Sharing phone / email / texts / computer with partner
Discussion
We know each other's passwords and pins and if our phones beeped we'd have no issues in letting each other read out a text message. Eg if one is driving.
We could easily spy on each other.
We both have group whatsapp groups with our respective main group of friends which sometimes strays into discussions about stuff that whilst is banter between mates we know it wouldn't be right to read.
We trust each other and if she was to read certain emails she'd find out I was organising an engagement ring so I'd hope she wouldn't (those emails get files away immediately).
If you're secretive about your phone you must be hiding something.
We could easily spy on each other.
We both have group whatsapp groups with our respective main group of friends which sometimes strays into discussions about stuff that whilst is banter between mates we know it wouldn't be right to read.
We trust each other and if she was to read certain emails she'd find out I was organising an engagement ring so I'd hope she wouldn't (those emails get files away immediately).
If you're secretive about your phone you must be hiding something.
mine can read mine for all she likes. I leave it lying around, no pin code on it etc. theres nothing of any interest on it, a few forums and the like. if she demanded to look through it though, that would be another story.
her phone goes off at various times, but i couldnt care less about who it is. i've never once thought about going through her phone.
her phone goes off at various times, but i couldnt care less about who it is. i've never once thought about going through her phone.
No. An ex started this, sneakily, which is why she became an ex.
Seen this sort of behaviour several times with different mates. Why don't they trust their partner? Difficult question, but for me, it's because they are emotionally insecure/nuts, or don't trust themselves.
Get shot either way.
Seen this sort of behaviour several times with different mates. Why don't they trust their partner? Difficult question, but for me, it's because they are emotionally insecure/nuts, or don't trust themselves.
Get shot either way.
Purity14 said:
Girlfriend looks through my posting history on all the forums I frequent, including my text messages.
She can turn an innocent post about "wanting to visit a location" or "wanting to go to a bike show" into something sinister.
Many times she will just confront me with my phone to ask "what do you mean 'perhaps we should go for a ride on sunday instead'. Perhaps why? What aren't you telling me?"
Me: "Oh your reading my messages to other people again?"
Her: "Stop avoiding the subject!!"
Me: "My friend is busy on saturday and he is free on sunday, read the messages again..!"
Happened so often I now put a password on my phone so she cant look.
Now she is even more paranoid, but at least I don't have to explain the ins and outs of every conversation whilst she is looking for the hidden meaning.
I sometimes catch her trying to spot my password as I type it.
As a precaution I change it every week.
Wow... She's going to kill you in your sleep.She can turn an innocent post about "wanting to visit a location" or "wanting to go to a bike show" into something sinister.
Many times she will just confront me with my phone to ask "what do you mean 'perhaps we should go for a ride on sunday instead'. Perhaps why? What aren't you telling me?"
Me: "Oh your reading my messages to other people again?"
Her: "Stop avoiding the subject!!"
Me: "My friend is busy on saturday and he is free on sunday, read the messages again..!"
Happened so often I now put a password on my phone so she cant look.
Now she is even more paranoid, but at least I don't have to explain the ins and outs of every conversation whilst she is looking for the hidden meaning.
I sometimes catch her trying to spot my password as I type it.
As a precaution I change it every week.
I've not interest in hiding things from my partners...
Other than my other partners.
Purity14 said:
Girlfriend looks through my posting history on all the forums I frequent, including my text messages.
She can turn an innocent post about "wanting to visit a location" or "wanting to go to a bike show" into something sinister.
Many times she will just confront me with my phone to ask "what do you mean 'perhaps we should go for a ride on sunday instead'. Perhaps why? What aren't you telling me?"
Me: "Oh your reading my messages to other people again?"
Her: "Stop avoiding the subject!!"
Me: "My friend is busy on saturday and he is free on sunday, read the messages again..!"
Happened so often I now put a password on my phone so she cant look.
Now she is even more paranoid, but at least I don't have to explain the ins and outs of every conversation whilst she is looking for the hidden meaning.
I sometimes catch her trying to spot my password as I type it.
As a precaution I change it every week.
Genuine question, why do you put up with that?She can turn an innocent post about "wanting to visit a location" or "wanting to go to a bike show" into something sinister.
Many times she will just confront me with my phone to ask "what do you mean 'perhaps we should go for a ride on sunday instead'. Perhaps why? What aren't you telling me?"
Me: "Oh your reading my messages to other people again?"
Her: "Stop avoiding the subject!!"
