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snood

Original Poster:

107 posts

140 months

Saturday 23rd August 2014
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Hello Agony Aunts,

I've a divorce upcoming and we're living separated under the same roof. This isn't a matter of choice for me.

She's locking me downstairs but using the kitchen, which is in 'my' bit. I've a small bedroom with ensure shower room.

I don't intend to pay half of the household bills any more. She has the posh dbl bed, Sky TV/home cinema and big bath. Also, fat, freeloading stepdaughter is here, troughing the food for which I pay half, and using heating, bedding, shower, etc.

Can anyone help with my mathematical blind spot? She has exactly twice the floor area. Do I pay 1/4? A 1/3rd?

She locks me out 'cos she " doesn't feel safe". Do I put a bolt on the kitchen door because there are knives and she's an alcoholic? Or is that just childish?

Thanks, gents

TwigtheWonderkid

43,248 posts

149 months

StuntmanMike

11,671 posts

150 months

Saturday 23rd August 2014
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TwigtheWonderkid said:
You swine, you beat me to it........roflroflrofl

sday12

5,053 posts

210 months

Saturday 23rd August 2014
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Disappointed.

I thought this was going to a thread about those idiots that run fairgrounds.

iva cosworth

44,044 posts

162 months

Saturday 23rd August 2014
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sday12 said:
Disappointed.

I thought this was going to a thread about those idiots that run fairgrounds.
This.

OP it's Dibs.

MajorProblem

4,700 posts

163 months

Saturday 23rd August 2014
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snood said:
Hello Agony Aunts,

I've a divorce upcoming and we're living separated under the same roof. This isn't a matter of choice for me.
Why?

can't remember

1,077 posts

127 months

Saturday 23rd August 2014
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"fat, freeloading stepdaughter"

Can't help but feel there are details missing in this story.

joebongo

1,516 posts

174 months

Saturday 23rd August 2014
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1/3.

She has two apples and you have one apple. That makes 3 apples in total.

HTH and best of luck in all seriousness it must be awful.

snood

Original Poster:

107 posts

140 months

Sunday 24th August 2014
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joebongo said:
1/3.

She has two apples and you have one apple. That makes 3 apples in total.

HTH and best of luck in all seriousness it must be awful.
Too right it is. Thanks wavey

snood

Original Poster:

107 posts

140 months

Sunday 24th August 2014
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Purity14 said:
Whats the end game OP?
We both want the house and she won't accept my offering her the business (holiday flat, worth about £110K plus £10K a year and rising). I haven't the dosh to buy her out but I can prove how much my family put into the house (£213K plus). If she tries to fight that, it'll look pretty black for her in court. She came to me bankrupt and paid very little into the marital pot. So, even though she owns half the house and flat, I have a sting.

The grounds for divorce are unreasonable behaviour - three years and more of drunken, psychological abuse and controlling, plus the foulest of mouths.


B17NNS

18,506 posts

246 months

Sunday 24th August 2014
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snood said:
She's locking me downstairs
Strap a pair on lad. If she doesn't want to be in the same building as you I'm sure she knows where the door is.

theshrew

6,008 posts

183 months

Sunday 24th August 2014
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snood said:
We both want the house and she won't accept my offering her the business (holiday flat, worth about £110K plus £10K a year and rising). I haven't the dosh to buy her out but I can prove how much my family put into the house (£213K plus). If she tries to fight that, it'll look pretty black for her in court. She came to me bankrupt and paid very little into the marital pot. So, even though she owns half the house and flat, I have a sting.

The grounds for divorce are unreasonable behaviour - three years and more of drunken, psychological abuse and controlling, plus the foulest of mouths.

She's gonna rape you DRY = Fin

TBH I feel for you




Andehh

7,107 posts

205 months

Sunday 24th August 2014
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OP, how about not being an idiot, and maybe speak to a solicitor? She is clearly not to be reasoned with and a quick "domestic abuse" claim will topple your house of vindictive cards.

There is nothing to gained by being the bigger prat in this situation. smile

ferrariF50lover

1,834 posts

225 months

Sunday 24th August 2014
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This is why God invented Darwimism. Until the latter half of the last Century, drunk women with no money and two loser kids were not the mate of choice for anyone. Today, it seems de rigueur to show up at parties with similar. For the sake of the progress of the human race, please OP, stop dipping your appendage into anything with a pulse and rediscover your long lost self respect.

Also, stop fking about on the internet and contact a solicitor. You earn a six figure income (doesn't everyone on PH?), you can afford it.

Happy to help*

Simon.

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snood

Original Poster:

107 posts

140 months

Monday 25th August 2014
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B17NNS said:
Strap a pair on lad. If she doesn't want to be in the same building as you I'm sure she knows where the door is.
Well, she's gone out. So I've moved into the 2/3 of the house she'd taken. So, she'll find the door locked on her tomorrow - should be interesting. Cue still more shrewery, methinks.

Incidentally, I'm seeing a solicitor in about a week's time. She's been threatening me with what, 'her solicitor' says for a week.

Oldandslow

2,405 posts

205 months

Monday 25th August 2014
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Really can't see this going well. I guess if they can't be reasonable you'll be tempted to be the same but the BiB will be there to get her back in. No doubt you'll be accused of violent behaviour and be removed from the home for her protection.

Silent1

19,761 posts

234 months

Monday 25th August 2014
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snood said:
B17NNS said:
Strap a pair on lad. If she doesn't want to be in the same building as you I'm sure she knows where the door is.
Well, she's gone out. So I've moved into the 2/3 of the house she'd taken. So, she'll find the door locked on her tomorrow - should be interesting. Cue still more shrewery, methinks.

Incidentally, I'm seeing a solicitor in about a week's time. She's been threatening me with what, 'her solicitor' says for a week.
sadly i can't see this ending well for anyone except your solicitors.

Impasse

15,099 posts

240 months

Monday 25th August 2014
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Good luck with that, but I can't help feeling you may have a visit from the police soon over any number of allegations.

It's worth remembering that the reason for the marriage breakdown holds little sway in the division of marital assets, so don't go relying on that to be your ace card.

Birdster

2,529 posts

142 months

Monday 25th August 2014
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Will go near on 50/50 due to marital home, providing a home cooking meals etc. Okay not as basic as that. But you get the idea.

Also locking her out is not a good idea. It will make you look like the bad guy. Not a solicitor in a week, but now.

irocfan

40,152 posts

189 months

Monday 25th August 2014
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I can see a world of hurt for the OP here... if said ex is as batst mental as claimed then all sorts of allegations will be flying around including inappropriate contact with her kids (it's an easy win for her)