Birthdays, can you be bothered?

[croyde]

This reminds me, mine's next week but as separated from my wife, there is no one too organise anything. She did some good days back in the past and pre the kids we'd always surprise each other on our birthdays with trips away, posh restaurants in London, nice hotels, big parties etc.

I always make sure the kids get her pressies for her birthdays but she doesn't always return the compliment (Is that the correct phrase).

My 50th was just my ex and the kids at a local pub garden. Next week I'll be 52 but it's ok as I'll be at work for a very long day

I fekin' hate Christmas as well, last one I spent on me own in a stty hotel.

Right that's enough brooding

[mike-r]

I think the fact people generally have to arrange their own birthday plans means no one really gives a fk.

[TobyLaRohne]

mike-r said:

I think the fact people generally have to arrange their own birthday plans means no one really gives a fk.

I'd be inclined to agree, however last year I didnt organise anything and I got nothing but ear ache from almost all my friends at the last minute asking why I'd not organised a piss up.

[sc0tt]

I'd rather just skip over birthdays.

We was having a discussion about them the other day at work and they asked when mine was.

"Last week" ... Cue lots of confused faces as to why I hadn't walked around the office brandishing a big it's my birthday banner.

[Faust66]

I look at birthdays as merely another excuse to head off to the pub for an evening of heavy drinking (hopefully with the bonus of being largely funded by my mates).

That said, I’m 40 next year and various family members are trying to get me to ‘do’ something to celebrate. Personally, a day of tinkering with my car followed by an evening in the pub seems preferable to the forced jollity of a party with a compliment of screaming kids and moaning relatives.

OP: it’s your birthday so do what you want, be it a party, quiet day, raucous evening of strippers & coke... do whatever floats your boat.

[anonymous-user]

TobyLaRohne said:

I didn't organise anything and I got nothing but ear ache from almost all my friends at the last minute asking why I'd not organised a piss up.

The ones who didn't give you ear ache are your friends.

[S11Steve]

It's mine today, and I'm not overly excited about being one year closer to the arbitrary 40. It's nice to be fussed over a bit by the other half, kids and family, but it's just another day IMO.

I do tend to buy something for myself each year, and this is no exception as I'm picking up the TVR after an extensive chassis refurb later in the week.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

lukefreeman said:

Same as my missus, 11th of Sep and she's a twin too.

Don't tell me her surname is Towers!

[Impasse]

croyde said:

I fekin' hate Christmas as well, last one I spent on me own in a stty hotel.

The last few years I've spent the Christmas period alone in another country sitting in the sunshine on a warm beach. So much better than enduring the enforced jolities of here and rather liberating to return to Gatwick in the New Year with all that crap finished with.

[Rotary Madness]

Mr Kitten said:

Surely it's one day a year when it's all about you?
Just do what you want to do!

Yeah but it fking isnt is it? If you dont do the whole accepting cake and presents bullst everyone throws a strop.

fk Birthdays.

[HTP99]

Birthdays to me are another day and another year older, I like the pressies and maybe a curry out with the wife and kids but that is where it ends, I'm 40 in January and I won't be having anything special for it, I have said if a surprise party is organised I will turn around and leave as I loathe being the centre of attention, however I like to think that the wife and my family know me well enough to not do something.

My sister on the other hand, "hey everyone look at me, look at how much I can spend so you notice me/us"; christenings, birthdays, her wedding etc, that is her, I think it is a confidence thing, she moans if she has to work on her birthday; FFS she's 35, grow up!!

[OldSkoolRS]

storminnorman said:

I share my birthday with North Korea, but I can live with it

I share my birthday with Jesus, so that means that particular day isn't all about me anyway.

[Jasandjules]

I don't really care about a Birthday. My 30th we went to the Maldives mind, and for my 40th I intend to do something good.... My OH cares very much about hers though and we are required to do something special...

[Vocal Minority]

TobyLaRohne said:

Basically, my 30th birthday is coming up and to be honest, while I love celebrating my partners birthday and getting nice gifts for my family and friends, personally I absolutely LOATHE the idea of being the centre of attention as well as feeling like I have to organise all my friends into one location to commemorate an event that to me, means no more than the day that preceded it.

I can't decide if I should slap myself on the face and stop being a miserable git or if I'm allowed to mark the day in a way I choose fitting...having a rarely permitted curry, kicking my feet up with a beer and watch something like Blackhawk down on extra loud with the surroundsound on.

Do you actually look forward to your 6 pack of black socks and a bottle of aftershave day?

I have never felt the need to make a big song and dance about mine to be honest

[catman]

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How about a nice pair of testicles to mark the occasion?

[Dalto123]

I had my 21st this year, and to be honest I couldn't be less bothered or excited about it - I didn't even know what I wanted present wise and still went to work that day. In future I think I'd rather just take a day or two off, go for a hoon and treat myself to a nice meal/drink. Miserable or what?

Edited by Dalto123 on Tuesday 9th September 06:45

[croyde]

HTP99 said:

My sister on the other hand, "hey everyone look at me, look at how much I can spend so you notice me/us"; christenings, birthdays, her wedding etc, that is her, I think it is a confidence thing, she moans if she has to work on her birthday; FFS she's 35, grow up!!

Sounds like my ex-wife, she has a Birthday week.

[TobyLaRohne]

Wow, its actually nice to know I'm not on my own! Thanks for the input chaps.

[HTP99]

I was massively in the doghouse early this year as I hadn't organised for myself and the wife to go away on her 40th or saved for something special, she organised a party for herself and her reluctant best friend who was going to be 50; their 90th, however I made it plainly obvious that I had done diddly squat for her.

I sort of redeemed myself and I think all is forgiven now as I hastily organised a weekend away in Stratford Upon Avon and I got her a nice personalised leather satchel from the Cambridge Satchal Company.

The problem is we have slightly differing views on turning 40; I couldn't give a st and it's amother day, she wanted to embrace it and make a big deal.

I await my special 40th pressie when January appears; not!!

[TREMAiNE]

I can't stand birthdays because I hate getting presents from relatives who I don't like, who I then have to be nice to because they've got me a present.