Thinking of leaving the OH

[Grant76]

Having just noticed this thread...

My wife & myself went through years of st trying for a kid. When our little princess popped out it was by far the happiest moment in a blessed life.

It's surprising how hard a little one is on a relationship, certainly was hard for us.

However - we made it work. And after 4 years I cannot imagine kissing her every night. Believe me, unless you utterly hate the lass you will live a life of regrets.

Hope you can work it out

[Monkeylegend]

Grant76 said:

Having just noticed this thread...

My wife & myself went through years of st trying for a kid. When our little princess popped out it was by far the happiest moment in a blessed life.

It's surprising how hard a little one is on a relationship, certainly was hard for us.

However - we made it work. And after 4 years I cannot imagine kissing her every night. Believe me, unless you utterly hate the lass you will live a life of regrets.

Hope you can work it out

How often do you kiss her then?

[Grant76]

Monkeylegend said:

Grant76 said:

Having just noticed this thread...

My wife & myself went through years of st trying for a kid. When our little princess popped out it was by far the happiest moment in a blessed life.

It's surprising how hard a little one is on a relationship, certainly was hard for us.

However - we made it work. And after 4 years I cannot imagine kissing her every night. Believe me, unless you utterly hate the lass you will live a life of regrets.

Hope you can work it out

How often do you kiss her then?

HaHa! Oops...

I left out an important "not" in that sentance...

[Pit Pony]

I sat in the Sand dunes on Saturday with my little Dog wondering what life would be like without my wife. Not because I'm thinking of leaving her, but because her GP has found a lump on her kidney, and she's having a scan tomorrow, and she's not been very well for a few weeks.

I decided that, despite her telling me that I'm free to look for the love of a good woman once she's gone, I'd probably just take to trolling ste on the internet, and perhaps buy a turnover jig for the garage. That's what my kids would prefer too. I think.

[blindswelledrat]

Sobering post pony.
Not much I can say to that other than I've got my fingers crossed for you all

[Megaflow]

Sobering indeed.

Sadly, the OP is balls deep in the OW so won't notice...

[dirty boy]

Thoughts with you all. Let's hope you don't need that jig.

[longblackcoat]

Pit Pony, pass my best on to your wife, and I hope the scan reveals something benign. Good luck to both of you.

[Soov535]

Wishing you all the best PP.

[Adenauer]

Pit Pony said:

I sat in the Sand dunes on Saturday with my little Dog wondering what life would be like without my wife. Not because I'm thinking of leaving her, but because her GP has found a lump on her kidney, and she's having a scan tomorrow, and she's not been very well for a few weeks.

I decided that, despite her telling me that I'm free to look for the love of a good woman once she's gone, I'd probably just take to trolling ste on the internet, and perhaps buy a turnover jig for the garage. That's what my kids would prefer too. I think.

Best of luck, let's hope it all turns out okay for you, fingers crossed.

[SeanyD]

My thoughts are with you, your missus, and kids PP, wishing you all the very best of luck, a reminder of how fragile life is, perhaps the OP could take heed.

[Disastrous]

As an aside, why do threads like this make people so angry?

Whilst I think the OP is making a bad call, I don't actually care because I don't know him. I can't bring myself to get angry and call him names or whatever.

Is it that lots of the people getting angry have felt similar but have taken the harder route of responsibility and so get angry when they see someone doing what they didn't out of a touch of jealousy/resentment? Like a 'let's see what you could have won' type situation, or is it something more fundamental?

Just curious as to how a predominantly male forum can be so moved to care about a bloke leaving his family.

[sc0tt]

Disastrous said:

As an aside, why do threads like this make people so angry?

Whilst I think the OP is making a bad call, I don't actually care because I don't know him. I can't bring myself to get angry and call him names or whatever.

Is it that lots of the people getting angry have felt similar but have taken the harder route of responsibility and so get angry when they see someone doing what they didn't out of a touch of jealousy/resentment? Like a 'let's see what you could have won' type situation, or is it something more fundamental?

Just curious as to how a predominantly male forum can be so moved to care about a bloke leaving his family.

Because they are all hero's having stayed with their current OH's and are very happy being unhappy.

[Adenauer]

I'm not angry, I couldn't give a flying fk what the OP does. I think he'll make the wrong choice, but I can't say that'll make me go outside and kick a kitten.

[mattmurdock]

Disastrous said:

As an aside, why do threads like this make people so angry?

Whilst I think the OP is making a bad call, I don't actually care because I don't know him. I can't bring myself to get angry and call him names or whatever.

Is it that lots of the people getting angry have felt similar but have taken the harder route of responsibility and so get angry when they see someone doing what they didn't out of a touch of jealousy/resentment? Like a 'let's see what you could have won' type situation, or is it something more fundamental?

Just curious as to how a predominantly male forum can be so moved to care about a bloke leaving his family.

Because a lot of people have a view on how a man should behave himself, and that mostly includes not being a complete .

[Jinx]

sc0tt said:

Because they are all hero's having stayed with their current OH's and are very happy being unhappy.

Or it could be they don't like seeing many people's lives ruined because of the little head controlling the big head.

[ali_kat]

longblackcoat said:

Pit Pony, pass my best on to your wife, and I hope the scan reveals something benign. Good luck to both of you.

This, keeping you in my thoughts & prayers

[br d]

Best of luck to you and your wife PP, even if the results aren't what you hope for there is a great deal that can be done these days.

[longblackcoat]

Disastrous said:

As an aside, why do threads like this make people so angry?

Whilst I think the OP is making a bad call, I don't actually care because I don't know him. I can't bring myself to get angry and call him names or whatever.

Is it that lots of the people getting angry have felt similar but have taken the harder route of responsibility and so get angry when they see someone doing what they didn't out of a touch of jealousy/resentment? Like a 'let's see what you could have won' type situation, or is it something more fundamental?

Just curious as to how a predominantly male forum can be so moved to care about a bloke leaving his family.

I think it's because he's told us what a great dad he is, how wonderful his fiancee is, and it's just that, as a striving and thrusting City boy, he needs more attention from his other half, who for some reason that he can't understand, doesn't offer him as much fulfillment as in times gone by, now that she has a baby and a whining narcissist of a man-child to deal with.

[NateWM]

Pit Pony said:

I sat in the Sand dunes on Saturday with my little Dog wondering what life would be like without my wife. Not because I'm thinking of leaving her, but because her GP has found a lump on her kidney, and she's having a scan tomorrow, and she's not been very well for a few weeks.

I decided that, despite her telling me that I'm free to look for the love of a good woman once she's gone, I'd probably just take to trolling ste on the internet, and perhaps buy a turnover jig for the garage. That's what my kids would prefer too. I think.

Christ...Give my love and prayers to your wife. Can't imagine what you are going through.

I actually thought about what it would be like for me in that scenario, actually started to well up . Would hate to be without my OH.