3 yr old Son dressing up in girls costume
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My 3 year old son regularly wants to dress up as Rapunzel, complete with blonde hair band. My missus bought him the outfit from a Disney store some months ago after he had watched Tangled umpteen zillion times. I didn't approve!
This is a situation that is going to cause an issue, I can just see it. Call me old fashioned if you like, but i'm not a fan of this look and to be honest it makes me very uncomfortable. I'd just rather he didn't do this and her encourage him to.
My missus obviously has no issue whatsoever and has done other s
t like recently paint her pink nail varnish on one of his hands and bought him some other pretend jewellery.
I've aired my views and we've had a minor heated debated about it, but as expected she sees no issue and so I have to lump it.
I would imagine if I looked at a sample of 15 boys from his local nursery he won't be the only one (well I know he isn't the only one) but I suspect he's in a very small minority and I think why should my son be included in that?!
As I took him to my Mums today, again dressed in his pink frock (much to my disgruntlement), my missus said your Mum won't give a st, however arriving at her house she was clearly not enamoured with his appearance and we had a brief discussion where we both concluded it is odd.
I don't want my 3 year old son to be made paranoid about this as he won't understand it all, but I do think my missus shouldn't be encouraging this kind of behaviour either.
Is there a way forward?
This is a situation that is going to cause an issue, I can just see it. Call me old fashioned if you like, but i'm not a fan of this look and to be honest it makes me very uncomfortable. I'd just rather he didn't do this and her encourage him to.
My missus obviously has no issue whatsoever and has done other s
t like recently paint her pink nail varnish on one of his hands and bought him some other pretend jewellery.I've aired my views and we've had a minor heated debated about it, but as expected she sees no issue and so I have to lump it.
I would imagine if I looked at a sample of 15 boys from his local nursery he won't be the only one (well I know he isn't the only one) but I suspect he's in a very small minority and I think why should my son be included in that?!
As I took him to my Mums today, again dressed in his pink frock (much to my disgruntlement), my missus said your Mum won't give a s
t, however arriving at her house she was clearly not enamoured with his appearance and we had a brief discussion where we both concluded it is odd.I don't want my 3 year old son to be made paranoid about this as he won't understand it all, but I do think my missus shouldn't be encouraging this kind of behaviour either.
Is there a way forward?
Baldy881 said:
My 3 year old son regularly wants to dress up as Rapunzel, complete with blonde hair band. My missus bought him the outfit from a Disney store some months ago after he had watched Tangled umpteen zillion times. I didn't approve!
This is a situation that is going to cause an issue, I can just see it. Call me old fashioned if you like, but i'm not a fan of this look and to be honest it makes me very uncomfortable. I'd just rather he didn't do this and her encourage him to.
My missus obviously has no issue whatsoever and has done other st like recently paint her pink nail varnish on one of his hands and bought him some other pretend jewellery.
I've aired my views and we've had a minor heated debated about it, but as expected she sees no issue and so I have to lump it.
I would imagine if I looked at a sample of 15 boys from his local nursery he won't be the only one (well I know he isn't the only one) but I suspect he's in a very small minority and I think why should my son be included in that?!
As I took him to my Mums today, again dressed in his pink frock (much to my disgruntlement), my missus said your Mum won't give a st, however arriving at her house she was clearly not enamoured with his appearance and we had a brief discussion where we both concluded it is odd.
I don't want my 3 year old son to be made paranoid about this as he won't understand it all, but I do think my missus shouldn't be encouraging this kind of behaviour either.
Is there a way forward?
Dont mind me if I just quote this.This is a situation that is going to cause an issue, I can just see it. Call me old fashioned if you like, but i'm not a fan of this look and to be honest it makes me very uncomfortable. I'd just rather he didn't do this and her encourage him to.
My missus obviously has no issue whatsoever and has done other s
t like recently paint her pink nail varnish on one of his hands and bought him some other pretend jewellery.I've aired my views and we've had a minor heated debated about it, but as expected she sees no issue and so I have to lump it.
