Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Mercury00 said:
I have zero luck with Tinder. I'll match with someone and they won't reply to messages. It's been months since I had a reply on there tbhI, I don't know why they swipe right.
The trick with Tinder is to just swipe right on every girl that comes up. I know many girls will be doing the same, though - and this is why your 'matches' often don't respond.Trabi601 said:
The trick with Tinder is to just swipe right on every girl that comes up. I know many girls will be doing the same, though - and this is why your 'matches' often don't respond.
Nah. Do this and tinder figures out you're a desperate munter and starts only showing you the other desperate munters. Be picky. Better to have 1 decent match a week with a hottie than 50 crap ones with uggos.
Went to meet a girl from tinder last night, looked absolutely nothing like her photos. Really disappointing and a waste of time. I know looks aren't everything but you've got to at least find someone attractive! Don't see the point in basically lying to get a date 
She was a lovely girl though, I feel a bit bad because she said she had a lovely time and wants to do it again!
Ah well, better than sitting in on my own I suppose.
She was a lovely girl though, I feel a bit bad because she said she had a lovely time and wants to do it again!
Ah well, better than sitting in on my own I suppose.
CX53 said:
Went to meet a girl from tinder last night, looked absolutely nothing like her photos. Really disappointing and a waste of time. I know looks aren't everything but you've got to at least find someone attractive! Don't see the point in basically lying to get a date
She was a lovely girl though, I feel a bit bad because she said she had a lovely time and wants to do it again!
Ah well, better than sitting in on my own I suppose.
I feel sorry for the girls like that. I let quite a few down but it just didn't work so you have to move one. You'll get thete in the end !She was a lovely girl though, I feel a bit bad because she said she had a lovely time and wants to do it again!
Ah well, better than sitting in on my own I suppose.
V6Pushfit said:
CX53 said:
Went to meet a girl from tinder last night, looked absolutely nothing like her photos. Really disappointing and a waste of time. I know looks aren't everything but you've got to at least find someone attractive! Don't see the point in basically lying to get a date
She was a lovely girl though, I feel a bit bad because she said she had a lovely time and wants to do it again!
Ah well, better than sitting in on my own I suppose.
I feel sorry for the girls like that. I let quite a few down but it just didn't work so you have to move one. You'll get thete in the end !She was a lovely girl though, I feel a bit bad because she said she had a lovely time and wants to do it again!
Ah well, better than sitting in on my own I suppose.
trackdemon said:
V6Pushfit said:
CX53 said:
Went to meet a girl from tinder last night, looked absolutely nothing like her photos. Really disappointing and a waste of time. I know looks aren't everything but you've got to at least find someone attractive! Don't see the point in basically lying to get a date
She was a lovely girl though, I feel a bit bad because she said she had a lovely time and wants to do it again!
Ah well, better than sitting in on my own I suppose.
I feel sorry for the girls like that. I let quite a few down but it just didn't work so you have to move one. You'll get thete in the end !She was a lovely girl though, I feel a bit bad because she said she had a lovely time and wants to do it again!
Ah well, better than sitting in on my own I suppose.
It's a shame because we get on really well and conversation flowed, wasn't awkward at all, but I don't find her attractive in the slightest unfortunately, couldn't bring myself to even kiss her.
New to these apps and stuff after being in a relationship for the last 5 years since I was 19 so need to work on my 'letting her down gently' skills a bit!
Shnozz said:
Why on earth would you want to match with someone that you don't fancy though?
I think it's more the point of putting in minimal effort or commitment at first, to get the ball rolling.No point spending ages agonising over every profile when 50% won't like you anyway. Doing it that way means you only "match" (keep), the ones that like you too.
Calza said:
Shnozz said:
Why on earth would you want to match with someone that you don't fancy though?
I think it's more the point of putting in minimal effort or commitment at first, to get the ball rolling.No point spending ages agonising over every profile when 50% won't like you anyway. Doing it that way means you only "match" (keep), the ones that like you too.
