Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
I created a profile on match.com but have not yet subscribed as I'm a little dubious.
So far I've alledgely had over a hundred views of my profile, 6 "winks" and 6 people have "favourited" me. I've have 2 random emails from foreign looking accounts.
Naturally I can't see the winks and favourites unless I subscribe, which I'm thinking about - however no-one is going to be able to read or reply to my message unless they are also a paying member and there doesn't seem to be a way to determine who is and who isn't a current paying member.
Out of pure perverse interest I setup a separate profile as a woman, using a stock picture so I could have a look at my "competition". Within 24 hours my "female" account had 80 odd views, 24 winks, 18 favourites and 8 messages - one of which I could read and respond to which I found random.
I kind of thought a paid site might attract people who are serious but unless you and the person you are messages are subscribers the it seems a tad pointless: /
So far I've alledgely had over a hundred views of my profile, 6 "winks" and 6 people have "favourited" me. I've have 2 random emails from foreign looking accounts.
Naturally I can't see the winks and favourites unless I subscribe, which I'm thinking about - however no-one is going to be able to read or reply to my message unless they are also a paying member and there doesn't seem to be a way to determine who is and who isn't a current paying member.
Out of pure perverse interest I setup a separate profile as a woman, using a stock picture so I could have a look at my "competition". Within 24 hours my "female" account had 80 odd views, 24 winks, 18 favourites and 8 messages - one of which I could read and respond to which I found random.
I kind of thought a paid site might attract people who are serious but unless you and the person you are messages are subscribers the it seems a tad pointless: /
Jonathanm5550 said:
I created a profile on match.com but have not yet subscribed as I'm a little dubious.
So far I've alledgely had over a hundred views of my profile, 6 "winks" and 6 people have "favourited" me. I've have 2 random emails from foreign looking accounts.
Naturally I can't see the winks and favourites unless I subscribe, which I'm thinking about - however no-one is going to be able to read or reply to my message unless they are also a paying member and there doesn't seem to be a way to determine who is and who isn't a current paying member.
Out of pure perverse interest I setup a separate profile as a woman, using a stock picture so I could have a look at my "competition". Within 24 hours my "female" account had 80 odd views, 24 winks, 18 favourites and 8 messages - one of which I could read and respond to which I found random.
I kind of thought a paid site might attract people who are serious but unless you and the person you are messages are subscribers the it seems a tad pointless: /
Obviously yes. So far I've alledgely had over a hundred views of my profile, 6 "winks" and 6 people have "favourited" me. I've have 2 random emails from foreign looking accounts.
Naturally I can't see the winks and favourites unless I subscribe, which I'm thinking about - however no-one is going to be able to read or reply to my message unless they are also a paying member and there doesn't seem to be a way to determine who is and who isn't a current paying member.
Out of pure perverse interest I setup a separate profile as a woman, using a stock picture so I could have a look at my "competition". Within 24 hours my "female" account had 80 odd views, 24 winks, 18 favourites and 8 messages - one of which I could read and respond to which I found random.
I kind of thought a paid site might attract people who are serious but unless you and the person you are messages are subscribers the it seems a tad pointless: /
Jonathanm5550 said:
I created a profile on match.com but have not yet subscribed as I'm a little dubious.
So far I've alledgely had over a hundred views of my profile, 6 "winks" and 6 people have "favourited" me. I've have 2 random emails from foreign looking accounts.
Naturally I can't see the winks and favourites unless I subscribe, which I'm thinking about - however no-one is going to be able to read or reply to my message unless they are also a paying member and there doesn't seem to be a way to determine who is and who isn't a current paying member.
Out of pure perverse interest I setup a separate profile as a woman, using a stock picture so I could have a look at my "competition". Within 24 hours my "female" account had 80 odd views, 24 winks, 18 favourites and 8 messages - one of which I could read and respond to which I found random.
I kind of thought a paid site might attract people who are serious but unless you and the person you are messages are subscribers the it seems a tad pointless: /
I subscribed to a dating site years ago just for a month to give it a go, had no messages or anything. A few days after my subscription expired I received about 10 messages, of course I couldn't read them unless I renewed my subscription...So far I've alledgely had over a hundred views of my profile, 6 "winks" and 6 people have "favourited" me. I've have 2 random emails from foreign looking accounts.