Me: "My friend is busy on saturday and he is free on sunday, read the messages again..!"
Happened so often I now put a password on my phone so she cant look.
Now she is even more paranoid, but at least I don't have to explain the ins and outs of every conversation whilst she is looking for the hidden meaning.
I sometimes catch her trying to spot my password as I type it.
As a precaution I change it every week.
OzzyR1 said:
Purity14 said:
Girlfriend looks through my posting history on all the forums I frequent, including my text messages.
She can turn an innocent post about "wanting to visit a location" or "wanting to go to a bike show" into something sinister.
Many times she will just confront me with my phone to ask "what do you mean 'perhaps we should go for a ride on sunday instead'. Perhaps why? What aren't you telling me?"
Me: "Oh your reading my messages to other people again?"
Her: "Stop avoiding the subject!!"
Me: "My friend is busy on saturday and he is free on sunday, read the messages again..!"
Happened so often I now put a password on my phone so she cant look.
Now she is even more paranoid, but at least I don't have to explain the ins and outs of every conversation whilst she is looking for the hidden meaning.
I sometimes catch her trying to spot my password as I type it.
As a precaution I change it every week.
Genuine question, why do you put up with that?She can turn an innocent post about "wanting to visit a location" or "wanting to go to a bike show" into something sinister.
Many times she will just confront me with my phone to ask "what do you mean 'perhaps we should go for a ride on sunday instead'. Perhaps why? What aren't you telling me?"
Me: "Oh your reading my messages to other people again?"
Her: "Stop avoiding the subject!!"
Me: "My friend is busy on saturday and he is free on sunday, read the messages again..!"
Happened so often I now put a password on my phone so she cant look.
Now she is even more paranoid, but at least I don't have to explain the ins and outs of every conversation whilst she is looking for the hidden meaning.
I sometimes catch her trying to spot my password as I type it.
As a precaution I change it every week.
The Ex used to grab the phone off me if ever I received a text! 
Needless to say The Mental was too much for me to put up with......
No problems with the new lady! total opposite & restored my faith in relationships
So! if both happy & not messing around behind each others backs there should be no problems sharing
Needless to say The Mental was too much for me to put up with......
No problems with the new lady! total opposite & restored my faith in relationships
So! if both happy & not messing around behind each others backs there should be no problems sharing
I know my wifes e-mail password, her phone isn't password protected, both my iPad and phone are left lying about in the house and she knows the password to get in to both, she will sometimes start using one of them; rather than hers, as they are close to hand, we don't snoop on each others phones or e-mail accounts as we trust each other.
shunt said:
A mate of mine has recently been caught out by the Iphone / Ipad linked account. Working away emailing his latest squeeze whilst wifey is sat at home reading the whole thing on his iPad. Schoolboy error that is going to cost him. He said Apple has a lot to answer for..... Really?
Occasionally I do think that Apple go out of their way to get people divorced: first the 'find my friends' app, then iMessages and soon syncing of text messages on all your devices 
jdw100 said:
OzzyR1 said:
Purity14 said:
Girlfriend looks through my posting history on all the forums I frequent, including my text messages.
She can turn an innocent post about "wanting to visit a location" or "wanting to go to a bike show" into something sinister.
Many times she will just confront me with my phone to ask "what do you mean 'perhaps we should go for a ride on sunday instead'. Perhaps why? What aren't you telling me?"
Me: "Oh your reading my messages to other people again?"
Her: "Stop avoiding the subject!!"
Me: "My friend is busy on saturday and he is free on sunday, read the messages again..!"
Happened so often I now put a password on my phone so she cant look.
Now she is even more paranoid, but at least I don't have to explain the ins and outs of every conversation whilst she is looking for the hidden meaning.
I sometimes catch her trying to spot my password as I type it.
As a precaution I change it every week.
Genuine question, why do you put up with that?She can turn an innocent post about "wanting to visit a location" or "wanting to go to a bike show" into something sinister.
Many times she will just confront me with my phone to ask "what do you mean 'perhaps we should go for a ride on sunday instead'. Perhaps why? What aren't you telling me?"
Me: "Oh your reading my messages to other people again?"
Her: "Stop avoiding the subject!!"
Me: "My friend is busy on saturday and he is free on sunday, read the messages again..!"
Happened so often I now put a password on my phone so she cant look.
Now she is even more paranoid, but at least I don't have to explain the ins and outs of every conversation whilst she is looking for the hidden meaning.
I sometimes catch her trying to spot my password as I type it.
As a precaution I change it every week.
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