Match.com (Volume 6)
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Blown2CV said:
oh do f
k off and have a fking laugh. Most of it was me taking the piss to amuse myself. Aside from that fking someone from work is no better than fking someone from anywhere else, so why would you not just raise your expectations and go somewhere else instead of settling for some ropey old tart who your eye has grown accustomed to over 20 years of working in the same drab business park office block, only because there is nothing better to look at whist pretending to work. I am issuing a call to arms to fking go out there and get a worthy partner, so what the fk is lonely about that? Now who's the miserable ?
6/10k off and have a fking laugh. Most of it was me taking the piss to amuse myself. Aside from that fking someone from work is no better than fking someone from anywhere else, so why would you not just raise your expectations and go somewhere else instead of settling for some ropey old tart who your eye has grown accustomed to over 20 years of working in the same drab business park office block, only because there is nothing better to look at whist pretending to work. I am issuing a call to arms to fking go out there and get a worthy partner, so what the fk is lonely about that? Now who's the miserable ? 
In other news, I went on a date tonight with a girl I used to sleep with. Turns out that's now a thing again.
Anyway, we got on to the subject of online dating, and she showed me her POF account.. Wow. Cringey messages, pervy messages, and some just plain horrible, nasty messages. Dozens of them. Out of the lot she picked 2 messages that were actually pleasant. No wonder we often don't get replies as the amount of st girls need to sort through is crazy and must jade quite a few of them. It's strange, I've never once had quite such vulgar stuff messaged to me by anyone. I guess it's just the way some guys are towards girls only.
Anyway, we got on to the subject of online dating, and she showed me her POF account.. Wow. Cringey messages, pervy messages, and some just plain horrible, nasty messages. Dozens of them. Out of the lot she picked 2 messages that were actually pleasant. No wonder we often don't get replies as the amount of s
t girls need to sort through is crazy and must jade quite a few of them. It's strange, I've never once had quite such vulgar stuff messaged to me by anyone. I guess it's just the way some guys are towards girls only.Blown2CV said:
your task for monday - go fk someone from your work and see how it plays out.
I would if they would let me. It did happen, years ago. I was a recent grad, she a student doing a summer job. We went out for 2 years, then it ended. We had other jobs by then. Things may differ in small companies, close environments, you can't generalise. There are 700 people at my current work. Some I don't see for weeks on end.k someone from your work and see how it plays out. Personally I'll not date women at work.
If it doesn't work out then I don't want to bump into them in the foyer, or God forbid have to work with them on a project.
I know a guy who was good at his job but dated a bit around our offices. He left for another company and privately said that he didn't really want to 'but the office has become an uncomfortable place - especially at the last conference seeing two exes talking together whilst looking over at me. In hindsight not my finest decisions..'
I like my work and it's important to me. So I'll draw that line. Plus there are more women to date outside work than in, so why bother.
If it doesn't work out then I don't want to bump into them in the foyer, or God forbid have to work with them on a project.
I know a guy who was good at his job but dated a bit around our offices. He left for another company and privately said that he didn't really want to 'but the office has become an uncomfortable place - especially at the last conference seeing two exes talking together whilst looking over at me. In hindsight not my finest decisions..'
I like my work and it's important to me. So I'll draw that line. Plus there are more women to date outside work than in, so why bother.
At few months ago I went on a date. I had a bit of a dicky stomach and accidentally loudly farted in a restaurant. Other people were laughing and this motified my date. She was annoyed espically when she could smell it. Needless to say I never seen her again. Just shows you that she wasn't worth it.
Shore said:
At few months ago I went on a date. I had a bit of a dicky stomach and accidentally loudly farted in a restaurant. Other people were laughing and this motified my date. She was annoyed espically when she could smell it. Needless to say I never seen her again. Just shows you that she wasn't worth it.
While my Mrs and I have a good fart-off I wouldn't fart on a first date.That being said if I did and it offended my date then I'd not want to see her again either. What a princess.
Shore said:
At few months ago I went on a date. I had a bit of a dicky stomach and accidentally loudly farted in a restaurant. Other people were laughing and this motified my date. She was annoyed espically when she could smell it. Needless to say I never seen her again. Just shows you that she wasn't worth it.
Indeed.It's hard to see why she didn't immediately go down on bended knee and propose.
Her loss.
I'd been talking to someone for a few weeks, I know it's above usual, but being busy, shift work etc. Plenty of good banter, photos etc. Met recently and was almost a different person. Reasonably larger, a vague resemblance to the photos, same personality. I do this expecting stuff to be (slightly) different to advertised, but feel this was well off.
I've come away unable to process how I feel about it all though. We got on so well, quiet happy to sit and have a few beers etc. But just feel let down by it all. Is it resentment that I've spent time talking to someone? Being a massive sucker for the game? I dunno, but I've been moping about it. I suppose out of the pan and into the fire...
Suppose I need to compose some kind of 'let down' message too.
I've come away unable to process how I feel about it all though. We got on so well, quiet happy to sit and have a few beers etc. But just feel let down by it all. Is it resentment that I've spent time talking to someone? Being a massive sucker for the game? I dunno, but I've been moping about it. I suppose out of the pan and into the fire...
Suppose I need to compose some kind of 'let down' message too.
roundnround said:
I'd been talking to someone for a few weeks, I know it's above usual, but being busy, shift work etc. Plenty of good banter, photos etc. Met recently and was almost a different person. Reasonably larger, a vague resemblance to the photos, same personality. I do this expecting stuff to be (slightly) different to advertised, but feel this was well off.
