Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Mr Happy said:
OwenK said:
If you're concerned about privacy maybe you shouldn't have your Facebook set to public!
I don't... but not everyone sets up Facebook privacy settings correctly, the amount of people who leave them 'out of the box' is amazing.On POF, I seem to have the privilege of being able to see if a message has been read without being a paying subscriber. Anyway, my biggest moan about dating sites is I'll send a non-generic message to someone, asking them something about one of their interests as is good dating website etiquette; she'll read my message and ignore it without even looking at my profile. Me personally, if someone messages me I'll at least have a quick look at their profile to see if we have anything in common. 
Really getting more pissed off than I should about these sites.
Really getting more pissed off than I should about these sites.
It is possible to view a users profile without them knowing, how many people will have sussed this (female) non geeks i doubt many though. On a browser that youve not logged into POF on search their username in google and most times their profile comes up and hey presto you can view them while not logged in and you dont show on their searches 
Cupramax said:
It is possible to view a users profile without them knowing, how many people will have sussed this (female) non geeks i doubt many though. On a browser that youve not logged into POF on search their username in google and most times their profile comes up and hey presto you can view them while not logged in and you dont show on their searches
Click Edit Profile and Mail Settings. Click Mail Settings, and select No from the drop down menu that reads, Allow a user to see that you have viewed their profile. Click Update Mail Settings to save. feef said:
Since Match.com bought POF, they are starting to put up more paywalls on various features. The latest one to go was the username search on the mobile app
You can get around it by using the "Add favourite" function. That lets you add a named favourite, then just remove them if they're not for you.Won't be long before that route is closed up though...
Mr Happy said:
Not sure if people are aware, but WhatsApp has changed it's privacy policy to now share your phone number and contacts with Facebook to make Facebook's "People you might know" feature more accurate (as well as introduce advertising, but I think that's opt-outable).
I've seen a few people pop up on the "People you might know" feature who I have only talked to from places like POF and OKC and have progressed onto messaging on WhatsApp, so this is working.
Now, if you're one of the people that doesn't use Facebook, then that's fine - go you, but if you are - be aware that this change may lead to you sharing a bit more with people you message via WhatsApp than you intended. Case in point, I now know the full name and where one particularly nutty person I was talking to for a while, but went nowhere with works, lives, their friends, and so on and so forth - just via Facebook. As we never discussed surnames or anything other than rough geographic location, and therefore cruicially never added each other to Facebook, the suggested information can only really have come from one source: WhatsApp (or, possibly Facebook if it is scanning contacts, which it probably is in all honesty).
Not everyone is dodgy, but we all know there are a lot of strange people out in the world, so if you are at all concerned about your personal information, it is probably safer to keep your messages on POF/OKC/Match/whatever until you've met the person or have decided they're safe.
Also, everyone's a grown up - so it's up to you to make your own decision, this is just my experience.
You can opt out of this in your account settings. If you get the message from whatsapp telling you about it and asking you to agree by september the whatever then scroll down and untick the box, then agree. If not, or you change your mind, I think you can change it in account settings.I've seen a few people pop up on the "People you might know" feature who I have only talked to from places like POF and OKC and have progressed onto messaging on WhatsApp, so this is working.
Now, if you're one of the people that doesn't use Facebook, then that's fine - go you, but if you are - be aware that this change may lead to you sharing a bit more with people you message via WhatsApp than you intended. Case in point, I now know the full name and where one particularly nutty person I was talking to for a while, but went nowhere with works, lives, their friends, and so on and so forth - just via Facebook. As we never discussed surnames or anything other than rough geographic location, and therefore cruicially never added each other to Facebook, the suggested information can only really have come from one source: WhatsApp (or, possibly Facebook if it is scanning contacts, which it probably is in all honesty).
Not everyone is dodgy, but we all know there are a lot of strange people out in the world, so if you are at all concerned about your personal information, it is probably safer to keep your messages on POF/OKC/Match/whatever until you've met the person or have decided they're safe.
Also, everyone's a grown up - so it's up to you to make your own decision, this is just my experience.
Ste1987 said:
On POF, I seem to have the privilege of being able to see if a message has been read without being a paying subscriber. Anyway, my biggest moan about dating sites is I'll send a non-generic message to someone, asking them something about one of their interests as is good dating website etiquette; she'll read my message and ignore it without even looking at my profile. Me personally, if someone messages me I'll at least have a quick look at their profile to see if we have anything in common.
Really getting more pissed off than I should about these sites.
You've got to remember that even the swampiest of swamp monsters on these sites get hammered by messages from desperate lads wanting to get their knob wet.Really getting more pissed off than I should about these sites.
Unless your message completely stands out from the rest of the noise, you really don't stand much chance. For an example, try setting up a female profile with no information, but a picture of a relatively attractive woman. Once it gets into the rotation, the message box will fill up rapidly.
That's the kind of thing you're up against, it probably isn't the person being intentionally rude - more that they can't be arsed to go through 100+ profiles a day.
Mr Happy said:
feef said:
Since Match.com bought POF, they are starting to put up more paywalls on various features. The latest one to go was the username search on the mobile app
You can get around it by using the "Add favourite" function. That lets you add a named favourite, then just remove them if they're not for you.Won't be long before that route is closed up though...
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)Ste1987 said:
On POF, I seem to have the privilege of being able to see if a message has been read without being a paying subscriber. Anyway, my biggest moan about dating sites is I'll send a non-generic message to someone, asking them something about one of their interests as is good dating website etiquette; she'll read my message and ignore it without even looking at my profile. Me personally, if someone messages me I'll at least have a quick look at their profile to see if we have anything in common.
