Lack of Social life
Discussion
Hoofy said:
bucksmanuk said:
Was gonna suggest this. If you can't improve your social life via meetup.com there's something wrong with you. 
Your either going to get a hooker or some pervert pretending to be a women.
Studio117 said:
Hoofy said:
bucksmanuk said:
Was gonna suggest this. If you can't improve your social life via meetup.com there's something wrong with you. Your either going to get a hooker or some pervert pretending to be a women.
Hoofy said:
Studio117 said:
Hoofy said:
bucksmanuk said:
Was gonna suggest this. If you can't improve your social life via meetup.com there's something wrong with you. Your either going to get a hooker or some pervert pretending to be a women.
Everyone on that front page looks so happy?!
Bloody awful. I'd rather stop in the house.
THX said:
Hoofy said:
Studio117 said:
Hoofy said:
bucksmanuk said:
Was gonna suggest this. If you can't improve your social life via meetup.com there's something wrong with you. Your either going to get a hooker or some pervert pretending to be a women.
Everyone on that front page looks so happy?!
Bloody awful. I'd rather stop in the house.
Having been married for 24 years, and 'courting' for the 4 years before that, all through university, my wife and kids are convinced I have no friends.
Funny that. I've spent the last 5 years living away from home for work 4 nights a week, and have shared houses with all sorts of people, and have no problems making friends.
Funny that. I've spent the last 5 years living away from home for work 4 nights a week, and have shared houses with all sorts of people, and have no problems making friends.
Studio117 said:
THX said:
Hoofy said:
Studio117 said:
Hoofy said:
bucksmanuk said:
Was gonna suggest this. If you can't improve your social life via meetup.com there's something wrong with you. Your either going to get a hooker or some pervert pretending to be a women.
Everyone on that front page looks so happy?!
Bloody awful. I'd rather stop in the house.
VinceFox said:
It's only a problem if it bothers you. You're allowed to be solitary and private if it's what you want.
Everyone's different. Introverts usually NEED time alone, it's not just that they can't integrate. 
Don't let the social groups depicted in TV or films make you feel like there's something wrong with you.
Obviously there MIGHT be something wrong with you.
Never really understood people that don’t socialise, I have a full time job, 2 hours commute a day, 2 dogs and a cat, a fiancé and a old house to maintain but I must spend at minimum 1 weekday evening and say a whole Saturday day and night, If not both Friday and Saturday night with my mates, EVERY SINGLE WEEK and I wouldn’t change it for the world.
But then variety is the spice of life hey, if we were all the same it would be boring.
But then variety is the spice of life hey, if we were all the same it would be boring.
StottyEvo said:
You sound like my brother!
Sport is a great way to meet people, are you interested in any?
As an example I went boxing with a friend, I wouldn't go on my own to a boxing gym when I was a beginner... After about 3weeks I was pretty much talking to everyone in the class and hung out socially with about 3 of them. Meeting one person can introduce you to another 3, then to more and more etc...
This ^^^^Sport is a great way to meet people, are you interested in any?
As an example I went boxing with a friend, I wouldn't go on my own to a boxing gym when I was a beginner... After about 3weeks I was pretty much talking to everyone in the class and hung out socially with about 3 of them. Meeting one person can introduce you to another 3, then to more and more etc...
I have quite a few different circles of friends, all met through different ways.
Sport is a good option. I started kickboxing a few years back, got into it quite quickly and met a lot of new people. Quite often we'll go out on the piss together or go to a random pub quiz. The good thing about a sport based group is that there is quite a high turnover of people, so you meet a lot of random people over a 6 month period.
Plus sporty people tend to be quite outgoing and extrovert, so it could rub off on you.
Im sort of in the middle I rather my own company less hassle that way in the short time 5 years I be in the working world since 16 everything else is just more hassle.
I don't need to be around others all the time like some friends too but I will go out couple of times a month to the local pub for a few drinks and a catch up but tbh drinking is another thing that doesn't bother me too.
Im very much the same with relationship loads of my friends cant possible be without a girl me on the other hand again not that bothered from what I hear from others in a relationship is moaning.
But where I get my enjoyment is through car if that's through track days, various shows either small local type show with a few local friends or big massive event like jap fest with the mx5 nutz community. Also organise a few runs being close to the heart of wales with fast empty welsh mountain roads good group of mates flying up through mid wales, sun out that where I get my enjoyment.
I don't need to be around others all the time like some friends too but I will go out couple of times a month to the local pub for a few drinks and a catch up but tbh drinking is another thing that doesn't bother me too.
Im very much the same with relationship loads of my friends cant possible be without a girl me on the other hand again not that bothered from what I hear from others in a relationship is moaning.
But where I get my enjoyment is through car if that's through track days, various shows either small local type show with a few local friends or big massive event like jap fest with the mx5 nutz community. Also organise a few runs being close to the heart of wales with fast empty welsh mountain roads good group of mates flying up through mid wales, sun out that where I get my enjoyment.
The Beaver King said:
StottyEvo said:
You sound like my brother!
Sport is a great way to meet people, are you interested in any?
As an example I went boxing with a friend, I wouldn't go on my own to a boxing gym when I was a beginner... After about 3weeks I was pretty much talking to everyone in the class and hung out socially with about 3 of them. Meeting one person can introduce you to another 3, then to more and more etc...
This ^^^^Sport is a great way to meet people, are you interested in any?
As an example I went boxing with a friend, I wouldn't go on my own to a boxing gym when I was a beginner... After about 3weeks I was pretty much talking to everyone in the class and hung out socially with about 3 of them. Meeting one person can introduce you to another 3, then to more and more etc...
I have quite a few different circles of friends, all met through different ways.
Sport is a good option. I started kickboxing a few years back, got into it quite quickly and met a lot of new people. Quite often we'll go out on the piss together or go to a random pub quiz. The good thing about a sport based group is that there is quite a high turnover of people, so you meet a lot of random people over a 6 month period.
Plus sporty people tend to be quite outgoing and extrovert, so it could rub off on you.
Take up a sport and you already have a common interest with everyone else involved.
s.Sounds like my life, except I'm married to my OH and we live together with two kids.
Most of my social life is with her friends. I had a few reliable mates to go for beers with before I moved but it's complicated now to arrange something as we've all changed, got families, etc. so relationships have drifted. If we do meet up it tends to be family to family rather than just out with my mate for a beer or three.
That said I used to quite enjoy my own company and really miss the quiet times these days. Don't get much with a 1 and 3 year old.
Would be nice to have someone local who I could just say "pub tomorrow night?" to and they'd be there. I the old days those sort of casual sessions used to turn into "going out out" to quote Micky Flanagan and I end up stumbling home from a nightclub at 3am
Most of my social life is with her friends. I had a few reliable mates to go for beers with before I moved but it's complicated now to arrange something as we've all changed, got families, etc. so relationships have drifted. If we do meet up it tends to be family to family rather than just out with my mate for a beer or three.
That said I used to quite enjoy my own company and really miss the quiet times these days. Don't get much with a 1 and 3 year old.
Would be nice to have someone local who I could just say "pub tomorrow night?" to and they'd be there. I the old days those sort of casual sessions used to turn into "going out out" to quote Micky Flanagan and I end up stumbling home from a nightclub at 3am
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