I've come away unable to process how I feel about it all though. We got on so well, quiet happy to sit and have a few beers etc. But just feel let down by it all. Is it resentment that I've spent time talking to someone? Being a massive sucker for the game? I dunno, but I've been moping about it. I suppose out of the pan and into the fire...
Suppose I need to compose some kind of 'let down' message too.
don't let her down nicely; tell her it's out of order, and that if she had been honest from the start you could have probably made a go of it, but she fI've come away unable to process how I feel about it all though. We got on so well, quiet happy to sit and have a few beers etc. But just feel let down by it all. Is it resentment that I've spent time talking to someone? Being a massive sucker for the game? I dunno, but I've been moping about it. I suppose out of the pan and into the fire...
Suppose I need to compose some kind of 'let down' message too.
ked it by misrepresenting herself on purpose. roundnround - I had a few of those. Worst being one who turned up dressed like someone 2 decades older and spent the entire evening talking about her adult child with Aspergers. Had a few where they'd been very economical with weight / build, but expected that - and actually dated one of them for a month and had a lot of fun.
Don't worry about the 'let down' message. Mine was 'Enjoyed meeting and had a good time, but don't think there was a spark there. Hope you find what you're looking for. Good luck'.
Once or twice I wanted to be a bit more 'honest' in feedback, especially when they've very obviously lied, but it's not worth it.
Don't worry about the 'let down' message. Mine was 'Enjoyed meeting and had a good time, but don't think there was a spark there. Hope you find what you're looking for. Good luck'.
Once or twice I wanted to be a bit more 'honest' in feedback, especially when they've very obviously lied, but it's not worth it.
Trabi601 said:
roundnround - I had a few of those. Worst being one who turned up dressed like someone 2 decades older and spent the entire evening talking about her adult child with Aspergers. Had a few where they'd been very economical with weight / build, but expected that - and actually dated one of them for a month and had a lot of fun.
Don't worry about the 'let down' message. Mine was 'Enjoyed meeting and had a good time, but don't think there was a spark there. Hope you find what you're looking for. Good luck'.
Once or twice I wanted to be a bit more 'honest' in feedback, especially when they've very obviously lied, but it's not worth it.
isn't it worth it? It would be nice if men were as honest as women in the dating game. After all, it's pretty fDon't worry about the 'let down' message. Mine was 'Enjoyed meeting and had a good time, but don't think there was a spark there. Hope you find what you're looking for. Good luck'.
Once or twice I wanted to be a bit more 'honest' in feedback, especially when they've very obviously lied, but it's not worth it.
king stupid to make st up and use old or creatively edited photos on your profile, because the aim of the game is to meet up, whereupon you immediately get found out. They only thing they are hoping for is for someone to not give a st enough to call them out and/or leave. Call them out, and leave. As a side issue, why would you be worried about telling a complete rando that they must have put on a few pounds and got more boring since they created their dating profile, but dumping someone from work and hoping they don't do a s
t in your packed lunch every day for the next 12 months is totally fine? I quite quickly get bored and often a bit drunk if the girl is nothing like the pictures. It's happened to me a few times where girls have made themselves look a size 12 but are size 16 or more. I wouldn't be as unkind as to say anything to them (although some may think it justified) and sometimes i don't actually mind a bigger girl, but I feel it's a stupid tactic by them. I did sort of politely question one girl though who said her pictures were all from uni, where she was 6 years younger and about 6 Stone lighter... What's the point? Guys are guilty of doing this too to some extent, but not nearly as much as girls, I think they must feel more pressure to look slimmer.
Don't worry about it, you get them occasionally. If you don't want to stay on the date, make your excuses if you must, leave, and start another conversation with someone else. Sometimes the reverse is even true (albeit less common). A decent looker turns out to be a stunner in real life!
Don't worry about it, you get them occasionally. If you don't want to stay on the date, make your excuses if you must, leave, and start another conversation with someone else. Sometimes the reverse is even true (albeit less common). A decent looker turns out to be a stunner in real life!
In my experience, if they only have face shots - then they have something to hide.
Now I don't bother continuing on any conversation if they don't have a full body shot on their profile. Maybe I'll miss out on a few genuine people - c'est la vie, but in the main when I was open minded to it, every single person I met who had face shots only was unattractively large.
It doesn't set the groundwork for a healthy, trusting relationship when you're blatantly lied to before you've even met.
Now I don't bother continuing on any conversation if they don't have a full body shot on their profile. Maybe I'll miss out on a few genuine people - c'est la vie, but in the main when I was open minded to it, every single person I met who had face shots only was unattractively large.
It doesn't set the groundwork for a healthy, trusting relationship when you're blatantly lied to before you've even met.
xjay1337 said:
While my Mrs and I have a good fart-off I wouldn't fart on a first date.
That being said if I did and it offended my date then I'd not want to see her again either. What a princess.
It was accidental but it happened and i had to suck it up. Her face just dropped and she went bright red. Before i done this the date wasnt going too well anyway. She got up and left right after it. I called after her saying i was sorry but she just walked away. She obviously sets her expectations too high and cannot have a laugh so she is not for me. If she followed me into the toilet her eyes would be burning. That being said if I did and it offended my date then I'd not want to see her again either. What a princess.
Shore said:
xjay1337 said:
While my Mrs and I have a good fart-off I wouldn't fart on a first date.
That being said if I did and it offended my date then I'd not want to see her again either. What a princess.
It was accidental but it happened and i had to suck it up. Her face just dropped and she went bright red. Before i done this the date wasnt going too well anyway. She got up and left right after it. I called after her saying i was sorry but she just walked away. She obviously sets her expectations too high and cannot have a laugh so she is not for me. If she followed me into the toilet her eyes would be burning. That being said if I did and it offended my date then I'd not want to see her again either. What a princess.
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