Biggest shock becoming a father

Biggest shock becoming a father

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Yiliterate

3,786 posts

205 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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Biggest shock; just how quickly it goes. Try to make the most of every moment.

Also, unless you are a front-row forward or a Glaswegian, over the next few weeks you will be head-butted in the face more times than you have been in your entire life to date hehe

Edited by Yiliterate on Saturday 20th September 09:09

austinsmirk

5,597 posts

122 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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First. Congratulations

All that sleep you can have now. It's about to end. Forever.

All that money, spare cash you have

It's gone.

But as a dad, it's the best thing ever.

Pommygranite

14,229 posts

215 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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Don't feel like a bad dad if every now and again you think it sucks.


Philb1

121 posts

152 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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My first biggest shock was how horrible labour was watching your wife in pain, followed by the best feeling ever when your baby is actually born!

My first child developed silent reflux at two weeks old although it was diagnosed properly until about six or seven weeks so that intervening period was absolute hell as we dealt with a constantly screaming baby (who posses a very loud cry) who wouldn't settle. Eventually saw a paediatrician and got her on the right meds and we went to having a normal baby.

Was the hardest time of my life. The stress of not being able to settle her and going to work on an hour and half worth of sleep for a 2am start to do 14 -15 hour shifts is bit something I want to repeat. Not being taken seriously by medical personnel who had never heard of silent reflux was also challenging.

Was a massive shock for us both but gave us so much confidence as we knew that normal baby things after that were easily capable with.

Jonnas

1,004 posts

162 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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It's the lack of sleep that has done me. I've not slept past 6am since my twins were born and that was 2 1/2 years ago. The grandparents have had them overnight twice and both times we are wide awake at 6 on the button!

I want a lie in......

miniman

24,827 posts

261 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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BoRED S2upid said:
When they decide to come 7 weeks early! Now that's a shock.
Amen to that. Here's the bigger one of the two:



Edited by miniman on Saturday 20th September 10:02

miniman

24,827 posts

261 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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3 weeks old:


Roverload

850 posts

135 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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The sleep thing can get a little irritating but it doesn't last long, couple of months and they start to sleep longer and longer, they sleep all day too, 1 kid is awesome, pretty peaceful looking back, 2 kids is okay as well as long as they are born quite close together, 3 kids however, you're out numbered, weak, scared and they know it! Stick to the one and it'll only get easier. Also, Don't worry that you don't know anything or what to do, it's surprising how much you learn by instinct.

If you have ever felt deep inside you "whats the point" and you sometimes struggle to feel complete that will go away, I felt like that for years, William was born, that was the missing piece, Kids are awesome, just heed the warning on 3 kids!!!

Vixpy1

42,620 posts

263 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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Don't look down the Business end, Its like someone driving a Buldozer through your favourite Pub.

sampsan

82 posts

125 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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Pommygranite said:
Don't feel like a bad dad if every now and again you think it sucks.
This........ don't believe that everyone tells you it is always great. Be prepared that you may not feel the overjoyed emotions everybody says they do, this is normal as well

Flying Toilet

3,621 posts

210 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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How much st they produce.

The instant connection and unconditional love.

How you drive home at an average speed of 6.5mph.

AudiSport

1,458 posts

215 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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The sense of venerability.
I just don't have the words to describe how much my daughter means to me.

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007 VXR

64,187 posts

186 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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Biggest shock,
When the boobs go back to normal size frown


laugh

tleefox

1,110 posts

147 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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My wife gave birth to our 1st just over 2 weeks ago now.

Biggest shock for me was how emotional I got when she came out ok. My parents lost a baby when I was about 6 and I think that has always affected me and deep down when my Mrs was pregnant I was worried something would go wrong. In labour my Mrs could not get our daughter out naturally as her contractions were not long enough, which meant they had to get the scissors and Venteuse out and literally cut her out.

All this got the better of me and when she came out ok I literally bawled uncontrollably for about 10 minutes.

2 and a bit weeks on, she is breast feeding every 2-3 hours so regular sleep seems a thing of the past and you completely lose control of your life because of constant feeds, changes etc. but very quickly you get used to it and adapt.

It's the best thing in the world and it has caught me by surprise how quickly and how much you love this little person that is a part of you.

Good luck.

guns80

130 posts

145 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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It's all one big shock! I think a huge thing is suddenly how much time and planning it takes to get out of the house even going shopping becomes a big deal!

guns80

130 posts

145 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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It's all one big shock! I think a huge thing is suddenly how much time and planning it takes to get out of the house even going shopping becomes a big deal!

kiseca

9,339 posts

218 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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How quickly something so small, clumsy, weak and helpless can find its way to the nearest trouble.

Funkycoldribena

7,379 posts

153 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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How quick my door frames end up grubby.

valiant

10,068 posts

159 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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Terms like 'disposable income' no longer exist.


grumbledoak

31,499 posts

232 months

Saturday 20th September 2014
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Congratulations!

The complete change in your priorities and values is a shock; how little you care about the st, the puke, your previously prized possessions.

Knowing whether or not your baby is crying in a room of fifteen crying babies, without looking, because one of those cries goes right through you.