Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
edc said:
ChemicalChaos said:
"Chemistry student at Liverpool Uni, Also a pilot, racing driver, musician and gamer. Generally all-round awesome, but then I would say that wouldn't I? "
It all reads a bit try-hard metroxesual. Unless you are a top echelon driver or pilot then let's face it it's not really going to impress anyone on a superficial level. Your picture says 'I am a normal guy' your text says 'I want people to think I am awesome'. I am sure you are in your own way but people are going to look at your pic and your text and just think timewaster.Chem Student, wannabe Louis Pasteur in Liverpool. Collector of moments, not things. Love adventure, travelling and music. Glass always at least half full. No time for pessimists.
ChemicalChaos said:
Ok, so I sent to her:
"Hi [x], no duckface or yolo in your profile means you're winning tinder today! So, which half of you is from Greece? :P And where is the other half from?"
This was half an hour ago. Just checked back and she's unmatched me
Would you be willing to hand over your login details to others for 24 hours, see what happens"Hi [x], no duckface or yolo in your profile means you're winning tinder today! So, which half of you is from Greece? :P And where is the other half from?"
This was half an hour ago. Just checked back and she's unmatched me
RichTT said:
I did Match.com for a grand total of two months. Had two dates. Married the second one, and will be 5 years married in Sept Sometimes it's just timing and luck, and a bit'o the banter.
Common interests help.
I was on another dating website for 6 months and although I was firing rock salt out of my chap by the end of it, I hadn't really found anyone who was marriage material. I was on Match for less than 2 weeks when I was winked at by a cute little welsh girl. Although I turned up 1/2 late for our first date, she obviously recognised the awesomeness in me and we married in September. I put up a picture of me in (ahem) country casual, kept them guessing with a brief profile, and said I was the outdoors type who liked long walks in the countryside..... and let them get on with it. On the previous site effort was required on my part (it was a numbers game, but once you had them hooked it was like shooting fish in a barrel)Common interests help.
Pictures of you on a lads weekend, wearing a t-shirt and cap and holding a can of 8 Ace will not cut it with the Match crowd. I'm basing this on my wife's experience of profile viewing and dates etc.
andy-xr said:
Would you be willing to hand over your login details to others for 24 hours, see what happens
Not to an internet randomer - especially as it involves logging in via facebook!!!I might be willing to let someone have half an hour on it with my phone, whilst in the same room as me
ChemicalChaos said:
andy-xr said:
Would you be willing to hand over your login details to others for 24 hours, see what happens
Not to an internet randomer - especially as it involves logging in via facebook!!!I might be willing to let someone have half an hour on it with my phone, whilst in the same room as me
Vincefox said:
Better surely to trust to serendipity and the magic of chance?
I’ve seen a lot of strange stuff, but I’ve never seen anything to make me believe there’s a magic of chance controlling everything. There’s no mystical energy field that controls my destiny. It’s all a lot of simple tricks and nonsense.Mr Roper said:
I’ve seen a lot of strange stuff, but I’ve never seen anything to make me believe there’s a magic of chance controlling everything. There’s no mystical energy field that controls my destiny. It’s all a lot of simple tricks and nonsense.
It's a weird one, but I've been on all the sites, Match - found it was basically uglies together who werent getting the attention of others on the free sites. Free accounts were mostly spammy crap
OKCupid - more intelligent and well thought out people, fewer of them but less dheads
PoF - meatmarket. Fun, but brutal
Tinder - never bothered with
Another one who's name I cant remember
Didnt really get anything from anyone, all felt a bit too staged.
I was working with a girl who was already with someone, engaged and planned the date. We ended up getting together, neither of us are really sure how, but we were both there, conscious and sober. It transpired that she'd thought about going to Uni in the city I was living in at the time, but didnt. Another offer came up and she preferred the Uni in the place I was from (not living in)
A few yeasr later, she'd applied for a job at a place my sister works at and would have been interviewing her. Didnt go to it as she saw something better for her.
The same year she took on a part time job which is connected to my brother in law through friends of the owners.
My cousin did all the car servicing for her. I didnt know any of this, it came out after about 3 or 4 months of seeing each other.
When I moved back to the city I was in, where she was, and we both started working at the same company, the one she'd turned my sister down for - neither of us lasted at the place more than 6 months, but that was enough time to bring us together, her to unhook from her engagement first of course
We got married last month after being together 18 months, which some could say is a bit quick, but I kinda look at it and think that there were so many possible ways we could have met, didnt and then did, that, together with the fact I probably wouldnt have got anyone better if I'd had £10m in the bank, thought it was probably a good deal.
There were a lot of coincidences, I think it could be a bit conspiracy theory and looking hard enough, you could argue that where we live is a small enough place that you'd be 3 degrees from someone that another would know and there were lots of misfires and false starts. It doesnt really matter that much to me
Edited by andy-xr on Tuesday 27th January 14:52
Mr Roper said:
Vincefox said:
Better surely to trust to serendipity and the magic of chance?