Naturally I can't see the winks and favourites unless I subscribe, which I'm thinking about - however no-one is going to be able to read or reply to my message unless they are also a paying member and there doesn't seem to be a way to determine who is and who isn't a current paying member.
Out of pure perverse interest I setup a separate profile as a woman, using a stock picture so I could have a look at my "competition". Within 24 hours my "female" account had 80 odd views, 24 winks, 18 favourites and 8 messages - one of which I could read and respond to which I found random.
I kind of thought a paid site might attract people who are serious but unless you and the person you are messages are subscribers the it seems a tad pointless: /
With Match, the way I filtered out any non subscribers was simply to add any profiles I was interested into my favourities before ever messaging them.
I found this alone raised their curiosity if they were subscribed (and therefore could see I had done so), once they then took a look at mine it indicated they were active and could also as a result read any message.
It also tends to filters out the subscribed window shoppers, as they cannot even be arsed to take a look at any profile that has favourited theirs so not worth messaging anyway.
I found this alone raised their curiosity if they were subscribed (and therefore could see I had done so), once they then took a look at mine it indicated they were active and could also as a result read any message.
It also tends to filters out the subscribed window shoppers, as they cannot even be arsed to take a look at any profile that has favourited theirs so not worth messaging anyway.
so if they are not paying a subscription does this mean they cannot see the messages they receive?
only joined a few weeks ago, sent a message, followed by another the next day to no reply (it wasn't read and missing the tick to say read) anyway fast forward a few days and said girl decides to click the wink bit, the add to favourites and so on. So i send another message but yet again no reply or message read tick but she keeps viewing my profile.
Is it a case of waiting for her to pay the subscription so she can see my messages and so on
I'm finding the whole thing a little frustrating.
only joined a few weeks ago, sent a message, followed by another the next day to no reply (it wasn't read and missing the tick to say read) anyway fast forward a few days and said girl decides to click the wink bit, the add to favourites and so on. So i send another message but yet again no reply or message read tick but she keeps viewing my profile.
Is it a case of waiting for her to pay the subscription so she can see my messages and so on
I'm finding the whole thing a little frustrating.
_Rich_ said:
so if they are not paying a subscription does this mean they cannot see the messages they receive?
only joined a few weeks ago, sent a message, followed by another the next day to no reply (it wasn't read and missing the tick to say read) anyway fast forward a few days and said girl decides to click the wink bit, the add to favourites and so on. So i send another message but yet again no reply or message read tick but she keeps viewing my profile.
Is it a case of waiting for her to pay the subscription so she can see my messages and so on
I'm finding the whole thing a little frustrating.
i'm really confused as to why so many of you are all of a sudden confused. It's not a charity! You fonly joined a few weeks ago, sent a message, followed by another the next day to no reply (it wasn't read and missing the tick to say read) anyway fast forward a few days and said girl decides to click the wink bit, the add to favourites and so on. So i send another message but yet again no reply or message read tick but she keeps viewing my profile.
Is it a case of waiting for her to pay the subscription so she can see my messages and so on
I'm finding the whole thing a little frustrating.
king pay, they fking pay, you fking message each other, you fking fk, and that's fking it. Blown2CV said:
_Rich_ said:
so if they are not paying a subscription does this mean they cannot see the messages they receive?
only joined a few weeks ago, sent a message, followed by another the next day to no reply (it wasn't read and missing the tick to say read) anyway fast forward a few days and said girl decides to click the wink bit, the add to favourites and so on. So i send another message but yet again no reply or message read tick but she keeps viewing my profile.
Is it a case of waiting for her to pay the subscription so she can see my messages and so on
I'm finding the whole thing a little frustrating.
i'm really confused as to why so many of you are all of a sudden confused. It's not a charity! You fonly joined a few weeks ago, sent a message, followed by another the next day to no reply (it wasn't read and missing the tick to say read) anyway fast forward a few days and said girl decides to click the wink bit, the add to favourites and so on. So i send another message but yet again no reply or message read tick but she keeps viewing my profile.
Is it a case of waiting for her to pay the subscription so she can see my messages and so on
I'm finding the whole thing a little frustrating.
king pay, they fking pay, you fking message each other, you fking fk, and that's fking it. i pay for it,
i message someone yet no reply,
is it a case of they need to pay to see said message?
Sorry for not knowing don't how the whole thing works and asking a question!
Ignore him Rich, he is a well known smart arse cock on here.
