Affair - hating it but can't see to disconnect (help)
Discussion
I don't understand why some people have to be with one person.
FB is free so should you leave your partner for her even though you have nothing in common.
It's not one dilemma, it's two.
1) clearly, bin the FB or "B" as she now is
2) examine whether you want to continue with / rescue your relationship with your wife
It is absolutely not a question of one woman or the other
FB is free so should you leave your partner for her even though you have nothing in common.
It's not one dilemma, it's two.
1) clearly, bin the FB or "B" as she now is
2) examine whether you want to continue with / rescue your relationship with your wife
It is absolutely not a question of one woman or the other
your wife has a two year old to look after and is probably knackered all the time, it's not a wonder she is off sex tbh. A child of that age is a pretty demanding thing to look after both mentally and physically.
You obviously don't understand the toll looking after small children takes on a women and can't see past your own selfish needs.
It takes time for a relationship to get back to what it was re intimacy after having a child.
It would have probably been better to discuss this with your wife before deciding to get it elsewhere.
yours,
Father of 3.
You obviously don't understand the toll looking after small children takes on a women and can't see past your own selfish needs.
It takes time for a relationship to get back to what it was re intimacy after having a child.
It would have probably been better to discuss this with your wife before deciding to get it elsewhere.
yours,
Father of 3.
Peskybear said:
.......The last few years have been utterly s
t, but I can't let her move on. The sex completely stopped months ago. Whenever we went out - it'd just be crap, food would be crap- its almost like every aspect is saying 'this is crap'. Yet for some reason I feel insanely jealous at the thought of her with someone else......
Yes, I feel your pain. My first 'real' girlfriend was like this. I was bored st, but I can't let her move on. The sex completely stopped months ago. Whenever we went out - it'd just be crap, food would be crap- its almost like every aspect is saying 'this is crap'. Yet for some reason I feel insanely jealous at the thought of her with someone else......tless after six months, fed up of everything about her, but hated the idea of leaving her, leaving my girlfriend, and not having one, not having someone to have sex with, or heaven forbid, have HER get another boyfriend while I was still single and me having to see her in town with him. 
(Yes, stupid I know, but then you realise that already)Soooo, it dragged on for 2 1/2 years until it all became too much grief.
She was a very nice girl, and I still keep in touch with her on Bookface on occasion, some 35 years later, but haven't seen her for decades.
But anyway, lesson learned, when it isn't working any more, when it can't be fixed, you need to grow a pair and move on, and deal with what that entails rather than hang on hoping it somehow gets better.
Peskybear said:
Add this into the mix- a couple of years ago my daughter was born. Sex at home stopped of course and we were always tired. This woman gave me the escape I guess.
The crux is - its never been right with this woman but I can't let go. WHY? Why am I being possessive, its possessiveness right?
It'd never work- I thought to myself if I wasn't with my partner would I be with this woman? No, not longterm. She doesn't even drink water FFS- all she drinks are sugary drinks/fizzy pop. Everything about her annoys me. Yet when I'm in the same room as her I feel horny as hell.
HELP - slap me for fks sake. Anyone else been in this sort of position? I hate it.
Yes we still work with each other. A new job at the moment isn't possible.
Have a wThe crux is - its never been right with this woman but I can't let go. WHY? Why am I being possessive, its possessiveness right?
It'd never work- I thought to myself if I wasn't with my partner would I be with this woman? No, not longterm. She doesn't even drink water FFS- all she drinks are sugary drinks/fizzy pop. Everything about her annoys me. Yet when I'm in the same room as her I feel horny as hell.
HELP - slap me for f
ks sake. Anyone else been in this sort of position? I hate it. Yes we still work with each other. A new job at the moment isn't possible.
k then decide if you still want her. I bet the answer is a resounding no...I was in a similar situation about 12 months ago with one of the girls at work. I won't go into any details although we were both single I was probably not in a good place emotionally. However, we both hold Snr positions and it was just not right with the potential for it to all go horribly wrong... We discussed it and agreed to end things. Yes, it was quite tough at first but we just ceased all non essential communication (no texts, IM, phonecalls etc). We still work together and get on pretty well in fact she jokes anbout me dumping her but honestly, quite quickly those feelings subsided probably in part because I started a relationship with someone else and she has also.
My advice would be to consider the same and invest your energies in making things work with your current partner if that is what you truly want...
My advice would be to consider the same and invest your energies in making things work with your current partner if that is what you truly want...
Peskybear said:
Abuse me ffs. I need a slap. I actually like sleeping with my partner. I just can't understand why I'm treating(?) this woman as a possession? Why can't I break free?
Maybe you have a huge ego and the current situation, of having cake and eating it is stroking it. Whilst whispering in your ear 'who's the mac daddy'.ShyTallKnight said:
I was in a similar situation about 12 months ago with one of the girls at work. I won't go into any details although we were both single I was probably not in a good place emotionally. However, we both hold Snr positions and it was just not right with the potential for it to all go horribly wrong... We discussed it and agreed to end things. Yes, it was quite tough at first but we just ceased all non essential communication (no texts, IM, phonecalls etc). We still work together and get on pretty well in fact she jokes anbout me dumping her but honestly, quite quickly those feelings subsided probably in part because I started a relationship with someone else and she has also.
Actually, she dumped your sorry arse, but did it really nicely so you never even knew! 
OP maybe you love the fkbuddy, this would explain your attachment, I was in a similar situation years ago, a mate pointed this out for me and I ended up with the fkbuddy.
That didn't work either and she made a pretty good job of ruining my life, or so it seemed at the time.
The sex was dynamite though.
kbuddy, this would explain your attachment, I was in a similar situation years ago, a mate pointed this out for me and I ended up with the fkbuddy. That didn't work either and she made a pretty good job of ruining my life, or so it seemed at the time.
The sex was dynamite though.
Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff