Wedding nonsense

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DoubleSix

11,691 posts

175 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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Why do you need an Occupational Therapist to plan a wedding?

Otispunkmeyer

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12,557 posts

154 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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DoubleSix said:
HereBeMonsters said:
Agree about the "please contribute to our honeymoon" st though.

fk off. I'm not paying so you can go on holiday. If you need something that you will use for years to come, I will happily buy it for you, but you can pay for your own fking trip to the Seychelles or whatever.
Even that makes me cringe.

My bro (who isn't wealthy and needed plenty at that stage of life), asked all who wished to make a gesture to put cash in an envelope and slip it in a box at the venue - it all went to Cancer research.

There was of course no obligation to do so.
Agree with this also. It is what i'll be suggesting.

chr15b

3,467 posts

189 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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Otispunkmeyer said:
No problem with marriage, in fact one day I will get married... but the actual wedding day itself just fills me with dread.

I've been to about a million weddings this year and am thoroughly wedding'd out. The overriding feeling on these days is sheer boredom. Especially for church weddings. Then come the speeches which all together see me glazing over for the next hour whilst people try to be funny or say something gushing. I wish just once the FiL would stand up and say the groom is a tt or something...just to spice it up.

On top of that, not one wedding was what you would call individual or different. They were all the bloody same and then there is the sheer nonsense added on top such as:

Comedy table center pieces so big you can't see the person you're trying to talk to across the table.

One wedding had two bands play

ridiculous amounts of food

Customised sweets with the event and names on and other daft "favors"/freebies.

An ice sculpture with the seating plan in it. Why? especially as the morning after we found it slung, unceremoniously, into a near by hedge.

Presents for kids who did the decent thing and kept schtum for 5 minutes during the ceremony as a well done.

videographers doing a "marryoke". Or in other words being forced against your wishes to sing and dance in front of a camera for the married couples later amusement. Not being extrovert in anyway, this was seriously uncomfortable for me.

Comedy custom t-shirts for the wedding party the day after

Holding it at some posh country house on the condition you get most of your guests to fork out £200 a night to stay there as well.

Starting at 12 and going on into the small hours...far to long.

A photobooth thingies that see most of the guests queuing outside of for the majority of the night. Or getting everyone a polaroid/dispoable to take gash, unusable pictures with. All of which will be at the dinner table.

A huge wedding cake + cup cakes + cheese + sweet stalls

the list goes on and on....like those planning these things are more bothered about the day and showing off than the event and actually getting married! All that extraneous fluff nonsense must cost a fortune!

And on top of the cost of your outfit (well I wore the same suit to all, but of course the OH couldn't be seen dead doing that), the extortionate hotel, the full tank of fuel for the round trip just to get there, they ask you to contribute to their honeymoon! Presumably because they just spanked all the cash on frivolous guff like flowers, a star light roof for the marquee and nice 3 course slap up meal for 100+.

Surely there are like minded people on here who want to regal me with tales of unnecessary wedding extravagance so I don't feel like I am the only one who thinks its insane???
easy, small wedding not in the UK only with really close family / friends.

wolves_wanderer

12,356 posts

236 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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STW2010 said:
t400ble said:
I upset a mate who asked me to be best man over his wedding.

Hated a few people who he'd invited, and at the time I hadn't got the £80 to stop in a fancy hotel.

Didn't go in end.
You don't deserve friends
rofl Indeed. There are some real emotional cripples on this site

Otispunkmeyer

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12,557 posts

154 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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chr15b said:
easy, small wedding not in the UK only with really close family / friends.
Easier said than done. I bet there are 1000's of blokes who want that who then get steam rolled by their OH's who get carried away with planning "their" day. And I mean their as in singular. He's just along for the ride.

DoubleSix

11,691 posts

175 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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wolves_wanderer said:
STW2010 said:
t400ble said:
I upset a mate who asked me to be best man over his wedding.

Hated a few people who he'd invited, and at the time I hadn't got the £80 to stop in a fancy hotel.