That is correct, if they have not paid a subscription then they cannot read any message sent to them until they do or even see who has winked/favourited or even viewed their profile.
Many on match just window shop so don't pay the fees.
The only way they can is if you pay extra for non subscribers to be able to read your message, which is a waste of time/money if they are not actively getting involved anyway
That is correct, if they have not paid a subscription then they cannot read any message sent to them until they do or even see who has winked/favourited or even viewed their profile.
Many on match just window shop so don't pay the fees.
The only way they can is if you pay extra for non subscribers to be able to read your message, which is a waste of time/money if they are not actively getting involved anyway
PAUL500 said:
Ignore him Rich, he is a well known smart arse cock on here.
That is correct, if they have not paid a subscription then they cannot read any message sent to them until they do or even see who has winked/favourited or even viewed their profile.
Many on match just window shop so don't pay the fees.
The only way they can is if you pay extra for non subscribers to be able to read your message, which is a waste of time/money if they are not actively getting involved anyway
Ah ok, thank you for the reply. it's harder than i thought this whole online dating stuff.That is correct, if they have not paid a subscription then they cannot read any message sent to them until they do or even see who has winked/favourited or even viewed their profile.
Many on match just window shop so don't pay the fees.
The only way they can is if you pay extra for non subscribers to be able to read your message, which is a waste of time/money if they are not actively getting involved anyway
PAUL500 said:
Ignore him Rich, he is a well known smart arse cock on here.
That is correct, if they have not paid a subscription then they cannot read any message sent to them until they do or even see who has winked/favourited or even viewed their profile.
Many on match just window shop so don't pay the fees.
The only way they can is if you pay extra for non subscribers to be able to read your message, which is a waste of time/money if they are not actively getting involved anyway
I wouldn't ignore me just because I won't blow smoke up peoples' arses. You might want to listen to people who have actually made a success of it, rather than 'lifestyle' serial singles who somehow never manage to settle down. That is correct, if they have not paid a subscription then they cannot read any message sent to them until they do or even see who has winked/favourited or even viewed their profile.
Many on match just window shop so don't pay the fees.
The only way they can is if you pay extra for non subscribers to be able to read your message, which is a waste of time/money if they are not actively getting involved anyway
"she didn't reply so it must be that she really wants to but somehow can't" yep!! That's it. She's the love of your life and your love is prevented by evil website like Romeo and Juliet's warring families.
....Or, it could be a s
t message/profile/appearance. Blown2CV said:
I wouldn't ignore me just because I won't blow smoke up peoples' arses. You might want to listen to people who have actually made a success of it, rather than 'lifestyle' serial singles who somehow never manage to settle down.
"she didn't reply so it must be that she really wants to but somehow can't" yep!! That's it. She's the love of your life and your love is prevented by evil website like Romeo and Juliet's warring families.
....Or, it could be a st message/profile/appearance.
You are a strange person. "she didn't reply so it must be that she really wants to but somehow can't" yep!! That's it. She's the love of your life and your love is prevented by evil website like Romeo and Juliet's warring families.
....Or, it could be a s
t message/profile/appearance. I think I've reached the point where I've lost interest in the dating sites for now - even though I have only been on there for a month. Not really surprising, since it wasn't my intention to use them yet - I just wanted to get the profile creation out of the way so it was easy to start when I did feel like it - but having done that it was hard not to browse and message people...
I had a second date with somebody on Friday which went well, but although we exchanged a few messages since I don't think either of us are bothered about meeting again.
I have a first date tomorrow with somebody who seems very interesting so I'll see how that goes. But if it doesn't go anywhere I will probably leave it for a while. I'm not chatting to anybody else on the site at the moment - although I've browsed several times over the last few days, I find I really can't be bothered to start a conversation with people.
It's at least proved that it is still fairly easy to get dates - tomorrow will be the 5th lady I've met in a month I think, and since I will only meet one person at a time that seems reasonable.
Ironically, if I do give up on the site for now - the first lady I met and I have remained in contact as friends and actually get on very well. When you are a bit more relaxed and remove the "is she / isn't she girlfriend material" pressure things feel a bit more natural - so who knows, we might yet end up together for a while after all!
I had a second date with somebody on Friday which went well, but although we exchanged a few messages since I don't think either of us are bothered about meeting again.
