Match.com (Volume 6)

Match.com (Volume 6)

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Shore

412 posts

87 months

Saturday 29th April 2017
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xjay1337 said:
Do any of you have Mrs who moan at you for using your phone.
Time to give her a reason to moan at you for using your phone I'm afraid. Get yourself onto POF and show her.

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Saturday 29th April 2017
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johnwilliams77 said:
No - why would she?
Apparently I'm on it all the time.

Guess I shouldn't message friends.

johnwilliams77

8,308 posts

102 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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xjay1337 said:
Apparently I'm on it all the time.

Guess I shouldn't message friends.
Strange
Time to move on

davek_964

8,796 posts

174 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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My date on Friday went pretty well. She is not my normal type but it was very clear we fancied each other from the instant we met - considering our ages (late 40s, early 50s) we behaved a bit like teenagers in a corner of the pub. We may also have proven that we are extremely compatible in the bedroom.

Now it's time to rewind a bit and make sure there is more to it than that. There are a few things I'm a little concerned about which I suspect may become issues. For one, for various reasons she doesn't have to work which I'm likely to get a bit jealous of! But it's more the fact that although her disposable income is at least equal to mine (and I suspect more) she still seems to think that at least the majority of a dinner / drinks bill etc should fall to me. I disagree pretty strongly - my last g/f had much less disposable income than me and I was happy to pay the majority even for things like holidays. But I'm not sub'ing somebody who's more than capable of paying their own way.

So we'll see. I've told the other ladies I was chatting to on POF that I'm off the market for now but might be back. If I'm back on there quickly I hope they're both still free because they seemed great so far.

We're meeting up today, so let's see who gets lunch!

johnwilliams77

8,308 posts

102 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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davek_964 said:
My date on Friday went pretty well. She is not my normal type but it was very clear we fancied each other from the instant we met - considering our ages (late 40s, early 50s) we behaved a bit like teenagers in a corner of the pub. We may also have proven that we are extremely compatible in the bedroom.

Now it's time to rewind a bit and make sure there is more to it than that. There are a few things I'm a little concerned about which I suspect may become issues. For one, for various reasons she doesn't have to work which I'm likely to get a bit jealous of! But it's more the fact that although her disposable income is at least equal to mine (and I suspect more) she still seems to think that at least the majority of a dinner / drinks bill etc should fall to me. I disagree pretty strongly - my last g/f had much less disposable income than me and I was happy to pay the majority even for things like holidays. But I'm not sub'ing somebody who's more than capable of paying their own way.

So we'll see. I've told the other ladies I was chatting to on POF that I'm off the market for now but might be back. If I'm back on there quickly I hope they're both still free because they seemed great so far.

We're meeting up today, so let's see who gets lunch!
Glad you enjoyed yourself but telling the others you're off the market seems like an odd move? It's code for saying you found a shag and you'll be back if you fancy another one. Surely they're less likely to still find you interesting?

davek_964

8,796 posts

174 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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johnwilliams77 said:
Glad you enjoyed yourself but telling the others you're off the market seems like an odd move? It's code for saying you found a shag and you'll be back if you fancy another one. Surely they're less likely to still find you interesting?
Both seemed happy to be told that, and I think both would be happy to meet up with me if it doesn't work out and they're still free. The fact that we slept together is irrelevant - one of the other ladies asked to move to a call or meet on Thursday evening, and I said no because I already had a date planned. I think people my age prefer that kind of behaviour (and obviously I wouldn't say that I'd slept with somebody).

sc0tt

18,032 posts

200 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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"Hi ladies, i'm off the market but might be back..."

What on earth made you think that would be a great choice of words?

Blown2CV

28,697 posts

202 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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sc0tt said:
"Hi ladies, i'm off the market but might be back..."

What on earth made you think that would be a great choice of words?
trying to make himself sound like some kind of special prize only available to the super-lucky. Actually made himself sound like an un-pairable emotionless tool.

Blown2CV

28,697 posts

202 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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xjay1337 said:
Do any of you have Mrs who moan at you for using your phone.
how much time do you spend on your phone in her company?

Trabi601

4,865 posts

94 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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Off the market after one date and a leg-over?

That is frankly a bit odd.

Shore

412 posts

87 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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Off the market after one date ? My goodness this is going to end bad. Get back on POF I've dated two girls at the same time before.

You don't seem 100% about this woman so go out with another and see how she is. You ain't cheating on her and I bet she does the same.

There's an old saying "having a few girls is better than having one". "Affairs allow you to experience different things"

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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Blown2CV said:
how much time do you spend on your phone in her company?
Not as much as she makes out.
We spoke yesterday and she apparently doesn't like it when i reply straight away to people. I don't pull it out mid conversation but I will get back to some people when we are walking around Aldi.... apparently thats a big thing.