I would imagine if I looked at a sample of 15 boys from his local nursery he won't be the only one (well I know he isn't the only one) but I suspect he's in a very small minority and I think why should my son be included in that?!
As I took him to my Mums today, again dressed in his pink frock (much to my disgruntlement), my missus said your Mum won't give a s
t, however arriving at her house she was clearly not enamoured with his appearance and we had a brief discussion where we both concluded it is odd.I don't want my 3 year old son to be made paranoid about this as he won't understand it all, but I do think my missus shouldn't be encouraging this kind of behaviour either.
Is there a way forward?
Baldy881 said:
My 3 year old son regularly wants to dress up as Rapunzel, complete with blonde hair band. My missus bought him the outfit from a Disney store some months ago after he had watched Tangled umpteen zillion times. I didn't approve!
This is a situation that is going to cause an issue, I can just see it. Call me old fashioned if you like, but i'm not a fan of this look and to be honest it makes me very uncomfortable. I'd just rather he didn't do this and her encourage him to.
My missus obviously has no issue whatsoever and has done other st like recently paint her pink nail varnish on one of his hands and bought him some other pretend jewellery.
I've aired my views and we've had a minor heated debated about it, but as expected she sees no issue and so I have to lump it.
I would imagine if I looked at a sample of 15 boys from his local nursery he won't be the only one (well I know he isn't the only one) but I suspect he's in a very small minority and I think why should my son be included in that?!
As I took him to my Mums today, again dressed in his pink frock (much to my disgruntlement), my missus said your Mum won't give a st, however arriving at her house she was clearly not enamoured with his appearance and we had a brief discussion where we both concluded it is odd.
I don't want my 3 year old son to be made paranoid about this as he won't understand it all, but I do think my missus shouldn't be encouraging this kind of behaviour either.
Is there a way forward?
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/news/sexchange-boxing-promoter-frank-maloney-i-was-born-in-the-wrong-body-9660310.htmlThis is a situation that is going to cause an issue, I can just see it. Call me old fashioned if you like, but i'm not a fan of this look and to be honest it makes me very uncomfortable. I'd just rather he didn't do this and her encourage him to.
My missus obviously has no issue whatsoever and has done other s
t like recently paint her pink nail varnish on one of his hands and bought him some other pretend jewellery.I've aired my views and we've had a minor heated debated about it, but as expected she sees no issue and so I have to lump it.
I would imagine if I looked at a sample of 15 boys from his local nursery he won't be the only one (well I know he isn't the only one) but I suspect he's in a very small minority and I think why should my son be included in that?!
As I took him to my Mums today, again dressed in his pink frock (much to my disgruntlement), my missus said your Mum won't give a s
t, however arriving at her house she was clearly not enamoured with his appearance and we had a brief discussion where we both concluded it is odd.I don't want my 3 year old son to be made paranoid about this as he won't understand it all, but I do think my missus shouldn't be encouraging this kind of behaviour either.
Is there a way forward?
That's going to be your son....
He may grow out of it or he may not, I have friends who are confused/trans and the best course of as always with most things in life is to offer support and guidance but that doesn't mean to say that your missus encouraging it is the correct course of action either I think she should perhaps dial it back a bit.
I could say don't let it bother you but of course it will, but try not to let it show in your actions, give your love and support to your son in everything he does, as his dad im sure youd like for him to grow out of it and for the pictures of him wearing a frock to be used to embarrass him at his wedding BUT you need to consider that that may not be the case and he may need your love and support in getting through some difficult times in the future.
I could say don't let it bother you but of course it will, but try not to let it show in your actions, give your love and support to your son in everything he does, as his dad im sure youd like for him to grow out of it and for the pictures of him wearing a frock to be used to embarrass him at his wedding BUT you need to consider that that may not be the case and he may need your love and support in getting through some difficult times in the future.
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