3 yr old Son dressing up in girls costume
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Baldy881 said:
pork911 said:
she's probably trying to lessen the effect on the household of OP's 'manliness'
Seriously mate, the problem is like I said, I can only imagine in a survey of similar aged children that it's a small minority who are subject to this kind of thing, so is it unreasonable that I'd simply rather he not be in the minority? 
OP,genuine question, how would you feel if years down the line your son turned out to be gay? (or transgendered, cross dresser etc...)
My younger brother always seemed a bit 'different' growing up. He was more interested in my little pony than action man, more Erasure than the latest 'in' music.
My father would try his best to keep him on the straight (excuse the pun) and narrow and would kit him out in the latest football kits, sit with him and watch 'manly' sports and action movies but needless to say in his late teens my brother came out as gay.
Surprisingly, both my parents were very supportive along with myself, family and friends. He's now settled with his partner and everything is fine.
I guess what im trying to say is that im convinced the signs start to show from an early age and no matter how hard you try to suppress them, change them, guide them they will inevitably find their own way in the end, a way that feels right to them.
My younger brother always seemed a bit 'different' growing up. He was more interested in my little pony than action man, more Erasure than the latest 'in' music.
My father would try his best to keep him on the straight (excuse the pun) and narrow and would kit him out in the latest football kits, sit with him and watch 'manly' sports and action movies but needless to say in his late teens my brother came out as gay.
Surprisingly, both my parents were very supportive along with myself, family and friends. He's now settled with his partner and everything is fine.
I guess what im trying to say is that im convinced the signs start to show from an early age and no matter how hard you try to suppress them, change them, guide them they will inevitably find their own way in the end, a way that feels right to them.
Baldy881 said:
Seriously mate, the problem is like I said, I can only imagine in a survey of similar aged children that it's a small minority who are subject to this kind of thing, so is it unreasonable that I'd simply rather he not be in the minority?
He's not in the minority. Most kids enjoy dressing up - all kids enjoy playing. Seriously, get over it. MLH said:
OP,genuine question, how would you feel if years down the line your son turned out to be gay? (or transgendered, cross dresser etc...)
My younger brother always seemed a bit 'different' growing up. He was more interested in my little pony than action man, more Erasure than the latest 'in' music.
My father would try his best to keep him on the straight (excuse the pun) and narrow and would kit him out in the latest football kits, sit with him and watch 'manly' sports and action movies but needless to say in his late teens my brother came out as gay.
Surprisingly, both my parents were very supportive along with myself, family and friends. He's now settled with his partner and everything is fine.
I guess what im trying to say is that im convinced the signs start to show from an early age and no matter how hard you try to suppress them, change them, guide them they will inevitably find their own way in the end, a way that feels right to them.
Well yeh, he's 3. I would rather him do boys things (we have an Integrale in the garage, a fast bike parked next to it, I take him fishing and so on). It's not like he doesn't do boy things, cause he certainly does and takes an interest.My younger brother always seemed a bit 'different' growing up. He was more interested in my little pony than action man, more Erasure than the latest 'in' music.
My father would try his best to keep him on the straight (excuse the pun) and narrow and would kit him out in the latest football kits, sit with him and watch 'manly' sports and action movies but needless to say in his late teens my brother came out as gay.
Surprisingly, both my parents were very supportive along with myself, family and friends. He's now settled with his partner and everything is fine.
I guess what im trying to say is that im convinced the signs start to show from an early age and no matter how hard you try to suppress them, change them, guide them they will inevitably find their own way in the end, a way that feels right to them.
But i'd like to think I can guide him in the same way I was guided, that's not to say I am perfect (I was brought up well), but I didn't wear dresses (according to conversation with my mother this morning).
It's not all about him winding up gay, but it makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed taking him out and about wearing dresses. I'm sorry but that's just how I feel.
. Some of them were scarily convincing as a female. It's a phase-I wouldn't worry about it.This pic by Chris Hallbeck springs to mind. Top parenting.
