Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
Ki3r said:
hidetheelephants said:
On the basis she was boffing Billy Zane for quite a while, she digs slightly chubby men with shaved heads and Bermuda tans. 
One out of three isn't bad...I can shave my head as well if need be!
Impasse said:
Matt, don't bother. They're ultimately a disappointment and will only ever cost you money, time and wasted emotions. Yes, some look nice and some even smell nice. But ultimately every one will lie if it benefits them. Every one will cheat if they think they can get away with it. Every one will do what they can to relieve you of any cash you may have. Once you get past the pleasant aesthetics they really aren't an attractive species. Anyone who disagrees with this is either enviably naïve, in denial or sitting on a potential time bomb. Concentrate on your Uni studies as you'll find them a lot more fulfilling and certainly far more useful.
Truth has been spoken.Obviously the chumps here will disagree that the little angel they're currently knobbing would ever act this way. But that's insanity. EVERY SINGLE GIRL you know or will ever know would drop their current partner if a millionaire filmstar/singer/whoever wanted them.
I thought maybe kids would make a difference, but they don't. Hence why there's the complete majority of women that separate and expect ridiculous maintenance (to maintain THEIR existence) and withhold access and all the other mercenary b
ks. Sooner men realise that the better. Just go for the sex and forget the rest of partnership and commitment. You'll be happier!
As a poster earlier also said. Even women will admit they are their own worst enemy when it comes to relationships. And I don't just mean with guys. Girls are constantly competing with each other and I reckon everyone here will know of women that have fallen out with their best friend of 10+ years over something petty and disowned them.
Edited by Rich_W on Saturday 31st January 21:58
Rich_W said:
Impasse said:
Matt, don't bother. They're ultimately a disappointment and will only ever cost you money, time and wasted emotions. Yes, some look nice and some even smell nice. But ultimately every one will lie if it benefits them. Every one will cheat if they think they can get away with it. Every one will do what they can to relieve you of any cash you may have. Once you get past the pleasant aesthetics they really aren't an attractive species. Anyone who disagrees with this is either enviably naïve, in denial or sitting on a potential time bomb. Concentrate on your Uni studies as you'll find them a lot more fulfilling and certainly far more useful.
Truth has been spoken.ks. 
Try and date a higher calibre of women than the trashy dross you obviously have been going for.
Perhaps I haven't encountered this as the women I have dated in the past are highly educated and self sufficient (last 2 girlfriends and fiancée are doctors) so probably have a very different outlook on life.
Sounds like you've got an entire packet of McCain on both shoulders.
Blown2CV said:
i think the last few pages of this thread say less about Matt than they do about many of the rest of you lot. It's possible to 'fix up' a bit e.g. dress a bit less slobby, haircut etc., but at the end of the day if it gets to the point where you're recommending changes to personality, things you enjoy and your fundamental being then he's far better just being who he is. People should only change fundamentally if they want to and are ready to do so (and people do, over their lives) not because some tools on the Internet said it would get them some giblets.
I don't think anyone has suggested this (I certainly haven't) and I wouldn't.Be yourself. Absolutely. However, that doesn't mean you can't dress a bit better, smell a bit better and carry yourself better.
I'm a self confessed geek (Star Trek, Star Wars, model cars etc). Do I give a s
t what others (women included) think? Do I fk. Would I change any of that? No. But now being older, life teaches you that you have to have confidence in yourself and your own convictions. Once you can do that, I think you'll feel/be a lot better in yourself.All imvho.
Edited by g3org3y on Sunday 1st February 11:45
Rich_W said:
Truth has been spoken.
Obviously the chumps here will disagree that the little angel they're currently knobbing would ever act this way. But that's insanity. EVERY SINGLE GIRL you know or will ever know would drop their current partner if a millionaire filmstar/singer/whoever wanted them.
I thought maybe kids would make a difference, but they don't. Hence why there's the complete majority of women that separate and expect ridiculous maintenance (to maintain THEIR existence) and withhold access and all the other mercenary bks.
Sooner men realise that the better. Just go for the sex and forget the rest of partnership and commitment. You'll be happier!
Ah, you're back with the good old bitterness. I know quite a few girls who wouldn't - they just don't care about money and fame. Obviously the chumps here will disagree that the little angel they're currently knobbing would ever act this way. But that's insanity. EVERY SINGLE GIRL you know or will ever know would drop their current partner if a millionaire filmstar/singer/whoever wanted them.
I thought maybe kids would make a difference, but they don't. Hence why there's the complete majority of women that separate and expect ridiculous maintenance (to maintain THEIR existence) and withhold access and all the other mercenary b
ks. Sooner men realise that the better. Just go for the sex and forget the rest of partnership and commitment. You'll be happier!
NRS said:
Rich_W said:
SNAKES WITH TITS
Ah, you're back with the good old bitterness. I know quite a few girls who wouldn't - they just don't care about money and fame. Thought we were trying to get Matt laid not put him off women for life
g3org3y said:
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Perhaps I haven't encountered this as the women I have dated in the past are highly educated and self sufficient (last 2 girlfriends and fiancée are doctors) so probably have a very different outlook on life.
