Match.com (Volume 6)

[Kev_Mk3]

CX53 said:

Haha yes that has happened to me a couple of times! I tend not to bother messaging first, I'd find it a bit tedious not being replied to. It has opened my eyes to a world of good looking girls though, a good distraction after my last relationship. Bit of an ego boost, matched with a rather attractive junior doctor today and got chatting, makes me question just why I'm so cut up about the ex after all.

Junior doctors hey. I matched with 2.

1. Posh as they come, turned up with a can of fosters to drink in the car. Wasnt hard to get into bed - she insisted actually never spoke again. It turns out thats what she does!

2. Rang me before we met to tell me she is a swinger. Sent me links to her profile, with verifications and the lot. At least she was honest before we met. Never met as I met someone but still speak now and then

[CX53]

Kev_Mk3 said:

Junior doctors hey. I matched with 2.

1. Posh as they come, turned up with a can of fosters to drink in the car. Wasnt hard to get into bed - she insisted actually never spoke again. It turns out thats what she does!

2. Rang me before we met to tell me she is a swinger. Sent me links to her profile, with verifications and the lot. At least she was honest before we met. Never met as I met someone but still speak now and then

1 sounds spot on, not marriage material of course, but I'd say that was a tinder success ha!

2 sounds alright too, the swinging thing would make me a bit uncomfortable mind...

First new conversation today on plenty of fish since joining a few days ago. Might be something to do with my refusal to send the first message unless I'm particularly keen... But this one seems quite nice. Bonding over a mutual hatred of snapchat and people with stupid snapchat dog filter things on their profile pictures at the moment lol

[Kev_Mk3]

CX53 said:

1 sounds spot on, not marriage material of course, but I'd say that was a tinder success ha!

2 sounds alright too, the swinging thing would make me a bit uncomfortable mind...

First new conversation today on plenty of fish since joining a few days ago. Might be something to do with my refusal to send the first message unless I'm particularly keen... But this one seems quite nice. Bonding over a mutual hatred of snapchat and people with stupid snapchat dog filter things on their profile pictures at the moment lol

give it 2 weeks youll both be on snap chat sending pictures with inuendo comments

[johnwilliams77]

Kev_Mk3 said:

Junior doctors hey. I matched with 2.

1. Posh as they come, turned up with a can of fosters to drink in the car. Wasnt hard to get into bed - she insisted actually never spoke again. It turns out thats what she does!

2. Rang me before we met to tell me she is a swinger. Sent me links to her profile, with verifications and the lot. At least she was honest before we met. Never met as I met someone but still speak now and then

But you just posted today on the 'starting again' thread you need to break it to yours mrs....you going to tell her about tinder too?

[Kev_Mk3]

johnwilliams77 said:

But you just posted today on the 'starting again' thread you need to break it to yours mrs....you going to tell her about tinder too?

Tinder was before the mrs

[johnwilliams77]

Kev_Mk3 said:

Tinder was before the mrs

Soon get back on it then!

[Mercury00]

Condi said:

Tinder is good fun just for a laugh, you do get some lovely girls among all the single mums who dont work any more though.

"Full time mammy. Hardest job in the world"

Someone who's never worked telling me what the hardest job in the world is

[N-TY4C]

mizx said:

Thoughts on disclosing disablities? Obviously it wouldn't be right not to.

I have a mobility affecting problem and use a manual wheelchair, I'm pretty independent really but there are little things I can't do and need help with. You want to be truthful about things, but not put anyone off or have someone be too sympathetic, both of which feel far too presumptuous to be thinking. I guess is probably best just to say you use a wheelchair and make something light-hearted out of it?


Making a concerted effort to try this business again, I did 6-7 years ago, chatted to some great people but nothing more. I don't think never having a picture helped! I've come to think in the last few weeks and there's no reason I should be without these things. My stubbornness has led to just carrying on as it is over the years and I never talk about it with my family. "going out" isn't my thing (pub if I do), work, and not getting out to do car or hobby stuff enough, aren't currently situations that lend themselves to meeting people, so online should be a good way. I'm not expecting it to be easy but I'm feeling pretty positive in general right now. I HATE pictures of myself, though I do have them in my library, I'll just have to get past that and post it!

Edited by mizx on Friday 26th August 19:56

Start here:
http://www.disabilitymatch.co.uk

[Condi]

Mercury00 said:

"Full time mammy. Hardest job in the world"

Someone who's never worked telling me what the hardest job in the world is

Yes, when I used to do 93 hours a week for 10 weeks on end, and when I leave for work on a Monday morning and know Im going to be away from home for 4 days, I feel really fking sorry for the woman who lives on benefits and sits at home watching Jeremy fking Kyle.






That said, I wouldnt want a kid running around either! They're welcome to it.

[feef]

Mercury00 said:

Condi said:

Tinder is good fun just for a laugh, you do get some lovely girls among all the single mums who dont work any more though.

