Affair - hating it but can't see to disconnect (help)

[ShyTallKnight]

Piersman2 said:

Actually, she dumped your sorry arse, but did it really nicely so you never even knew!

Yeah maybe... Either way worked out for the best in the end and probably dodged a bullet tbh with the benefit of hindsight..!!

[DrDoofenshmirtz]

I bet the real issue is that you're feeling extremely guilty. If you aren't, then you probably aren't a very nice person.
Can you/do you want spend the rest of your life with the mother of your kid?
If the answer is yes, then the guilt will stay with you forever, eating you up inside until one day you can't stand it any more and you tell her. Her world will then collapse, and you will have ruined her entire life.
If the above doesn't bother you - then you're probably a bit of a heartless .

You're fked either way buddy. She'll either forgive you, but and never trust you again. Or she'll kick you out and you'll just be like any other modern broken family.

Good luck.

[Sargeant Orange]

Could try the pooper shooter to spice it up a bit?

[Loudy McFatass]

Whoever let's you give her a ''Maui Mudslide' is the one you should be with.

[bitchstewie]

I think it's just called being human - there might be an easy answer on paper but doing it is the hard part believe me.

Soon as I saw the thread title it was pretty obvious there would be handful of useful constructive replies out of 3 pages.

[Blib]

http://www.slaauk.org/

Question 2 of "The 40 Questions for Self-Diagnosis" is a doozy, OP.

Edited by Blib on Friday 12th September 13:33

[Peskybear]

DrDoofenshmirtz said:

I bet the real issue is that you're feeling extremely guilty. If you aren't, then you probably aren't a very nice person.
Can you/do you want spend the rest of your life with the mother of your kid?
If the answer is yes, then the guilt will stay with you forever, eating you up inside until one day you can't stand it any more and you tell her. Her world will then collapse, and you will have ruined her entire life.
If the above doesn't bother you - then you're probably a bit of a heartless .

You're fked either way buddy. She'll either forgive you, but and never trust you again. Or she'll kick you out and you'll just be like any other modern broken family.

Good luck.

You are harsh but you are right. When I did the deed - fk, it was mental the guilt. Really heavy and immediate and full on. I'd swear never again over and over again on the way home. I hated myself for doing it and the whole mess. The guilt got so bad that when she wanted a weekend away (I could easily do this) I made up excuses why I couldn't even though it meant no nookie.

My other half doesn't deserve this st. I'm going to have to carry the weight of what I did all my life. I know my other half and I know it'd hurt very deep.

So the only thing I can do is be the best bloke imaginable to her for ever.

Either that or leave and that'd also make me a weekend Dad. So we all suffer.

You know before this I'd have said deep down I am a good person. After all this I don't think too highly of myself.

[Studio117]

Guilt is over rated.

You'll be having another affair in a few years I would have thought.

Just make sure no one finds out.

Good luck.

[MikeO996]

You'll feel so much better when you man up and dump her.

[tangerine_sedge]

Pistonheads you've failed me.

Page 3, and nobody has mentioned a 3-some yet.... tsk tsk

[cranford10]

tangerine_sedge said:

Pistonheads you've failed me.

Page 3, and nobody has mentioned a 3-some yet.... tsk tsk

Threesomes are vastly over rated - I had one 2 days ago and still can' t sit down properly

[simo1863]

cranford10 said:

Threesomes are vastly over rated - I had one 2 days ago and still can' t sit down properly

Prison showers don't count.

OP, we can't possibly help with this without any pictures......!?

[mjb1]

One of them you need to smash the back doors in, the other needs sausages hammering into her lawn. But I can't tell you which is which. Am I doing this right?

Actually, I think you just need a new FB, that would solve everything.

[Studio117]

mjb1 said:

One of them you need to smash the back doors in, the other needs sausages hammering into her lawn. But I can't tell you which is which. Am I doing this right?

Actually, I think you just need a new FB, that would solve everything.

sausage in the back door?

[littlebasher]

cranford10 said:

tangerine_sedge said:

Pistonheads you've failed me.

Page 3, and nobody has mentioned a 3-some yet.... tsk tsk

Threesomes are vastly over rated - I had one 2 days ago and still can' t sit down properly

I think he meant him and the 2 women, rather than 3 blokes!

[blindswelledrat]

littlebasher said:

cranford10 said:

tangerine_sedge said:

Pistonheads you've failed me.

Page 3, and nobody has mentioned a 3-some yet.... tsk tsk

Threesomes are vastly over rated - I had one 2 days ago and still can' t sit down properly

I think he meant him and the 2 women, rather than 3 blokes!

Sigh.
a) I think he knew that and made a joke and you look a bit foolish or
b)You realised he knew that and your post was a joke, which is the same joke as he made but less funny

[bazza white]

The sex is good because its wrong. FB's should only be for the short term. Knock it on the head and focus getting your relationship back on track. Talk to your wife about sex, in a relationship open communication is the only way to amazing sex.

[happychap]

OP, if you had a magic wand, what would you wish for.

[StottyEvo]

Well your actions of the past few years have been less than admirable, as is your current attitude.

Get a grip, and do the right thing. If you've acknowledged that you're possessive and jealous its not difficult to counteract this behaviour, force yourself to stop thinking and acting that way.

Stop seeing the FB and start paying all your attention to your family.

[sc0tt]

blindswelledrat said:

Sigh.
a) I think he knew that and made a joke and you look a bit foolish or
b)You realised he knew that and your post was a joke, which is the same joke as he made but less funny

I think I want an affair with you