Waking up - hopefully

[Funkycoldribena]

grumpy52 said:

Yes I want to die in my sleep , just like my grandad .
Not screaming in terror like his passengers !

That joke died in its sleep around 1987.

[grumbledoak]

Now I've thought about it I am more concerned about actually waking up dead. Or buried in a coffin.

Thanks for that.

[Rude-boy]

sherbertdip said:

One day i know I won't wake up and that really scares me, does anybody else have these feelings?

Nope, not in the slightest.

I do not fear death, although I do not invite it, only the manner of my passing and the impact of my death on loved ones even registers the slightest of concerns.

Dying in my sleep has to be one of the top three "If (when) I've got to go, that's the way to do it" options.

I'll let you into a secret, we are all going to die one day. The less time you spend worrying about it, the more likely it is you will enjoy yourself before it happens...

[Tallow]

Hoofy said:

That, too, was Kanye West. And he was talking about disabled people.

So Brad Pitt was the one that liked fish sticks, right? My bad...

[DMN]

sc0tt said:

You won't wake up dead so I wouldn't let it concern you.

That'll only happen when they allow gay men on board ships.

[Hoofy]

Tallow said:

Hoofy said:

That, too, was Kanye West. And he was talking about disabled people.

So Brad Pitt was the one that liked fish sticks, right? My bad...

Wasn't that Captain Birdseye?

[Tallow]

Hoofy said:

Wasn't that Captain Birdseye?

You're right. Brad Pitt single handedly built Apollo 13. I'm all over the place today

[tangerine_sedge]

In a first for Pistonheads, here's some poetry whic hperfectly explains how *I* want to go :

Let me die a youngman's death
not a clean and inbetween
the sheets holywater death
not a famous-last-words
peaceful out of breath death

When I'm 73
and in constant good tumour
may I be mown down at dawn
by a bright red sports car
on my way home
from an allnight party

Or when I'm 91
with silver hair
and sitting in a barber's chair
may rival gangsters
with hamfisted tommyguns burst in
and give me a short back and insides

Or when I'm 104
and banned from the Cavern
may my mistress
catching me in bed with her daughter
and fearing for her son
cut me up into little pieces
and throw away every piece but one

Let me die a youngman's death
not a free from sin tiptoe in
candle wax and waning death
not a curtains drawn by angels borne
'what a nice way to go' death

Roger McGough

[entropy]

I have a recurring dream of being shot or stabbed to death and then I suddenly wake and leaves me freaked out in a cold sweat.

[Kenty]

Heart attacks/failure are the main reason and there are several things you can do to minimise this .
If you need to get up for any reason between 2 & 6 is to do it very slowly and carefully, your heart is resting and needs time to 'get going'.
Drink a glass of water before bed, yes even if you pee a lot. The reason is long and complicated but it's true.
Never ever ignore left side chest pain.
HTH

[Ray Luxury-Yacht]

Purity14 said:

Personally, I'd love not to wake up one day - life is full of burden, annoyances, thoughts and what ifs.

I'd much rather be dead just to get some downtime, it would be nice to relax somewhere tranquil.

I dream about dying every day, I'd never intentionally kill myself though.

I'm like you on that. I'm not depressed, or suicidal at all. I enjoy life, my family, my friends and all the fun stuff. I think I've made the best of it so far, I certainly have no real regrets. I've actually been very very lucky - I've packed in a lot and done lots of amazing things.

But. Like you say, when death comes - ah, the rest, the peace, the lack of stress. I think it will be wonderful in a weird way.

One thing that I have always loved and still do, is being asleep. I love a good sleep, me. I'm happily up for working and being active when I'm awake, but I always embrace the sleep. When I am on holiday (and being lucky enough not to have to worry about a wife and children) then I often go on a 12/12 cycle of sleep/awake.

I've had two knee operations in the past few years, necessitating a general anaesthetic. Obviously I was a bit scared of it at first before my first one. And I guess that maybe being knocked out with a GA is kinda akin to dying...only less permanent

I rationalised it by reminding myself that it was a rare opportunity for a decent bit of sleep in the middle of the day! Hence in the theatre when the anaesthetist plugged the syringe into my cannula and asked if I was ready, I said yes, closed my eyes, and welcomed the sleep which washed over me very quickly. Felt very chilled and well-rested when I woke up 2 hours later. So the second time I went for a GA, knowing what was coming, I positively looked forward to it again! I love a bit of GA me

[Impasse]

Or just accept your fate and roll over and go back to sleep.