I’ve seen a lot of strange stuff, but I’ve never seen anything to make me believe there’s a magic of chance controlling everything. There’s no mystical energy field that controls my destiny. It’s all a lot of simple tricks and nonsense.andy-xr said:
I was working with a girl who was already with someone, engaged and planned the date. We ended up getting together, neither of us are really sure how, but we were both there, conscious and sober. It transpired that she'd thought about going to Uni in the city I was living in at the time, but didnt. Another offer came up and she preferred the Uni in the place I was from (not living in)
A few yeasr later, she'd applied for a job at a place my sister works at and would have been interviewing her. Didnt go to it as she saw something better for her.
The same year she took on a part time job which is connected to my brother in law through friends of the owners.
My cousin did all the car servicing for her. I didnt know any of this, it came out after about 3 or 4 months of seeing each other.
When I moved back to the city I was in, where she was, and we both started working at the same company, the one she'd turned my sister down for - neither of us lasted at the place more than 6 months, but that was enough time to bring us together, her to unhook from her engagement first of course
We got married last month after being together 18 months, which some could say is a bit quick, but I kinda look at it and think that there were so many possible ways we could have met, didnt and then did, that, together with the fact I probably wouldnt have got anyone better if I'd had £10m in the bank, thought it was probably a good deal.
There were a lot of coincidences, I think it could be a bit conspiracy theory and looking hard enough, you could argue that where we live is a small enough place that you'd be 3 degrees from someone that another would know and there were lots of misfires and false starts. It doesnt really matter that much to me
Or look at it another way: she'll quite happily ditch you when someone better comes along as she's got form for that sort of behaviour. A few yeasr later, she'd applied for a job at a place my sister works at and would have been interviewing her. Didnt go to it as she saw something better for her.
The same year she took on a part time job which is connected to my brother in law through friends of the owners.
My cousin did all the car servicing for her. I didnt know any of this, it came out after about 3 or 4 months of seeing each other.
When I moved back to the city I was in, where she was, and we both started working at the same company, the one she'd turned my sister down for - neither of us lasted at the place more than 6 months, but that was enough time to bring us together, her to unhook from her engagement first of course
We got married last month after being together 18 months, which some could say is a bit quick, but I kinda look at it and think that there were so many possible ways we could have met, didnt and then did, that, together with the fact I probably wouldnt have got anyone better if I'd had £10m in the bank, thought it was probably a good deal.
There were a lot of coincidences, I think it could be a bit conspiracy theory and looking hard enough, you could argue that where we live is a small enough place that you'd be 3 degrees from someone that another would know and there were lots of misfires and false starts. It doesnt really matter that much to me
Impasse said:
Or look at it another way: she'll quite happily ditch you when someone better comes along as she's got form for that sort of behaviour.
The upside to that is, now we're married and she went into it with more than I do, she'd probably come off worse.
Thinking back on it, me taking the job where she was, I didnt know she was working there, and I took it because i was on my arse. Big pay drop but put me closer to my family, wouldnt have been a job I'd have taken if I wasnt more or less forced into it by having nothing else lined up
Mr Roper said:
Vincefox said:
Better surely to trust to serendipity and the magic of chance?
I’ve seen a lot of strange stuff, but I’ve never seen anything to make me believe there’s a magic of chance controlling everything. There’s no mystical energy field that controls my destiny. It’s all a lot of simple tricks and nonsense.Matt, aren't you at uni in Liverpool?
Surely there are a ton of bars and clubs you can head to with a couple of mates and see what happens. Don't the student union still have big nights on a Friday and Saturday?
If that isn't your thing, you must have access to a lot of university societies which are cheap or free? Why not try a few of those?
Trust me, you'll never have more ready access to like-minded ladies than your uni days. Wish I could turn the clock back myself sometimes.
Give up the internet stuff and get amongst it while you have the opportunity!!
Surely there are a ton of bars and clubs you can head to with a couple of mates and see what happens. Don't the student union still have big nights on a Friday and Saturday?
If that isn't your thing, you must have access to a lot of university societies which are cheap or free? Why not try a few of those?
Trust me, you'll never have more ready access to like-minded ladies than your uni days. Wish I could turn the clock back myself sometimes.
Give up the internet stuff and get amongst it while you have the opportunity!!
how old is Matt now anyway? can't be arsed to go and look.
i'll tell you one thing though, in your youth, don't try to be old and settled. go out and enjoy yourself, make your mistakes and truly learn from them. stick the lessons learnt somewhere you wont forget them.
because if, IF mind you, you're lucky enough to meet someone you really love... someone you can NOT be apart from because your blood hurts by having distance between you and the thought of losing them shuts your core self down like nature itself turning against you... well, i'd want to be ready to do that right if i were you.
i'll tell you one thing though, in your youth, don't try to be old and settled. go out and enjoy yourself, make your mistakes and truly learn from them. stick the lessons learnt somewhere you wont forget them.
because if, IF mind you, you're lucky enough to meet someone you really love... someone you can NOT be apart from because your blood hurts by having distance between you and the thought of losing them shuts your core self down like nature itself turning against you... well, i'd want to be ready to do that right if i were you.
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