Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Thankyou4calling said:
She's found someone else and is trying to let you down gently.
You could play her at her own game, be a bit (lot) less available for calls, texts and dates, play hard to get.
She might want what she can't have but I think you may be back on the market soon.
The thing is we talked about this early on and agreed that we should not play games or lead each other on, obviously this may have gone out of the window.You could play her at her own game, be a bit (lot) less available for calls, texts and dates, play hard to get.
She might want what she can't have but I think you may be back on the market soon.
Condi said:
Eh?? Surely you want to make her feel like a slut, not a virgin?!
Maybes says more about me than your woman though.
Erm... yeah, probably bored. Although some people can be funny when they get ill. Its possible she's an 'all or nothing' girl and if shes been ill and not seen much of you, shes currently 'nothing'. When shes better and gets to spend some time, its back to 'all'.
Having just written that though she sounds like a bunny boiler either way. Probably best out!
True. For two days we only text briefly but when I spoke to her next she said she thought I had lost interest, which is a bit strange.Maybes says more about me than your woman though.
Erm... yeah, probably bored. Although some people can be funny when they get ill. Its possible she's an 'all or nothing' girl and if shes been ill and not seen much of you, shes currently 'nothing'. When shes better and gets to spend some time, its back to 'all'.
Having just written that though she sounds like a bunny boiler either way. Probably best out!
We've still been seeing each other but because she's been ill we've just been chilling on the couch or in bed, not great for building attraction.
hornetrider said:
What??? No emojis in her texts? Kick that b
h to the kerb boyfriend!
h to the kerb boyfriend! More the change of attitude than the absence of emjois, lack of cheeky pictures too! 
Blown2CV said:
You're snooping on her texts aren't you?
Not yet, if I get the chance I do intend to mail all her what's app conversations to myself so I can have a good laugh.On a serious note I do want to hit her one more time though, I've never been with a bad looking girl but she is really something special to look at and I think she'll be hard to replace.
Thankyou4calling said:
She's found someone else and is trying to let you down gently.
You could play her at her own game, be a bit (lot) less available for calls, texts and dates, play hard to get.
She might want what she can't have but I think you may be back on the market soon.
Why don't you either:You could play her at her own game, be a bit (lot) less available for calls, texts and dates, play hard to get.
She might want what she can't have but I think you may be back on the market soon.
Just let it fade out
or tell her how you feel?
I'd go for the latter if you seriously like her.
The Spruce goose said:
right sad sack here, about 23 views off 35 msg's sent no return ones on POF.
What is the best paid dating site, pof just ain't working for me.
Wade through the timewasters, the weirdos and the rest and there are some gems on POF. No idea about paid sites though.What is the best paid dating site, pof just ain't working for me.
Slowly slowly catchy monkey is working with my gem of a POF find, 3 weeks of chatting (multiple conversations about meeting up, just too soon for her) and we've swapped numbers. I know a lot of you would have given up long before now
but I was about to call it a day on the online sites before she replied, I have nothing to loose as I'm not chatting to anyone else.Tall_Paul said:
Wade through the timewasters, the weirdos and the rest and there are some gems on POF. No idea about paid sites though.
Slowly slowly catchy monkey is working with my gem of a POF find, 3 weeks of chatting (multiple conversations about meeting up, just too soon for her) and we've swapped numbers. I know a lot of you would have given up long before now but I was about to call it a day on the online sites before she replied, I have nothing to loose as I'm not chatting to anyone else.
This must be a totally different POF site to the one I remember then. I thought the usual etiquette was normal chat to start with, bit of cheeky flirting and if they respond well, full on dirty talk and photos will naturally flow. Meet them that weekend with her wearing the underwear you picked out, couple of drinks before going back to hers.Slowly slowly catchy monkey is working with my gem of a POF find, 3 weeks of chatting (multiple conversations about meeting up, just too soon for her) and we've swapped numbers. I know a lot of you would have given up long before now
but I was about to call it a day on the online sites before she replied, I have nothing to loose as I'm not chatting to anyone else.I know they all put "looking for a relationship" or "not into one nighters" but this is a lie. In my experience they are all total filth and most are happy to sleep with a guy on a first date.
At the end of the day, your success at online dating boils down to your photos and you not being too desperate and clingy. If you have OK photos and can come across as fun and a little cheeky (i.e not trying too hard as you really don't care) then you should be able to get their phone number and arrange to meetup pretty quickly. Remember there is a lot of competition on online dating sites, but very little of it is a serious threat.
It really does not matter what you have written on your profile, if the photos are not good she will have deleted your message before even getting that far.
If she is still not sure about meeting after 3 weeks then she is using you for entertainment while she is not busy chatting to the other guys she is meeting up with.
Joey Deacon said:
If she is still not sure about meeting after 3 weeks then she is using you for entertainment while she is not busy chatting to the other guys she is meeting up with.
That's just not true for a large number of women. I know a fair number that would talk for at least two weeks before considering meeting up with a stranger from the internet, and they certainly wouldn't be just using the man for 'entertainment'.Actually, a good friend of mine told me it was a good way of weeding out those that were just looking for a shag and given what you've said, I reckon she's probably onto something.
Well it's working in that she's still chatting to me 
That's a success in my book! my success rate on POF was shameful, I'd not used it or tinder etc. 'seriously' but most girls I got chatting to would stop replying after a couple of days, or I would through stop replying from a loss of interest.
