Wedding nonsense
Discussion
DoubleSix said:
Impasse said:
It does seem a waste of time, effort and money when divorce is so prevalent. Given that marriages which do fail seem to end at around the 8 year mark, is there a known ratio between size of wedding and likelihood of splitting within that timeframe?
There is in my experience.The most lavish wedding I've been to ended unspectacularly within 18 months.
Maybe both 'events' speak of the intellect of the couple.
Someone I know is getting married for the 4th time at great expense for the 4th time. To be honest I would have thought he'd have learnt by now, but maybe he just likes wasting money!
Otispunkmeyer said:
Someone I know is getting married for the 4th time at great expense for the 4th time. To be honest I would have thought he'd have learnt by now, but maybe he just likes wasting money!
Jesus wept. Why's he so desperate to get married? I'll be on my 2nd and am so careful about falling in love with the wrong woman.Otispunkmeyer said:
Hoofy said:
Gold!Could go either way...
STW2010 said:
t400ble said:
I upset a mate who asked me to be best man over his wedding.
Hated a few people who he'd invited, and at the time I hadn't got the £80 to stop in a fancy hotel.
Didn't go in end.
You don't deserve friendsHated a few people who he'd invited, and at the time I hadn't got the £80 to stop in a fancy hotel.
Didn't go in end.
king holiday. Some 'friends' can cost a fortune.... Cheaper not having any!! 
Otispunkmeyer said:
Hoofy said:
Gold!A dress for one day? That'll be £2.5k please.
I've never got that. My whole outfit (dress, jacket, shoes, hat) cost less than £250. 
Got married in Gretna Green, at a church which was bought and is now used for civil ceremonies. It's all candle lit, so we got married in the evening, with 20 close family members. Had a meal with us all after, everyone stayed until about 3am, and even now they all say it's the best wedding they have ever been to.
The main reason we got married there is because my husband didnt want the big do, and as it was both of our wedding day we decided on something for both us. Turned out amazing and I still think it's because what he wanted as well. I could have married him in a black bag down an alley, I just wanted to be married to him.
So my advice when the time comes is to talk to your other half and discuss what you both want, it's a relationship not a dictatorship, you should both have an opinion and a choice on the day.
The main reason we got married there is because my husband didnt want the big do, and as it was both of our wedding day we decided on something for both us. Turned out amazing and I still think it's because what he wanted as well. I could have married him in a black bag down an alley, I just wanted to be married to him.
So my advice when the time comes is to talk to your other half and discuss what you both want, it's a relationship not a dictatorship, you should both have an opinion and a choice on the day.
Getting married next year.
We are spending a bit on it, but not nearly as much as some (a lot) of people now seem to.
It is in the lake district, at the church her parents and aunts got married at. Then we are going to a local pub - though there will be around 60-70 guests. By some standards that isn't too many - but its swelled alarmingly as far as I can see!
We aren't having a champagne reception- it'll be a pint or pimms on entry and the food will be by the way of a BBQ. Entertainment will be a band, but no disco nonsense. I know some people like to dance - but bks, we don't and it is our day (but we do like music - hence the band)*
Why do you want big centre pieces? I want our guests to talk to each other.
Disposable cameras? With camera phones and dropbox, what's the point?
Ice sculpture for a table plan? - Good god (we aren't even having a table plan), people can sit with who they please.
Marryoke? fk right off you twee wkers.
Also asking for money for your honeymoon is the cardinalest of cardinal sins to both me and the future Mrs VM. Blydi dreadful habit society has developed.
We are spending a bit on it, but not nearly as much as some (a lot) of people now seem to.
It is in the lake district, at the church her parents and aunts got married at. Then we are going to a local pub - though there will be around 60-70 guests. By some standards that isn't too many - but its swelled alarmingly as far as I can see!
We aren't having a champagne reception- it'll be a pint or pimms on entry and the food will be by the way of a BBQ. Entertainment will be a band, but no disco nonsense. I know some people like to dance - but b
ks, we don't and it is our day (but we do like music - hence the band)*Why do you want big centre pieces? I want our guests to talk to each other.
Disposable cameras? With camera phones and dropbox, what's the point?
Ice sculpture for a table plan? - Good god (we aren't even having a table plan), people can sit with who they please.
Marryoke? f
k right off you twee wkers. Also asking for money for your honeymoon is the cardinalest of cardinal sins to both me and the future Mrs VM. Blydi dreadful habit society has developed.
- people will obviously still be able to dance, however I get a bit tetchy when asked 'why aren't you dancing?' like its the only way in the world you can have fking fun.
Edited by Vocal Minority on Tuesday 26th August 16:37
OP - whatever you do, don't go to a child's birthday party. Nowadays, that will involve hiring Paul Daniels to pull a rabbit out of a hat, hot air balloon trips across the countryside, karting at Brands Hatch followed by a motivational speech by Seb Coe and a meal for 60 brats at Claridges. You will also be required to bring a present costing at least £100.
My sister in law got married in August , they did the whole thing including top notch week away for around £10k , country hotel venue was great, ok food , and it was a very very good day , the trouble is it has become competitive between mainly girls to have the biggest do to out do their mate
9mm said:
OP - whatever you do, don't go to a child's birthday party. Nowadays, that will involve hiring Paul Daniels to pull a rabbit out of a hat, hot air balloon trips across the countryside, karting at Brands Hatch followed by a motivational speech by Seb Coe and a meal for 60 brats at Claridges. You will also be required to bring a present costing at least £100.
Quite true. Average kid's party costs in the region of £300. Have a look at any sports venue eg your local climbing wall for kid's party prices.
Lost soul said:
it has become competitive between mainly girls to have the biggest do to out do their mate
Yes - this. We know a couple. They will also harp on about it endlessly in the pub and on social media. Constantly counting down, and when the wedding is done, repeat for the honeymoon.
So it is also an excuse for some to get everyone to fawn about them and generally be the centre of attention for as long as possible
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