Really getting more pissed off than I should about these sites.
Yep, that's how it seems to go. You just have to switch off and disregard any message you send, that way it's a nice surprise if you get a response. Really getting more pissed off than I should about these sites.
There was this pretty, timid looking girl (probably had a job in HR) in the restaurant with an unemployed ex-army, half-deaf bloke on their first date. He looked twice her age, shouted every word and went out for 5 fags during the night.
They went off in a taxi after a rather unsubtle bit of "would you like to make me some coffee?" Her body language said "no" but her face said "hurt me, daddy".
But I've been courting a nurse for the last 5 weeks, thanks to the advice on this thread. So I'm quite content.
In conclusion: Send more than 5 messages before you've met her and she'll be catching the Syrian strain of syphilis from Sgt Youwot instead.
Not that there's anything wrong with ex-army men or syphilis.
They went off in a taxi after a rather unsubtle bit of "would you like to make me some coffee?" Her body language said "no" but her face said "hurt me, daddy".
But I've been courting a nurse for the last 5 weeks, thanks to the advice on this thread. So I'm quite content.
In conclusion: Send more than 5 messages before you've met her and she'll be catching the Syrian strain of syphilis from Sgt Youwot instead.
Not that there's anything wrong with ex-army men or syphilis.
Recently single, signed up for a couple of these dating apps just for a bit of a distraction really. Tinder is my favourite time waster at the moment. Matched with a girl who is a colleagues daughter which did make me laugh!
It's nice to have a chat to girls etc, no doubt be handy when I finally feel like going out and meeting some new people. Hopefully someone actually worth talking to will come up soon
It's nice to have a chat to girls etc, no doubt be handy when I finally feel like going out and meeting some new people. Hopefully someone actually worth talking to will come up soon
I'm quite surprised at the quality of the girls on tinder to be honest! For each ugly one there's about 20 stunners and it is obviously fantastically shallow and quite satisfying to judge a person on a couple of photos! Signed up to POF too but having a bit less luck with that one so far. Also this obsession with snapchat and Instagram everyone seems to have is getting on my nerves but it seems like it's necessary to have.
and it is obviously fantastically shallow and quite satisfying to judge a person on a couple of photos! Signed up to POF too but having a bit less luck with that one so far. Also this obsession with snapchat and Instagram everyone seems to have is getting on my nerves but it seems like it's necessary to have. Edited by CX53 on Monday 29th August 10:02
Mr Happy said:
You've got to remember that even the swampiest of swamp monsters on these sites get hammered by messages from desperate lads wanting to get their knob wet.
Unless your message completely stands out from the rest of the noise, you really don't stand much chance. For an example, try setting up a female profile with no information, but a picture of a relatively attractive woman. Once it gets into the rotation, the message box will fill up rapidly.
That's the kind of thing you're up against, it probably isn't the person being intentionally rude - more that they can't be arsed to go through 100+ profiles a day.
This its a utter joke. Women get hounded even the munters as you say & where a decent gent can message 50+ people and get no responce what so ever. Its a womans market.Unless your message completely stands out from the rest of the noise, you really don't stand much chance. For an example, try setting up a female profile with no information, but a picture of a relatively attractive woman. Once it gets into the rotation, the message box will fill up rapidly.
That's the kind of thing you're up against, it probably isn't the person being intentionally rude - more that they can't be arsed to go through 100+ profiles a day.
Ari said:
How very dare you! They're 'Full Time Mummies', their wages get paid by the state!
lmfao trueKev_Mk3 said:
Mr Happy said:
You've got to remember that even the swampiest of swamp monsters on these sites get hammered by messages from desperate lads wanting to get their knob wet.
Unless your message completely stands out from the rest of the noise, you really don't stand much chance. For an example, try setting up a female profile with no information, but a picture of a relatively attractive woman. Once it gets into the rotation, the message box will fill up rapidly.
That's the kind of thing you're up against, it probably isn't the person being intentionally rude - more that they can't be arsed to go through 100+ profiles a day.
This its a utter joke. Women get hounded even the munters as you say & where a decent gent can message 50+ people and get no responce what so ever. Its a womans market.Unless your message completely stands out from the rest of the noise, you really don't stand much chance. For an example, try setting up a female profile with no information, but a picture of a relatively attractive woman. Once it gets into the rotation, the message box will fill up rapidly.
That's the kind of thing you're up against, it probably isn't the person being intentionally rude - more that they can't be arsed to go through 100+ profiles a day.
Ari said:
How very dare you! They're 'Full Time Mummies', their wages get paid by the state!
lmfao trueCX53 said:
I think that's why I'm having a fair bit of success on tinder, you both have to swipe eachother and it'll pop up as a notification for both so it's not quite like being inundated on the other dating sites. A good picture is everything though!
Sad to say but tinder you DO judge a book by its cover as most dating sites do but at least with Tinder you know thats what you are doing!!You know there and then if you match you have caught there eye. Only to message them, be ignored and unmatched lol
Kev_Mk3 said:
Sad to say but tinder you DO judge a book by its cover as most dating sites do but at least with Tinder you know thats what you are doing!!
You know there and then if you match you have caught there eye. Only to message them, be ignored and unmatched lol
Haha yes that has happened to me a couple of times! I tend not to bother messaging first, I'd find it a bit tedious not being replied to. It has opened my eyes to a world of good looking girls though, a good distraction after my last relationship. Bit of an ego boost, matched with a rather attractive junior doctor today and got chatting, makes me question just why I'm so cut up about the ex after all. You know there and then if you match you have caught there eye. Only to message them, be ignored and unmatched lol
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