3 yr old Son dressing up in girls costume
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My take?
Just be happy that you have a kid that you can be 'concerned about'
It rather pales into insignificance when they are not there.
My first died last year. My O/H at 20 weeks pregnant now is looking very iffy.
Healthy, happy and bouncing is all I'm interested in. And so should you be OP.
Just be happy that you have a kid that you can be 'concerned about'
It rather pales into insignificance when they are not there.
My first died last year. My O/H at 20 weeks pregnant now is looking very iffy.
Healthy, happy and bouncing is all I'm interested in. And so should you be OP.
TVR1 said:
My take?
Just be happy that you have a kid that you can be 'concerned about'
It rather pales into insignificance when they are not there.
My first died last year. My O/H at 20 weeks pregnant now is looking very iffy.
Healthy, happy and bouncing is all I'm interested in. And so should you be OP.
Undoubtedly the most sensible post on this thread.Just be happy that you have a kid that you can be 'concerned about'
It rather pales into insignificance when they are not there.
My first died last year. My O/H at 20 weeks pregnant now is looking very iffy.
Healthy, happy and bouncing is all I'm interested in. And so should you be OP.
I've resisted this thread too long and thus only made it through the first page (currently, will go back though) but just to add to the wishing well of 2pences you lot have dropped;
1. Send him to ballet lessons, we don't have enough male ballerinas and they are very athletic and definitely not gay most of them.
2. My nephew (now 25) had a Barbie doll he was infatuated with for years and when he started school took it with him for show and tell. He's now earning silly money modelling, playing football and as an extra in most of the past 5 years top blockbuster action films. Not gay.
I however, grew up not wanting to wear skirts, boys were gross, I wouldn't have my ears pierced and didn't like pink. This all changed after I left home and the opposite to the above is now true. Although I do have to remind myself to wear skirts in the office as trousers are just too darned comfortable.
Let him do what he wants and just store the photos for embarrassment at a later date.
1. Send him to ballet lessons, we don't have enough male ballerinas and they are very athletic and definitely not gay most of them.
2. My nephew (now 25) had a Barbie doll he was infatuated with for years and when he started school took it with him for show and tell. He's now earning silly money modelling, playing football and as an extra in most of the past 5 years top blockbuster action films. Not gay.
I however, grew up not wanting to wear skirts, boys were gross, I wouldn't have my ears pierced and didn't like pink. This all changed after I left home and the opposite to the above is now true. Although I do have to remind myself to wear skirts in the office as trousers are just too darned comfortable.
Let him do what he wants and just store the photos for embarrassment at a later date.
JonRB said:
Hackney said:
While the father is likely to be criticised for forcing his macho stereotypes on the boy, his mother is doing the exact same thing. This doesn't seem to be letting the boy decide but putting him in a dress / costume and there is an important difference. Having a friend who's a girl and playing at her house means the environment is likely to be more "young girl" orientated so playing dress-up there will inevitably lead to dressing up in her clothes / costumers.
This may surprise you, but I actually agree with you. 
My daughter's class (reception class 4-5 year olds), had a medieval day where they went to school in fancy dress as princes and princesses. One lad went as a princess. We were discussing it, and my missus (who's a bit of a womens's rights/feminist/anti gender stereotyping sort) was explaining how it shouldn't be an issue at all and how bad it was for all the parent's to raise their eyebrows. The irony being that my missus obviously thought it was a significant enough event to tell me all about it...
mjb1 said:
My daughter's class (reception class 4-5 year olds), had a medieval day where they went to school in fancy dress as princes and princesses. One lad went as a princess. We were discussing it, and my missus (who's a bit of a womens's rights/feminist/anti gender stereotyping sort) was explaining how it shouldn't be an issue at all and how bad it was for all the parent's to raise their eyebrows. The irony being that my missus obviously thought it was a significant enough event to tell me all about it...
Was she discussing the reaction, rather than the dress? Would it have been mentioned if there had been no raised eyebrows?
Engineer1 said:
Sometimes it's easier to let a child wear what they want my daughter (20 months old) went out in peppa pig wellies as it was an easier option than trying to make her wear normal shoes. There is a point where the argument isn't worth the effort.
As the old saying goes, "Choose your battles wisely". 
TVR1 said:
My take?
Just be happy that you have a kid that you can be 'concerned about'
It rather pales into insignificance when they are not there.
My first died last year. My O/H at 20 weeks pregnant now is looking very iffy.
Healthy, happy and bouncing is all I'm interested in. And so should you be OP.
Sorry to hear that TVR1, I hope things take a turn for the better.Just be happy that you have a kid that you can be 'concerned about'
It rather pales into insignificance when they are not there.
My first died last year. My O/H at 20 weeks pregnant now is looking very iffy.
Healthy, happy and bouncing is all I'm interested in. And so should you be OP.
I've been dipping in and out of this thread reading some of the replies and quite honestly laughing at them.
If he want's to wear a dress, let him wear it. He's 3 ffs. he has no possible idea on what should be for boys and what should be for girls, to him everything is for playing with.
personally, when I was a young lad all the kids in the street of the same age were mostly female. so you know what I did, I played girly games. has fake tea parties and teddybear picnics. played families where I was either the pet or the daddy.
Would you guess how I turned out? Straight. just with an awesome understanding of the female form from a younger age than some of my friends, as guess who they would ask about boys bits when they wanted to know
I was in the friendzone before it was even a thing, but I was also the first kiss of about 2/3rds of the girls in my street as they wanted to practice before they got a boyfriend. I may have even gone further with 2 other girls. but those are experiences reserved just for me.
OP if taking him out in public in a dress is causing you so much pain and discomfort then just change him, and have it out with the OH about how its making you feel. They both may cry a lot when you do this, but kids and women cry a lot too.