I have a first date tomorrow with somebody who seems very interesting so I'll see how that goes. But if it doesn't go anywhere I will probably leave it for a while. I'm not chatting to anybody else on the site at the moment - although I've browsed several times over the last few days, I find I really can't be bothered to start a conversation with people.
It's at least proved that it is still fairly easy to get dates - tomorrow will be the 5th lady I've met in a month I think, and since I will only meet one person at a time that seems reasonable.
Ironically, if I do give up on the site for now - the first lady I met and I have remained in contact as friends and actually get on very well. When you are a bit more relaxed and remove the "is she / isn't she girlfriend material" pressure things feel a bit more natural - so who knows, we might yet end up together for a while after all!
lemmingjames said:
Echo66 said:
Back in the day POF had its casual meet ups/ FwB option. Got binned a few years ago mainly cos of the reputation the platform was getting. SOme right fookin mingers parading their stuff. Anyone who rooted one of them should have been given a medal......& a decontamination sesh!
Wheres council baby gone?And no, f
k off, I'm picky...Not that picky but still.
Well, my date on Friday was disappointing. In person, she wasn't my type at all which is a shame.
I hadn't been chatting to anybody else on there recently, which left me struggling to summon the effort to start again. Over the weekend I really thought about ditching the whole thing for a while - but eventually concluded that although the dating / getting to know somebody part can be a total pain - I do actually want to be in a relationship again so really need to put the effort in. (The stunning Russian lady I met at a friends BBQ helped - if anybody wants to knock off her idiot husband and kidnap her kids, let me know!).
Started chatting to one lady yesterday afternoon, but her kids were still young so not what I'm looking for.
Then shortly before I was planning to go to bed, got chatting to another lady - and that continued until 1am, including a 30 min phone call. She appears to tick all the boxes - very attractive, clever, funny, into cars, kids are old enough to have left home etc.
Hopefully that will continue and we can meet up - although I confess I don't really expect it to go anywhere. I usually do pretty well on the actual dates, but I'm a realist and I'm pretty sure this lady is out of my league! But who knows - perhaps she's got bad eyesight......
I hadn't been chatting to anybody else on there recently, which left me struggling to summon the effort to start again. Over the weekend I really thought about ditching the whole thing for a while - but eventually concluded that although the dating / getting to know somebody part can be a total pain - I do actually want to be in a relationship again so really need to put the effort in. (The stunning Russian lady I met at a friends BBQ helped - if anybody wants to knock off her idiot husband and kidnap her kids, let me know!).
Started chatting to one lady yesterday afternoon, but her kids were still young so not what I'm looking for.
Then shortly before I was planning to go to bed, got chatting to another lady - and that continued until 1am, including a 30 min phone call. She appears to tick all the boxes - very attractive, clever, funny, into cars, kids are old enough to have left home etc.
Hopefully that will continue and we can meet up - although I confess I don't really expect it to go anywhere. I usually do pretty well on the actual dates, but I'm a realist and I'm pretty sure this lady is out of my league! But who knows - perhaps she's got bad eyesight......
My first date is tomorrow night. I've been chatting and texting her since last week and we get in great. Her photos tick the boxes as well.
The only thing I worried about is that I was hoping to just meet a few women for fun and not get involved with anyone. But, this woman is great and I'm very attracted to her pictures and personality. Maybe she will stink when we meet.
The only thing I worried about is that I was hoping to just meet a few women for fun and not get involved with anyone. But, this woman is great and I'm very attracted to her pictures and personality. Maybe she will stink when we meet.
Steve vRS said:
My first date is tomorrow night. I've been chatting and texting her since last week and we get in great. Her photos tick the boxes as well.
The only thing I worried about is that I was hoping to just meet a few women for fun and not get involved with anyone. But, this woman is great and I'm very attracted to her pictures and personality. Maybe she will stink when we meet.
Be careful of the "2 year out of date photo" .The only thing I worried about is that I was hoping to just meet a few women for fun and not get involved with anyone. But, this woman is great and I'm very attracted to her pictures and personality. Maybe she will stink when we meet.
I wouldn't be "too" interested, play it cool etc. Also, custard test.
davek_964 said:
Hopefully that will continue and we can meet up - although I confess I don't really expect it to go anywhere. I usually do pretty well on the actual dates, but I'm a realist and I'm pretty sure this lady is out of my league! But who knows - perhaps she's got bad eyesight......
No, she's got baggage. Doesn't mean you cannot have fun...!
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