"Full time mammy. Hardest job in the world"

Someone who's never worked telling me what the hardest job in the world is

I'm a single dad AND run my own business. Take that 'full time mammy'

[Noodle1982]

Ste1987 said:

...she'll read my message and ignore it without even looking at my profile.

That may not be 100% correct. She may have noted your username, logged out, searched username as a site visitor, view profile. Hey presto, she has looked at your profile without it showing under your 'who has viewed me'.

I do this as I always feel a bit bad checking out someone's profile after they've sent me a message only to discover they are a munter. Don't want to hurt their feelings and all that jazz.

[Ste1987]

Noodle1982 said:

Ste1987 said:

...she'll read my message and ignore it without even looking at my profile.

That may not be 100% correct. She may have noted your username, logged out, searched username as a site visitor, view profile. Hey presto, she has looked at your profile without it showing under your 'who has viewed me'.

I do this as I always feel a bit bad checking out someone's profile after they've sent me a message only to discover they are a munter. Don't want to hurt their feelings and all that jazz.

I just use the Block function

I didn't realise there was an option to go "incognito" on POF, so this makes more sense.

[feef]

the ones that confuse me are the ones who contact me with a brief introductory message such as "hi, how was your weekend" and when I reply with a bit of info on what I did and ask how theirs was, they don't reply.

What's the point? They've viewed my profile, asked a quesition, got a reply and then what.....?


I often begin to wonder if I need to put my tin foil hat on and dig out this secret women's website with a database of blokes on it and reasons to avoid them?

[Brigand]

Its a little O/T but a few days ago I went onto PoF as a guest just to see who was on their these days in my area. I spent about three years dating on that site, but stopped using it about two years ago after I met my current missus. Browsing the search function showed lots of new people to my days, but also quite a few people who were on there for as long as I was, still with the same pictures. So there's women on there who have been using that site for at least five years now and still they are searching. I found the whole thing a bit depressing after my years of use, but it does make me wonder why these people are still searching after all these years.

[Calza]

Noodle1982 said:

That may not be 100% correct. She may have noted your username, logged out, searched username as a site visitor, view profile. Hey presto, she has looked at your profile without it showing under your 'who has viewed me'.

I do this as I always feel a bit bad checking out someone's profile after they've sent me a message only to discover they are a munter. Don't want to hurt their feelings and all that jazz.

You know instead of logging out you could just go in to private browsing mode?

[Mansells Tash]

Gretchen said:

Slightly off topic my middle (very straight and serious) son has been with his girlfriend for seven months now. They had dinner here together at the weekend. She's very pretty, quiet/shy and as grown up snd serious/sensible as he. The way he speaks of the relationship is that they will go to university, have their careers, marry and perhaps have children but not until they're comfortable and possibly in their 30s. He is 15 shortly. I almost hope true and long lasting love still exists.

Tell him about tinder, I give the relationship a week after that

[Mansells Tash]

feef said:

the ones that confuse me are the ones who contact me with a brief introductory message such as "hi, how was your weekend" and when I reply with a bit of info on what I did and ask how theirs was, they don't reply.

What's the point? They've viewed my profile, asked a quesition, got a reply and then what.....?


I often begin to wonder if I need to put my tin foil hat on and dig out this secret women's website with a database of blokes on it and reasons to avoid them?

Stop telling them you spent the weekend polishing your model train collection and trying to break the 7 wk wall. LIE TO THEM MAN!!!

[ChemicalChaos]

I'm on tinder whilst here in the US, mainly just for a laugh or a chat as a) it's pretty hard to hook up when you're staying in the hotel with your family and b) anything meaningful would be quashed by the distance.

However, I'm surprised. Tinder in the UK is full of reasonably attractive girls. Tinder over here... Well... Isn't.
I'm not a shallow man, I can see beauty in the "girl next door" and I absolutely value personality over looks... But there has to be some physical attraction and gee whiz, some of the profile pictures out here are plain scary!

[johnwilliams77]

ChemicalChaos said:

I'm on tinder whilst here in the US, mainly just for a laugh or a chat as a) it's pretty hard to hook up when you're staying in the hotel with your family and b) anything meaningful would be quashed by the distance.

However, I'm surprised. Tinder in the UK is full of reasonably attractive girls. Tinder over here... Well... Isn't.
I'm not a shallow man, I can see beauty in the "girl next door" and I absolutely value personality over looks... But there has to be some physical attraction and gee whiz, some of the profile pictures out here are plain scary!

Imagine what they think about you!

[lemmingjames]

ChemicalChaos said:

I'm on tinder whilst here in the US, mainly just for a laugh or a chat as a) it's pretty hard to hook up when you're staying in the hotel with your family and b) anything meaningful would be quashed by the distance.

However, I'm surprised. Tinder in the UK is full of reasonably attractive girls. Tinder over here... Well... Isn't.
I'm not a shallow man, I can see beauty in the "girl next door" and I absolutely value personality over looks... But there has to be some physical attraction and gee whiz, some of the profile pictures out here are plain scary!

You should go to the Far East, if you cant 'pull' there, well i dont know