[sherbertdip]

My fear of death during sleep is a result of waking up a few years ago to the still warm body of my partner aged 48, no struggle, no noise, went to bed as normal kissed each other goodnight, i woke up with the alarm, she didn't stir when i shook her to say good morning.

A most surreal, scary and heartbreaking moment, and i relive it every morning!

ETA; i don't really know why i wrote that, it's not that it means anything to total strangers on here, but makes me feel a bit, lighter?

2nd ETA: it was during belated (1 year later) bereavement counselling, that i met my current partner whose husband had been killed in a car crash by a speeding driver. Weird how things work out!

Edited by sherbertdip on Monday 15th September 21:18

Edited by sherbertdip on Monday 15th September 21:25

[aw51 121565]

sherbertdip said:

Some interesting but desperately sad stuff.

There's no realistic comeback to that - there's no escaping what's happened even for one day for you, is there?

I've been widowed twice in the last 12 years (I'm 44 now...), but both wives died in hospital after I had cared for them (that's not a reflection on my caring skills rather their underlying conditions) - and as such my own experiences are a million miles removed from your sad experience...

I raise my glass for you for being so pragmatic and positive on crossing your own threshold of loss every day .

PS the thought of dying (having witnessed it twice) doesn't worry me nowadays - I believe it's actually rather pleasant and blissful for the one passing away .

[Hoofy]

Tallow said:

Hoofy said:

Wasn't that Captain Birdseye?

You're right. Brad Pitt single handedly built Apollo 13. I'm all over the place today

Finally!

[Fattyfat]

I've seen enough death this past week to last me a while. Not waking up would be a most pleasant way to go.

[TheChampers]

aw51 121565 said:

sherbertdip said:

Some interesting but desperately sad stuff.

There's no realistic comeback to that - there's no escaping what's happened even for one day for you, is there?

I've been widowed twice in the last 12 years (I'm 44 now...), but both wives died in hospital after I had cared for them (that's not a reflection on my caring skills rather their underlying conditions) - and as such my own experiences are a million miles removed from your sad experience...

I raise my glass for you for being so pragmatic and positive on crossing your own threshold of loss every day .

PS the thought of dying (having witnessed it twice) doesn't worry me nowadays - I believe it's actually rather pleasant and blissful for the one passing away .

Both of you, your posts have simply stunned me out of the work-focussed night I have been having; reminds me that I have lost two family members to heart failures in the hours (both on Monday mornings) that Kenty referred to.

[THX]

Actually, Brad Pitt does mention something re; dying in your sleep in The Curious Case of Benjamin Button.

He asks Tilda Swinton's character about her father. He was apparently afraid that he'd die in his sleep so, IIRC, made sure he never slept for very long. He died, but not in his sleep... I think the quote was:

"He must have known something"

(not very profound, I'm afraid. Although I'm sure it works better in the film)

[StuntmanMike]

entropy said:

I have a recurring dream of being shot or stabbed to death and then I suddenly wake and leaves me freaked out in a cold sweat.

I had this, variations of that sort of dream anyway, 3 or 4 times a week, this lasted about two years.
I suffered from post traumatic stress disorder and depression for about 8 years, HTH.

TBH, it wasn't very funny.

[StuntmanMike]

sherbertdip said:

My fear of death during sleep is a result of waking up a few years ago to the still warm body of my partner aged 48, no struggle, no noise, went to bed as normal kissed each other goodnight, i woke up with the alarm, she didn't stir when i shook her to say good morning.

A most surreal, scary and heartbreaking moment, and i relive it every morning!

ETA; i don't really know why i wrote that, it's not that it means anything to total strangers on here, but makes me feel a bit, lighter?

2nd ETA: it was during belated (1 year later) bereavement counselling, that i met my current partner whose husband had been killed in a car crash by a speeding driver. Weird how things work out!

Edited by sherbertdip on Monday 15th September 21:18

Edited by sherbertdip on Monday 15th September 21:25

This happened to a very close friend of mine, his wife slept next to him when he had died at midnight if I remember correctly.
He was 40, and in better shape than me, we had shared a room for several years whilst in the army.
Watching his wife breakdown at the graveside and the WTF happened look on his three kids faces ( all under 10 ) wasn't very pleasant.