I suspect I'm on my phone more than i think I am but less than she thinks I am.

For now Ive simply told her I won't go on it as much. Ive muted my group chats. Already cut down by not using it in bed before we sleep or when we're watching TV together.


johnwilliams77

8,308 posts

102 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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xjay1337 said:
Not as much as she makes out.
We spoke yesterday and she apparently doesn't like it when i reply straight away to people. I don't pull it out mid conversation but I will get back to some people when we are walking around Aldi.... apparently thats a big thing.

I suspect I'm on my phone more than i think I am but less than she thinks I am.

For now Ive simply told her I won't go on it as much. Already cut down by not using it in bed before we sleep or when we're watching TV together.
WTF - that bit about not using it when watching tv....her rules or yours?

Also - can you not think of better things to do before sleep...

JimmyConwayNW

3,056 posts

124 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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xjay1337 said:
Not as much as she makes out.
We spoke yesterday and she apparently doesn't like it when i reply straight away to people. I don't pull it out mid conversation but I will get back to some people when we are walking around Aldi.... apparently thats a big thing.

I suspect I'm on my phone more than i think I am but less than she thinks I am.

For now Ive simply told her I won't go on it as much. Already cut down by not using it in bed before we sleep or when we're watching TV together.
Probably best to give swiping right on tinder a break when with the Mrs to be fair.

steveo3002

10,494 posts

173 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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dare you to look at the phone when you're ..erm mounting her

davek_964

8,796 posts

174 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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Blimey, wasn't really expecting quite that reaction.

I have no interest in dating multiple people at the same time. I've been on dating sites many times in the past and didn't then either.

At the point I speak to somebody on the phone / meet them, then I do not do the same for others until we decide it's not what we want - which might be immediately or some time down the line.

I wasn't trying to appear as anything to the ladies I told - we had been chatting and both had suggested meeting so I simply explained politely why I wouldn't. Believe it or not, in my experience and certainly at this age they prefer a little honesty over the type of guy who is trying to date as many as possible.

At the end of the day, I'm not actually trying to date any of you so I don't really give a flying fk what you think. I have my own rules for dating and I'm happy with them and will stick to them.

Given the useful wealth of advice on my brief post on this thread, I think I'll keep my future experiences to myself. Good luck for the other daters.

CharlesdeGaulle

26,093 posts

179 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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davek_964 said:
Given the useful wealth of advice on my brief post on this thread, I think I'll keep my future experiences to myself. Good luck for the other daters.
Ignore the comments from the self-styled studs on here davek. I suspect many of them are very much younger and are in a very different game to you. I also suspect that the more gentlemanly approach works better with your demographic than theirs.

Please do keep the stories coming though - there is some vicarious fun to be had in this thread! Good luck.

Gretchen

18,998 posts

215 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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davek_964 said:
Blimey, wasn't really expecting quite that reaction.

I have no interest in dating multiple people at the same time. I've been on dating sites many times in the past and didn't then either.

At the point I speak to somebody on the phone / meet them, then I do not do the same for others until we decide it's not what we want - which might be immediately or some time down the line.

I wasn't trying to appear as anything to the ladies I told - we had been chatting and both had suggested meeting so I simply explained politely why I wouldn't. Believe it or not, in my experience and certainly at this age they prefer a little honesty over the type of guy who is trying to date as many as possible.

At the end of the day, I'm not actually trying to date any of you so I don't really give a flying fk what you think. I have my own rules for dating and I'm happy with them and will stick to them.

Given the useful wealth of advice on my brief post on this thread, I think I'll keep my future experiences to myself. Good luck for the other daters.
To be fair I do this.

It might also explain why some of the posters here have women 'disappear' from contact. I'd imagine there's more that do this than realised.

It's just easier. Not having to keep up with multiple amounts of info on different people. You get to 'give your all' to someone. Don't see the point in giving a percentage and then months down the line realising you're not being yourself.

Good luck.

gregs656

10,818 posts

180 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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davek_964 said:
Blimey, wasn't really expecting quite that reaction.

I have no interest in dating multiple people at the same time. I've been on dating sites many times in the past and didn't then either.

At the point I speak to somebody on the phone / meet them, then I do not do the same for others until we decide it's not what we want - which might be immediately or some time down the line.
I think that is fair enough.


Blown2CV

28,697 posts

202 months

Sunday 30th April 2017
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Shore said:
Off the market after one date ? My goodness this is going to end bad.
i didn't think that was the bit that was the issue... after all if he was dating a number of girls at the same time, that might be seen as unethical. I rather thought it was more the wording suggesting he would be back dating again soon that was weirder.

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