And on a related note, have a read of this for some really top parenting. It's very well written and raises some very pertinent points.
My Son Wears Dresses; Get Over It
However, as JAYB says, at the age of 3 it just means that he likes Tangled. It's not really a big deal - it's your own prejudices and feelings of "ewww, icky" that are making it a big issue.
And on a related note, have a read of this for some really top parenting. It's very well written and raises some very pertinent points.
My Son Wears Dresses; Get Over It
However, as JAYB says, at the age of 3 it just means that he likes Tangled. It's not really a big deal - it's your own prejudices and feelings of "ewww, icky" that are making it a big issue.
Get him a spiderman outfit and then get one for yourself, do father and son tree climbing in character.
You should probably get posters of semi-naked women and plaster them all over his bedroom wall too, just to be safe.
Your Mrs will probably change them for One Direction posters though.
You should probably get posters of semi-naked women and plaster them all over his bedroom wall too, just to be safe.
Your Mrs will probably change them for One Direction posters though.
Op, contact these people;
Www.gires.org.uk or www.mermaidsuk.org.uk. They'll be able to give you unbiased advice on what to do. As people have said it might just be a phase, or you might have a 3 year old daughter who will need your help x
Www.gires.org.uk or www.mermaidsuk.org.uk. They'll be able to give you unbiased advice on what to do. As people have said it might just be a phase, or you might have a 3 year old daughter who will need your help x
Baldy881 said:
Mr Gearchange said:
Oi oi Roberto.
My lad used to do this. Mrs thought it hilarious - I didn't. We had arguments around it.
He grew out of it before 5 years old.
Don't worry
No mention of this at our get together later this year eh son? My lad used to do this. Mrs thought it hilarious - I didn't. We had arguments around it.
He grew out of it before 5 years old.
Don't worry
Never hear the end of it
Mums the word.Don't worry about it.
That said William just used to play dressing up in his sisters costumes - the Mrs wasn't going out and buying him dresses.
Baldy881 said:
It's not all about him winding up gay, but it makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed taking him out and about wearing dresses. I'm sorry but that's just how I feel.
I'd be exactly the same and would insist he gets changed before we went out. What if you took him to a footy match dressed as tinker bell? Id die of embarrassment and my wife would agree to me changing him into something more appropriate. MLH said:
My father would try his best to keep him on the straight (excuse the pun) and narrow and would kit him out in the latest football kits, sit with him and watch 'manly' sports and action movies.
Genius.C'mere son, let's watch thirty blokes in tight shorts grappling each other. Or 22 with over coiffured hair and tattoos running around hugging each other when one does a particularly good bit of ball kicking.
Later, there's Die Hard. I love the bit where he tears off his vest and flexes his sweaty muscles...
That'll work.
Baldy881 said:
It's not all about him winding up gay, but it makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed taking him out and about wearing dresses. I'm sorry but that's just how I feel.
Damn, you need a slap with a Barbie! It's not about you. It's not a reflection on your machismo or manliness or the size of your penis. It's not about how you think your neanderthal friends might perceive you and it's definitely not about what your mother might say.It's about a three year old child playing. It's about what makes him happy and what brings him pleasure in his little world.
Baldy881 said:
It's not all about him winding up gay, but it makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed taking him out and about wearing dresses. I'm sorry but that's just how I feel.
Which is quite understandable, IMO.I really don't agree with those who have laughed this off as a phase thing or dismissed it as harmless fun due to his age etc.
Given that he's clearly walking and talking, I would look at you strangely if I passed you in a supermarket with your son dressed like that. It is odd, and I find it quite staggering that some long-termers on this here forum cannot see that.
Nothing wrong with a bit of a fatherly steer, here.
JungleJim said:
Baldy881 said:
but it makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed taking him out and about wearing dresses. I'm sorry but that's just how I feel.
no ones looking at you and your kid when you're out and aboutPeople love to watch other people. It's human nature.
And what the'll see is a man dressing his son as a girl.
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