Ex Wife Emigrating to Oz and Taking my 14 year old with her!

[WinstonWolf]

Your sole purpose in life will shortly consist of providing the parent taxi service (I'm currently on standby) and money.

That's about it...

[surveyor]

Please don't try and manipulate as you allude to (hopefully in jest) - it will do you, her and your relationship no good.

At 14 she is old enough to know who her father is, and obviously you will both need to put effort in to keep in touch.

BA do a great service for unaccompanied minors (not as necessary for a teen, but if the flights get delayed/cancelled you'd want that backup)....

Hope it all works out as well as it can for you OP.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

Lordbenny said:

watching Palace win the Premiership,

Given that you are clearly addicted to mind bending drugs, I think her mother has made a wide choice removing her from your sphere if influence. I would have taken her to New Zealand, just to be on the safe side.

[Lordbenny]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

Given that you are clearly addicted to mind bending drugs, I think her mother has made a wide choice removing her from your sphere if influence. I would have taken her to New Zealand, just to be on the safe side.

[craig_m67]

HenryJM said:

Brisbane isn't the most attractive bit of Australia - Sydney and Melbourne have a lot going for them but not really Brisbane. Very hot and, as you say, lacking in culture.

This is unqualified piffle. I live in Brisbane, feel free to ask if you need to know anything about the place.

[rhinochopig]

craig_m67 said:

HenryJM said:

Brisbane isn't the most attractive bit of Australia - Sydney and Melbourne have a lot going for them but not really Brisbane. Very hot and, as you say, lacking in culture.

This is unqualified piffle. I live in Brisbane, feel free to ask if you need to know anything about the place.

It does, however, seem to be populated who struggle to read between the lines.

The correct answer, numb-nuts, is "I live here, and yes it's sthole, and your daughter will hate it here and miss you terribly".

Edited by rhinochopig on Thursday 14th August 15:28

[Allaloneatron]

My uncle had all 4 of his children taken to Australia (14-21 at the time) and within a year all of them were back in the UK because Oz isn't anything like the image you see on TV. It was boring in WA and they missed their friends, school and Dad. Mum was left in Oz but she returned about 6 months after them.

All is not lost.

[Justices]

Disliked ex-wife on the other side of the world and having to manage a teen in the difficult years? Daughter getting to travel and gain some priceless life experience at the right time? Sounds like a good win to me.

Beware though.. that Aussie accent is very easy to pick up!

[5potTurbo]

Justices said:

Beware though.. that Aussie accent is very easy to pick up!

....as is the speech inflection, that annoying ending to sentences where the speech tone changes, rising, making every fking sentence sound like a question. Grrrrrr.

[sanguinary]

Lordbenny said:

watching Palace win the Premiership

It's not looking good so far:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/0/football/28797071

[carreauchompeur]

Wow, that's a big wrench.

Just trust that she is at an age where she is finding her feet and will resolve back to the stuff that's important to her. You've had a good relationship so far and that's really important. sooner or later shall realise what's what and go from there.

[Buff Mchugelarge]

I feel for you OP, a difficult situation but you seem to be looking at it from the right angles.
My ex upped and left to the midlands from the south east, a pain but at least I could follow.
As long as it's a positive experience for your daughter it can't be a bad thing. You'll always be her dad.

[shakotan]

rhinochopig said:

craig_m67 said:

HenryJM said:

Brisbane isn't the most attractive bit of Australia - Sydney and Melbourne have a lot going for them but not really Brisbane. Very hot and, as you say, lacking in culture.

This is unqualified piffle. I live in Brisbane, feel free to ask if you need to know anything about the place.

It does, however, seem to be populated who struggle to read between the lines.

The correct answer, numb-nuts, is "I live here, and yes it's sthole, and your daughter will hate it here and miss you terribly".

Why on earth lie to the man and give him a false impression of hope?

That's a terribly cruel thing to do given the situation.

[Axionknight]

Lordbenny said:

She'll be at a private school although she's not amazingly academic. I reckon a few years with that of an ex wife of mine and, hopefully, she'll be begging to come home! I've also hear that Brisbane ain't exactly the centre of culture so when I send her videos of me at various music festivals, travelling round Europe, watching Palace win the Premiership, having snowball fights in the garden, eating a real English breakfast, sipping Pimms in a beautiful country pub, going to Borough market to buy Cornish pasties...I could go on....she might want to come back!

Sounds like you are more interested in your wants than hers to me after posts like that.

Keep in touch, visit one day if able - she's not likely to forget you, maybe she'll come back, maybe she wont, but it doesn't mean you cant keep in touch.

[NBTBRV8]

Lordbenny said:

She'll be at a private school although she's not amazingly academic. I reckon a few years with that of an ex wife of mine and, hopefully, she'll be begging to come home! I've also hear that Brisbane ain't exactly the centre of culture so when I send her videos of me at various music festivals, travelling round Europe, watching Palace win the Premiership, having snowball fights in the garden, eating a real English breakfast, sipping Pimms in a beautiful country pub, going to Borough market to buy Cornish pasties...I could go on....she might want to come back!

Yeah, I reckon she'll see everything wrong with Australia and come storming back.

http://edition.cnn.com/2014/08/14/travel/friendly-...

[R6VED]

My daughter is 18 months old and my son is 5 days old, I can't conceive how I would feel in your shoes. The thought horrifies me quite frankly.

[PAULJ5555]

Its a good thing they have skype, facetime these days, its not a replacement but may help a bit.

[Lordbenny]

So, my daughter has just texted me from Heathrow's departure lounge....her mother didn't even tell me that they had tickets and were on their way to Austrailia! I couldn't even say good bye properly! To be honest, I think its worked out well in that we didn't have a long goodbye but still want a bh her mother is. I just have to look forward to Christmas now when, supposedly, I will have her for 4 weeks but I'm not holding my breath.

Edited by Lordbenny on Wednesday 27th August 22:37

[0a]

All the very best, concentrate on being a great (cool) dad to her now.

[MJK 24]

Must be pretty gutting to find out they're going like that. Your ex sounds like a nasty piece of work.

Chin up.