Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Trabi601 said:
Gretchen said:
I have no idea how you lot fail at this. I activated a Tinder account two weeks ago. Few matches (I literally swipe left 99/100) but conversation was tedious/mundane. Until I met my match. Same age, in to bikes, similar humour, we seem to have clicked. We are now in to our second week of several dates and can talk on the phone for hours. Last night we went ice skating, but due to an error on the rink's part we also blagged tickets to our first ice hockey game, which was, different.
I've stopped partying and am ready to settle. I've so far had a great time with him. Fate will lay us a path. And I'm happy to see where it takes us.
It has been shown time and time again that internet dating is like shooting fish in a barrel for women.I've stopped partying and am ready to settle. I've so far had a great time with him. Fate will lay us a path. And I'm happy to see where it takes us.
Pretty much every profile I see says "must have a beard and treat me like a princess".
jogger1976 said:
Blown2CV said:
Ki3r said:
jogger1976 said:
I'm thinking of binning online dating, as I'm fed up of talking to women who, when you suggest meeting up just disappear.. I had one this evening who I've been messaging since yesterday.I asked her if she'd like to meet up.She asked me where I lived. Surprising, as it's front and centre on my profile. She then says "Oh! I'm in X,so you're too far away".Now bearing in my that she contacted me, couldn't she have just Google Mapped my location to hers, thus saving both of us wasting each others time? 
Same here. Sadly the two I were talking to have gone quiet. Was talking to another, sorted to meet up twice, first time was cancelled as her dog wasn't well. Second time she forgot. Didn't bother after that. Friend from work gave me the number of her friend, swapped a couple of texts, but we have nothing in common other than knowing this person! Bit of a age gap too, shes 43 and I'm 27.
Blown2CV said:
definitely a problem with internet dating and not either of you two. Definitely.
I'll quite happily admit I'm not the best looking person (already f
ked when it comes to internet dating!) and I bore myself at times, so god knows what other people think ha.To be fair, I'm quite happy being single. I'm not really looking, if something happens brilliant, if not, not the end of the world. Passes the time when its quiet at work
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Trabi601 said:
It has been shown time and time again that internet dating is like shooting fish in a barrel for women.
Not sure of the quality of the fish you get though. A woman at work has been single for ages and used all the usual sites. Yes, she gets a lot of contacts and no end of dates but they all seem to have some kind of personality disorder. To the extent that she feels that there is something wrong with her. If there is, I've not spotted it.
Shoegrip said:
Not sure of the quality of the fish you get though. A woman at work has been single for ages and used all the usual sites. Yes, she gets a lot of contacts and no end of dates but they all seem to have some kind of personality disorder. To the extent that she feels that there is something wrong with her.
If there is, I've not spotted it.
Have you asked her out ?If there is, I've not spotted it.
It's because there are some oddballs out there (of both sexes). Total losers who just haven't got what it takes, can't communicate or have too much baggage. If someone's looking for a relationship it doesn't augur well if messages have bad spelling, txt spk, or smack of a takeaway and tv lifestyle. I know a great girl who just couldn't get a relationship going after god knows how many dates but her idea of Sunday lunch is a doner kebab and every message will have a 'lol'. Everyone thinks they're the bees knees but the impression they give others who only have a few messages to go on can be the opposite.
One big thing was being told loads of times how blokes 'only want one thing' and I'm thinking 'well luv with a gaff like yours, fk all conversation and fk all knowledge what else would they want?'
One big thing was being told loads of times how blokes 'only want one thing' and I'm thinking 'well luv with a gaff like yours, f
k all conversation and fk all knowledge what else would they want?'Edited by V6Pushfit on Monday 24th October 09:42
V6Pushfit said:
It's because there are some oddballs out there (of both sexes). Total losers who just haven't got what it takes, can't communicate or have too much baggage. '
Also, do people have unreasonable expectations of finding a partner through internet dating. In a lifetime, you meet thousands of people but only a handful would you consider for a partner. Well, you might consider most of them but quickly dismiss them.
