Match.com (Volume 6)

[Shnozz]

Bloody hell - £140? Let it go FFS. Same as that prat from Clapham. I appreciate that might not be pocket change to some folk but its not something to lose sleep about. Its the cost of a Saturday night out at the end of the day. Heaven forbid any of these folk end up divorcing at some stage of their lives. All the £140 meals they can add up on hundreds of dates who you might never see again will seem like a drop in the ocean.

[andy-xr]

Shnozz said:

Bloody hell - £140? Let it go FFS. Same as that prat from Clapham. I appreciate that might not be pocket change to some folk but its not something to lose sleep about. Its the cost of a Saturday night out at the end of the day. Heaven forbid any of these folk end up divorcing at some stage of their lives. All the £140 meals they can add up on hundreds of dates who you might never see again will seem like a drop in the ocean.

It's not even about that. It's the bit where what they're actually saying is 'I'm spending money on you because I want something in return and because I didnt get it, I feel I've wasted my money'

If you werent happy to give a gift because it's actually just a nice decent thing to do, it's not really worth giving no matter how much it cost.

[kowalski655]

Shore said:

Late last year I took a girl I'd been with for a month out for dinner to celebrate her birthday. I paid for the night and got her gifts. The gifts came to a total of £40 and the meal/drinks £100 odd. We split up about a week later so what a waste of money that was

Waiting for her birthday pressie & *then* getting shot of you
I wonder how many women having been wined & dined yesterday will be sending the"Im sorry but...." text?

[Cold]

kowalski655 said:

Waiting for her birthday pressie & *then* getting shot of you
I wonder how many women having been wined & dined yesterday will be sending the"Im sorry but...." text?

Dunno, but I'm looking forward to buying some inexpensive roses for vase in the hallway over the next day or two.

[Gretchen]

Cold said:

kowalski655 said:

Waiting for her birthday pressie & *then* getting shot of you
I wonder how many women having been wined & dined yesterday will be sending the"Im sorry but...." text?

Dunno, but I'm looking forward to buying some inexpensive roses for vase in the hallway over the next day or two.

Too much effort...I got picked up at the end of my road by a 'friend', was out for few hours, he rolled me a smoke and dropped me back. My kind of relationship.

[Blown2CV]

Matt UK said:

Vocal Minority said:

overly heartbroken man said:

After she had ended up taking his watch home by mistake, the mystery man even informed her it was worth €20 but told he not to post it back because 'it'd be too painful to receive the watch in the post and remind me of you'.

Sounds like he would be a touch clingy after the second!

Let's be honest, he sounds like an utter fruit loop, bordering on proper weirdo territory.

With tales like this, you can see why some women want to text for ages and are wary of meeting online dating blokes!

or maybe he just didn't want to divulge his address? Maybe a smart cookie...

[Shore]

trackdemon said:

Hang on, do we think this really happened? I thought it a blatant wind up/'joke'

It did happen and i am quite open to telling people about it. When people tell me about dating nightmares i tell them my story and they either buckle or feel better about their situation

[Gretchen]

I had a message from an old friend asking if I watch Celebs Go Dating. I don't. It turns out the founder of wouldliketomeet and dating guru on said reality show is an 'old flame' of mine. Interesting.

[otherman]

Wombat3 said:

I met Miss "By the way, I don't pay for anything" once. This declared on the way from the car park (where we'd just met) walking towards the restaurant.

I had two of those. One said, on date 1, I make a rule of never paying for anything on a date with a man. At least she was up front about it. The other one spent all of our three dates telling me how marvellous her last boyfriend was for bailing her out of debt and lending her money. I decided not to be the next mug in line, even with a great body on offer in exchange.

[battered]

I would like to think that if I ever had the misfortune to meet one such I'd have the good sense to call the date off and the wit to give her the bus fare home and wish her well in life.

[Blown2CV]

otherman said:

Wombat3 said:

I met Miss "By the way, I don't pay for anything" once. This declared on the way from the car park (where we'd just met) walking towards the restaurant.

I had two of those. One said, on date 1, I make a rule of never paying for anything on a date with a man. At least she was up front about it. The other one spent all of our three dates telling me how marvellous her last boyfriend was for bailing her out of debt and lending her money. I decided not to be the next mug in line, even with a great body on offer in exchange.

i think at that point i'd be saying that there's a first time for anything, such as now for example, where you'll be paying for a taxi home - goodnight.

[trackdemon]

Blown2CV said:

otherman said:

Wombat3 said:

I met Miss "By the way, I don't pay for anything" once. This declared on the way from the car park (where we'd just met) walking towards the restaurant.

I had two of those. One said, on date 1, I make a rule of never paying for anything on a date with a man. At least she was up front about it. The other one spent all of our three dates telling me how marvellous her last boyfriend was for bailing her out of debt and lending her money. I decided not to be the next mug in line, even with a great body on offer in exchange.

i think at that point i'd be saying that there's a first time for anything, such as now for example, where you'll be paying for a taxi home - goodnight.

