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Hello Agony Aunts,
I've a divorce upcoming and we're living separated under the same roof. This isn't a matter of choice for me.
She's locking me downstairs but using the kitchen, which is in 'my' bit. I've a small bedroom with ensure shower room.
I don't intend to pay half of the household bills any more. She has the posh dbl bed, Sky TV/home cinema and big bath. Also, fat, freeloading stepdaughter is here, troughing the food for which I pay half, and using heating, bedding, shower, etc.
Can anyone help with my mathematical blind spot? She has exactly twice the floor area. Do I pay 1/4? A 1/3rd?
She locks me out 'cos she " doesn't feel safe". Do I put a bolt on the kitchen door because there are knives and she's an alcoholic? Or is that just childish?
Thanks, gents
I've a divorce upcoming and we're living separated under the same roof. This isn't a matter of choice for me.
She's locking me downstairs but using the kitchen, which is in 'my' bit. I've a small bedroom with ensure shower room.
I don't intend to pay half of the household bills any more. She has the posh dbl bed, Sky TV/home cinema and big bath. Also, fat, freeloading stepdaughter is here, troughing the food for which I pay half, and using heating, bedding, shower, etc.
Can anyone help with my mathematical blind spot? She has exactly twice the floor area. Do I pay 1/4? A 1/3rd?
She locks me out 'cos she " doesn't feel safe". Do I put a bolt on the kitchen door because there are knives and she's an alcoholic? Or is that just childish?
Thanks, gents
TwigtheWonderkid said:
You swine, you beat me to it........Purity14 said:
Whats the end game OP?
We both want the house and she won't accept my offering her the business (holiday flat, worth about £110K plus £10K a year and rising). I haven't the dosh to buy her out but I can prove how much my family put into the house (£213K plus). If she tries to fight that, it'll look pretty black for her in court. She came to me bankrupt and paid very little into the marital pot. So, even though she owns half the house and flat, I have a sting.The grounds for divorce are unreasonable behaviour - three years and more of drunken, psychological abuse and controlling, plus the foulest of mouths.
snood said:
We both want the house and she won't accept my offering her the business (holiday flat, worth about £110K plus £10K a year and rising). I haven't the dosh to buy her out but I can prove how much my family put into the house (£213K plus). If she tries to fight that, it'll look pretty black for her in court. She came to me bankrupt and paid very little into the marital pot. So, even though she owns half the house and flat, I have a sting.
The grounds for divorce are unreasonable behaviour - three years and more of drunken, psychological abuse and controlling, plus the foulest of mouths.
She's gonna rape you DRY = Fin The grounds for divorce are unreasonable behaviour - three years and more of drunken, psychological abuse and controlling, plus the foulest of mouths.
TBH I feel for you
This is why God invented Darwimism. Until the latter half of the last Century, drunk women with no money and two loser kids were not the mate of choice for anyone. Today, it seems de rigueur to show up at parties with similar. For the sake of the progress of the human race, please OP, stop dipping your appendage into anything with a pulse and rediscover your long lost self respect.
Also, stop fking about on the internet and contact a solicitor. You earn a six figure income (doesn't everyone on PH?), you can afford it.
Happy to help*
Simon.
Also, stop fking about on the internet and contact a solicitor. You earn a six figure income (doesn't everyone on PH?), you can afford it.
Happy to help*
Simon.
B17NNS said:
Strap a pair on lad. If she doesn't want to be in the same building as you I'm sure she knows where the door is.
Well, she's gone out. So I've moved into the 2/3 of the house she'd taken. So, she'll find the door locked on her tomorrow - should be interesting. Cue still more shrewery, methinks. Incidentally, I'm seeing a solicitor in about a week's time. She's been threatening me with what, 'her solicitor' says for a week.
snood said:
B17NNS said:
Strap a pair on lad. If she doesn't want to be in the same building as you I'm sure she knows where the door is.
Well, she's gone out. So I've moved into the 2/3 of the house she'd taken. So, she'll find the door locked on her tomorrow - should be interesting. Cue still more shrewery, methinks. Incidentally, I'm seeing a solicitor in about a week's time. She's been threatening me with what, 'her solicitor' says for a week.
Good luck with that, but I can't help feeling you may have a visit from the police soon over any number of allegations.
It's worth remembering that the reason for the marriage breakdown holds little sway in the division of marital assets, so don't go relying on that to be your ace card.
It's worth remembering that the reason for the marriage breakdown holds little sway in the division of marital assets, so don't go relying on that to be your ace card.
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