With internet dating, people can hide behind good looks or the ability to communicate through electronic means in a way which makes them appealing. Fine if you are going to spend a lifetime of messaging them but that's not what most people want.
When I look at how I met my current partner, I knew her friend, bumped into her friend I the pub whilst they were out together, we liked each other socially and had we not, it would have ended there.
I'm not sure if internet dating is a good thing. Like most social media, it enables people to hide behind a mask more easily than reality.
V6Pushfit said:
It's because there are some oddballs out there (of both sexes). Total losers who just haven't got what it takes, can't communicate or have too much baggage. If someone's looking for a relationship it doesn't augur well if messages have bad spelling, txt spk, or smack of a takeaway and tv lifestyle. I know a great girl who just couldn't get a relationship going after god knows how many dates but her idea of Sunday lunch is a doner kebab and every message will have a 'lol'. Everyone thinks they're the bees knees but the impression they give others who only have a few messages to go on can be the opposite.
One big thing was being told loads of times how blokes 'only want one thing' and I'm thinking 'well luv with a gaff life yours, fk all conversation and fk all knowledge what else would they want?'
To some people though, that'll be absolutely fine, they might want/do the same. So the two just have to find each other. One big thing was being told loads of times how blokes 'only want one thing' and I'm thinking 'well luv with a gaff life yours, f
k all conversation and fk all knowledge what else would they want?'Anything else could be a mismatch. Like someone using perfect spelling, no abbreviations or slang might come over a bit too prim or precise. Possibly even boring.
If you already know that's a characteristic you dont like in someone and you live your life a bit more on the edge with less commas and capital letters, chances are each of those people are going to grate on each other on the bigger stuff as well
andy-xr said:
To some people though, that'll be absolutely fine, they might want/do the same. So the two just have to find each other.
Anything else could be a mismatch. Like someone using perfect spelling, no abbreviations or slang might come over a bit too prim or precise. Possibly even boring.
If you already know that's a characteristic you dont like in someone and you live your life a bit more on the edge with less commas and capital letters, chances are each of those people are going to grate on each other on the bigger stuff as well
You're kidding. Right? Anything else could be a mismatch. Like someone using perfect spelling, no abbreviations or slang might come over a bit too prim or precise. Possibly even boring.
If you already know that's a characteristic you dont like in someone and you live your life a bit more on the edge with less commas and capital letters, chances are each of those people are going to grate on each other on the bigger stuff as well
I failed, pretty spectacularly, at Tinder - Didn't get a single date or even any kind of meet. I was chatty, complimentary when required and funny (I think) - Nothing. Nada. I'm not exactly unattractive, but it just didn't happen for me.
PoF was a disaster too - 1st was "out there", 2nd dumped me for no reason, 3rd didn't go anywhere as she was dull and lied about her age (she was 45, not 35 - Not a real issue, but not what I was looking for) and the 4th just ended abruptly (I suspect that when she said she had a pretty crude sense of humour and loved to be grossed out DIDN'T include goatse). That was when I gave up with online dating.
And met someone at work who, by all rights, should have just told me to ps off for being rude to her. 7 months in and it's still going strong.
PoF was a disaster too - 1st was "out there", 2nd dumped me for no reason, 3rd didn't go anywhere as she was dull and lied about her age (she was 45, not 35 - Not a real issue, but not what I was looking for) and the 4th just ended abruptly (I suspect that when she said she had a pretty crude sense of humour and loved to be grossed out DIDN'T include goatse). That was when I gave up with online dating.
And met someone at work who, by all rights, should have just told me to p
s off for being rude to her. 7 months in and it's still going strong.I am truly staggered by some of these tinder fail stories. Unless you live in the arse end of beyond and there are only about half a dozen members of the opposite sex, I cannot understand how you would only match with a handful and get 1 date in months on end. Surely its a simple numbers game? Its simply not representative of any of the tindering I have witnessed among myself and friends.