RyanTank said:
Sorry to hear that TVR1, I hope things take a turn for the better.
I've been dipping in and out of this thread reading some of the replies and quite honestly laughing at them.
If he want's to wear a dress, let him wear it. He's 3 ffs. he has no possible idea on what should be for boys and what should be for girls, to him everything is for playing with.
personally, when I was a young lad all the kids in the street of the same age were mostly female. so you know what I did, I played girly games. has fake tea parties and teddybear picnics. played families where I was either the pet or the daddy.
Would you guess how I turned out? Straight. just with an awesome understanding of the female form from a younger age than some of my friends, as guess who they would ask about boys bits when they wanted to know
I was in the friendzone before it was even a thing, but I was also the first kiss of about 2/3rds of the girls in my street as they wanted to practice before they got a boyfriend. I may have even gone further with 2 other girls. but those are experiences reserved just for me.
OP if taking him out in public in a dress is causing you so much pain and discomfort then just change him, and have it out with the OH about how its making you feel. They both may cry a lot when you do this, but kids and women cry a lot too.
Yewtree is coming for you.I've been dipping in and out of this thread reading some of the replies and quite honestly laughing at them.
If he want's to wear a dress, let him wear it. He's 3 ffs. he has no possible idea on what should be for boys and what should be for girls, to him everything is for playing with.
personally, when I was a young lad all the kids in the street of the same age were mostly female. so you know what I did, I played girly games. has fake tea parties and teddybear picnics. played families where I was either the pet or the daddy.
Would you guess how I turned out? Straight. just with an awesome understanding of the female form from a younger age than some of my friends, as guess who they would ask about boys bits when they wanted to know
I was in the friendzone before it was even a thing, but I was also the first kiss of about 2/3rds of the girls in my street as they wanted to practice before they got a boyfriend. I may have even gone further with 2 other girls. but those are experiences reserved just for me.
OP if taking him out in public in a dress is causing you so much pain and discomfort then just change him, and have it out with the OH about how its making you feel. They both may cry a lot when you do this, but kids and women cry a lot too.
Ver Kompt!!!!
Thanks for your comments though. s
t happens in life.
Last Christmas day we drove over to one of the G/F's mates who she doesn't see very often.
While there, her friend's boyfriend told me how their son (4 years old) had returned from a party singing the Barbie Girl song by Aqua.
This had bothered him so he had spent a few weeks exposing him to The Who, Led Zep etc.
While there, her friend's boyfriend told me how their son (4 years old) had returned from a party singing the Barbie Girl song by Aqua.
This had bothered him so he had spent a few weeks exposing him to The Who, Led Zep etc.
Impasse said:
Ah yes, Batman. Good role model for a growing chap. Batman is a confirmed bachelor, living with an old man who takes care of his every need and whose best friend is a young boy.
Nothing remotely non-hetro or non-masculine about that. I can see why you'd be relieved.
Nothing remotely non-hetro or non-masculine about that. I can see why you'd be relieved.
On a serious note, I find it quite depressing the number of posters who would flip their lid at the idea of a 3 year old dressing up in girls clothes. I mean really.... he is 3.... get a grip.
I'm a bit late to the party on this one...
When I was three years old, I was obsessed with Herbie, The Love Bug. In fact, I still am to a small degree. I've never owned a Beetle, but a 1963 in Pearl White is high on my bucket list. Aside from being en-trawled by air-cooled VWs, I had a massive Lego collection, and built houses, space ships, trains - anything really.
I also used to love playing with my road mat - you know those ones about a metre square with a town road pattern printed on it - perfectly sized for matchbox cars. I also had water guns, nerf guns, and as I got a bit older, an air rifle in the garden for shooting tins.
I was really into Go-Karting too. Dad used to take me for karting lessons on a Sunday morning, and I had my own racing karts, probably three or four over the years.
So my upbringing was pretty 'boyish'. My nearest sibling, my sister, is 10 years older than me, so I never really played with her toys. I just did boys things.
As I got older, I swapped toy cars for real cars. The current fleet consists of the GolfR, my Stag and the Jensen which I share with Dad. A pretty 'manly' fleet, even if the Jensen is Primrose Yellow.
So there you go, you can have the manliest of upbringings, and I still turned out gay.
OP - it doesn't matter what your Son does now, truthfully. If anything, being comfortable with his feminine side now will probably just pave the way for making him a more rounded and sensitive straight man. But, whatever he turns out to be, does it really matter?
When I was three years old, I was obsessed with Herbie, The Love Bug. In fact, I still am to a small degree. I've never owned a Beetle, but a 1963 in Pearl White is high on my bucket list. Aside from being en-trawled by air-cooled VWs, I had a massive Lego collection, and built houses, space ships, trains - anything really.
I also used to love playing with my road mat - you know those ones about a metre square with a town road pattern printed on it - perfectly sized for matchbox cars. I also had water guns, nerf guns, and as I got a bit older, an air rifle in the garden for shooting tins.
I was really into Go-Karting too. Dad used to take me for karting lessons on a Sunday morning, and I had my own racing karts, probably three or four over the years.
So my upbringing was pretty 'boyish'. My nearest sibling, my sister, is 10 years older than me, so I never really played with her toys. I just did boys things.
As I got older, I swapped toy cars for real cars. The current fleet consists of the GolfR, my Stag and the Jensen which I share with Dad. A pretty 'manly' fleet, even if the Jensen is Primrose Yellow.
So there you go, you can have the manliest of upbringings, and I still turned out gay.
OP - it doesn't matter what your Son does now, truthfully. If anything, being comfortable with his feminine side now will probably just pave the way for making him a more rounded and sensitive straight man. But, whatever he turns out to be, does it really matter?
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