Sounds like you've got an entire packet of McCain on both shoulders.
I don't have a chip. I accept that's the way women aged 25-40 in 2015 are. (Specifically the ones who've been single and seeking a unicorn) Can't change it so why try. Perhaps I haven't encountered this as the women I have dated in the past are highly educated and self sufficient (last 2 girlfriends and fiancée are doctors) so probably have a very different outlook on life.
Sounds like you've got an entire packet of McCain on both shoulders.
Just enjoy the good points (sex is a good part). I read a survey recently that said use of brass/prostitutes/Escorts have soared in recent years in males aged 18-35. Most stated that modern relationships are not what they wanted. They wanted mutual affection, balance, companionship and all that stuff. But it doesn't happen anymore for the overwhelming majority. Go into work tomorrow and ask 10 guys at random if they are happy with their relationships. Look at our parents generation less divorce rate. Lesser money problems generally. House prices etc affordable. My parents never gave a st about the latest handbag or going to Kos for a week or getting a new car on Finance deals. Things have changed, not for the better.As for women in my life. Well I have a friend. Late 20s. She's got a great job, earns more than me. Is smart, intelligent and independent. But put her with a guy and she becomes a total mongchild and acts in all the ways I've described. She falls out with her friends often and her social circle is ever evolving. She's a solid 6.5/7 on a gioid day. And I would definitely "plasterers radio" her. But have a relationship with her? Never! Women are Women's worst enemy. Like I say, can't change it. Don't try to.
I used to do the same as the last few posters on here. Put women on pedestals, and that's where you all fall down.
You want proof go out of an evening with just you and 5 girls. Report back if you think I'm wrong.
Rather than the dating sites, how about trying not to date for a while?
For a long time now I've thought of finding a good woman as finding a specific Lego brick. The analogy being you pour out a tub of Lego and start building something. You get half-way through the instructions but can't find one brick, no matter how hard you try. Eventually you give up looking for it and carry on, only to come across the missing brick later on once you stopped looking for it.
I've had my say on the subject much earlier in this thread, perhaps even in the previous volume, as I spent about two and a half years using those sites. I had no shortage of dates, and even several relationships, but all ended for one reason or another at about the seven week point. By last summer I'd just gotten so fed up of the whole thing that I just deleted my profile and got on with life, giving it a break.
Within a couple of months of quitting a lovely girl moves into the shared house I live in and we get on well, the summary being that seven months down the line we're still together and thinking of moving into our own place come the summer should we still be going strong. Moral of the story; once I gave up specifically looking for a girl, one came along "in real life". (Its of course not guaranteed though!)
As for many here saying change this and that to attract a girl, well only do those things if you want to, and not because you're doing it just to attract someone. You'll only feel much worse if you've spent months in the gym, lots on new clothes and given up things you enjoy to do things more likely to attract someone only for it all to come to nothing.
Don't put all your time and effort into finding a girl at the expense of your Uni work - you do that and you run the risk of not getting the results you want and you'll seriously regret it later in life, you need to strike a balance of having fun and getting your head in the books. Its only a few years then you get into the real world and can do whatever you like whenever you like then...
For a long time now I've thought of finding a good woman as finding a specific Lego brick. The analogy being you pour out a tub of Lego and start building something. You get half-way through the instructions but can't find one brick, no matter how hard you try. Eventually you give up looking for it and carry on, only to come across the missing brick later on once you stopped looking for it.
I've had my say on the subject much earlier in this thread, perhaps even in the previous volume, as I spent about two and a half years using those sites. I had no shortage of dates, and even several relationships, but all ended for one reason or another at about the seven week point. By last summer I'd just gotten so fed up of the whole thing that I just deleted my profile and got on with life, giving it a break.
Within a couple of months of quitting a lovely girl moves into the shared house I live in and we get on well, the summary being that seven months down the line we're still together and thinking of moving into our own place come the summer should we still be going strong. Moral of the story; once I gave up specifically looking for a girl, one came along "in real life". (Its of course not guaranteed though!)
As for many here saying change this and that to attract a girl, well only do those things if you want to, and not because you're doing it just to attract someone. You'll only feel much worse if you've spent months in the gym, lots on new clothes and given up things you enjoy to do things more likely to attract someone only for it all to come to nothing.
Don't put all your time and effort into finding a girl at the expense of your Uni work - you do that and you run the risk of not getting the results you want and you'll seriously regret it later in life, you need to strike a balance of having fun and getting your head in the books. Its only a few years then you get into the real world and can do whatever you like whenever you like then...
Rich_W said:
g3org3y said:
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Perhaps I haven't encountered this as the women I have dated in the past are highly educated and self sufficient (last 2 girlfriends and fiancée are doctors) so probably have a very different outlook on life.
Sounds like you've got an entire packet of McCain on both shoulders.
