ways so continue to see what's out there.
Couple of weeks ago a nice looking girl (nice pics, simple profile, 40, divorcee, 15yr old kid, sounded good...) appeared in my matches so sent her simple message. No reply until a week or so ago and we got chatting on POF. Initial messages looked like they were either type in a real rush or she was dyslexic! Often a jumble of letters ... but I'm not a spelling nazi so no probs.
Anyway, starts calling me via POF from her parents in Wales where she's gone for Christmas. Tells me I'm amazing, really ramps up the sex chat (been there with a full blown narcissist before so know all about that nonsense), thinks I'm someone special etc can't wait to meet me, really thinks I could be the one...hmmm. Ask her for mobile no and get some tale about dropped phone, waiting for new one back home which she obv. wont pick up til shes back). Anyway, messages and calls keep coming, only morning and night. Never during the day...
Asks to meet so we agreed a time and place tonight, then she asks me over for NYE / NY Day and makes it blatantly clear what she wants me to do her and in which room
... But also stresses it's not about the sex, she enjoys the cuddles and cute st that goes with being together.Calls me up and diddles herself off over the phone, is all over the place, can't wait to meet me, I'm driving her wild, she's never done this before, never felt so naughty etc etc ...really ramping it up. Quite often the call goes dead but figure that's POF VOIP is a bit s
t and often she just disappears or falls asleep at night after chatting full on...hmm. Messages often seem quite garbled too, like she's having to type them super quickly... I dunno.So she gets back home on Monday and this routine continues. Can't wait to see me tonight and have me left right and centre tomorrow. Alarm bells are ringing (if sounds to true to be good it usually is!) but still keep an open mind.
Still no 'proper' phone call.... still waiting to get her phone (driving to pick it up she wrote her 3 month old TT off... !) and finds out she has no SIM with it... So still can't call me from a proper number. I suggest she could call from a landline and 141 it but comes back with some old b
ks as to why that's not possible.Anyway today after she's called me up and played with herself I send her a message after POF VOIP goes dead once more I find I'm blocked and shortly after her profile has been deleted!
f
king mental or what! Men are a bit naive I think, generally.
Blown2CV said:
TedMaul said:
evosticks said:
Long time lurker on this thread, love some of the nonsense that goes on so thought I'd share some of mine...
I'm on POF, OKC and a couple of others for good measure and POF has been pretty good for matches, had a few dates but zero spark both ways so continue to see what's out there.
Couple of weeks ago a nice looking girl (nice pics, simple profile, 40, divorcee, 15yr old kid, sounded good...) appeared in my matches so sent her simple message. No reply until a week or so ago and we got chatting on POF. Initial messages looked like they were either type in a real rush or she was dyslexic! Often a jumble of letters ... but I'm not a spelling nazi so no probs.
Anyway, starts calling me via POF from her parents in Wales where she's gone for Christmas. Tells me I'm amazing, really ramps up the sex chat (been there with a full blown narcissist before so know all about that nonsense), thinks I'm someone special etc can't wait to meet me, really thinks I could be the one...hmmm. Ask her for mobile no and get some tale about dropped phone, waiting for new one back home which she obv. wont pick up til shes back). Anyway, messages and calls keep coming, only morning and night. Never during the day...
Asks to meet so we agreed a time and place tonight, then she asks me over for NYE / NY Day and makes it blatantly clear what she wants me to do her and in which room ... But also stresses it's not about the sex, she enjoys the cuddles and cute st that goes with being together.
Calls me up and diddles herself off over the phone, is all over the place, can't wait to meet me, I'm driving her wild, she's never done this before, never felt so naughty etc etc ...really ramping it up. Quite often the call goes dead but figure that's POF VOIP is a bit st and often she just disappears or falls asleep at night after chatting full on...hmm. Messages often seem quite garbled too, like she's having to type them super quickly... I dunno.
So she gets back home on Monday and this routine continues. Can't wait to see me tonight and have me left right and centre tomorrow. Alarm bells are ringing (if sounds to true to be good it usually is!) but still keep an open mind.
Still no 'proper' phone call.... still waiting to get her phone (driving to pick it up she wrote her 3 month old TT off... !) and finds out she has no SIM with it... So still can't call me from a proper number. I suggest she could call from a landline and 141 it but comes back with some old bks as to why that's not possible.
Anyway today after she's called me up and played with herself I send her a message after POF VOIP goes dead once more I find I'm blocked and shortly after her profile has been deleted!
fking mental or what!
Day release.I'm on POF, OKC and a couple of others for good measure and POF has been pretty good for matches, had a few dates but zero spark both ways so continue to see what's out there.
Couple of weeks ago a nice looking girl (nice pics, simple profile, 40, divorcee, 15yr old kid, sounded good...) appeared in my matches so sent her simple message. No reply until a week or so ago and we got chatting on POF. Initial messages looked like they were either type in a real rush or she was dyslexic! Often a jumble of letters ... but I'm not a spelling nazi so no probs.