Didn't go in end.
You don't deserve friends
rofl Indeed. There are some real emotional cripples on this site
I'm still wandering about this 'fancy' hotel for £80

Last time I checked even a Travelodge was around a oner...

t400ble

1,804 posts

120 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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STW2010 said:
You don't deserve friends
I know.

DoubleSix

11,691 posts

175 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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Otispunkmeyer said:
chr15b said:
easy, small wedding not in the UK only with really close family / friends.
Easier said than done. I bet there are 1000's of blokes who want that who then get steam rolled by their OH's who get carried away with planning "their" day. And I mean their as in singular. He's just along for the ride.
yes

I am fighting the good fight as we type.

fk it, if shes doesn't listen at all I just won't turn up on the day - that'll learn her.

Otispunkmeyer

Original Poster:

12,557 posts

154 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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wolves_wanderer said:
STW2010 said:
t400ble said:
I upset a mate who asked me to be best man over his wedding.

Hated a few people who he'd invited, and at the time I hadn't got the £80 to stop in a fancy hotel.

Didn't go in end.
You don't deserve friends
rofl Indeed. There are some real emotional cripples on this site
Can I enter the paralympics on that disability? scratchchin

t400ble

1,804 posts

120 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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Well if I can claim benefits from it, great.

bigandclever

13,750 posts

237 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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t400ble said:
Well if I can claim benefits from it, great.


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Phil Dicky

7,162 posts

262 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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DoubleSix said:
wolves_wanderer said:
STW2010 said:
t400ble said:
I upset a mate who asked me to be best man over his wedding.

Hated a few people who he'd invited, and at the time I hadn't got the £80 to stop in a fancy hotel.

Didn't go in end.
You don't deserve friends
rofl Indeed. There are some real emotional cripples on this site
I'm still wandering about this 'fancy' hotel for £80

Last time I checked even a Travelodge was around a oner...
Got me perplexed too smile

iphonedyou

9,234 posts

156 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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It's a pity H22 has been banned. This thread would have had him spouting nonense at 'rich' enemies unknown, as was his wont.

Bless his impish little ways.

iphonedyou

9,234 posts

156 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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DoubleSix said:
I'm still wandering about this 'fancy' hotel for £80

Last time I checked even a Travelodge was around a oner...
You're wandering about it - ask a staff member for the name?

Impasse

15,099 posts

240 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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It does seem a waste of time, effort and money when divorce is so prevalent. Given that marriages which do fail seem to end at around the 8 year mark, is there a known ratio between size of wedding and likelihood of splitting within that timeframe?

DoubleSix

11,691 posts

175 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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iphonedyou said:
DoubleSix said:
I'm still wandering about this 'fancy' hotel for £80

Last time I checked even a Travelodge was around a oner...
You're wandering about it - ask a staff member for the name?
I'm sure there's a joke in there somewhere. I just can't find it.

wink

iphonedyou

9,234 posts

156 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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DoubleSix said:
I'm sure there's a joke in there somewhere. I just can't find it.

wink
Have a little wonder tongue out

DoubleSix

11,691 posts

175 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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Impasse said:
It does seem a waste of time, effort and money when divorce is so prevalent. Given that marriages which do fail seem to end at around the 8 year mark, is there a known ratio between size of wedding and likelihood of splitting within that timeframe?
There is in my experience.

The most lavish wedding I've been to ended unspectacularly within 18 months.

Maybe both 'events' speak of the intellect of the couple.

Lost soul

8,712 posts

181 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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Otispunkmeyer said:
Easier said than done. I bet there are 1000's of blokes who want that who then get steam rolled by their OH's who get carried away with planning "their" day. And I mean their as in singular. He's just along for the ride.
yes I am with you on this point

DoubleSix

11,691 posts

175 months

Tuesday 26th August 2014
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iphonedyou said:
DoubleSix said:
I'm sure there's a joke in there somewhere. I just can't find it.

wink
Have a little wonder tongue out
ahhh gotcha.

Curses. smile