I admit I have the advantage of living in a city centre so it no doubt increases numbers in a dense area (and perhaps more singletons in cities than rural), but I would have thought almost anywhere across the country you could get a few matches here and there and some conversation on the back of it leading to a date. Have you asked any female mates to evaluate your profile or read over some of your exchanges to see where you are falling down?
I admit I have the advantage of living in a city centre so it no doubt increases numbers in a dense area (and perhaps more singletons in cities than rural), but I would have thought almost anywhere across the country you could get a few matches here and there and some conversation on the back of it leading to a date. Have you asked any female mates to evaluate your profile or read over some of your exchanges to see where you are falling down?
Just as an update in my personal situation
It's been 4 months and 5 days for my current Girlfriend.
We've yet to have anything resembling an argument, talk all day and we have spent every night together
Her and I are moving into our new house together tomorrow.
I can honestly say I've never been so happy.
It's been 4 months and 5 days for my current Girlfriend.
We've yet to have anything resembling an argument, talk all day and we have spent every night together
Her and I are moving into our new house together tomorrow.
I can honestly say I've never been so happy.
xjay1337 said:
Just as an update in my personal situation
It's been 4 months and 5 days for my current Girlfriend.
We've yet to have anything resembling an argument, talk all day and we have spent every night together
Her and I are moving into our new house together tomorrow.
I can honestly say I've never been so happy.
It's been 4 months and 5 days for my current Girlfriend.
We've yet to have anything resembling an argument, talk all day and we have spent every night together
Her and I are moving into our new house together tomorrow.
I can honestly say I've never been so happy.
Good luck and I hope it continues.xjay1337 said:
Just as an update in my personal situation
It's been 4 months and 5 days for my current Girlfriend.
We've yet to have anything resembling an argument, talk all day and we have spent every night together
Her and I are moving into our new house together tomorrow.
I can honestly say I've never been so happy.
After 4 months you're moving in together before you've even had anything resembling an argument?It's been 4 months and 5 days for my current Girlfriend.
We've yet to have anything resembling an argument, talk all day and we have spent every night together
Her and I are moving into our new house together tomorrow.
I can honestly say I've never been so happy.
It's too good to be true - it's a trap man, run, run!
Joking, that must be a pretty good match you got going on there.
Thanks dude!
Matt UK said:
After 4 months you're moving in together before you've even had anything resembling an argument?
It's too good to be true - it's a trap man, run, run!
Joking, that must be a pretty good match you got going on there.
It's too good to be true - it's a trap man, run, run!
Joking, that must be a pretty good match you got going on there.
I know right? I said to her yesterday, why haven't you been crazy yet, what's going on?
I just think she is not actually mental at all. I've not had any sign of craziness at all yet. not a single hint...
While usually if things are too good to good to be true and all that... I really hope this one lasts a long, long time.
Went round a pal's house for dinner last week and his lovely daughter (in her 30s) was there who I haven't seen for a while. Turns out since I last saw her she has got married to someone she met on Match.com.
She's very attractive, good job, great company etc so they are out there chaps. Bloke she married looks just like a normal fella too, certainly not Clooney-esque and not loaded or anything like that.
She's very attractive, good job, great company etc so they are out there chaps. Bloke she married looks just like a normal fella too, certainly not Clooney-esque and not loaded or anything like that.
Northbloke said:
Went round a pal's house for dinner last week and his lovely daughter (in her 30s) was there who I haven't seen for a while. Turns out since I last saw her she has got married to someone she met on Match.com.
She's very attractive, good job, great company etc so they are out there chaps. Bloke she married looks just like a normal fella too, certainly not Clooney-esque and not loaded or anything like that.
they absolutely are out there yes. She's very attractive, good job, great company etc so they are out there chaps. Bloke she married looks just like a normal fella too, certainly not Clooney-esque and not loaded or anything like that.
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