Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Could this be a case that Matt is trying to hard to find love?
Step back and don't worry about it. Go to some bars/clubs (where ever females are) and just hang out with friends and just chat to girls at the bar and so on when you feel like it.
Talk to any girl you can and don't worry about chatting them up. Even if you end up in friend zone they might have a friend and so on.
update your dating website profiles and then leave them for a few weeks and see what happens.
Step back and don't worry about it. Go to some bars/clubs (where ever females are) and just hang out with friends and just chat to girls at the bar and so on when you feel like it.
Talk to any girl you can and don't worry about chatting them up. Even if you end up in friend zone they might have a friend and so on.
update your dating website profiles and then leave them for a few weeks and see what happens.
SpeckledJim said:
ChemicalChaos said:
I dont get why everyone says I can't follow advice. I've changed my tinder profile numerous times based on feedback from here. To those asking why my pictures are rubbish, I'm hamstrung by the fact that the vast majority of pictures on facebook, especially those of me out clubbing with friends, are from when I had the long hair you all so derided.
You keep saying that, yet taking a better photo would take less time than it took you to type this post about not having any photos.Load a decent picture Matt, all of them show you very poorly. Also, for the love of God change your profile pictures and texts. Are you as famous or capable as Senna? Are you as skillful as Bader or as brilliant as Nobel? Then stop saying these things bevause they show you off as needy and immature.
It's simple really, what races have you won? What planes do you fly? What discoveries have you made or which areas are you researching in. The trouble is, you look like you've succeeded in none of them. Now I'm sorry if that sounds harsh and maybe I've got it wrong, but stop promoting what you 'do' and just be.
Women especially have a BS sensor tuned to eleven and the profiles and pictures you link to all scream fake. Nothing will change until you stop acting, get comfortable with who you are and stop pretending to be Senna's Cheshire wing man gentleman cowboy friend.
You may 'do' things, but who the hell are you, because you send out very mixed up visual messages and none of them good. That's why you're not getting anywhere.
It's simple really, what races have you won? What planes do you fly? What discoveries have you made or which areas are you researching in. The trouble is, you look like you've succeeded in none of them. Now I'm sorry if that sounds harsh and maybe I've got it wrong, but stop promoting what you 'do' and just be.
Women especially have a BS sensor tuned to eleven and the profiles and pictures you link to all scream fake. Nothing will change until you stop acting, get comfortable with who you are and stop pretending to be Senna's Cheshire wing man gentleman cowboy friend.
You may 'do' things, but who the hell are you, because you send out very mixed up visual messages and none of them good. That's why you're not getting anywhere.
I got a match with a girl and this thread made me decide to message her.
She said something on her profile about being obsessed with a band, so I thought I'd go for humour.
First message:
I see that you're obsessed with Fallout Boy. I used to be addicted to Phil Collins, but take a look at me now!
Her reply:
Oh my God, yeah, I know what you mean! People don't believe it when I say it's an addiction. I can't believe someone understands
Yeah, I don't fancy that one.
She said something on her profile about being obsessed with a band, so I thought I'd go for humour.
First message:
I see that you're obsessed with Fallout Boy. I used to be addicted to Phil Collins, but take a look at me now!
Her reply:
Oh my God, yeah, I know what you mean! People don't believe it when I say it's an addiction. I can't believe someone understands
Yeah, I don't fancy that one.
Matt, go and join the equestrian society. The male/female ratio will be stacked in your favour, and even you won't fail to pull (probably). You just have to be able socialise with them (and that means don't talk about, cars, planes, chemistry or politics).
Tinder is purely about looks, which is the lowest common denominator when it comes to hooking up with someone. You need a very good photo to get anywhere, and that is the same on all dating sites, it doesn't matter how good the stuff you write is everyone still looks at the pictures first.
Regarding the hair, you were advised to shave it off. You compromised, and whilst it's a huge improvement, it could be better. Have you tried contact lenses instead of glasses, or just take them off for your photo's? You've been given loads of other advice on how to improve yourself physically, but taken on none of it.
What is it you are actually looking for from a relationship? Perhaps I'm a bit out of touch, but the thought of using dating sites as a student is a bit weird to me (apart from searching for casual hook ups perhaps, but I get the impression that's not what you're after). As a student you should be concentrating on having a good time (and perhaps studying a bit too). If you hook up with a girl that's fine, but don't try to force it if it's not happening.
Either that or change your search criteria to age 40+ women and hope for some cougar action?
Tinder is purely about looks, which is the lowest common denominator when it comes to hooking up with someone. You need a very good photo to get anywhere, and that is the same on all dating sites, it doesn't matter how good the stuff you write is everyone still looks at the pictures first.
Regarding the hair, you were advised to shave it off. You compromised, and whilst it's a huge improvement, it could be better. Have you tried contact lenses instead of glasses, or just take them off for your photo's? You've been given loads of other advice on how to improve yourself physically, but taken on none of it.
What is it you are actually looking for from a relationship? Perhaps I'm a bit out of touch, but the thought of using dating sites as a student is a bit weird to me (apart from searching for casual hook ups perhaps, but I get the impression that's not what you're after). As a student you should be concentrating on having a good time (and perhaps studying a bit too). If you hook up with a girl that's fine, but don't try to force it if it's not happening.
Either that or change your search criteria to age 40+ women and hope for some cougar action?
Petrolhead95 said:
A whole thread dedicated to trying to get Matt laid?
The whole of the previous volume of this thread was about my f
k up of a relationship with my ex! About time someone else took the bashing! Match is a bit slow, but it's completely different to POF. One quick question.
How do I know if the person I have messages has paid and able to reply to my message?
spikeyhead said:
Calza said:
Blown2CV said:
Yes blatantly. Also, in the same vein, "I love the gym" is code for "I'm tidy and probably bendy tee hee"
She mentioned yoga too, just to clarify the flexibility 
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