Anyway, starts calling me via POF from her parents in Wales where she's gone for Christmas. Tells me I'm amazing, really ramps up the sex chat (been there with a full blown narcissist before so know all about that nonsense), thinks I'm someone special etc can't wait to meet me, really thinks I could be the one...hmmm. Ask her for mobile no and get some tale about dropped phone, waiting for new one back home which she obv. wont pick up til shes back). Anyway, messages and calls keep coming, only morning and night. Never during the day...
Asks to meet so we agreed a time and place tonight, then she asks me over for NYE / NY Day and makes it blatantly clear what she wants me to do her and in which room
... But also stresses it's not about the sex, she enjoys the cuddles and cute st that goes with being together.Calls me up and diddles herself off over the phone, is all over the place, can't wait to meet me, I'm driving her wild, she's never done this before, never felt so naughty etc etc ...really ramping it up. Quite often the call goes dead but figure that's POF VOIP is a bit s
t and often she just disappears or falls asleep at night after chatting full on...hmm. Messages often seem quite garbled too, like she's having to type them super quickly... I dunno.So she gets back home on Monday and this routine continues. Can't wait to see me tonight and have me left right and centre tomorrow. Alarm bells are ringing (if sounds to true to be good it usually is!) but still keep an open mind.
Still no 'proper' phone call.... still waiting to get her phone (driving to pick it up she wrote her 3 month old TT off... !) and finds out she has no SIM with it... So still can't call me from a proper number. I suggest she could call from a landline and 141 it but comes back with some old b
ks as to why that's not possible.Anyway today after she's called me up and played with herself I send her a message after POF VOIP goes dead once more I find I'm blocked and shortly after her profile has been deleted!
f
king mental or what! Men are a bit naive I think, generally.
Clearly someone else on the scene yes and I was being sarcastic about the day release, though it sounds like he has picked up a proper mental one by any means. I think its all part and parcel of the free sites, anyone can join and t
t about and guess what, they do... I have dropped POF and going to delete Tinder after Wednesdays dateDates over Christmas went very well, concerned I messed one up by going too far on 1st date with one as I actually really like her, 2nd date was more civilised but she is very recently divorced so don't know how long its going to run. Reason I mentioned it is she came back to mine on 1st date as she wanted to reccy the house to make sure I was single..... hey ho
So it turns out there is some good advice on here. Teachers are nutjobs!
Spent the last few weeks seeing one. She was lovely. As the days/weeks go by she turned insane. She drove 30 miles to my house as I didn't reply to her message as a)my phone was knackered(she knew that) and b) I was ill in bed. Then proceeded to lob stones at my bedroom window to wake me up. She got the grand order of the fk off.
Pity really as she was an animal in the sack!
Spent the last few weeks seeing one. She was lovely. As the days/weeks go by she turned insane. She drove 30 miles to my house as I didn't reply to her message as a)my phone was knackered(she knew that) and b) I was ill in bed. Then proceeded to lob stones at my bedroom window to wake me up. She got the grand order of the f
k off. Pity really as she was an animal in the sack!
AdamIndy said:
So it turns out there is some good advice on here. Teachers are nutjobs!
Spent the last few weeks seeing one. She was lovely. As the days/weeks go by she turned insane. She drove 30 miles to my house as I didn't reply to her message as a)my phone was knackered(she knew that) and b) I was ill in bed. Then proceeded to lob stones at my bedroom window to wake me up. She got the grand order of the fk off.
Pity really as she was an animal in the sack!
Perhaps she was concerned for your welfare and checking you were okay? Spent the last few weeks seeing one. She was lovely. As the days/weeks go by she turned insane. She drove 30 miles to my house as I didn't reply to her message as a)my phone was knackered(she knew that) and b) I was ill in bed. Then proceeded to lob stones at my bedroom window to wake me up. She got the grand order of the f
k off. Pity really as she was an animal in the sack!
AdamIndy said:
So it turns out there is some good advice on here. Teachers are nutjobs!
Spent the last few weeks seeing one. She was lovely. As the days/weeks go by she turned insane. She drove 30 miles to my house as I didn't reply to her message as a)my phone was knackered(she knew that) and b) I was ill in bed. Then proceeded to lob stones at my bedroom window to wake me up. She got the grand order of the fk off.
Pity really as she was an animal in the sack!
But was she fit? Spent the last few weeks seeing one. She was lovely. As the days/weeks go by she turned insane. She drove 30 miles to my house as I didn't reply to her message as a)my phone was knackered(she knew that) and b) I was ill in bed. Then proceeded to lob stones at my bedroom window to wake me up. She got the grand order of the f
k off. Pity really as she was an animal in the sack!
Personally I will put up with a physco for a few weeks if she was fit and a good shag.
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