Match.com (Volume 6)
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Mercury00 said:
I've been on the dating websites for nearly a year now and have had nothing, it's really getting me down now. My life feels like it's just passing quickly by.
I'm not that ugly, and I don't think I'm boring - in fact I'd consider myself quirky, and I'm intelligent. It probably doesn't help living in the middle of nowhere - I set my search radius to about 20 miles and there's still hardly any women. The ones that do pop up are ones that I've already messaged and been ignored by over the past year. Maybe it's time to move to a new city together a new set of potential dates!
Don't Worry mate you will find someone in a place you want expect. (i.e. work, a pub or anywhere)I'm not that ugly, and I don't think I'm boring - in fact I'd consider myself quirky, and I'm intelligent. It probably doesn't help living in the middle of nowhere - I set my search radius to about 20 miles and there's still hardly any women. The ones that do pop up are ones that I've already messaged and been ignored by over the past year. Maybe it's time to move to a new city together a new set of potential dates!
I had a weird one a week ago. A message from someone a dated for a few months early last year - before my estranged wife came home to reconcile things!
It was just a one liner, referencing somewhere we'd been and she re-visited, but I can't understand why she messaged me. We have a mutual friend - someone in my running club (she wasn't in the club, though!) - so surely she knows we've patched things up and moved on?
It was just a one liner, referencing somewhere we'd been and she re-visited, but I can't understand why she messaged me. We have a mutual friend - someone in my running club (she wasn't in the club, though!) - so surely she knows we've patched things up and moved on?
Mercury00 said:
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I live in the middle of nowhere, no women live within my search area, I can't find a woman
You seem to have answered your own questionI live in the middle of nowhere, no women live within my search area, I can't find a woman
Widen your search, 20 miles is nothing
Within 30 miles of me there are the same 6 to 8 women on the two largest dating sites so my search encompasses the whole county, hey presto 1000's of women.
cloggy said:
Mercury00 said:
I've been on the dating websites for nearly a year now and have had nothing, it's really getting me down now. My life feels like it's just passing quickly by.
I'm not that ugly, and I don't think I'm boring - in fact I'd consider myself quirky, and I'm intelligent. It probably doesn't help living in the middle of nowhere - I set my search radius to about 20 miles and there's still hardly any women. The ones that do pop up are ones that I've already messaged and been ignored by over the past year. Maybe it's time to move to a new city together a new set of potential dates!
Don't Worry mate you will find someone in a place you want expect. (i.e. work, a pub or anywhere)I'm not that ugly, and I don't think I'm boring - in fact I'd consider myself quirky, and I'm intelligent. It probably doesn't help living in the middle of nowhere - I set my search radius to about 20 miles and there's still hardly any women. The ones that do pop up are ones that I've already messaged and been ignored by over the past year. Maybe it's time to move to a new city together a new set of potential dates!
Mercury...post your profile, others have in the past and you'll get pretty honest feedback.
I reckon I'd be getting action within a fortnight if I were back in the game.
Pulse said:
Post your profile. Despite it perhaps being a little painful, I'm sure there's a lot of people here who can help.
It can't be anything worse than ChemChaos' profile surely? 
Where is Chem these days anyway? Is he still trying to get off with that mad bird at his hobby meets or whatever it was he was doing?Mercury00 said:
I'm definitely not posting my profile, I'll stick with the sock boomerang next to my bed.
WIDEN YOUR SEARCH!Which bit of "There are no women within my search radius" aren't you getting?
Unless you're driving a Nissan Leaf that's perpetually showing '20 miles to empty' there's no reason to not look further afield
All that jazz said:
It can't be anything worse than ChemChaos' profile surely? Where is Chem these days anyway? Is he still trying to get off with that mad bird at his hobby meets or whatever it was he was doing?
He's here. Was giving viagra advice a couple of pages back Where is Chem these days anyway? Is he still trying to get off with that mad bird at his hobby meets or whatever it was he was doing?As regards messaging people, if you're getting nothing at all, just copy paste message EVERYONE. You WILL get a reply. If still nothing then your pictures and profile must be truly and obtusely awful. I know guys who most wouldn't find attractive, and they still get the occasional message, persistence is key. If after a year you've got no bites then the problem lies with your attitude or techniques.
Pebbles167 said:
He's here. Was giving viagra advice a couple of pages back
As regards messaging people, if you're getting nothing at all, just copy paste message EVERYONE. You WILL get a reply. If still nothing then your pictures and profile must be truly and obtusely awful. I know guys who most wouldn't find attractive, and they still get the occasional message, persistence is key. If after a year you've got no bites then the problem lies with you.
I think above all - don't set your standards too high! - yes, online dating sites look like a 'laminated catalogue of dreams' full of women - but, remember, the odds are not in your favour and there are many average women who consider themselves to be 8 or 9 out of 10 as they receive so many messages.As regards messaging people, if you're getting nothing at all, just copy paste message EVERYONE. You WILL get a reply. If still nothing then your pictures and profile must be truly and obtusely awful. I know guys who most wouldn't find attractive, and they still get the occasional message, persistence is key. If after a year you've got no bites then the problem lies with you.
Yes, message those who you'd consider and 8 or 9, but be mindful that you may be more successful with a 5 or 6. Also remember that it's not all about the looks - I got together with someone quite surprising, based on actually getting on and having fun.
^ Good advice.
Also, people who look 5 or 6 online tend to look 7 in life.
A 9 or 10 will usually look a 7 too, so you're effectively getting the same deal.
Well, sometimes anyway. Who knows? I just message absolutely everyone, meet everyone, always get drunk, usually embarrass myself and occasionally get sex.
Life is hilarious, enjoy it with a beer and a burger.
Peace up, A-Town down, YEAH!
Also, people who look 5 or 6 online tend to look 7 in life.
A 9 or 10 will usually look a 7 too, so you're effectively getting the same deal.
Well, sometimes anyway. Who knows? I just message absolutely everyone, meet everyone, always get drunk, usually embarrass myself and occasionally get sex.
Life is hilarious, enjoy it with a beer and a burger.
Peace up, A-Town down, YEAH!
Vaud said:
I had to re-read that. I thought you were talking about ages for a moment!
No. Looks can be deceiving though.When I was in my early 20's i was flirting with a girl I met on a night out, she looked maybe a year or two younger than me. Turns out she was 13!(maybe 14, which is year 9?)
(Don't report me to the authorities, it stopped there!) On the flipside I got taken home by what I thought was a bit of a cougar, maybe late 30s. Couldn't believe it when she told me she was 26! Luckily I didn't say anything to cause offence.
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