Birthdays, can you be bothered?
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mike-r said:
This whole quote reads like it's about something legitmately traumatising, not just about some waiters in a chain restaurant singing Happy Birthday to you. I'm not a huge fan of being centre of attention nor birthdays but I'd take this in my stride. Cheer up!
AndrewEH1 said:
Some fun you are....
Without going into detail, if some of you knew me properly, you'd know why it had an affect.Edited by Fun Bus on Tuesday 16th September 14:40
Fun Bus said:
Without going into detail, if some of you knew me properly, you'd know why it had an affect. I've not been seeing a psychotherapist for 3 years for nothing.
Thanks.
I didn't mean to annoy or upset you. If you read the second bit you'd see that I have similar issues, perhaps not for the same reasons though.Thanks.
Fun Bus - the other half is under no illusion if he ever arranges any kind of mega surprise or TGI style embarrassment for me, I would walk out.
I would quite happily throw a big party for everyone for my birthday, and have done in the past. I enjoy playing host. But to have one organised for me would totally throw me. Odd really.
I would quite happily throw a big party for everyone for my birthday, and have done in the past. I enjoy playing host. But to have one organised for me would totally throw me. Odd really.
On reflection, allow me to add some substance to what I posted. I used to suffer (and still do a bit) with dreadful anxiety. I've been working through this along with other 'issues' (hate that word) but the friend who managed the Frankie & Benny's didn't know this. Suddenly being out of control and centre of attention wasn't nice for me, my Wife knew but didn't get chance to say "don't make a fuss" - as a result I was put into a situation which I didn't like being in.
To many, it's a 'no big deal' but to me, is a 'big deal' - right, this isn't the Fun Bus show, back on topic...
To many, it's a 'no big deal' but to me, is a 'big deal' - right, this isn't the Fun Bus show, back on topic...
Dr Interceptor said:
Fun Bus - the other half is under no illusion if he ever arranges any kind of mega surprise or TGI style embarrassment for me, I would walk out.
I would quite happily throw a big party for everyone for my birthday, and have done in the past. I enjoy playing host. But to have one organised for me would totally throw me. Odd really.
Why odd, you're obviously a control freak. Embrace it. I would quite happily throw a big party for everyone for my birthday, and have done in the past. I enjoy playing host. But to have one organised for me would totally throw me. Odd really.
TobyLaRohne said:
With mine being on Sept 11th it has (since 2001) always felt a bit wrong to celebrate it. Not least because absolutely every media outlet and everywhere you look is filled with pictures commemorating the event.
A thought just occured to me. This is perhaps the first year since it happened that I have seen nothing about it in the media, or on Facebook or the like. Not even in passing conversation. I always try and get my birthday off work.
sparks_E39 said:
A thought just occured to me. This is perhaps the first year since it happened that I have seen nothing about it in the media, or on Facebook or the like. Not even in passing conversation.
I always try and get my birthday off work.
I think you're right too, I was waiting for someone to bring it up as they usually do on my birthday..but nobody did, it was actually quite nice! I guess part of the reason is they've nailed the guy responsible and that gave closure to it for alot of people.I always try and get my birthday off work.
Swerni: Guess that impression comes with having had the Z06, nobody in the UK wants to be in their 20's with one haha.
It's my 40th at the beginning of January and it is my Aunts 60th on the same date, she collared me at my dads 65th family meal this April and said that we must get together for it as it will be our joint 100th and both birthdays are "special ones", I assumed that she meant the two of us getting together for a meal.
Fast forward to a week ago, she is trying to organise a big get together of the family for our birthday meal on the 3rd January, this is not what I had in mind and I do not want it; at all, I can't think of anything worse and it is actually stressing me out, there was an answerphone message on the home phone yesterday from her asking me to call her.
The problem with my Aunt is she gets carried away and is very hard to stop and then takes things personally when people try and stop her or slow her down, my stepmum spoke to her a few days ago about it and tried to lever in a few hints without actually saying that I'm not interested (yes I'm almost 40 and my stepmum fights my battles, actually she is like me and hates a fuss so can totally understand how I feel!!), hopefully she may have taken the hints in.
I'm not looking forward to the phone call back to her.
Fast forward to a week ago, she is trying to organise a big get together of the family for our birthday meal on the 3rd January, this is not what I had in mind and I do not want it; at all, I can't think of anything worse and it is actually stressing me out, there was an answerphone message on the home phone yesterday from her asking me to call her.
The problem with my Aunt is she gets carried away and is very hard to stop and then takes things personally when people try and stop her or slow her down, my stepmum spoke to her a few days ago about it and tried to lever in a few hints without actually saying that I'm not interested (yes I'm almost 40 and my stepmum fights my battles, actually she is like me and hates a fuss so can totally understand how I feel!!), hopefully she may have taken the hints in.
I'm not looking forward to the phone call back to her.
Edited by HTP99 on Saturday 8th November 17:56
HTP99 said:
It's my 40th at the beginning of January and it is my Aunts 60th on the same date, she collared me at my dads 65th family meal this April and said that we must get together for it as it will be our joint 100th and both birthdays are "special ones", I assumed that she meant the two of us getting together for a meal.
Fast forward to a week ago, she is trying to organise a big get together of the family for our birthday meal on the 3rd January, this is not what I had in mind and I do not want it; at all, I can't think of anything worse and it is actually stressing me out, there was an answerphone message on the home phone yesterday from her asking me to call her.
The problem with my Aunt is she gets carried away and is very hard to stop and then takes things personally when people try and stop her or slow her down, my stepmum spoke to her a few days ago about it and tried to lever in a few hints without actually saying that I'm not interested (yes I'm almost 40 and my stepmum fights my battles, actually she is like me and hates a fuss so can totally understand how I feel!!), hopefully she may have taken the hints in.
I'm not looking forward to the phone call back to her.
I always find going abroad on holiday is a good way of avoiding birthday meals.Fast forward to a week ago, she is trying to organise a big get together of the family for our birthday meal on the 3rd January, this is not what I had in mind and I do not want it; at all, I can't think of anything worse and it is actually stressing me out, there was an answerphone message on the home phone yesterday from her asking me to call her.
The problem with my Aunt is she gets carried away and is very hard to stop and then takes things personally when people try and stop her or slow her down, my stepmum spoke to her a few days ago about it and tried to lever in a few hints without actually saying that I'm not interested (yes I'm almost 40 and my stepmum fights my battles, actually she is like me and hates a fuss so can totally understand how I feel!!), hopefully she may have taken the hints in.
I'm not looking forward to the phone call back to her.
Edited by HTP99 on Saturday 8th November 17:56
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