I'd have dinner and then 'go to the loo' with my jacket and never return. See how you like it, love.

[Wombat3]

trackdemon said:

Blown2CV said:

otherman said:

Wombat3 said:

I met Miss "By the way, I don't pay for anything" once. This declared on the way from the car park (where we'd just met) walking towards the restaurant.

I had two of those. One said, on date 1, I make a rule of never paying for anything on a date with a man. At least she was up front about it. The other one spent all of our three dates telling me how marvellous her last boyfriend was for bailing her out of debt and lending her money. I decided not to be the next mug in line, even with a great body on offer in exchange.

i think at that point i'd be saying that there's a first time for anything, such as now for example, where you'll be paying for a taxi home - goodnight.

I'd have dinner and then 'go to the loo' with my jacket and never return. See how you like it, love.

The thought occurred (obviously!) but it seemed easier just to walk away - also encouraged by the fact that it seemed that the profile pictures were perhaps not that recent as it turned out!)

[mondayo]

Shnozz said:

Bloody hell - £140? Let it go FFS. Same as that prat from Clapham. I appreciate that might not be pocket change to some folk but its not something to lose sleep about. Its the cost of a Saturday night out at the end of the day. Heaven forbid any of these folk end up divorcing at some stage of their lives. All the £140 meals they can add up on hundreds of dates who you might never see again will seem like a drop in the ocean.

Just as counter point to those that are having a tough time on the dating front and those who don't like paying for meals/drinks on dates.
Not sure what the fella in the paper was on...nutter. Must have been some night, spending over £80 on drinks.
I had quite a few dates that didn't really go anywhere but just chalked it up to experience...the best second date I ever went on, my date paid for dinner!

[JimmyConwayNW]

mondayo said:

Just as counter point to those that are having a tough time on the dating front and those who don't like paying for meals/drinks on dates.
Not sure what the fella in the paper was on...nutter. Must have been some night, spending over £80 on drinks.
I had quite a few dates that didn't really go anywhere but just chalked it up to experience...the best second date I ever went on, my date paid for dinner!

No issue paying on dates and I think it is the gentlemanly thing to do. If they are actually attractive you won't be the only one wanting to date them.
Obviously a month or 2 in you can change all that you have reeled them in by then right

I am 30 and currently dating again. Instagram seems to be the place to convert dates tbh for me but seem to just have girls in their early 20's wanting to go out with me. Keep getting DM's off girls on there wanting to go out - some of them have been really attractive but I cant actually help but feel some of its to good to be true.

Been out with 4 over the last 10 days, not half done some mileage. Bloody tiring business this.

[Pebbles167]

How far do you travel to date? My search ceiteria is set to 15 miles, but I don't usually bother meeting people who live much over 10 miles, and 90 percent of my dates are within 5 miles.

[SpeckledJim]

Pebbles167 said:

How far do you travel to date? My search ceiteria is set to 15 miles, but I don't usually bother meeting people who live much over 10 miles, and 90 percent of my dates are within 5 miles.

Unless you live in down-town Hong Kong or somewhere else with a million people within a par-5 of your shag-pad, that doesn't half sound unnecessarily restrictive.

Are you a termite?

[Sway]

Gretchen said:

I had a message from an old friend asking if I watch Celebs Go Dating. I don't. It turns out the founder of wouldliketomeet and dating guru on said reality show is an 'old flame' of mine. Interesting.

If it's who I think it is, he comes across as a bit of a plum. TV edit notwithstanding.

There's a cracking example of a woman taking the piss on a date - crying at a 'mixer' where the celebs were supposed to set up a date or two, nice chap tries to comfort her, she asks him out.

swanky restaurant, she's ordering tequila after tequila, plus all the expensive food options, leaves him with a £170 bill then decides she's not 'into' him...

Although fair play, the 'relationship coaches' lay into her big time as the fella clearly isn't wealthy. Then she does it all over again (plus oysters which he doesn't like) with a 'banker' - when within twenty minutes she's already decided he's not getting any further.

Bear is fking funny on it though, clearly using it for as much transient fanny as possible, while they're acting like he's looking for a soul mate.

[Pebbles167]

SpeckledJim said:

Unless you live in down-town Hong Kong or somewhere else with a million people within a par-5 of your shag-pad, that doesn't half sound unnecessarily restrictive.

Are you a termite?

Not a termite

No don't get me wrong, I'm not against dating further, it just that there are a lot of people online in my area so seems a bit needless going miles away.

I live in Wiltshire, so not particularly busy. But the "near me" feature on POF flags up loads of girls, and a fair few are more than happy to chat.

[battered]

olly22n said:

My gf is 40 miles away. It's bliss.

And in my incestuous little town its nice having a gf with no 'history'.

Good call on both points. My mate has lived in the same town all his life, he knows everyone. One pal who could certainly be a "friend with benefits" is off limits because she was his brother's gf in about 1985 so is firmly off limits. Shame, because she's a nice lass.