I don't have a chip. I accept that's the way women aged 25-40 in 2015 are. (Specifically the ones who've been single and seeking a unicorn) Can't change it so why try. Perhaps I haven't encountered this as the women I have dated in the past are highly educated and self sufficient (last 2 girlfriends and fiancée are doctors) so probably have a very different outlook on life.
Sounds like you've got an entire packet of McCain on both shoulders.
Just enjoy the good points (sex is a good part). I read a survey recently that said use of brass/prostitutes/Escorts have soared in recent years in males aged 18-35. Most stated that modern relationships are not what they wanted. They wanted mutual affection, balance, companionship and all that stuff. But it doesn't happen anymore for the overwhelming majority. Go into work tomorrow and ask 10 guys at random if they are happy with their relationships. Look at our parents generation less divorce rate. Lesser money problems generally. House prices etc affordable. My parents never gave a st about the latest handbag or going to Kos for a week or getting a new car on Finance deals. Things have changed, not for the better.As for women in my life. Well I have a friend. Late 20s. She's got a great job, earns more than me. Is smart, intelligent and independent. But put her with a guy and she becomes a total mongchild and acts in all the ways I've described. She falls out with her friends often and her social circle is ever evolving. She's a solid 6.5/7 on a gioid day. And I would definitely "plasterers radio" her. But have a relationship with her? Never! Women are Women's worst enemy. Like I say, can't change it. Don't try to.
I used to do the same as the last few posters on here. Put women on pedestals, and that's where you all fall down.
You want proof go out of an evening with just you and 5 girls. Report back if you think I'm wrong.
Who said anything about pedestals? Try equality.
Sounds like more of an issue with the women in your social circle. Given the points raised (latest handbags/holidays in Kos (LOL 'council' btw
), I'd say it's almost certainly that. Trying to extrapolate or apply that to an entire gender is ridiculous. I've been out with plenty of women yet never struggled with the kind of bks you mention but I actively avoid superficial idiots (female or otherwise). Superficial ttishness exists in both genders.As mentioned, you need to start socialising with 'better' women.
And yes, seems like you have a huge chip. Sorry to break the bad news. Anyone reading your posts can clearly see that.
And you are (very) wrong. HTH.
Just to clarify something. I'm talking about good looking girls.
Of course the ones who are less aesthetic will not display these traits. Since they are never going to be in demand. I guess if that's who your experience is of, then you'll never see how right I am.
Bottom line is if you have a pretty GF you will always be at risk of hypergamy. So don't fight it. Roll with it.
edit to add.
Equality? Don't make me laugh. Men and Women are hardwired differently. Equality between the sexes in relationships is a myth.
Of course the ones who are less aesthetic will not display these traits. Since they are never going to be in demand. I guess if that's who your experience is of, then you'll never see how right I am.
Bottom line is if you have a pretty GF you will always be at risk of hypergamy. So don't fight it. Roll with it.
edit to add.
Equality? Don't make me laugh. Men and Women are hardwired differently. Equality between the sexes in relationships is a myth.
Edited by Rich_W on Sunday 1st February 18:54
Rich_W said:
Just to clarify something. I'm talking about good looking girls.
Of course the ones who are less aesthetic will not display these traits. Since they are never going to be in demand. I guess if that's who your experience is of, then you'll never see how right I am.
Bottom line is if you have a pretty GF you will always be at risk of hypergamy. So don't fight it. Roll with it.
Of course the ones who are less aesthetic will not display these traits. Since they are never going to be in demand. I guess if that's who your experience is of, then you'll never see how right I am.
Bottom line is if you have a pretty GF you will always be at risk of hypergamy. So don't fight it. Roll with it.
Just to clarify, you're still full of s
t.Justayellowbadge said:
fk.
I went through an unpleasant divorce. I spent several years through the courts to gain and maintain a barely reasonable relationship with my son. I paid over thousands.
And yet, I must say:
You are so wrong.
It's not a big surprise (given the length of these threads) to find that subset of men on this forum are damaged goods, though. Normal women must see them coming a mile off.k. I went through an unpleasant divorce. I spent several years through the courts to gain and maintain a barely reasonable relationship with my son. I paid over thousands.
And yet, I must say:
You are so wrong.
Rich W. Forgive a personal question, but how old are you?
From the reference to your late 20s friend, I'm assuming late 20s/very early 30s? Either way, your posts smack of a difficult personal experience that has scarred you (rather than something you've learned and moved-on from, and made you more interesting as a consequence), and some immaturity.
Live a little; most women - like most men - are loyal, fun and true. As many others have said, there are tts of all genders, but they are not typical-of-breed!
From the reference to your late 20s friend, I'm assuming late 20s/very early 30s? Either way, your posts smack of a difficult personal experience that has scarred you (rather than something you've learned and moved-on from, and made you more interesting as a consequence), and some immaturity.
Live a little; most women - like most men - are loyal, fun and true. As many others have said, there are t
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