As for letting them down gently, good old "there was just no spark" works for me 100% of the time. If they press for more detail, then an added "I just can't see this progressing into a relationship, I'm sorry" generally rounds things off nicely.
I guess it's my "thanks but no thanks" when their "few extra pounds" turns into a "few extra stone"
Maybe that makes me shallow? I don't know - if they only select photos that hide themselves to the point that there's no attraction when met in person, then those are the breaks unfortunately.
It puzzles me immensely why the PH men posting in the thread are all single and 'not having much luck'. Quite bizarre. What with your slender toned bodies, six pack abs women can only dream of, chiselled features and scintillating personalities. It pains me to say, and I feel for you I really do, but, perhaps you need to lower your standards or just accept that all the striking, fit and fabulous women enjoy the company of down to earth men with a few extra pounds. Such is life.
Gretchen said:
It puzzles me immensely why the PH men posting in the thread are all single and 'not having much luck'. Quite bizarre. What with your slender toned bodies, six pack abs women can only dream of, chiselled features and scintillating personalities. It pains me to say, and I feel for you I really do, but, perhaps you need to lower your standards or just accept that all the striking, fit and fabulous women enjoy the company of down to earth men with a few extra pounds. Such is life.
A few extra pounds is fine, blatant misrepresentation however - is not.The argument is pointless anyway, as you can't help the features you find attractive. How would you feel if you found out that your partner was only with you because if they lowered their standards any more, their next date was going to be with a fleshlight and some lube?
I'd much prefer to find someone who I look at and think "wow" every time I see them, who also feels that same way about me than have to lie to myself and them by saying they're "the one".
Edited by Mr Happy on Saturday 1st October 18:51
Mr Happy said:
The argument is pointless anyway, as you can't help the features you find attractive. How would you feel if you found out that your partner was only with you because if they lowered their standards any more, their next date was going to be with a fleshlight and some lube?
Story of my life. I'm all personality. davek_964 said:
Gretchen said:
Story of my life. I'm all personality.
It's a few years since I was on dating sites but I found that almost all the girls I met looked better in real life than in photos. Guess I was just lucky if this thread is to be believed.
Gretchen said:
It puzzles me immensely why the PH men posting in the thread are all single and 'not having much luck'. Quite bizarre. What with your slender toned bodies, six pack abs women can only dream of, chiselled features and scintillating personalities. It pains me to say, and I feel for you I really do, but, perhaps you need to lower your standards or just accept that all the striking, fit and fabulous women enjoy the company of down to earth men with a few extra pounds. Such is life.
Who says we're all single and 'not having much luck'? 
davek_964 said:
Gretchen said:
Story of my life. I'm all personality.
It's a few years since I was on dating sites but I found that almost all the girls I met looked better in real life than in photos. Guess I was just lucky if this thread is to be believed.
Having played around on Tinder for a while, it still doesnt do that much for me. Lots of effort for someone who might not look like their photo and you might not get on with if you ever do meet them. Maybe Im doing it wrong? Whereas go into town, have a few drinks, find a nice girl, have a conversation - easy. Within 2 mins you know if its going somewhere or not.
Dating is the most tactile of human interactions, it was never meant to be done online IMO.
Dating is the most tactile of human interactions, it was never meant to be done online IMO.
Condi said:
Having played around on Tinder for a while, it still doesnt do that much for me. Lots of effort for someone who might not look like their photo and you might not get on with if you ever do meet them. Maybe Im doing it wrong? Whereas go into town, have a few drinks, find a nice girl, have a conversation - easy. Within 2 mins you know if its going somewhere or not.
Dating is the most tactile of human interactions, it was never meant to be done online IMO.
The benefits of Tinder are playing is free and available at any location 24hrs a day, going in to town for a few drinks is expense and limited. Dating is the most tactile of human interactions, it was never meant to be done online IMO.
I'd always compared it to walking in to a bar and scanning the room for anyone you found attractive.
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