That's a success in my book! my success rate on POF was shameful, I'd not used it or tinder etc. 'seriously' but most girls I got chatting to would stop replying after a couple of days, or I would through stop replying from a loss of interest.leglessAlex said:
That's just not true for a large number of women. I know a fair number that would talk for at least two weeks before considering meeting up with a stranger from the internet, and they certainly wouldn't be just using the man for 'entertainment'.
Actually, a good friend of mine told me it was a good way of weeding out those that were just looking for a shag and given what you've said, I reckon she's probably onto something.
Exactly - she's already said (she might be lying through her teeth, but I hope I'm a good enough judge of character to say she isn't) that she's not met anyone from 'online' yet and just isn't feeling brave enough to meet up with some stranger from the internet at the moment. Whenever I've asked the question of meeting, or given her a little nudge about it, she's always said she wants to meet. Her profile very much mimics the cautious type, no details really, just a couple of photos. Of course I would have preferred to meet after a few days but it's no big deal waiting a little while, I've got nothing to loose and everything to gain.Actually, a good friend of mine told me it was a good way of weeding out those that were just looking for a shag and given what you've said, I reckon she's probably onto something.
Edited by Tall_Paul on Tuesday 19th January 21:14
Tall_Paul said:
Exactly - she's already said (she might be lying through her teeth, but I hope I'm a good enough judge of character to say she isn't) that she's not met anyone from 'online' yet and just isn't feeling brave enough to meet up with some stranger from the internet at the moment. Whenever I've asked the question of meeting, or given her a little nudge about it, she's always said she wants to meet. Her profile very much mimics the cautious type, no details really, just a couple of photos. Of course I would have preferred to meet after a few days but it's no big deal waiting a little while, I've got nothing to loose and everything to gain.
Or else she is married and uses POF because she is bored and wants a bit of attention and excitement. If she is married it would explain the reluctance to actually meet you, she just likes the excitement.Edited by Tall_Paul on Tuesday 19th January 21:14
The Spruce goose said:
right sad sack here, about 23 views off 35 msg's sent no return ones on POF.
What is the best paid dating site, pof just ain't working for me.
Tinder. I finished with my then fiance when travelling. It didn't end nicely. But I had some fun whilst away, both with seeing things and travelling - so I didn't lose too much sleep over it. What is the best paid dating site, pof just ain't working for me.
I came back less then two weeks ago. I spent a week just chilling out - then I downloaded tinder. I took the view that talking over an app was not that great, so asked a few questions, then progressed to texting and met most of the girls within a day or two of the first conversation.
Since then I've had 10 "dates". I say that because really I was just meeting random women who I found attractive. I tried to be efficient with my time - and I'd arrange them into slots on an evening if I had more than one - if I liked the first one I'd bin off the one after. I slept with 7 off them. Apart from the impact on my liver it was amazingly easy and enjoyable. In fairness - there are a lot of freaks on Tinder - but as long as you do your due dilligence you can avoid meeting a fatty if you find their internet profile before meeting.
On Friday I met up with one incredibly attractive, smart and funny. I meant to meet her for a drink. But I've just got home, so a drink turned into two nights staying over and lots of shagging. I actually like her so will stop dating for a bit. I'm a bit concerned that I maybe told her too much about myself too early. But shes cool.
So in short - you'd have to have something wrong with you to not get laid on tinder. And there are some nice people on there. Not the chav single mothers you find on POF. I met up with PhD students, doctors and other people who were more professional and smarter than me. I'm not exactly a looker - and I'm not even in shape. So it's easy. Nor do you need to read any books or do any of the voodoo that some people preach about on here.
I have Ditched POF as basically it was full of loads of 'those type'.
Joined Match and a lot better. Better looking women and more educated which suits me as I am not really a chav, which POF seems full off. So all hope is not lost yet and still chipping away, not missing it at all, Match is a totally different experience.
I am not a serial dater as POF seems to have loads that have been around the block a few times, Match is in a totally different league, getting a few messages a week, which for me if pretty good, and not all munters.
Joined Match and a lot better. Better looking women and more educated which suits me as I am not really a chav, which POF seems full off. So all hope is not lost yet and still chipping away, not missing it at all, Match is a totally different experience.
I am not a serial dater as POF seems to have loads that have been around the block a few times, Match is in a totally different league, getting a few messages a week, which for me if pretty good, and not all munters.
When I was dating I tried Match, PoF and OKCupid, and it was the last one that I found the most people from who actually went on dates. I dont know if it was because it was a bit smaller or less well known, but I think I probably had 6 or so dates from it over a month.
I went the old fashioned way of introductions though, I met my wife through work and to be honest, with the exception of two couples who've been together since college/Uni, everyone else we know has met through work as well. They might not all be directly working with/for each other, but offices in business parks that have people coming and going, some you see regularly. Interestingly none of the ones we know have met on a night out on the piss
I went the old fashioned way of introductions though, I met my wife through work and to be honest, with the exception of two couples who've been together since college/Uni, everyone else we know has met through work as well. They might not all be directly working with/for each other, but offices in business parks that have people coming and going, some you see regularly. Interestingly none of the ones we know have met on a night out on the piss
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